Understanding Negative Behavior - L, L, & L W/ Glenn Ambrose

Negative behavior is caused by being out of alignment with the truth of who we really are. We must stop judging ourselves and others as bad because of a mistake made out of alignment. In the podcast, I discuss an alternative method of living from a tribe in Africa that can be used as an example of a new way of thinking.

Transcript

Welcome to Life Lessons and Laughter with your host,

Glenn Ambrose.

Hey,

Peeps,

What's happening?

Welcome to the show.

Welcome.

Welcome.

Uh,

We're,

We're going to understand some negative behavior today.

So,

You know,

This,

This podcast actually,

The,

Uh,

The idea for it actually came from,

Uh,

Looking at animals,

You know,

I live up in nature and the Dominican Republic in the mountains,

And there's lots of nature around,

You know,

And it's beautiful because if you pay attention,

You can learn a lot.

So this,

I was just kind of paying attention to nature and thinking about the behaviors and the things that I see.

And what I realized was that,

Um,

You know,

The negative behavior in nature,

Specifically in animals is the same as with people,

You know,

It's,

It's just what it is is it's when we're out of alignment with our truth,

When we're out of alignment with the way things are supposed to be,

When we've taken on,

Uh,

Things that we're not supposed to take on.

Um,

Like,

Uh,

There's,

You know,

With animals is overstimulation that can cause negative behavior.

Um,

You know,

A lot,

A lot of times,

Um,

The negative behavior comes from like with pets,

With a,

With a lack of exercise,

You know,

We will take pets out of the wild where their bodies are used to getting and their minds are used to burning off energy at a certain rate.

And then we take them and we put them into a very closed off,

Um,

You know,

World where they don't get that exercise.

So if they're not getting the,

The exercise that they need,

It's,

You know,

That there it's all that nervous energy builds up and they need to express it.

They need to,

Um,

Release that energy somehow.

And if they're in a house,

They will chew things up and tear things apart.

And of course,

Some animals can do that,

Um,

Even when they're getting enough exercise,

So then there's a different cause,

But a lot of times that's one of the main causes of misbehavior and animals,

You know,

A lot,

Like when I talk about animals,

You know,

Right now I'm talking about pets,

Mainly dogs,

Even more specifically,

Um,

But other pets as well,

You know,

So,

So with dogs,

A lot of times they don't use enough of their energy,

So then they're not calm and they're,

They're all wound up.

They got all this energy inside of them.

And then it comes out in negative ways.

You know,

You see this with kids.

I mean,

I was like that growing up.

It's like,

You know,

Like I,

I still don't understand this as an adult.

I mean,

I under,

You know,

I understand why society does it because it works for society,

Um,

You know,

To control people and to,

To,

To get kids out of the way.

So,

So adults can go work and stuff like that,

But,

You know,

But the idea of taking a species,

Namely humans that are at their highest energy level when they're children and they're inquisitive and,

And,

You know,

They,

They,

They just,

They have all this energy,

Right.

And then to make them sit at a desk for six,

Seven hours a day is just mind boggling to me.

I quite honestly,

I don't know how most kids do it.

I couldn't do it.

So,

You know,

I was constantly getting punished because I couldn't sit still at a desk.

And,

And pay it and pay attention to somebody monologuing at me.

It's,

You know,

It's kind of ironic because the,

You know,

This podcast is the monologue.

I don't listen to a lot of podcasts because I can't,

Like my attention span doesn't sit there and,

And listen to stuff like,

I just can't do that.

Well,

You know,

I can talk,

But listening to somebody just go on and on.

And then,

You know,

Most for me,

Most topics I'm not that interested in except spirituality,

Spirituality.

I get my information from within it comes through me and out.

So I don't get it from external sources,

You know,

Like,

I mean,

Sure.

I can hear something interesting every once in a while,

But generally it's like,

I'd,

I'd have to listen to somebody for 30,

45 minutes and then get one or two little things that actually make me think,

And then.

I want to spend my time thinking and diving into those and getting my own information about them.

So it's,

I,

I don't do that well.

And I never did,

You know,

I couldn't sit at a desk and be still for,

For six hours as a child,

It's,

It couldn't be done.

So I was labeled as bad and I was punished on a consistent basis.

And I heard Glenn,

Stop it,

Glenn,

Turn around,

Glenn,

Stop entertaining the class,

Glenn,

Glenn,

Glenn.

