Guilt After Setting Boundaries EFT Tapping

It's normal to feel guilty after we set a boundary. Though we did what’s right for us, we may still blame ourselves or beat ourselves up. Tapping on certain acupuncture points, while focusing on the cause of stress, calms the mind, reduces anxiety and relieves pain. Follow along with this guided EFT Tapping session to release the guilt after setting a boundary and honor your needs.

Transcript

Welcome and thanks for joining me in this EFT tapping meditation to release guilt after setting a boundary.

I'm Annie Moussou,

A certified EFT tapping master practitioner.

It's normal to feel guilty after we set a boundary.

We might beat ourselves up,

Believe it's our fault when it's not,

Or wonder if we could have somehow fixed the problem.

We may also feel anxious,

Afraid,

Regretful,

And ashamed,

Especially if our caretakers disapproved us for standing up for ourselves in childhood.

People-pleasing became a coping mechanism to offset the lack of support and validation.

Above all,

Boundaries indicate how we take care of ourselves.

Boundaries are about us.

The most important relationship in our life is the one we have with ourselves.

So congrats to you for mustering up the courage to not only set a boundary,

But also to stand your ground and stick to your truth.

Let's do some EFT tapping to release the guilt and honor your needs right now.

Take a deep breath.

Okay,

So you recently set a boundary with someone.

You know you did the right thing,

But you just can't shake off the guilt.

Where do you feel the guilt in your body?

For example,

It may show up as physical tension in your neck.

Take a moment to acknowledge the tension.

On a scale of 0 to 10,

10 being the highest,

What's the level of intensity of this tension?

Keep that number in mind or write it down.

It'll be a way to measure your progress.

If you're new to tapping,

Know that it's perfectly normal to yawn,

Burp,

Laugh,

Or cry during EFT.

You might feel the tension moving from one place to another.

Negative emotions and memories might surface.

In general,

You'll most likely feel relaxed.

These are signs that stress is being released from your body and EFT is working.

Okay,

Now let's use four fingers of one hand and tap firmly on the side of the other hand.

It's the fleshy side of your hand between your pinky finger and your wrist.

As you tap,

Repeat after me in your mind or out loud.

Even though I feel this guilt in my body,

I deeply and completely accept myself.

Even though I feel this guilt right now,

I know I did what's right for me,

But I still feel like it's all my fault.

I respect and honor my feelings.

Even though I feel this guilt in my body right now,

I feel bad that I stood up for myself.

Why is it so hard to stand my ground?

I deeply and completely accept myself.

Then tap on the top of your head right in the center and say,

This guilt in my body.

Move to the beginning of your eyebrow above your nose using just two fingers for the smaller spaces.

Tap while you say,

Did I say the right thing?

Tap on the side of your eye.

It's on the bone bordering the outside of your eye.

Maybe I could have been nicer.

Tap under your eye,

On the bone,

Directly under your eye.

If only I could fix the problem.

Under your nose,

Between your nose,

And upper lip.

Then the person wouldn't be mad at me anymore.

Chin point,

Which is under your bottom lip,

Acknowledging this guilt.

Collarbone point,

Right under your collarbone,

About three inches from the center,

Blaming myself for making them unhappy.

Finally,

Tap under your arm on the side of the body,

About four inches below your armpit.

It's all my fault.

Take a deep breath.

All right,

How's the tension in your body feeling?

What level of intensity was it before?

And what number is it now?

If your number has decreased even a little bit,

That's wonderful.

You may still be feeling some tension.

So let's tap again.

Tap on the side of your hand and say,

Even though I still feel this guilt right now,

I did what was right for me,

But it makes others unhappy.

I deeply and completely accept myself.

Even though I still feel guilty right now,

I'm tired of letting others down.

And at the same time,

I need to take care of myself.

I deeply and completely accept myself.

Even though I still feel this guilt in my body right now,

A part of me feels like it's all my fault.

And another part of me knows I did the right thing.

I deeply and completely accept myself.

Tap on the top of your head.

I'm tired of blaming myself.

Eyebrow,

It's not even my fault.

Side of your eye,

I'm allowed to have needs and preferences.

Under your eye,

It's hard to speak my truth.

Under your nose,

I want to be strong and stand my ground.

Under your mouth,

This remaining guilt in my body.

Collarbone,

I don't want to rock the boat.

Under your arm,

Releasing this remaining guilt.

Take a deep breath.

Let's do an affirmative round to end on a high note.

Tap on the side of your hand and say,

Even though it's not always easy to speak my truth,

I'm proud of myself for setting this boundary.

I stood up for myself.

I deserve to set and maintain boundaries that support me.

Even though there might be a little bit of guilt left,

I'm learning every day about the boundaries that serve me best.

I'm worthy of healthy relationships.

I'm staying open to prioritizing myself.

I deeply love and respect myself.

Even though I still might be blaming myself,

I choose to let it go.

Every time I honor my boundaries,

I feel more and more confident to express my needs.

I love and forgive myself.

Tap on the top of your head.

I'm listening to my needs.

Eyebrow,

Perhaps for the first time in a while.

Side of your eye,

It's safe for me to say no.

Under your eye,

It feels good to honor who I am.

Under your nose,

My needs matter.

I matter.

I matter.

Under your mouth,

It's their stuff,

Not mine.

Collarbone,

I'm responsible for my own happiness.

Under your arm,

I'm reclaiming my power now.

Take a deep breath.

What's your level of intensity for the guilt right now?

Compare this number with your first number.

I hope you're feeling calmer,

Grounded,

And more empowered now.

Feel free to use this tapping meditation again whenever you need some support after setting a boundary.

If you enjoyed this EFT meditation,

Please rate it and write a review.

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May you have the courage to love and accept yourself.

Be well and take care.

Reviews

First time tapping and I really loved it, thank you!

Felt really relevant to my current situation.Great wording and very comforting

I went in feeling guilty and upset, when I finished the tapping I felt empowered and supported. Thank you so much for creating this and helping others out. 💛

That was wonderful and it helped me a lot! I will return to this one again when I need it. Thank you beautiful Annie 😍

Great succinct informations on how and where to tap. I appreciate the narrative it helped organize what I was debating internally and to resolve that by realizing it’s okay to stand for me. Thank you.

I recommend this to anyone that has set a boundary with another human being and is experiencing guilt for speaking up for yourself and standing your ground. You deserve to reclaim your worthiness, dignity and fulfilling self-love.

Very helpful for that heavy feeling
Voice of speaker is calming and sincere

Lovely! I've had a knot in the right side of my neck for last 2-3 days. It was at a 7 when I started this tapping meditation today. By the end it was definitely at 4. Thank you so much.

Wonderful ❤️I might need to do this one everyday 🥲

Thank you. It did not occur to me that saying no is setting a boundary and that the guilt I feel can be transformed into appreciation to myself for honoring my needs and preferences. 💕🙏

This was amazing! Very powerful and effective 🙏🏾✨

Thank you! Your words are what was needed at this time and will use this again!!

This Tapping session supported and helped me to feel more calm and strong after having set a boundary.

Spectacular accessible kind what a perfect tapping meditation thank you so much