Healing From Heartache

Letting go of energy on the heart can be difficult if we don't have compassion for ourselves. In this beautiful practice, come sit, release stuck energy around the heart, and open to the possibility of attracting more love into your life.

Transcript

Hey meditator,

Welcome.

Grab a seat on your cushion,

On your chair,

Floating up in the air wherever you are today.

It's totally fine.

We've got a deep topic we're going to be meditating on.

Healing from heartache,

Letting go of past relationships,

Whether they ended this morning or 10 years ago.

And the focus of today's meditation is really on letting go of that heartache that just like pulls on us.

It's like this,

Has a gravity that no matter how much we try to move on or think about something else or even be with someone else,

If it's an intimate heartache,

Heartbreak,

It just pulls on us again and again.

If you have experienced that weight,

That pull,

That lack of resolution,

Welcome.

Let's go into it.

Let's explore.

Let's find out what's going on and maybe get some insight and possibly some answers around why we haven't been able to release this energy or how we can.

So close your eyes and take a nice deep breath in.

Start to settle in here with me.

I know there's a thousand things you could be doing right now,

But you've chosen to work on this.

So you're already halfway there.

And now the other half is really starting to get into what energy it is that we're ready to move through.

And each of us,

As we explore this space for ourselves,

As we go into our own hearts,

And when I say that,

I mean the energetic heart in the center of the chest,

As we almost take the elevator down from our heads into our hearts.

We begin to explore what it is that's going on and what stage we're at in the healing process.

So notice with me right now,

Are you in a stage of just feeling grief and loss?

Are you in a place of being angry at another person,

At yourself,

At life?

Are you confused?

Are you in a space where you're ready to forgive and move on?

Maybe you feel like you've made no progress whatsoever and you've tried every meditation and book and teacher out there,

And this is the last straw.

I welcome you as well.

And you might find yourself in a stage of frustration.

Our emotional wounds,

Our heart wounds,

Our relationship wounds,

They're like physical wounds.

They can be infected with all of these feelings.

And when they're unresolved and they get infected,

They tend to even get worse and they start to seep into the other parts of our lives.

Another relationship,

Something at work,

All of a sudden we snap.

We have less of a threshold to deal with emotions.

When we don't really acknowledge the pain that we have,

The heartache,

The loss,

Then it's like a weight that just doesn't let us move on.

Right now as you're sitting here with me,

I invite you to not move on for a moment.

Just stop trying to heal,

Stop trying to move on.

Maybe you stop trying to get an answer and trying to figure it out.

And perhaps you can just have some compassion for yourself,

For how you feel.

And notice that there's nothing wrong with it.

Maybe there's been some judgment on how you feel.

Often when we're dealing with heartache,

We judge how long it's taking.

Sometimes if it's an intimate relationship,

We have this fantasy that they don't care and yet we're stuck.

And if you've lost someone to them moving on to the other side,

Then you're probably becoming quite intimate with that grief that wells up in the chest,

That maybe never fully goes away,

But we can begin to have gratitude for it.

What I'd like you to do right now is just notice how much of your energy is kind of out there with the other person or maybe with them in the past.

It could be with them right now,

Just kind of off somewhere else,

Or it could be with them in the past,

In a past moment.

So very simply,

If you looked at this with me as we sit in meditation,

You just kind of take a peek what percentage of you is out there with them right now,

What percentage of you is lost in thought,

In feeling.

And maybe you don't get a precise number,

Maybe you just get that sense of a lot,

A decent amount or a little,

But whatever you get,

Be honest with it.

And your energy may be out there with them because you've been trying to resolve something,

Been trying to come to terms with something,

To understand something.

And so naturally your energy kind of your attention goes out there,

But then you've become diminished in here,

Maybe become more scattered,

Less present.

And with less presence,

Tend to become less happy.

That's why we all love the holidays because we get more presence,

Just checking to see if you're paying attention still.

So as you notice how much of your energy is kind of out there with them without judging it,

Start to bring it back,

Almost like with a fishing pole,

You reel it in.

I like to see it like a light,

Your light,

The light of your consciousness that went off somewhere else with someone else,

Starts to come back into your body and into your heart.

And as you bring it back in,

The love that you've been pushing out towards them,

Or maybe it's not love anymore,

Maybe it's frustration or anger,

Maybe your energy has gone out to them in a different form,

Whatever form it's going out to them.

As you bring it back,

As you call it back into yourself,

Turn it around,

Neutralize it and turn it into love towards yourself.

Energy can take an infinite number of forms,

But it's always energy.

As you call it back,

Turn it into love and acceptance towards yourself.

What is that like?

If you were pretending with me,

What would that feel like?

If you're like,

David,

I don't,

I can't get that.

What would it feel like if you could?

I've been through relationship heartbreak a number of times and I would always be meditating,

Finding my energy just kind of out there fantasizing with the other person,

Sometimes arguing with them,

Of course,

Telling them how right I am,

How wrong they are.

