Wanting Connection But Feeling Scared

Hayley Zammit shares a 40-minute guided meditation to support those who want connection but feel scared. Bring about healing and resolution to any issues regarding relationships as you listen and feel throughout this guided practice. You are invited to have a pen and paper so you can write some thoughts and realizations down as you go through some questions for contemplation.

Music by Chris Collins

Transcript

Welcome to this guided meditation to bring about healing and resolution to your desire for connection with others but feeling scared or held back from doing so.

Before we begin I recommend having a pen and paper with you so that you can write down any notes and insights during this practice.

And when you are ready get seated in a comfortable position.

I invite you to close your eyes and begin to breathe slowly and deeply in through the nose and out through the mouth.

Become present with yourself unconditionally,

Either out loud or in your mind set the intention to explore and bring healing to your ability to connect with others and bring resolution to any issues around interpersonal relationships.

Continue to breathe slowly and deeply and feel your body soften and relax with each breath.

Notice the sense of stillness that is being created as you surrender into this moment.

Allowing any feelings that may be present to simply be.

Just breathe and be.

You seek deeper connections with those around you and wish to find new people to have authentic relationships with,

Where you can be yourself,

Feel free and be accepted but there's something within you that wants to shrink away from it,

To hide and play it safe just in case they think you are too much or a bit weird.

You may be scared if they see the real you and they reject you or abandon you because of it.

You don't want to feel unwanted or unworthy and that is so valid but you also don't want to pretend you're someone that you're not.

You want to feel safe to be vulnerable and share your thoughts,

Engage in what you find enjoyment in and utilise your talents,

Even if they are unique or uncommon to most.

Please know that you are not alone in this.

We all want to be seen and loved for who we truly are and you deserve just that.

It is only our limiting beliefs and past experiences that hold us back from having wonderful connections with others.

If we keep holding on to the fear of vulnerability and rejection and to the belief that exposing ourselves to the world is scary and dangerous and that nobody would like us,

We will continue to find it difficult to connect deeply with others and have a true relationship with people that is genuine.

We may also continue to have experiences that back up these limiting beliefs and fears until we bring healing and resolution to them and adopt new ones that are in alignment with authentic,

Loving,

Freeing relationships.

So what is the remedy to this?

What can bring about healing and resolution so that we can be free in who we are and feel free to connect deeply to others and have great relationships that are built on trust,

Respect,

Acceptance and more?

It's self-acceptance,

Self-love for all aspects of us,

Especially those that we think others will judge or reject us for.

Sometimes other people can actually be a mirror,

A reflection of the parts of ourselves that we haven't fully accepted and embraced.

So when experiences and relationships in our life trigger this feeling of wanting to suppress or deny a part of who we are,

It can be easier for us to see and recognise them outside of us rather than only existing within us.

So really we can shift our perspective to have gratitude for the experience that brought this up so we can transform it and move forward,

Claiming and embodying all that we are.

So if you feel ready,

Take a moment here to bring to light the parts of yourself that you are scared to show others.

What are you afraid to share with people?

What do you hold back from speaking about or showing others?

What aspects of yourself do you feel are unworthy or unlovable?

If it helps,

You may bring to mind something in the past that you believe has caused others to reject or abandon you.

Acknowledging these things are really important and simultaneously it requires self-honesty and compassion as you inquire deeply into this.

So go within yourself and ask,

What parts of myself am I scared of showing the world?

What parts of me do I always suppress and hide away when connecting with friends or family?

And as you do this,

Breathe and acknowledge whatever arises.

I invite you to write these down so you can really see it pen to paper outside of you rather than continuing to keep it internalised.

Bring it out,

Release it,

See it without judgement.

Just write it.

It is all part of the healing process.

And as you do this,

Memories may arise,

Emotions,

Thoughts,

Physical sensations.

Allow it all.

I will give you about 10 minutes to tune in and do this now.

Well done.

Well done for being willing to go within and bring to light these parts of you that you feel scared to share with the world.

It is important that you do not make it wrong or judge yourself for feeling this way and for having these parts that were wanting to be loved,

Seen and accepted by yourself all along.

You are here for them now.

You want them to be free,

To allow them to be accepted fully and expressed unapologetically and without caring what others may think.

So now I invite you to thank each thing that you wrote down.

And as you do that,

Thank it for what it has revealed to you.

Perhaps it revealed a belief that you didn't consciously know that you had.

Maybe you discovered a part of you that you needed to forgive,

Love or embrace.

Perhaps you can see that cultivating more self-worth and confidence is what you need to prioritise for your well-being.

Whatever it is,

Thank it.

If you wish you can write this down too and I'll give you another 10 minutes to do this.

And in the process you will be shifting your perspective into appreciating this aspect of you instead of condemning it.

Beautiful.

Just notice how you feel now.

Maybe you feel lighter,

More uplifted,

More accepting and compassionate towards yourself.

Maybe even excited for what is to come now.

And now let's just sit in love.

Let's be heart-centred and feel the love and compassion that is here.

This beautiful energy wants to support our genuine desire to accept all parts of ourselves and to not be afraid of being our authentic selves in each and every moment.

No longer investing energy into the old story,

Into doubts,

Fears and justifying being a victim.

No,

We will sit with ourselves now and connect with our hearts and natural state of being once again.

This is what it feels like to be truly ourselves.

Bring your full presence here.

Accepting this moment and ourselves as we breathe and be.

I think this life will always give us opportunities to be more loving.

Towards ourselves and others.

To embrace and love the diversity within humanity.

And accept and see the beauty within our uniqueness.

So having parts of ourselves that we have not fully claimed and love is all part of the human experience.

It is the part of the journey of evolution within ourselves and within humanity as a collective.

So when we do become aware of parts of ourselves or others that we judge or invoke us to suppress,

Deny or reject.

There is simultaneously a great potential for greater love to emerge from within your heart.

Through your ability to bring resolution and healing to the discomfort and resistance.

We lean into it.

We feel it.

We honour it.

We don't push it away.

We don't isolate ourselves forever or wear more protective masks to make sure nobody sees who we truly are.

It is okay to have discernment.

To trust our intuition about who or what feels safe.

To know about certain aspects of our lives.

Trust that.

But for the most part,

Shining your light,

Your love,

Your authenticity into the world is the most powerful thing that anyone can do.

You serve others by being you.

And others serve you by being who they are.

Whether it's triggering or not we can discover new things and learn to love.

The unity and wholeness we allow to occur within our own consciousness and state of being will not only allow old or new relationships to shift and transform into one of deeper connection and resonance with unconditional love and acceptance.

But you will be a beacon of hope to others as you show that there is strength in vulnerability.

That there is freedom in authenticity and there is healing in harmony when you develop self-connection and reveal the love and beauty that was hidden amongst the fear and hurt of the past.

You have the power to see the truth within the false.

You have the ability to recognise patterns and write a new song.

You can be the alchemist of any emotion,

Thought and belief and turn it into something higher,

Loving and beautiful.

As we come to the end of this practice I invite you to take three deep breaths in and out.

And feel into this new state of being.

And when you feel ready you can open your eyes.

Go forward knowing that it is a beautiful thing that we as humans are wired for connection and you are so worthy of having wonderful relationships in your life.

Whether it be for a brief period in your life or a lifelong one.

Day by day put your whole self out there.

Be courageous and know in the magnificence of your uniqueness.

And in every moment love yourself,

Accept yourself,

Embrace yourself.

Much love.