I heard my name in a negative way,

You know,

Hundreds of times a day,

Probably.

So it's,

You know,

It's a wonder what that did to my self esteem.

Well,

I turned into an alcoholic,

So you can kind of guess.

Um,

But so this is,

You know,

This is a similarities,

You know,

A pet can't sit still when they have all this energy inside of them and not be able to expel it.

Certain children can't either,

You know,

It's the similarities.

So,

You know,

The,

The overarching point here that I'm going to try to make in different examples is that when people are behaving in what society deems as negatively,

There is instant blame.

You know,

We blame the person.

Oh,

You behave negatively.

There's something wrong with you.

And,

Um,

You're a bad person.

Basically,

You know,

This is what we do in society and it's,

It's no wonder why we're so screwed up.

You know,

Like we've scientifically proven that negative behavior does not change with negative reinforcement.

It's been proven through science testing studies.

And yet we still do it,

You know,

You know,

We've been putting people in prison for God knows how long.

Do we have less prisons now or more prisons?

Well,

If it was working,

Wouldn't we have less people breaking the law?

No,

We have more people breaking the law.

So apparently it's not working.

It's so,

You know,

This idea,

We have to understand negative behavior better.

If,

If we're going to live amongst others in society,

That's why I'm talking about this podcast is you can see it in nature,

You know,

That the other way is overstimulation that I began talking about,

So I saw this with my son.

It's like you,

You take a child and you nowadays,

You know,

My son at three had about 50 toys and a tool toy box.

And when he was allowed to just grab all whatever toys he wanted,

He had a bunch of them and he was overstimulated.

He would cry a lot and it,

The house was a mess and I was stepping on things and kicking things and,

And I was overstimulated and I was upset.

So,

You know,

I put this blanket on the floor and I said,

I forgot,

I think it was like three toys or something,

Three or four toys,

You can have,

You know,

Three toys,

If you want a fourth one,

You have to put one back into the toy box.

You can't play with more than three toys at once.

So there's no reason to have them out all over the place.

And of course he resisted it at first.

Oh no,

No.

You know,

And cried and tried to bring more out and I had to correct them over and over,

Set those boundaries.

No,

This is what we're doing.

No,

This is what we're doing.

And then once he,

He finally stopped resisting it and just settled in was like,

Okay,

This is the way things are right now.

This is,

This is what's going to happen.

And he settled in.

Then what happened was he relaxed and it was all in the same visit.

It was amazing to watch his energy just dropped down and he completely relaxed.

And it was up until that point.

Because he wasn't overstimulated.

He wasn't constantly looking at another toy and trying to figure out what to do and which one,

Oh my God,

There's all these toys around.

Do I want to play with this one?

Do I want to play with that one while I'm playing?

I want this one.

I want to,

Oh no,

Wait,

I want that one.

And it's just overstimulation.

You know,

I see that.

I see that with,

With pets,

You know,

Especially pets.

It's like we bring them into a human world and we don't,

If we don't train the dogs as to what's expected of them and what's not expected of them in the wild,

That's what a pack leader does.

Like they're,

They're very much pack animals and they have a pack leader.

That pack leader determines what is done and what isn't done and corrects them if they don't in,

In a calm,

Assured way so they can trust it.

This is what we are taking over as pet owner and we should be doing that.

And a lot of times what we do is we just,

You know,

We're,

We're in this mode and society where we think if we give people or pets or whatever,

Whatever they want,

Just give them as much as they can possibly want,

Then they'll be happy.

You know,

It doesn't work.

We have to get out of that mindset.

It doesn't work.

Look at what happens when you just give children,

Whatever they want,

They become spoiled brats.

It's been happening since the beginning of time.

Willy Wonka talked about this in a chocolate factory in what,

1970?

Like,

And we're,

We're doing it even worse now.

Like,

So it doesn't like kids don't know what to do.

That's why we're there.

Like the older generation is supposed to guide the younger generation.

So if you give these kids free reign,

They're overstimulated.

They don't know what to do.

And it's the same thing with pets.

If they're,

They're just given free reign and there is not,

There is no alpha to tell them what to do and what not to do.

Then they get overstimulated and they think everything is their job.

I'm supposed to protect the house.

I'm supposed to attack anybody that comes to protect my pack.

I'm supposed to,

You know,

Like everything is their responsibility.

