Subconscious Limiting Belief Systems: How Can We Heal?

Your subconscious limiting beliefs fuel our behaviours, choices, the way we think, any habits you might have and how we see the world. What you believe about yourself and life is creating your experience about life! This talk is bringing awareness to this concept and how we can heal it.

Transcript

My name is Karina Khalila.

I am a rebirthing breathwork practitioner,

Somatic movement therapist.

I am a yoga teacher and meditation teacher,

And I've decided today to jump on to share a little bit about part of my work,

And that is subconscious limiting belief systems.

And it's something that I see coming up quite regularly in the spiritual world,

And we're in an age where spirit is starting to connect and meet with science.

And so,

Because it's such a big part of the work that I do with people,

I thought that I'd come on and sort of explain and share a little bit about what your subconscious limiting beliefs are and how they have a dramatic impact on you and your life.

So I'll start by saying that your subconscious limiting beliefs,

They are the things that we believe about ourself and about life that are below the surface,

Subconscious,

Meaning below what we're aware of,

And are present in order to keep us safe,

To prevent us from harm,

To keep us living.

They're here to prevent us from doing things or saying things or experiencing things that might be hurtful or harmful.

And at some point in our life,

They were created at some point in our life when times might've been hard,

Where you as a child may not have been able to process or handle or deal with what was going on around you.

And so as a result,

We create these belief systems about ourselves that we believe,

And I say this to my clients and during my trainings,

We believe these things as true as the sky is blue.

What that means is,

You know,

You look up at the sky,

The sky is blue,

Right?

It might have some clouds,

Maybe it's a rainy day,

It might be gray today,

But beyond that,

The sky is blue.

Do we all agree?

I'm assuming we do.

And so as fact,

As this,

As fact,

As true as the sky is blue,

We believe our subconscious limiting belief systems.

So just to break that statement down,

Subconscious meaning underneath our realm of awareness,

Limiting,

Preventing us from experiencing the fullness and the wonder and the excitement and the joy of life.

And a belief is something that we obviously believe in and we live our life by.

Our belief systems control how we behave,

What we do,

What we say,

What choices we make,

Whether we lean into some experience or whether we lean out,

It is,

It sometimes and often fuels our intuition or instinct because both instinct and intuition are woven in belief,

Woven in fear,

Woven in also,

You know,

All the expansive stuff,

The inner knowing and so on and so forth.

But in some occasions,

Because we've experienced something so many times,

We are reliving this sort of same experience over and over again,

And simultaneously trying to prevent ourselves from doing so,

Trying to prevent ourselves from experiencing harm.

So a couple of examples of subconscious limiting beliefs could be like,

I am not enough,

Or I am not good enough,

Or I am not worthy,

Or I don't belong,

Or I'm not important,

Or I don't exist,

Or I'm not lovable,

No one cares about me.

Some other examples could also be,

I don't matter to people,

And so on and so forth.

There's like hundreds of thousands,

And some of those that I've just mentioned,

They might resonate for you.

And if it's resonated in a really strong way,

I'm just going to invite you to take a deep breath.

Just set that aside for a moment.

It's something that you might like to pay attention to.

You might like to write down and address later,

Just while I sort of go through helping you to understand why they might be there.

So before we go into why they might be there,

Let's all take a big collective,

Deep breath in through your nose,

And out through your mouth.

We'll take breaths at regular points through everything that I do in order to help the information sink in,

In order to help you to let go of any information that you've already gathered as well.

It's helpful.

It's a helpful turning point.

Let's call it that.

Okay.

So we have limiting,

Sorry,

Subconscious limiting beliefs because something might've happened to us as a child.

Let's say that you were a child with a parent that had dynamic ways of relating.

So they might've been happy one moment and then frazzled and anxious or angry the next.

And so we,

Those of us who experienced dynamic parenting,

We would have had this experience of needing to know where they were at before they did.

So we would have learned how to be empathic and how to sense into somebody else's experience of life so that we can have a gauge on how they're feeling.

This is a superpower,

Absolutely amazing superpower,

But is the source or the,

You know,

The belief system that fuels that is I'm not safe or perhaps even I'm not lovable or perhaps even I'm not enough.

And it really depends.

Like every person has a different expression of a limiting belief.

So this isn't a formula.

It's not like this behavior will make you believe this about yourself.

Everybody's very different.

