Throw Out The Business Rule Book

In episode 9 of the Biz Alchemy podcast, Jacquelyn chats about how an integral step in birthing the new paradigm in your business is to throw out the rule book! Very often these rules stem from the patriarchal model of business.

She explores why we've taken on certain rules which become 'shoulds', how this shows up in your chakras and how to identify those rules that are holding you back from blossoming in your business.

Transcript

This whole concept of throwing out the rulebook or throwing out the patriarchal rulebook particularly,

But the rulebook,

This has been coming up big time.

The idea first came about a couple of weeks ago when I was having my call with my mastermind ladies.

And when we get together and catch up on what's going on,

And then I go around and check where everyone's at and what they'd like to focus on,

And then I do a little energy reading around what they want to focus on.

And sometimes that's their energy body,

And sometimes it's their business's energy body or a program's energy body,

A program they're offering.

Anyway,

One of the ladies,

Her business was so emphatic.

I looked at her business's energy body and her business just went,

Basically,

Throw out the rulebook.

Like really,

It was so emphatic.

And it was like,

Your biz,

Your rules.

And it was so strong.

And it was just for everyone on the call.

Everyone just went,

Oh my God,

I follow a rulebook.

You know,

It was really,

Everyone realized suddenly,

It just spoke to everyone's heart that there is this imaginary rulebook that they follow in business.

And it was the biggest aha for all of us,

I think,

In a different way.

We all took that in a different way.

And this is what happens when you do energy readings like this in a group.

The message is always for everyone,

Which is why it comes up.

And it was really big.

It shook us all.

And it's interesting,

In a good way,

Like shook the rules out of us,

Including myself.

And very interesting because,

Of course,

That's become a little bit of a theme now.

And so,

Even in my individual sessions I've been doing,

It's really interesting how this is coming up now.

It's like a really strong energy.

And when you think about what's going on in the world at the moment,

Where it's quite divisive and everything,

It's like there are more and more rules at the moment.

And obviously,

That happens at a time when we're ready to break through that in our evolution as humanity's evolution.

So,

Of course,

It's going to go on within us as well.

Of course,

It's going to go on within our businesses.

So,

It's a really important theme for this time,

As in time here right now at the beginning of 2021.

And also very,

Very much connected to our shift away from the patriarchal energy generally,

But especially that because we're here talking about business,

That patriarchal energy that's in our business,

That our businesses have been built on.

And that system is full of rules of the way things should be done.

So,

Let's look at this rule book.

Where does it come from?

And it's in many ways,

It's self-imposed,

But it comes from when we learned about business.

Obviously,

When we start in business,

If it's your first ever business,

You have no idea of how it works.

And even where to start very often,

Other than the fact you have your skill,

Your gifts,

Your modality,

But you really don't know how to translate that across into a business other than the fact you need clients.

And so,

You learn,

You know,

You'll do a course,

You'll work with a coach,

You'll even maybe just go online and search for how to do something and then follow someone's guidelines in how to do that.

And this is important because this is how you learn.

Now,

Sometimes those courses or the coach that you work with are really just giving you guidelines.

You know,

They might say,

This is what worked for me.

You know,

I find that posting on Facebook five times a day and making sure one of those is alive has really worked for me.

It's really helped me with the algorithm.

And so,

I recommend this because it was successful for me.

And so,

Sometimes it is more like a guideline like that,

But you take it on because you want your business to be successful and you go,

Okay,

This is how it's got to be.

Other times you might work with a coach or again by,

You know,

By a program or a course where it's really,

This is exactly how you,

You have to follow this to be successful.

If you want to make this much money,

You've got to follow it.

I've tried and tested this.

This is exactly the formula that works and so follow it.

And so,

You go,

Okay,

I want to earn a hundred thousand in my first year.

I'm going to follow this.

I'm going to follow it.

Okay,

They say,

Don't do this.

Don't do that.

I won't do those.

I'll just do this.

