How To: Become More Confident

What would become possible in your life if you became the biggest version of you? Confidence isn’t about forcing yourself to be bolder — it’s about releasing what’s been holding you back.

In this Inspiration Session, Justin Michael Williams shares a grounding talk, original live music, and a guided practice to help you stop second-guessing yourself, break old internal patterns, and reconnect with a deeper sense of trust and worth.
Includes a powerful talk, original live music, and a guided practice.

Transcript

Let's talk about unblocking our confidence.

This is something that took me a long time to learn,

Especially growing up as a kid who got bullied a lot in school.

But right now I'm going to teach you one of my most important lessons.

And it all starts with understanding that confidence actually stems from something much deeper than confidence.

And how do we know this is true?

Well check this out.

Confidence is what you show on the outside,

And self-esteem is what you feel on the inside.

Confidence grows with external validation,

And self-esteem grows with internal validation.

Confidence can be lost after a setback,

But self-esteem is resilient through all your setbacks.

Confidence says I did good,

And self-esteem says I am enough no matter what I did.

Confidence is tied to what you do.

Self-esteem is tied to who you are.

And so yes,

We want confidence in our lives,

Don't get me wrong.

But the most important thing that I think most of us really are asking for is self-esteem.

And so in this lesson,

I'm going to give you a practical practice on exactly how to build your self-esteem.

So let's begin with a short teaching to help you understand this concept more fully.

We're going to take a short quiz now together,

And all I want you to do is notice and mark for yourself any of these eight statements if you feel like they're true for you.

And we're going to get your score at the end,

Alright?

Number one,

You're sometimes afraid to speak up,

And this is even if you have great ideas or something to say.

Number two,

You're an overthinker.

Number three,

You don't set boundaries when you need to,

And this is if you tend to say yes to things that you really don't want to do because you're worried about disappointing people or hurting their feelings.

This would count in that category.

Number four,

You sometimes think,

Why not me?

And this shows up feeling like you're behind in life,

Especially if you're comparing yourself to other people or even think you should be further than you are.

Number five,

You get caught in the why am I not there yet loop.

And that feels like you're chasing something and never quite arriving,

And if you want to feel good about your own journey and timing,

But you don't yet.

That's number five.

Number six,

You've been holding back a part of yourself.

And this is if you've been putting off applying for a job or asking for a promotion or starting a relationship or starting a new project or you've been procrastinating on taking your next steps because you don't feel ready yet.

Mark number six.

Number seven,

You're always on the bottom of your own list.

And number eight,

You're not feeling truly fulfilled.

And you know you're not feeling fulfilled if you've hit major milestones in your life,

Like things you've said you wanted,

Like maybe buying a house or getting married or reaching certain goals that you've had.

But even though you've reached them,

You still feel like something is missing.

That's true.

Mark number eight.

Okay.

So now this is just for you.

You don't got to share with anybody.

Notice how many of these eight statements are true for you.

And if you've marked any of them,

You know that what you're dealing with is a self-esteem issue.

And so oftentimes we think that what we need is more confidence.

But what we have to do is dig deeper than the confidence to activate our self-esteem so that this true confidence can come from someplace deeper,

From somewhere within.

And so what we're going to do now is we're going to break down any of these old patterns and thoughts with a song that I think will help you feel that we're going to break through this and then we'll go really deep into this with a practice together that will help you build up your self-esteem and break some of these old agreements.

So this song is an intention for you to break free.

Mirror,

Mirror on the wall,

I can't see myself no more.

Can you feel to retouch me?

I don't want to see these flaws.

I wanted you to be the one to rescue me.

For me,

The slave,

The master.

Mirror,

Mirror about to fall.

No one's playing fair at all.

The mirrors are broken.

They're broken inside.

The mirrors are broken.

The truth is a lie.

The mirrors are broken.

They're broken inside.

The mirrors are broken.

The truth is a lie.

And I can't hide,

I can't hide,

I can't hide,

I can't hide.

Sometimes,

I don't know about you,

But we can be so hard on ourselves.

But when we break through these fears and these patterns and these self-limiting beliefs,

We can finally stand confident in ourselves and finally say,

I can't hide.

Let's dive into our practice together.

And in this practice,

I'm going to help you discover a core belief that might be impacting your self-esteem right now.

And so,

To start,

One of the most important things that I want you to do just to focus your energy for this practice is see if you can think of one statement that you might have told yourself in the past that's a negative statement about yourself.

For example,

I'm not beautiful enough or I'm overweight or I'm terrible with money.

Whatever it is,

Just come up with one for now.

Don't do more than one.

And just when you have a phrase and you've landed on one just for this practice,

We're going to use this as a foundation for breaking past these limiting beliefs and stepping into a greater form of self-esteem.

All right,

So I'll guide you through the whole thing.

Go ahead and just start by getting comfortable in your body.

So,

Get super cozy in your physical body.

Sit back,

Relax as much as you can.

And place one hand over the center of your chest,

The other hand on top of that.

And close your eyes if you're comfortable doing so.

And then take a deep,

Full breath in and a deep breath out.

And now inhale with me to the count of three.

For one,

Two,

Three.

Hold for one,

Two,

Three.

Exhale one,

Two,

Three.

Again,

Inhale one,

Two,

Three.

Hold for one,

Two,

Three.