So we all have a different concoction,

A different soup of limiting beliefs that are there essentially to keep us safe.

So those of us who experienced dynamic parenting might have learned how to be highly empathic.

And those of us who learned how to be highly empathic,

The beliefs in that was that I'm not safe.

And the fear is that I might not have my needs met because my parent is unable to meet those emotional,

Physical needs.

So therefore I'm not safe.

So this,

You know,

I'm not safe story or I'm not enough story would have,

You know,

Snowballed over many years of experiencing this type of dynamic.

And we'll probably be playing out in either friendships or relationships where there's like a hierarchy.

So like boss and employee or a teacher student or,

You know,

Minister and person of the clergy,

For example.

Or it might even be showing up in your romantic relationships with people.

And so we played out these dynamics that are anchored in limiting belief systems.

And they're in all different kinds of relationships.

So not just in our romantic relationships,

Although romantic relationships can sort of almost be like a telescope.

No,

Not a telescope.

What am I saying?

Like a magnifying glass.

That's what I mean to say.

A magnifying glass of our subconscious limiting beliefs.

So because of this,

Our belief systems play out.

And at some point in our life,

We get sick of the same pattern.

And so because we get sick of this same pattern playing out over and over again,

We start to,

We start to get sick of the same thing happening again.

And thank God for this,

Because we start becoming aware of this pattern playing out.

We say things like,

Why does this always happen to me?

Have you ever said that before?

Have you heard yourself say that before?

That's a sign,

A beautiful unconscious sign that perhaps there is a belief system,

Something you believe about yourself or about life that might be running the show.

So usually our behaviors are fueled by,

Our behaviors and choices and habits are fueled by limiting belief systems.

So,

And this brings me to the next point of this talk,

How our limiting belief systems govern our life.

So I was having this conversation with my friends and they were telling me this story about how this sort of same pattern keeps happening over and over and over again.

And it's preventing them from going into beautiful romantic connections.

Now,

I know this person really,

Really well,

And I believe they are worthy and deserving of having a really beautiful romantic connection.

And so this is such deep stuff,

You know,

Guys.

So I want you to remember that this is really deep work and to properly understand yourself,

The best thing you can do is find somebody to assist and support you in that,

Whether it's a therapist or a breath worker,

An experienced breath worker,

By the way,

You know,

Somebody who does some sort of psychotherapy,

Somebody who's trained in helping you to make sense in understanding yourself and the way that your mind works.

It's really powerful practice to go and receive support.

So what happens is you start to notice that there is this experience happening over and over and over again.

And it's called a pattern.

We're experiencing a pattern.

Now,

Because what we believe about ourself and about life is fueling our experience of life,

I'm gonna repeat that,

Because what we believe about life is fueling our experience of life,

Then probably that pattern contains within it a subconscious limiting belief that's creating the same thing happening or same thing to happen over and over and over again.

Now,

An example of this might be,

Let's say a person has a core wound of,

I am not enough.

So this core wound might express itself in not showing up in their fullest potential at work,

For example.

And so the boss comes to them and they say,

You know,

You're not doing a good enough job.

Oh,

I'm not good enough.

They go home to their partner and their partner's dissatisfied in the relationship.

Oh,

I'm not good enough.

They're having an interaction with their kids and the child's criticizing the parent or the child is ignoring the parent,

Whatever the example is.

And that also fuels the,

I'm not good enough.

And you go,

Oh,

See,

I'm not good enough.

Now,

What rebirthing breath work,

What we teach in that is that often our subconscious limiting beliefs are a lie or something that we brainwash ourself into to create a sense of safety within our life.

Let's take a breath into that,

Deep breath in through your nose,

Open mouth,

Let it go.

So,

Does this resonate for you?

It's hard to kind of grasp it.

Sometimes it's really challenging to realize,

Oh my gosh,

What I've been telling myself about myself or about life is actually creating this experience of life.

Now,

I'll share vulnerably and I'll share one of mine.

And I've been working with this,

By the way,

For a really long time since I found out about belief systems.

Since this belief system was as true as the sky is blue,

10 out of 10 in pain,

My heart would break every single time I would say this.

I inherently believe,

Cancel that,

Sorry.

I have a belief that I am unlovable.

And so in every romantic connection I've had,

I have played out this like suspicion with my partner that you don't really love me.