And then you might move on from that.

You might start to work with someone new or do another program and take,

Bring on some more rules,

But very often you don't let go of those original rules.

There's still almost like a guilt around them if you try and think outside them.

You know,

It's still the little voice is still there going,

This is how it should be done.

So,

You almost accumulate more and more of these rules.

Now,

Some may drop out after a little while,

But it's amazing how often that voice can still come in,

Go,

You know,

Telling you what the rule is.

And they can be really simple things like that.

It could be just,

Oh,

I have to put lipstick on when I show up and do a live,

You know,

And it's just a little story that's there because someone recommends it and you've just got it there,

You know,

Or just a story you've created.

And as a result of that,

It feels like it just suddenly constricts you.

It pulls your energy in.

And this is what happens with these rules.

They put blinkers on you for one thing,

So you don't even explore other possibilities very often.

You just stay blink it in that and it constricts your energy.

It also takes you away from what your heart is telling you it really wants because the rules are so strong.

And here's an interesting thing I realized last week with a client was these rules are not always just held in your energy body.

They're held in your business's energy body and you may have cleared them out of your energy body.

You might have seen,

Recognized,

You know,

That you are holding certain stories and you've gone and you've cleared or used whatever it is that you do.

You might have tapped on it.

You might have used affirmations.

You might have used hypnotherapy,

Whatever it is that you use to shift your stories.

But have you done it for your business?

Because if you've done courses and worked with coaches,

Anyone to do with your business,

Their energy goes into your business.

Those rules go into your business's energy body and so they could still be sitting there.

So you're like,

Hang on,

I've done the work on this.

I know I've recognized this rule.

I've let it go.

I feel really good about it.

Meantime,

Your business is sitting there with that energy in it and you're wondering why there's maybe just a disconnection really between you and your business.

Why you're still even feeling the guilt around this coming up.

And it's not from you.

It's coming from your business because those energies are still sitting in your business.

So this is a very important thing to be aware of.

In all your personal development and everything you do to allow more of you to show up in your business,

Brilliant!

And it's what we're here to do.

But just remember you're in partnership with your business and that same clearing,

That same letting go has to happen out of your business's energy body.

So what I'm going to do now is just quickly dip into a few of the chakras that can influence this.

The first one that comes to mind,

Interesting,

Comes to mind is the third eye chakra.

The third eye chakra is connected to many things but something related to what I'm talking about here is it's where the balance of intuition and the mind come into play.

Where the harmony is created between your mental aspect and your intuitive aspect.

Both are equally important but they must be in harmony.

Now I talked about this a little bit in episode seven about harmonizing the yin and yang in your business and what happens is those rules get stuck in that mental aspect of the third eye and they're so powerful and they can become so rigid that they override the intuitive aspect.

The voice is just louder and stronger and you know often in that case your intuition it doesn't have much of a chance because the rigidity that comes with those rules or those shoulds if you want to look at it that way is so powerful and very uncompromising in many ways.

So that's where the third eye can sort of play a part in this and so it's important to have a look at that aspect of your third eye.

And then there is also the base chakra or the root chakra because this is very much about your stability and security and those rules give a sense of security.

Okay it's almost an external sense of security but those rules can make your base chakra feel safe and so the base chakra can also hang on to some of those rules because if you were to let those rules go and venture outside of those rules maybe there's a bit of an unknown there and that could cause your base chakra to have a bit of a wobble if it's not feeling secure within itself,

If you are not feeling secure within yourself,

If you are not providing your own stability.

So that's how the base can get a bit wobbly with the rules and another really important one in many ways probably the most important in this is your solar plexus chakra because your solar plexus chakra is about your self-trust and your self-belief.

That's one important aspect of the solar plexus chakra and taking action from that place of self-belief or self-trust.

So if you truly believe that those rules are important for your business that you have to do things this way for your business for your business to be a success even though if you actually went deep within deep within your heart chakra where your true essence is it probably doesn't feel very happy about that rule.

