Hello,
I'm Annie Musu,
A certified EFT tapping master practitioner.
I help women build confidence,
Set boundaries,
And enjoy healthy relationships.
Welcome to my podcast,
Hush Your Mind,
Building a better relationship with yourself.
On this show,
I offer practical wisdom to help
you clear fears,
Limiting beliefs,
And trauma so that you can gracefully create a life you love.
Welcome to episode number 28 of my podcast,
Hush Your Mind,
Building a better relationship with
yourself.
What does the yin-yang symbol have to do with relationships?
I never thought much about
this well-known black and white symbol.
The teardrop shapes flowing into one another seem
like a striking motif for bandanas or something.
Little did I know that this so-called motif
contains universal wisdom that would guide me on my inner growth journey for years to come.
Contemplating the meaning of the yin-yang symbol has helped me accept myself,
Cultivate understanding
in my relationships,
And even transform my once toxic marriage.
In this episode,
I'll share a few
spiritual lessons that guided me to create healthy and satisfying relationships.
So what does yin
and yang mean in relationships?
The yin-yang symbol comes from ancient Chinese philosophy,
Dating back to at least 3,
500 years old.
It represents the opposing yet complementary forces
that govern us and everything around us,
Yin and yang.
The black teardrop in the symbol represents
yin and the white teardrop yang.
Yin energy is receptive,
While yang energy is active.
Some examples of these polarities include night and day,
Negative and positive,
Being and doing,
Intuitive and rational,
Vulnerable and strong,
Grief and joy,
Receiving and giving,
Introverted and extroverted,
Insecure and assertive.
Some people consider yin as feminine energy and yang masculine energy.
That said,
We each have
yin and yang energies no matter what gender we identify with.
Yin and yang need each other to
achieve balance,
Hence the black dot in the white teardrop,
And vice versa.
So to become a whole
and realized person,
We must learn how to balance our yin and yang energies.
We gain invaluable
wisdom as we embrace and understand the pairs of opposites that exist within us.
For years,
My husband Louis cringed when I cried during arguments.
He felt perplexed and even angry
that my emotions seized the conversation.
As we explored his anger together,
He eventually
connected with something that he buried long ago,
His vulnerability.
Louis had learned in
childhood to be strong and never show any form of weakness.
Ironically,
My capacity to embrace
my vulnerability invited him to acknowledge his own painful emotions.
This revelation helped us
accept the polarity of being vulnerable and strong and better support each other.
Whenever we identify with one side of a polarity,
Life always guides us to its opposite so that we
can integrate it.
Relationships are powerful mirrors.
It's funny how the yin-yang symbol invites
us to embrace all aspects of ourselves.
In my childhood,
My father often had angry outbursts
and controlled my every move.
I learned to never assert myself,
Otherwise I'd get yelled at or
punished.
Naturally,
Louis' angry outbursts triggered me and made me feel unsafe.
I thought
I had escaped my father's wrath,
But it kept rearing its head in other people and situations.
So I contemplated,
What can I learn about myself?
What's my relationship to anger?
Instead of trying to change Louis,
Because that never works,
I looked within to manage my reactions.
I had labeled this emotion as bad or negative.
It's understandable given my past,
Yet welcoming my anger helped me see my crossed boundaries,
Learn how to defend myself,
And reclaim my power.
I never would have thought that a so-called negative emotion could have such
positive aspects.
Now that I'm more comfortable with my own anger,
I can better empathize with
Louis.
And the more we expand to allow the experience of all our emotions,
The more we're
able to stop taking things personally and be present for each other.
So no emotion is 100%
positive or negative.
That's why yin and yang flow into each other in the symbol.
And ultimately,
No part of us is good or bad.
They all have their place and offer us wisdom
if we're willing to listen.
Here's a quote from philosopher Lao Tzu.
Quote,
When people see some things as beautiful,
Other things become ugly.
When people see some things as good,
Other things become bad.
End quote.
So we're here to develop wholeness within.
A common misconception is that our partner is
supposed to complete us.
In French,
People sometimes even refer to their partner as their
moitié or other half.
But if we become too reliant on our partner,
Expecting them to fulfill our
needs,
We end up putting our well-being in someone else's hands.
This breeds fear,
Control,
And resentment.
What's more,
Relationships often lose their spark because we seek qualities in
another that we need to develop inside ourselves.
The philosopher Jiddu Krishnamurti said,
Quote,
Freedom and love go together.
Love is not a reaction.
If I love you because you love me,
That is mere trade,
A thing to be bought in the market.
It is not love.
To love is not to ask
anything in return,
Not even to feel that you are giving something.
And it is only such love
that can know freedom.
End quote.
Of course,
That doesn't mean that we should avoid relationships.
We learn and evolve alongside other people.
But we don't have to strain our relationships
with unrealistic expectations.
Imagine if we each took responsibility for our own needs
and validated who we are.
What if we understood that our partner is a mirror of ourself?
We wouldn't judge each other as much because everyone is on a journey to wholeness.
And our relationships would simply help us grow and expand into more joy and fulfillment.
In conclusion,
Our relationships reflect what we've denied within and can guide us toward a
more balanced,
Conscious world.
The yin-yang symbol gently reminds us to honor our whole
selves.
With curiosity and compassion,
We may realize that so-called opposites complement
each other.
Letting ourselves fully experience grief allows the full experience of joy.
We can't have one without the other.
Balance is always key.
What we resist persists until we liberate repressed parts of ourselves,
Giving us the strength to show up authentically.
The more we embrace who we are,
The more compassion
we develop for ourselves and others.
Because as human beings,
We'll all experience similar
challenges.
And by learning to see our reflection in another,
Perhaps we can be more understanding
and present for each other.
Thank you so much for joining me in this episode of Hush Your Mind.
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