We have,

If,

If we take them out of the wild and put them into a different atmosphere,

A different culture,

A different way of being,

We need to be that leader to show them,

Because if not,

They're overstimulated and they don't know what their job is.

They don't know how to handle a human world.

You know,

So then their behavior starts acting out.

They start making decisions on their own from a,

From a wild animal perspective,

You know,

Attack or,

You know,

Eat everything like,

You know,

Whatever.

It's just,

It's,

You know,

Protect your food.

Anybody comes near you,

Bite them.

Like that's just,

That's how they would do it in the wild.

And they end up doing that in your house,

If they're not taught how to function amongst humans in a different way from their leader,

You know?

So these are just little examples.

I want to give some little examples of,

Of kind of real life stuff.

So you guys can,

Can identify with what I'm talking about and then,

You know,

Get to the main point.

The main point is that we don't understand negative behavior.

We're just reacting to it.

Somebody does something we don't like and we judge them for it,

Which is really ridiculous.

I mean,

Like I was a very bad child supposedly,

But like,

Even when I was young,

Like a lot of my teachers would tell me and my parents,

Like he's a good kid,

He just can't pay attention.

Or he just does,

He goes and gets in fights and he does this and he's a good kid,

But he's a good kid,

But it's like,

So,

So people could see that I was a good kid when I was younger,

When I finally decided that I couldn't fit into society around 14 and just said the heck with society's rules,

Then it was a different story.

Some people could still tell that I was a good kid.

Most couldn't.

Why?

Because he just looked at my behavior and judged me.

Glenn is not doing what he's told.

So therefore he's bad.

They never looked at why I didn't do what I was told.

You know,

They never looked at,

Well,

He,

He doesn't seem to be able to pay attention.

He doesn't seem to be able to sit still.

Maybe he's got too much energy.

Maybe he just,

Maybe not every single child on the planet is just supposed to sit still at a desk.

Like maybe there are different types of people.

Maybe that works for some kids and it doesn't work for other kids like that.

Nobody,

You know,

This is what we do in our society.

We look at the symptom and we judge the symptom.

We don't look at the,

The cause.

We don't go underneath.

I have a headache.

Take an aspirin.

Oh,

Cool.

I don't feel the headache.

We don't go,

Why am I getting headaches on a regular basis?

Maybe I should treat that.

We don't do that.

We don't look at the cause.

We look at the symptom and try to treat the symptom,

You know,

And it's embedded in our society.

This is kind of my point.

I've talked about the medicine thing before and the headache thing before,

But it's like,

It's embedded in society everywhere.

We do not go deep enough.

We need to start understanding human behavior.

I mean,

This is just like human behavior.

101,

This doesn't,

You know,

It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure this out.

It doesn't take years of studies to figure this out.

You know,

Most thing life is simple,

Man.

Like if you have a kid that can't sit still,

He has too much energy to sit still.

That's it.

That's it.

It's we don't have to do 45 years of psychological studies on him to figure out,

You know,

That that he has too much energy to sit still.

Just look at a kid going like this.

He's got too much energy to sit still.

He knows he's supposed to.

That's why his ass is in the chair.

Maybe it's barely in the chair,

But it's in the chair because he knows he's supposed to.

So he's trying,

But he's having a hard time.

Like you can't see that.

Come on,

We got to think a little bit deeper instead of just the way we're conditioned.

Stop judging people for,

You know,

We see somebody do something,

Something that's out of character or what we deem negative.

And we go,

Oh,

That's a bad person.

Really?

Well,

Have they done 150,

000 good things before that one bad thing?

Well,

I don't know.

Well,

Do you think maybe you should gather that information before you make the judgment?

Because that's just being prejudiced.

You're prejudging,

You're judging without the necessary information to make that assessment.

You don't have it.

You just see him do one bad thing.

Oh,

He stole a loaf of bread.

He's a thief.

He's a bad person.

Oh,

Really?

Do you know why?

You know,

We've talked about this stuff for generations.

There's movies and plays and things made about,

You know,

A poor person stealing a loaf of bread to try to feed his family and then going to jail for God knows how long.

You know,

But we don't blame the we don't blame the government,

The people who are actually setting up,

Making society's rules and setting up a system where we have literally trillionaires upon trillionaires in society.

And then we have to we have people that need to steal a loaf of bread to feed their family.

And we don't look at the people who are setting up that system and judge them.