It probably would bleed you know it's not probably not filled with joy about that rule but you've taken it on as an integral part of business you just have to do it and so you're not trusting you're not believing in yourself and believing in your true voice.

You are allowing the voice of someone else the rules that you've taken on you know through someone else through someone else's teachings and sharings even if they did not tell you it was a rule as I said they may have just given it as a guideline but you've clung to that guideline and you've made it your own rule.

I'm just going to touch on one other chakra actually it's just popped into my mind is the throat chakra.

The throat chakra is very linked in some of the solar plexus but also the throat around perfectionism and I did chat about perfectionism in episode four.

Perfectionism also comes from following the rules.

Perfectionism comes from you know in relation to the throat chakra that what you are communicating your creative expression of yourself through your business is right that you've got it right that you're doing it right and the right where does the right come from the right comes from following rules the right comes from external someone else has told you that this is right and you've taken that on as a rule so your throat chakra can also constrict around this concept of rules.

Now as I said these rules can be little rules they're not necessarily big things so what I recommend for you to do and this is what we talked about in my mastermind group is writing a list of the rules that you follow look at the different aspects of business and just have a look at what rules have you taken on and even if you don't always follow them when you don't follow them there's some guilt or you know a little voice going oh you haven't done that today or oh you should have done it this way to have done it properly you've cut corners there you know the little voice that comes in and actually still has a little bit of judgment even though you may have consciously decided to let go of that rule.

Now one thing I really you know confession here I am like the biggest rule person I and this is links into the perfectionism you know when I say the biggest rule person I put these expectations on myself and you know as I discovered recently with the incredibly high blood pressure that I had at the end of last year this is where I felt it came from these these rigid expectations I have of myself which come from placing rules around what I do in my life the way I show up in my business my creation of content for my business whatever it is I do have these rules that I put there these expectations that make can make me very rigid and actually can cause my energy to constrict and I can always tell when this happens because I don't attract in as many new clients I don't have as many sessions booked so I always know when I am constricting when I'm applying too many rules when I'm moving out of my true energy or constricting restricting my true energy it's reflected in the people who are attracted to me it's so clear so I'm just talking about that because I don't want you to feel like oh my god she's got it worked out I've got to get there no way I have not got it worked out I am so on this journey and writing this list of the rules that I have around myself in all aspects of business it's it's a list I'm just keep adding to actually I keep coming up with new ideas of like oh my gosh or not even ideas are they new observations so I recommend doing this I recommend the writing the list and adding to it and going through it and seeing does it serve you and you know how you know if that serves you if that rule is serving you or not it'll bring you joy you'll read it and you'll feel joyful you'll feel happy you'll feel it won't really feel like a a rule you know it will you'll be like that feels really good I actually love doing that you know I love showing up on Facebook five times a day I love it I love it it's my connection it's my so in that case it's not a rigid rule it's something authentic it's something that's coming from you it might have been given to you as a rule or a recommendation but but actually you you love it it brings you joy and it's not you love it it brings you joy and if it brings you joy you're attracting you're putting there's more attraction energy going out there to bring in your ideal clients so in that case you'll go perfect that rules aligned with me and if there's another and you go oh have a look at it why are you using it and if you can't really think about a replacement like you feel it still needs to be done and you can't think of a replacement just remember to ask ask the big you how can I make this easier how can I do this in another way but the most important thing is to identify what is constricting your energy what have you taken on from someone else and added it to your rule book and it's time to rip up that rule book it is your business you make the rules and those rules can be broken at any time thrown out at any time replaced with any new rules at any time it's your business so this really is connected to the patriarchal model of business and many of those rules are to do with the patriarchal model of business they've come from that and sometimes they've been sugar coated but essentially they're still from that so thanks for listening today and I hope that you have an alchemical week in your business

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Very powerful! Thank you.
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That resonates with me 120%. Thank you so much for sharing, for your authenticity and the great tips! 🙏