Practice You Series: Self Care Talk-Episode 1: Covid

Practice You Series: Self-care talk. Episode 1: This is a very down-to-earth talk about depression and feelings that I experienced(a lot of us experienced) during the pandemic of 2020. I discovered that having practiced self-love and self-care during covid and before the pandemic really helped me deal with life during that time and moving forward. This series will talk about self-love, self-discovery, and how to start living your best life. There is a part 2 to this talk.

Transcript

Hey friends,

This is Jesse Divine and this is a self-love,

Self-care,

Compassion talk.

As part of being a life coach,

I speak a lot about the importance of self-love and self-care and having compassion for yourself and others is very important.

I know that all of us were in very tough times this past year dealing with the pandemic and something I realized during that time was that life didn't stop just because there was a pandemic.

So we still had to pay bills or go to work or some of us lost our jobs,

Some of us had to take care of our kids or we had to deal with family members or friends or dealing with our issues that we were having even before the pandemic.

And I feel like during that time a lot of things magnified and I do feel as though many of us stopped and looked in the mirror and I was one of those people.

I've been on a self,

My journey for quite some time now for healing.

I come from a lot of post-traumatic stress.

There's been addiction and violence in my family and in my personal relationships.

So I decided one day that I wanted to have a better life for myself because I wasn't happy with who I was and hurt people.

They hurt people and I was hurting people.

And I was a very negative thinker and I was very angry and had low self-esteem.

And I thought to myself many times,

You know,

Why do these things always keep happening to me?

And I had a lot of self-pity and I would wallow in my problems.

And I did this too during the pandemic,

You know,

Living as a single person was very hard during the pandemic.

I felt very isolated like I was in prison.

And there was a lot of things to be grateful for.

And still I'm very grateful for everything that I have.

But during that time was very hard.

I just remember feeling very,

Very alone and in fear and panicking and my world turned upside down.

And the next thing you know,

We're wearing masks inside,

Going to the grocery store.

I mean going everywhere.

It was really hard for me to wrap my brain around what was going on.

And I'm sure I know I'm not the only one and feeling depression and you know,

Very,

You know,

You know,

One day you're feeling fine and then the next day or the next minute you just burst out into tears.

You know,

It was very overwhelming.

So it was very overwhelming.

But before this,

I've been in very overwhelming situations.

And like I said,

My life that I was living before I started changing my life,

My habits,

I started about five years ago or so.

I just really took a big,

Deep look into my life.

And as a person,

And who I wanted to be and who I was.

And I just really thought hard about things and I was really honest with myself.

And you know,

It's very important that you like change your thinking first and coping with life.

You know,

You have to change your thinking and then the evidence appears and our biggest mistake I feel is that we want evidence before we believe that our life can change but it doesn't you know,

It doesn't work that way.

The law of attraction is very real.

And the universe gives us what we think and feel about.

Our feelings are real and our emotions are real and we project that out.

And if you're thinking very negatively,

And you're always dwelling on the negative things,

Then they tend to happen more often.

And I swear,

I used to dwell a lot about,

Oh,

I didn't have the right job that I wanted or you know,

I didn't look a certain way or I didn't have the right friends and you know,

Life isn't fair.

That's one thing I learned that life is not fair,

But I just realized that I thought very negatively and I would dwell on dark things.

And that's added to my depression.

And it kind of fed my depression and my darkness and my anger and my fear and my negatively like just thinking.

And it manifested in my life for sure.

I was very overweight and I ate poorly and I would,

You know,

Go out a lot and hang around the wrong people and just lived a very like low self-esteem,

Self-doubt,

Just didn't have respect for myself kind of lifestyle.

But you have to change your narrative in your life or else you will not get what you want.

That's for sure what I've learned.

With me,

And I feel like with everyone,

It starts with honesty.

You know,

You can't help yourself or fix things.

And I wouldn't call them problems in your life because that would,

That sounds very negative but if you're having like issues with situations in your life,

You know,

A lot of the times I wouldn't call yourself the problem.

That doesn't fix anything but you have to be honest with yourself and who you are and how you see yourself.

Are you a negative person?

Do you dwell on things?

Are you upset and angry often?

Do you have a lot of baggage that you hold on to?

You know,

If so,

You need to ask yourself,

Is it helping your life?

The universe is a huge mirror.

What you put out into the universe you get in return.

What you focus on you will manifest.

So self-love to me is very important.

Self-care is very important.

The way you talk to yourself is very important.

The things you do for yourself to yourself is very important.

Maybe something to ask yourself is how do you love yourself,

You know?

What does self-love mean to you?

And what are things,

You know,

If you already are taking care of yourself and you're already in the self-loving state,

You know,

What are things that you do,

Places to go,

People to interact with and not interact with?

I do something every day and I used to not do something every day.

I thought,

Oh,

I'll do the self-love,

Self-care thing,

You know,

A couple times a week.

No,

It wasn't cutting it.

You know,

Women especially,

I feel,

Take care of ourselves last.

I remember Oprah,

She once called it the need to please disease.

So I just,

You know,

Recently I said I'm not taking care of myself enough and it shows,

You know,

Especially during this time during the pandemic.

I know things are getting better in America right now,

But,

You know,

Especially when things were really hard and we were in lockdown here.

I live in California and I remember,

You know,

Riding my bike almost on a daily basis or going out into the sun,

Going for a walk.

You know,

That was self-care and it really helped me.

Do something you love.

I mean,

It can be anything as long as it's serving you like positive and purpose and it causes you to be happy.

I mean,

It can be like the smallest thing from,

You know,

You might be depressed and you don't want to get out of bed.

Well,

Get out of bed and take a shower and make yourself some food.

I know sometimes in life you don't even want to do that.

I've been there.

So just take a small baby step.

It really helps in life,

Taking small baby steps.

And you have to find out what it is that makes you happy.

So think about that.

Spend some time thinking about what makes you happy in life.

And start doing those things.

Things that make you happy because it just brings you joy and more happiness.

I mean,

I do things by myself a lot and I find it really empowering and it makes me feel really good that I don't need a friend or to have someone there all the time.

But sure,

Yeah,

Bring a friend,

You know,

But it doesn't always have to be with someone and this is about you and for you.

It's not about someone else.

So find something that you're passionate about.

You could find out,

I found out that I love gardening and I'm pretty good at it.

I have a little vegetable garden and it brings me happiness.

I like to work out.

It helps me.

And just know that,

You know,

Have compassion for yourself.

I didn't work out as much during the pandemic and sometimes I would get down on myself,

You know,

You should have,

But then I think like,

I mean,

Yeah,

I have a lot of compassion for myself and sometimes,

You know,

During that pandemic or sometimes in life,

Working out seems like a lot,

But there's always the next day.

But don't get down on yourself for not doing anything that day.

You know,

Taking a shower and getting the mail or going to the grocery store,

That's fine too,

You know.

It's important that we have compassion for ourselves instead of thinking about things that we should be doing or were not enough.

I think it's amazing that we,

Or that I woke up today,

You know,

And I got to talk to my sister today or,

You know,

Because a lot of us don't get that luxury.

So just think of it like that,

You know,

But letting go of baggage and pain in your life,

That's a huge weight that you hold in life and that could add to a lot of stress and anxiety.

So I feel like that's very important,

So I'm going to be talking about that on the next self-love,

Self-care talk and there will be many more of these to come.

Thank you so much for joining me and always remember that you are not alone and you are very loved and you matter.

Namaste.