But the thoughts that you have,

They don't actually matter,

The content of them doesn't matter,

The energy that you're putting into them,

The energy behind them.

That's what matters.

Bring that back.

Bring it back in its raw form and bring it back with love into your heart.

You can imagine yourself as a cup and it starts to fill up.

Maybe you've been feeling a bit empty and that cup starts to fill in.

Maybe you've been feeling a bit empty and that cup starts to fill in.

And when we're really full of ourselves,

And by full of ourselves I mean in a healthy way,

Then we can begin to share.

When our cup is overflowing,

Then we can create.

If you're looking to,

For example,

Create a new relationship of some kind,

When you're full,

When you're vibrating in self-love,

When you open up to life,

That's when you're more likely to create,

To attract and to heal.

If you're empty and you're waiting for someone to come fill it,

You're probably going to recreate something that didn't work before and you very well may not find happiness in it in the long term.

So really be full of yourself in the best way possible.

Know that there's nothing wrong with you.

There's nothing wrong with somebody else.

As one of my friends likes to say there,

Every relationship there's a reason,

A season or a lifetime.

Not everything is meant to last forever and in fact,

As we are learning,

Nothing really does in this form,

In this human form.

Growth is when we take responsibility for our own energy,

We have compassion for ourselves and others and we bring ourselves into the moment and we shift.

That's when we start to have real growth.

Put a light smile on your face.

Begin to maybe move your body a bit.

Notice that your heart is getting fuller and fuller.

Your light is beginning to shine from the inside out and that your attitude towards healing is one of really almost like exploration of self.

That it's okay to be hurt.

It's okay to feel stuck.

It's okay to feel like everything is wrong and still we can love ourselves in the midst of that.

Practice that,

Meditate on that,

Do that without trying to find out every answer to every question about every or any relationship and then just see what's on the other side of it.

Perhaps some insight will arise.

I wish you the best in healing your heart.

Continue to do the work you're doing.

You're doing great and I hope to see you in the next one.

Be well.

Reviews

This beautiful meditation left my heart and soul happier and easier. Amazing nice to discover how much energy we put in thoughts to solve and understand how things could happen the way it happened. Instead to be present and pour that energy on myself and my heart. ♥️ Loved it. Thank you so much

I loved this meditation. Will be doing some this one a few times. Thank you 🙏🏼

David, you are amazing. You made me cry and you made me smile and laugh, and you gave me strength and you have empowered me to keep going and to believe in myself. I don't know you personally but I feel a lot of love for you and for who you are as I see it and as I see you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. It's my journey and you made me see it much clearer now. Thanks, again 🙏

I’ve done this meditation so many times already. Looking forward to never doing it again. 🙃

"... you may Recreate something that didn’t work before " that hit me hard. What am I trying SO hard to save? 🙏☮

Beautiful as always my friend. This has truly helped me through so many of life’s journeys. xoxo

David, this was phenomenal, and healing! Thank you!

As always David you've brought together gentleness, humour, and heart-deep compassion. Thank you so much!

I love your meditations. You bring me peace and comfort as I work on myself, learning to love myself. You also bring a smile to my face with your sense of humor. Thank you my friend and peace on...

I van not thank you enough! I listen to this over and over and it gives me so much ease and hope ❤️
Love Anja

I don't know how this worked, but it did! Thank you! It was also refreshing not having to breathe or connect with my body. Getting pretty bored with every meditation starting that way. 😆 Anyway, grateful to be feeling calm and peaceful after several months. Great and grateful thanks 🙏🕊

What a beautiful way to see the world. Just what I needed.

Thank you for the perspective! Definitely a difficult one but will need to sit with this one more. Gratitude David.

Thank you for this beautiful meditation. God bless you.

Good though I didn't find it as effective for me in the space I'm on right now coompared with some of David's other ones. I need a bit more active help in actually moving on.
EDIT: I have come back to this 6 months after I first listened to it. Who would have thought that my pain now would be as great as it was then (different now but just as painful)? But this time, David's meditation helped me move some of the energy of my pain and loss back towards me so that I could feel some of that self-love. I will listen again regularly. Thank you, David.

Great reminders for what I’m feeling right now, thank you.

Thank you…that was a nice approach to a challenging topic.

Thank you, David! Such a thoughtful message to heal from 💔 ache! Your gentle voice in itself is soothing and brings the reminder to begin from within! 💖

This was gentle and compassionate, yet powerful. I love the analogy of reeling in the love and energy back from the person who has hurt you back to yourself, and reflecting the love you have for them back onto yourself. I've been struggling with this and I think this meditation will be very helpful. I'll be coming back to it ❤️

That was exactly what I needed. Turning the energy back in. Full..fulfilled with oneself. I felt the love flowing back in me with compassion …not anger.. towards her, Thank you brother! 🙏🏼🌞