Welcome to Permission to Set Boundaries.
I'm Janice Vogel,
Creative human and creative coach and I'm going to guide you gently into breaking down any barriers that keep you from setting boundaries.
Drop into a restful position either sitting or lying down or even taking a walk.
Join me in taking a deep breath in and out,
Releasing a little extra to deepen the next inhale and exhale.
Allowing the breath to lengthen is perhaps the first step,
The first moment of permission to rest,
To expand,
To loosen the grips of productivity,
To-dos,
Demands.
Drop out of the sense that you may be forgetting something.
Trust that all who and what you need to remember will rise to the surface when it is aligned with the energy to attend to that person or thing.
Let's ease the sense that it is dangerous to set boundaries.
Know that it is safe to disappoint others by caring for yourself.
Know that all feelings are waves of temporary energy that come and go,
Rise and fall like our breath.
Know that it is safe to give less of yourself even when you have less of yourself to give.
Know that it is safe to give less of yourself especially when you have less of yourself to give.
Know it is safe to get the support you need to recharge,
Reset,
Regenerate the energy you need to give quality love to others and yourself.
Feel a space between your eyebrows expanding,
Allowing any tension to dissolve and feel that dissolving move down your spine,
Down your shoulders,
Through your arms,
Flowing into open palms raised to the sky to release and receive,
Down your hips,
Your lower back,
Your legs,
Your feet,
Your toes spreading,
Rooting down supported eternally by the depth of the earth.
Sense the presence of a gentle hand on your lower back,
Your inner intuitive guide determining the speed at which you move,
Determining the aligned path,
Determining when you have the energy to give and when it's time to rest and receive and allow that energy to return to you.
Place a hand on your heart and in a gentle voice,
Silently or out loud,
Tell your heart,
I feel your deep intuition,
I sense your knowledge of my capacity to give,
I sense your wisdom in knowing what I need to receive.
I will listen.
We are deeply programmed to believe that proving our love requires a display of endurance,
A willingness to power through.
Consider what if our loved ones knew just how much we love them by how willing we are to share the truth of our capacity and our willingness to allow them to help us honor this capacity.
Perhaps our loved ones aren't capable of this mindset yet but consider for a moment that it is not your responsibility to protect others from disappointment by sacrificing your own needs.
Permission to honor your needs and allow them to be information untied from proof of love or lack thereof.
Allow them to just be.
The quality of our time is greatly benefited by being attuned to when we are in need of connection and when we are in need of solitude.
And perhaps there is room to discover how to love and be loved outside of the patterns that have carried you this far in your life that have protected you.
Thank your patterns for keeping you safe and tell them there are new ways to be safe now.
Perhaps it is time for new patterns.
Perhaps you might take a nap unexpectedly while visiting your relatives.
Perhaps the first time you move out of your comfort zone and out of the comfort zone of others,
The first time you break a pattern,
Give less,
Need more,
Will feel uncomfortable.
And that is okay.
This is part of the process of forging a new neural pathway in your mind.
Showing your dear primitive brain that the world will not end when you care for yourself.
The people who love you will do anything they can to stay in your life and adjust.
This may not be linear and there may be loss along the way,
But trust that all will align when you align with yourself.
Compassion for the fear that arises with trying new things and permission to dance with that.
Perhaps share with loved ones.
I am trying something new.
I am in a chapter of my life where my needs have changed.
I am experimenting with resting more,
With attuning more,
With aligning more with my needs in order to increase the quality of my presence.
I love you.
I love myself.
It is the quality of my time and not the quantity that matters most.
I honor your needs by honoring my own.
My boundaries are an opportunity for you to help me,
To love me,
To evolve with me.
My boundaries are my peace.
May peace be with you.
And until then,
Be rested,
Be regenerated.
Permission to be,
To want,
To need,
To rest,
To rise,
To love,
To make mistakes,
To repair,
To regenerate,
To enjoy,
To delight.
Thank you for joining me in this meditation and go forward in your day attending gently to your needs with love and care.
