It is the story that causes the pain,
And not the emotions.
That's something I firmly believe in.
I see so many people suppressing their emotions.
They actually want to cry,
But they are afraid.
Afraid of what other people would think of them.
Afraid of not being able to stop crying.
And it's all the stories in their minds that start them to reject their emotions.
And with this suppression,
It means that the energy attached to it is stored in your system.
With all the consequences,
Short term or long term.
So the story you attach to doing something,
Or not doing something,
Is causing you much bigger pain than the emotions themselves.
So the argument which you hear a lot in the more conscious world,
Let's phrase this generally,
That you have to live through your emotions,
That's the other side of the coin,
Because I personally think you don't have to relive them.
It's all about this fine balance.
It's about being present,
It's about the final line,
Not accepting,
As in not identifying with your emotions,
But also not rejecting,
Not pushing them away,
Because in both cases you will create a situation where you are holding on to the energy,
Either wanted or not wanted,
Consciously or subconsciously,
That doesn't matter,
The effect is the same.
Energy is here to move.
And with walking this fine balance of not accepting,
Not rejecting,
You basically start moving the energy,
Or the energy,
Not even you start,
The energy moves.
With the suppressing emotions,
You reject them.
They are not okay for whatever story in your mind.
They are avoided basically,
Because of being afraid to identify with them.
On the other side,
You can accept them as in,
Oh that's just who I am,
Or I just have to suffer now to solve this,
Because this has happened in the past,
Or it's all stories that are coming from your mind,
That make you either attached or rejecting the feelings.
I am inviting you to play around with this thought,
To be in the present moment and to see whether it can just be there.
And yes,
You will likely always have stories coming up that it is not okay that other people will laugh at you,
That it's not the right moment.
If that happens,
You might try to find a way to navigate through the situation without touching it.
For example,
You can ask the person you are with,
If you are afraid of being laughed at,
You can play around with the sentences you are going to say,
Like,
Hey,
I just need a moment for myself.
And you step out of the situation,
You say,
Okay,
I will be back in an hour,
And we'll continue talking then.
And then you can be present with your own emotions,
In your own chosen situation,
Without being completely overwhelmed or afraid that other people might think or say something about it.
In this way you claim your own self-authority,
Your personal power.
If you do not go into the stories of your mind and you just allow to come up whatever needs to come up,
Needs to be seen.
Of course there are situations where you will think that it is not possible to step out of the situation.
Again there,
I feel it's important to navigate through those situations in the best possible way.
Because if you start rejecting everything,
If you start rejecting the emotions that come up,
At some point,
I mean they are stored in your body,
In your system,
At some point they will come out.
And of course if you can give them air in,
Let's say in the evening,
Or the next day,
It's much more helpful than that you are suppressing them the next day as well,
And the next day as well.
And just wait until the next situation passes,
Comes by and shows you the same.
And this is one lesson I learned,
A big lesson on my path from thinking to being.
To just be present with what comes up and see that your mind and nothing else makes the story.
So you are totally in power all the time.