As a matter of fact,

We trust them.

We give them our trust.

Well,

Have to do what the government says.

Like,

Seriously,

That's who you trust.

But somebody trying to feed their family,

We're going to send them to jail.

You know,

It's if this is why I said we have to start understanding people,

We have to go a little bit deeper.

If we're going to live in community with one another,

We cannot be judged on our worst moments because we all have them.

We all have moments of weakness.

Like I've been working on myself steadily for 20 years.

And I still have bad moments.

And it's funny,

Like like every once in a while,

It doesn't happen often,

But every once in a while,

Somebody will see me in a bad moment that had put me on some pedestal that thinking that I was perfect,

Which isn't my fault.

That's their fault.

I never sued.

So the idea that I am perfect,

Matter of fact,

Most times I'm saying I'm not so but they put you up there anyway,

And then you behave in a way that is less than what they deem spiritual.

And they're like,

Oh,

My God,

Glenn's lost like Glenn.

Glenn isn't who I thought he was,

You know,

And they'll take all the information that that I've put out to help humanity and just shove it down the toilet and flush it and go,

He's bad.

He's not who I thought he was.

Because he got upset.

I've had that happen,

You know,

Not that often,

But several times throughout the last 20 years.

And,

You know,

What do you do?

I mean,

I got to look at it and go,

OK,

Good,

You know,

There I don't need them in my life anyway.

I mean,

They're obviously caught up in judgmentalism and stuff.

But but this is how,

You know,

That that might sound extreme to some of you listeners,

But we do it on a daily basis with others.

We do it with other people on a daily basis.

And we have to start looking deeper if we're going to live in community with one another,

Which is what we have to do.

We have to live in community with one another and get along with one another.

Like this is where we're going in a new paradigm.

This is why I'm having this conversation,

Because whether you believe it or not doesn't really matter,

But we're creating a new paradigm.

The old paradigm is falling apart all around you.

And if your attention is still on the old paradigm falling apart,

I suggest you start looking at the new paradigm because that one's falling apart.

You're not going to save it.

It's way too broken to be fixed.

It's just a complete mess.

And it doesn't work.

And it never has worked.

And it's come to its conclusion.

And even if you believe differently,

You ain't going to fix it anyway.

So why don't you start looking,

Looking at the new paradigm?

We don't have to fight what's wrong in the old paradigm.

That was the old way of being.

And it has never worked.

People had been fighting for justice in the system in which we lived for.

I don't I don't even know how many thousands of years,

Because,

You know,

Maybe didn't look exactly like this,

But it's always looked similar.

There was always a rich upper class controlling the masses.

It's always been like that,

And it's never worked.

And now we have a global society like that,

And there's no place to run and hide anymore.

We can't just get fed up and go to another continent and start over like we used to.

We've we're connected globally.

So it's over.

The jig is up.

This system doesn't work.

And you've had people rebelling against the system for tens of thousands of years,

And then we just,

You know,

If they're lucky enough to win,

Then a hundred years later,

We just have different people doing the same thing that the system doesn't work like guys,

You know,

It doesn't work.

The system doesn't work.

It never has.

So start looking,

Don't and you don't have to fight against it,

Fight against it all you want,

Isn't going to work.

It's never worked.

You know,

This is what like when I when I sometimes I've explained this to people with like specific things.

And the best answer that usually I can like once we go down this road far enough,

The place I usually get with these people is they say,

Well,

What am I supposed to do?

Nothing like,

Well,

I'm not saying that you're supposed to do nothing.

OK,

But I would rather do nothing than something that doesn't work.

If I know one hundred percent that something doesn't work,

That's like saying,

You know,

Banging your head into a wall doesn't benefit you.

And they go,

Well,

I'm not just going to stand here doing nothing.

So I might as well bang my head into a wall.

I don't think that's a good reason.

Personally,

Just because you feel like you have to do something or else you're part of the problem like that was taught back in,

You know,

That's been taught in society.

If you're not out fighting and really putting energy towards the problem so it expands,

Which I know I understand most people don't realize that that's what they're doing,

But that's what that's what you are.

If you're putting your energy towards a topic.

It doesn't matter if it's for or against that topic expands,

You know,

I've said this many times,

Like this is the foundation of energy.

You got to start somewhere.

I mean,

Mother Teresa,

A little old nun,

Catholic nun,

Understood this like this isn't this isn't rocket science either.