Exhale one,

Two,

Three.

Last time,

Inhale deeply.

One,

Two,

Three.

Hold the breath a little bit longer this time.

Sip in a little bit more air if you can,

Expanding yourself.

And now open the mouth,

Let it out.

Ah.

Now we're going to go on a little journey back.

So,

Just keep your energy internal.

And I want you to think of the first age that you can remember where this negative phrase came into your life.

And see if you can go find yourself at that age.

And if it's not the first time ever,

Don't overthink it.

Just see what comes up.

Go find this younger version of you where you felt like this negative thing came to be.

Go find them.

As this is the moment where you made that agreement.

And now ask that younger version of you,

What was the belief or agreement that was made?

And how did this get installed?

So maybe they'll show you a story or a memory or a phrase.

And just trust what comes up of how this came to be.

And now,

I want you to support that younger version of yourself.

So tell them something supportive.

Like,

I'm so sorry that this happened to you at this time in your life and you were left confused about how worthy of love you are.

I want you to know that I love you.

I want you to know that I am here for you.

Any words of support that come to you,

Offer that support right now to this younger you.

And now you and this younger you together are going to break this agreement.

I want you to break this agreement and you are going to tell this younger you that this agreement can release.

That you can both let it go.

So in whatever ritualistic way you want to imagine in your mind,

Imagine you and that younger you breaking this agreement together.

And you let it go.

And now together,

The two of you will create a brand new agreement.

What is the new belief or new agreement that you want to install in your life now?

Something that's positive.

Something that's affirming,

Like I am worthy of love.

I am enough exactly as I am.

Come up with a short phrase to replace that old agreement with something empowering.

And now,

Embrace that younger you.

Imagine wrapping your arms around them and embracing them with a huge hug.

And you might even wrap your own arms around yourself right now and hug your own arms or your own shoulders or caress yourself to feel that.

And as you're in that caress,

Repeat that new agreement to yourself.

You might say it out loud or whisper it.

If tears come,

That's okay.

Just let whatever's here be here.

Repeat that agreement one more time.

When you're ready,

Just take a deep breath in and a deep breath out.

And one more deep breath in and a deep breath out.

When you're ready,

Just take your time.

You can open your eyes.

I want you to know that you have the ability to be exactly who you are.

May you know that you are worthy of love and belonging in every aspect of life.

And remind yourself,

Tell yourself that you can walk confidently in the truth that you are enough exactly as you are.

So,

After a practice that deep,

I want to give you some really clear ways to integrate.

So now,

I'm going to offer you some very clear practical tools.

So now,

I want to give you some practical tools to work with after a practice that deep.

And so,

Let's start with four journaling questions that I want you to be able to ask yourself after that practice.

And you can take your time and go through these.

Number one,

What came up for you?

So you might ask,

Like,

How old were you?

Where were you?

What was happening?

Number two,

What was the old agreement?

Number three,

What is the new agreement?

Number four,

What will your life be like when you embody this new agreement?

So you have time and space to journal about this as much as you want.

I think a lot will unfold for you.

So before we go,

I want to make sure that you land right in your heart,

Knowing that this takes work to build deep self-esteem and not just surface-level confidence that can disappear.

But once you really get it,

And you really learn to love yourself,

You will know that no matter what you do,

You are enough.

And so this song is a prayer and intention for that.

You've been in pain Little girl,

Don't fight You're finally safe Enough One day I'll look into your eyes Show you you don't need to hide Be my disguise No more Spread your wings,

You're terrified Don't be afraid,

You're born to fly I am by your side I am enough I am golden,

Baby I am enough I am enough I am enough I am golden,

Baby I am enough I am enough I am enough No matter what you're going through I am enough You are enough Ooh Enough You are enough We are enough So go ahead and take a deep breath in with me.

And a deep breath out.

And place your hands over the center of your chest,

Close your eyes.

And just ask yourself,

What is your one golden nugget or key takeaway that you're taking from this inspiration session today?

Whenever you have it,

You can open your eyes and note it down for yourself.

Don't rush.

But I want you to have something to keep for yourself as a lesson for your growth and for your confidence.

Now,

My golden nugget is this,

That even though I got bullied a lot when I was a kid,

I got to go back and break all those old agreements that I made back then.

And now,

Because of breaking those agreements,

I get to be the person that is standing in front of you today.

As my full self,

As my real self.

And I hope that today,

You went back to that younger version of you and know that breaking even just one agreement will start you on the path toward awakening the bigger version of you.

This version of you that the world is ready to see,

That you're ready to share with everyone you know and love.

And I know with some skill and a little bit of practice,

You can let all of us see that bigger version of you maybe.

And I'm so excited to dive deeper with you in our master class and everything that we have coming up.

So thank you so much for your time and for being with me in this inspiration session.

I hope you got so much out of it.

And I'll see you very soon.

We rise together.

Bye for now.

Hey,

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It's called the Transform My Life membership.

I'll see you there.

Reviews

Thank you, Justin 💖. Your voice is so beautiful!

great as usuall & your songs 🔥💯🫠

🙏💗

Amazing session. Thank you

Wonderful! Thank you Justin. 🙏🏻

So profound and beautiful experience. I cried a lot when I revisited and hold my scary and hurt 5 year old version. And in the end we both felt free and were smiling. Thank yo so much Justin!