Nurture yourself first.
It is time to stop overgiving to others.
Whether they're family,
Friends,
Co-workers.
It is the time to turn inward,
To give yourself what you need at this time.
If you don't,
And maybe you already experience if you haven't,
You will become overworked,
Overextended,
Stressed,
And that can end up in physical issues,
Mental issues,
Emotional issues.
All are signs that you are out of some kind of balance.
And you need to nurture yourself first,
Before giving to others.
I quite often use the sentence they say,
In the airplane,
Put on your own oxygen mask first,
Before giving to others.
And it is so true,
Although so much used,
So maybe you don't really feel the value of that.
Because we are so tended to give,
To give,
To give,
To give,
To ignore your own needs.
Part of that is because we are afraid to ask for help,
Because we are afraid to be vulnerable,
Afraid to be seen as weak.
And the other part is that it's easier in a way to give,
Like it's often for many people easier to give a present than to receive one,
Because the attention is not drawn up to you.
And if you have to,
If you are looking inside,
Inward,
Rather than to someone else,
It means that you might see things you don't like.
We often go in blaming,
Shaming,
Judging,
So many people do.
And it's so easy to fall into that behavior.
But as soon as you start looking at yourself,
That becomes very uncomfortable.
And you see that you are maybe not there where you want to be,
Or you did things you are not proud of.
How would it be if you could look at yourself with some more self-love?
If you could ease up,
Reduce the judgment,
Be more quiet,
Hear what your inner voice,
Intuition,
Wants to say.
Because drawing your attention outward is also something which keeps you away from that.
Giving to others is taking attention away from you.
So you probably understand why this is so comfortable.
So in a way,
Some aspects of being overworked,
And how I'm going to challenge you,
Are definitely also your own choice,
Consciously or unconsciously.
Because you have fallen into a regimen,
Into a way of working,
Thinking,
Being,
Where you give to others.
And this is like a reinforcement of a situation.
Well,
Even though you don't,
You might not like the situation,
As you might be overworked and stressed,
There's still a component there of not taking fully responsibility for the situation you are in.
At some point you have not taken care of yourself,
Without any judgment,
Without any blame.
I try to always,
In all situations,
Be as much of an observer as I can.
And if you see that you have a role in the situation,
Then you can decide,
Once you see it,
You can decide to take some of your power back.
And of course,
People might argue now that it's not their fault,
There are others who have put them in this situation,
That the boss says it needs to be done like that.
Of course,
There are situations that have led to where you are now.
But does that mean that you're completely powerless?
I don't believe that.
People might say yeah,
But I need to pay a mortgage,
I need to pay for the children's school,
I need to.
.
.
I need to.
.
.
Yes,
That's true.
But again,
There,
From what perspective,
From what energy are you coming?
Are you being a victim that needs to do exactly what everyone else says you need to do?
I firmly believe that with bringing awareness you can focus your direction onto other solutions,
Onto other ways of working.
And not from today to tomorrow,
But it all starts with recognizing a situation you don't like,
Or that makes you feel not okay.
Stressed,
Burnout,
Whatever it is.
Something that is impacting your health.
And whether it's your physical health,
Your mental health,
Your emotional health,
Your overall energetic well-being,
That doesn't matter.
If something is off,
It's the way I look at it,
It's always a sign to start looking in that mirror and not pointing your attention outward and blaming others and blaming situations,
But bringing your attention inward.