You know,

Like they invited her to a,

You know,

Anti war rally and she said,

No,

I won't go.

But if you have a pro peace rally,

I'll be the first one there because she understood that anti war is just war.

Anti government is just government.

Like you're putting energy and it's towards the topic,

The universe doesn't know pro or against it just knows energy and topic.

So it expands,

It gets bigger.

Look at the the war on drugs,

It expanded since we declared war on it,

The war on poverty,

More poverty since we declared war on it,

It happens in every arena.

So we have to understand that it doesn't work and feeling like you can't do anything like you have to do something,

You can't just sit still,

That being your motivation to do something that has been proven not to work.

Not a good reason.

So now we actually do have something that works,

It's putting energy towards the solution.

So if you have a system that is broken down,

It never worked,

It's never going to work and putting energy towards it just expands it and it's messed up and it's falling apart.

Instead of that,

Then what do we do?

We put energy towards the new paradigm.

We put energy towards actually interacting with nature in a healthy way,

In a logical way,

In a way that makes sense.

You know,

I say this all the time.

People think people say spiritual thinking is woo woo.

No,

Spiritual thinking makes sense.

What's woo woo is what other people call reality.

Thinking that your government has your best interests at heart,

That's woo woo.

That's BS,

That's pie in the sky,

No facts to it,

Lying to yourself,

No basis in reality,

Woo woo crap.

That's what that is.

Why?

Because there's a gazillion pounds of evidence that your government lies to you and the people that are in charge lie to you and people die as a result and they don't care and they keep doing it.

It's proven at this point.

That's woo woo.

What isn't woo woo is sitting there going,

OK,

What causes negative behavior?

People out of alignment with who they truly are.

That's when negative behavior,

Behavior comes out when they are out of alignment,

When they don't know what to do to stay in all themselves and with their truth.

They veer off like people have said,

I've been talking about this for years and people say like at some point the hint or the statement is that I'm working towards a utopian society and people are like,

Well,

How can you have a utopian society?

There's always going to be people that steal and do bad things.

Why?

Why?

If everybody has enough to eat,

Everybody treats each other with respect.

Why is somebody going to go steal?

If they have enough food,

Why steal?

If they have enough things,

Why steal?

If they're happy.

And they're treated with respect in their community,

Why do something negative?

Why?

Like what's the benefit?

What do they get out of it?

Nothing.

They don't get anything.

Negative behavior,

There's always a reason.

There's always a reason.

And it's people out of alignment and not knowing what to do.

It is.

It's ignorance.

It's ignorance as to what's to blame.

You know,

This is Michael Bernard Beckwith comes at it through this door.

Ignorance is to what is what is to blame,

Not people.

Because for some reason.

A person who does a negative behavior in their ignorance thinks that that's the best thing to do in that situation.

Now,

It's not,

You know,

I've talked about getting in fights when I was younger because I was bullied in that direction.

And that's how I ended up solving problems.

When there was a situation that was going down and I popped somebody.

That was I wasn't doing it because I was a bad person.

I was doing it because in my ignorance at that time,

I thought that that was necessary.

Do you understand that when people do something negative,

It's because they think it is necessary.

They are mistaken.

I was mistaken.

And I'm not saying that we don't hold people accountable.

We can still hold people accountable for their actions.

What I'm saying is we need to start understanding their behavior better because like.

Most poor behavior is because of people that are being misunderstood and mishandled,

Most of it.

Now,

Is there at least for a while,

Years to come,

Still going to be really messed up people that in their ignorance are going to do really bad things and they have to be like taken out of society?

Yeah,

I would imagine that that's true.

I'm not saying we're supposed to close all the jails tomorrow.

I'm just saying we need to start working towards a different reality,

A new paradigm where we understand human behavior better.

And we don't need to do this psychological freaking patent patenting BS.

Like,

You know,

You talk about understanding people and people's minds go right towards psychology and all this crap like it's like it's complicated.

It's not complicated.

Are you a human being?

Then you can understand this.

Why?

Because you felt it.

That's why.

So it doesn't take a study to figure out why people behave negatively.

It just takes somebody with some insight to explain it.

And then you can tell if it's true or not,

If you open up your mind.

People let an animal lashes out when it's backed into a corner.

So do people.

So when you see somebody in a corner lashing out,

You might go,

How do we get them out of this corner?

