This is a meditation for releasing guilt and healing codependency.
Find a comfortable space for you to sit in,
Either on the floor with your legs crossed or on a chair or comfortable couch with your feet flat on the ground.
Make sure you're wearing comfortable clothes and that your eyes are closed.
Get yourself completely comfortable and relaxed.
Make sure you won't be disturbed and that there aren't any loud noises or distractions for the next several minutes.
Now close your eyes and begin to breathe.
Three or four breaths in deeply and then six or eight seconds out.
Breathing in three or four seconds.
Breathing out six or eight seconds.
In three or four.
Out six or eight.
And do this for about 30 seconds.
When you feel your body relaxing.
In and out.
In and out.
Now we'll do a quick body scan to help you release any tension that might be built up in your body.
I like to start at the top of my head.
Really focusing on the top.
Relaxing my hair follicles and my scalp.
Imagine water slowly,
Super slow motion being poured down.
As it comes over your eyelids,
Your eyebrows.
Feel the heaviness of your eyebrows coming down onto your eyes.
And over your eyes.
Feel your cheeks relax.
And your ears relax.
Release your tongue from the roof of your mouth and let it just lay relaxed in your mouth.
And feel this relaxation wave coming down off of your chin,
Down your neck.
And feel your neck relax into your shoulders.
And feel the space between your ears and your shoulders get longer as you relax your shoulders down.
Through your arms.
And down into your hands.
And down the torso.
Over your chest.
And through your stomach.
And into your hips.
And your glutes.
Down your legs.
Over your knees.
Relaxing every cell in your body.
Down your calves and your ankles.
Through your feet and now the end of your toes.
Feel the tingling of your toes.
Every part of your body is tingling.
Just relax.
And ask your body to relax.
And continue this.
Until you feel completely relaxed.
Now imagine you have a cord connecting your solar plexus.
The flat area in the center of your torso.
Just below your ribs.
With this solar plexus of the person it's connected to.
Whose feelings you feel responsible for.
The two of you are connected through this guilt and these feelings.
And this area is where your emotional chakra is located.
Now visualize yourself.
Cutting that cord with imaginary scissors.
And as you do.
Place this other person.
In the hands of their higher self.
The wisest part of them connected to their universal wisdom.
As you let them go.
Notice what you're feeling when you did this.
Do you feel like you are abandoning this person?
Do you feel some guilt arise inside you?
If so,
Remind yourself that this person is capable of self care and self responsibility.
Imagine that this person and their higher self is waving to you.
Endorsing your desire to let go of this guilt.
No longer taking responsibility for anyone else.
To reinforce your separation from this person.
End your acceptance of that.
They can take care of themselves.
Imagine a cocoon of protective white light.
Circling your body in a spiral from head to toe.
This cocoon will keep you as a separate entity from others.
So you don't become so meshed in their emotional needs.
And their emotions.
Also imagine the same cocoon of protective white light.
Circling in a spiral from head to toe.
For this other person that you're releasing.
And this will keep them separate from you with their own emotions and needs.
It will keep it their responsibility,
Not yours.
Now slowly.
Start to wiggle your toes and your neck and your shoulders.
Very easily,
Just slightly.
And slowly bring yourself back to waking consciousness.
And open your eyes.
Feeling you have relinquished responsibility for this other person.
If the guilt continues,
Remember that it's a positive indication of the changes you're making.
Every time you feel the guilt during your waking hours,
Simply close your eyes and visualize cutting this cord again.
As you also visualize your individualized cocoons of light for each other.
Protecting you.
Namaste.