And tested them and this was all before I started healing and I can see how that behavior pattern was like,

Oh,

Rife in my experience of my relationships.

And I would sabotage my relationship even though my partner absolutely loved me.

They wouldn't be with me otherwise.

I sabotaged the relationship to the point of the relationship collapsing.

It's painful for them and it's painful for me.

And it wasn't until I started healing that I started to realize,

Oh my God,

I've been telling myself that I'm not lovable.

And that has been fueling sabotage behavior in my relationships.

Not only that,

The more I sort of started to realize that this I'm unlovable piece,

I would keep my friends at a certain distance and I would get them to share all about their life to me but I would share very minimally about my life to them if I could.

And that was to make sure that I kept people at a distance because if people got too close,

They would realize or see that I was unlovable and then they wouldn't love me anymore.

The irony of that,

There's also a lot of ironies and unique variations in beliefs person to person.

So I also want to sort of name that again,

It's not a formula.

Everybody's experience of their own limiting belief is very different.

So as I've healed this subconscious limiting belief of I'm not lovable,

Like I say to my friends,

Do you think I'm not lovable?

And they're like,

Oh my God,

You're so lovable.

And it's true.

And the more I've healed this I'm unlovable piece,

The more I know I'm lovable.

And it's almost like I turn down the volume of the voice that says you're unlovable and I turn up the volume of the voice that says that I am.

Every now and then something will happen and that I'm unlovable belief will spring back to life and show itself again and then I have to work with that once again.

Comes with shame and fear and sadness and grief and these emotions are things that I choose to feel as the belief system is playing out.

And I use my breath,

I use rebirthing breath work and the tools that I've gathered from many years of therapy.

And sometimes if it's bad enough,

I'll go and receive support from a therapist or EFT practitioner who's also one of my best friends and get them to sort of help me with healing whatever's come up.

So you can heal these subconscious limiting beliefs and because the neuroplasticity of your brain,

Neuroplasticity essentially means that you can rewrite the programs of your brain.

Your programs are subconscious beliefs that you have limiting and affirming about life that create your experience of life and cause you to make decisions and have choices and take action and communicate and experience life in a certain way.

And this can be altered.

So if somebody is in an experience of life where they're not overly happy with everything that's going on,

You don't have to stay there.

Perhaps there's some subconscious limiting beliefs that could be addressed and healed and reprogrammed through breath work,

Through affirmations,

Through different tools,

Through support to rewrite the neurological reprogram,

Sorry,

Programs of your brain,

Essentially reprogramming your mind to believe something new about life.

How cool is that?

It's so amazing.

And not only that,

I've worked with hundreds of people with this concept and watched their whole life begin to evolve and transform and grow.

And their experience of life is changing.

And not only that,

They're making different choices.

They're stepping out of their comfort zone.

They're having better relationships and experiencing things in a different way that is more in alignment and attuned to their soul's desire to experience life or the authenticity of their soul,

Let's say that.

So know that you can change your mind and that will change your life.

And it's magical and it's amazing and quite a profound experience.

Oh,

Meditation also,

Forgot to mention that.

Meditation is also the start of rewriting your mind.

Starting to slow the mind down,

Depending on the practice of course,

There's hundreds of different types of practices of meditation,

But meditation is like where,

Really where it all began for me before I became a breath worker,

I was meditating a lot,

Became a meditation teacher.

And then I found breath work and it was like,

Oh,

Breath work works so much faster for me.

Everybody's a little bit different.

So I invite you to try some of my breath work practices.

I've got modified breath work practices on Insight Timer here and you can check that out and let me know what you experienced by leaving a review.

I love to read the reviews and yeah,

See how a short practice might start to calm your mind,

Calm your nervous system,

Because obviously your nervous system is an extension of your mind.

Calm your mind,

Calm your nervous system and start to see how your life will transform.

If you are interested to know more about anything that I have shared here,

Please reach out.

The link is in my bio.

Otherwise,

My name is Kareena Khalila.

Thank you so much for being with me today.

Namaste.

Reviews

Great explanation of how we can rewrite the programme 😊Namaste ✨️ 🙏

You helped make a potentially complex subject clear and approachable. Thank you 😊

I read that these limiting beliefs can create a stress response so I will definitely try your breath work tracks. I agree getting to the root of the problem through psychotherapy is important too. Thanks for this. 🙏