Using Judgment As A Catalyst For Spiritual Mastery
Hayley Zammit shares a 18 minute talk about using judgment as a catalyst for spiritual mastery. Understand why you may judge others and how to navigate it. Includes questions to ask yourself for your own reflection and contemplation.
Transcript
In our human experience we have learned to have judgements.
It is a part of the egoic structure of the mind that has formed opinions about others or about experiences which may or may not be true.
Judgement is not an innate function of God or comes from our true nature but in the human experience it does often play out subconsciously due to our conditioning until we can become conscious of it in the moment.
So let's explore our part in the co-creation of the things we judge and how we can navigate judgement as a human being.
Let's discover how we can gain mastery over judgement and instead have more love and acceptance for whatever arises in our personal reality and on a wider scale within humanity.
If you can be open to your judgements being a catalyst for healing and transformation,
You are loosening the tight grip of the conditioned mind already and are beginning to expand your consciousness into integrating new perspectives and bringing about healing and wholeness.
You are beginning to connect the dots,
Recognising the interconnectedness of people and life.
When we have judgements towards people,
Other belief systems or about certain situations,
They can arise after we feel an internal trigger within us and our mind starts saying this and that.
Judgements often show us the negative qualities within us that we have not mastered.
Perhaps we are judging another for being impatient,
Rude,
Selfish,
Too sensitive etc.
But maybe there is a part of ourselves that acts in these ways too or is suppressing them.
Now when I say negative,
It's not exactly bad,
It's more the qualities within that we haven't allowed ourselves to love,
Express,
Embody or simply accept.
For example,
We may see a beautiful woman wearing a gorgeous dress and she is beaming with confidence.
Perhaps the shadow within us says,
Oh she's so overdressed and self-centred,
She's an attention seeker.
This can reflect to us that deep down we wished we had the courage to dress and express ourselves with confidence and empowerment.
Maybe we are being invited into allowing ourselves to be more self-expressive and be authentic in how we are embodying our unique essence.
Perhaps we care too much about what other people think about us and maybe there is a part of us that desires to be seen.
So from this we can also see that often our judgments about another are not actually true,
Rather than it's coming from our own trauma or wounds that wish to be brought into the light and integrated so that we can have acceptance and love.
These reflections are shown to us so that we recognise our shadows.
Judgment can also act as a defence mechanism to protect ourselves from being hurt by projecting our stuff onto others.
Knowing this can perhaps allow us to have compassion for another who seems to be very judgmental and also have compassion for ourselves when we feel it arise and be able to see that the medicine in the moment is our own love,
Compassion,
Presence and forgiveness.
And if we cannot possibly see how what we are judging and getting triggered by relates to us at all,
We can at least just accept and honour the person or situation,
Acknowledging the diversity in life and the uniqueness of all beings.
Remember that unity and oneness is not sameness.
It is accepting the unique diversity of life,
Knowing that everyone and everything fits in perfectly in their own way.
They are God's creation just like you.
So what can we do to prevent judgment from coming up constantly in our lives?
How do we deal with the judgment that seems to arise within us about life?
1.
We can integrate the catalyst in our human experience.
We can see it for what it is,
Ultimately a call for love and healing.
Really the choice is ours.
We can either open into the healing and learning experience of judgment if it does arise,
Or we can be in resistance and denial of it,
Which would only reinforce it and strengthen it further.
So what are we choosing?
Can you have self-forgiveness if the judgment does arise and welcome it with open arms instead of condemning it?
Will you give it your presence and love and thank it for coming into the light of your awareness?
2.
We can be in a heart-based consciousness state.
As often as we can,
We can live in alignment with our most natural,
Authentic self.
We can be in a heart-centered state of consciousness,
Be in alignment with God and our Divine Presence where judgment cannot exist in the first place.
In this human experience,
We can operate in this state powerfully.
As our hearts and minds are in coherence,
Our natural state is seeing and acting from a higher perspective,
That of love,
That of acceptance and oneness.
3.
Awareness of thoughts and belief systems.
You are not your thoughts,
You are just experiencing the coming and going of thoughts.
However,
They are often a match to the vibrational resonance that you are currently holding and reinforce the deep beliefs that you have within.
Therefore,
If you find unloving thoughts arising in the mind,
How about getting curious about them?
How about wondering where they are coming from?
Perhaps you discover a belief that has been within you since childhood that wants to alchemize and integrate.
But perhaps you may not need to go into it so deeply.
If you can recognize that it is false and it is stemming from perhaps your lack of sleep,
A stressful day and sloppy alignment,
You may know that you have been placing your conscious awareness on terrible stories in the news or engaging in gossiping.
Accepting from the egoic structure of the mind and not from your true self is a call to align back with who you truly are and creating space and stillness can help with this.
Therefore,
It can be more of a readjustment in your consciousness and energy that is required rather than a deep dive into belief systems and healing.
So trust that you know what is best for you to do.
And a little reminder here.
Judgment is not a bad or negative thing.
Judgment is a wonderful teacher for us as long as we are willing to listen to it.
It can only cause suffering if we resist it or take it out on another.
If we hurt another with our words or actions that stem from the judgment we hold within and project it outwards,
This will only cause unnecessary suffering and imbalances that will require resolution later on.
So really we may as well surrender to love.
So if you are feeling judgmental,
I have a few questions for contemplation or self-inquiry that you can use.
So when you're ready you can grab a pen and journal and see what comes up for you from these questions when you are having judgmental moments.
The first one is,
What are they reflecting back to me about what I need to integrate within myself?
What are they reflecting back to me about what I need to integrate within myself?
And another one is,
Is my judgment towards them showing me what I really want the courage to express and embody?
Is my judgment towards them showing me what I really want the courage to express and embody?
The next one is,
Is this judgment true?
Is this judgment true?
And the next one is,
How can I love and accept them just as they are?
How can I love and accept them just as they are?
And the last one is,
Is this a reflection of my own insecurities?
Is this a reflection of my own insecurities?
So then what would be the next step?
It's really you operating,
You living from a higher consciousness.
Over time as we become less judgmental and the ego has less of a hold on us,
As our higher self-consciousness and heart take the lead,
We operate from a loving awareness in and towards life.
Instead of getting triggered and judgmental and being invited to go within,
We are simply aware of experiences and situations in our life and we receive the message from Spirit,
God in a state of presence and receptivity in the moment.
So we're more awake and aware in the moment rather than needing to pause,
Tune in and go within.
We are living from our I am presence,
Our higher self-consciousness where we are tapped in and tuned into life and its wisdom rather than needing our buttons to be pushed and judgments to arise.
We feel at one with God and life and trust in the unfolding of it and are in alignment with the will of God as we live our human experience grounded in peace and joy.
The synchronicities present themselves and we have compassion and curiosity and ultimately hold forgiveness,
Acceptance and love for ourselves and others.
The coherence within our hearts and minds allow us to be a vessel for grace and we alchemise through love automatically rather than through fear and misalignment.
Now this does not mean that judgments may never arise again,
They can in surprising ways but you have a strong foundation to operate from which can make integrating any catalyst or judgment more easeful and instant.
Understanding judgments as a divine orchestration or divine synchronicity and co-creation can be helpful.
As judgments often occur between two people or more,
All involved can receive some teaching and growth that is unique to them.
You can all play your part beautifully for the highest good of all involved.
So really there are no accidents but rather we are a co-creator of an experience.
Knowing this allows us to stay out of victim consciousness and reside in a state of curiosity,
Gratitude and empowerment when a situation may arise.
All people involved are part of this grand orchestration and are benefiting from it in some way.
We do not need to know how or why but simply accept what is and use our conscious choice to be open and receive the fullness of the lesson and teaching that is here for ourselves.
We can then move on with a more open heart and mind regardless how others may react or respond.
So to end this talk,
When we become aware of what we judge and get triggered by,
There in lies a powerful catalyst for healing and transformation.
We can use these catalytic moments to invite us into our power and into expansion and growth.
However not all will,
Some may choose to harden up,
Become more resistant and closed off and become even more judgmental.
And that is ok,
It just shows their level of safety and self awareness and there will be more opportunities to open up to a higher state of consciousness and for integration.
However if you can harness the power of catalysts that arise throughout your human experience and you meet them with an open mind and heart,
You will find yourself experiencing more joy,
Love and grace.