Instead of they're a bad person.

You know,

I love I love the in the JFK movie,

I've mentioned this before,

Too,

Where it was the the Cuban Missile Crisis.

And in the movie,

I don't know if this happened,

But in the movie,

You know,

It was like 20 minutes to nuclear war or something.

And JFK said went to his people and said,

Find Russia a way out without them looking like a wuss,

Basically find Russia a way out.

Find them a way that they can back out of the back out of nuclear war without looking like they're a beaten dog with their tail between their legs.

See,

That's understanding humanity.

That's understanding motives for behavior.

If you push somebody up against a wall and say you either kiss my ass or press a nuclear war button and they're sitting there going,

Oh,

My God,

Like if I kiss their ass,

Our whole country is going to be against me and we're never going to have any respect.

And USA is going to end up coming in and taking us over.

Like and the country is not even going to be I don't have a I don't have a play here.

I got to go to war.

I have to.

Now,

Do they?

Of course not.

But in their ignorance,

That's you're backing them into a corner.

Right.

So the best way is that,

You know,

That's why I love that,

Because JFK was like,

Find them a way out where they don't look like a wuss.

Oh,

OK.

And then then they gave them an out and then there was no war.

Right.

Because you didn't back them into a corner.

I back down or I punch you in the face.

Well,

Then that person a lot of times is they get a decision to make.

Do I want to just get picked on for the rest of my life or do I want to punch this person in the face?

That's their choice.

That's what happens when you back somebody into a corner.

They have to choose between being,

You know,

Just minimized and and and disrespected as a human or fighting back.

It's a 50 50 shot at that point.

50 percent are going to,

You know,

Cow down.

The other 50 percent are going to punch.

Like so that's no way of solving a situation.

You know,

This is why,

You know,

Yes,

I went to fighting at that age.

At a young age.

But as an adult now,

I understand that that wasn't the right way.

You know,

So we have to understand that that dynamic doesn't work.

So,

You know,

One thing that's beautiful.

On this subject is,

Well,

Hopefully I still will have some Internet something went off.

Yeah,

This this forgiveness ritual of the.

But Bamba tribe,

I don't know if I'm pronouncing that right,

But.

But what's cool about this is the you know,

I'd seen this before.

And Jack Kornfield,

I guess,

Was the one a Buddhist teacher who talks about it and.

In the in the tribe of South Africa,

When a person acts irresponsibly or unjustly,

He is placed in the center of a village alone and unfettered.

All work ceases.

Every man,

Woman and child in the village gathers in a large circle around the accused individual.

So this is what happens when somebody behaves negatively.

Then each person in the tribe speaks to the accused one at a time,

Each recalling the good things that the person in the center of the circle has done in his lifetime.

Every incident,

Every experience that can be recalled with any detail and accuracy is recounted.

All his positive attributes,

Good deeds,

Strengths and acts of kindness are recited carefully and at length.

This tribal ceremony often lasts for several days.

You know,

I mean,

How cool is that?

My phone's messing around with me.

In the end,

The tribal circle is broken.

A joyous celebration takes place and the person is symbolically and literally welcomed back into the tribe.

So it says here,

This story teaches us a lot about the wisdom of simple people in our increasingly fast paced and sophisticated world.

We have forgotten to forgive and we have forgotten that without forgiveness,

It is difficult for someone to achieve the peace of mind that we all long for.

Many times someone's bad deeds erases,

Bad deed erases in our minds all the good things he or she has done.

We tend to forget everything that they did because of one act,

You know,

Which is an important aspect of that so that we forget all the good that they did.

But for me,

It's like when I read that,

What I hear is where,

You know,

This person fell out of balance with their truth.

So what they did is they they came back and reminded this person of who they truly are.

This is who you are.

You are good.

You are kind.

You are loving.

You are part of our tribe.

You are part of our group.

You just made a mistake.

You know,

I heard years ago that a sin when it was actually written,

You know,

A truer.

And I don't know if this is true.

You never know what's true.

But I like the mentality of it,

That the real meaning of a sin back then was to miss the mark.

It was like an archer misses the mark.

So it's like you're aiming to do well and you miss the mark,

You're aiming for the bullseye and you miss the mark.

You know,

That's really what a sin was,

You know,

And this is what I see,

Especially in the beginning.

Most people that make mistakes and then are labeled as bad people,

It just sets them up to do more bad.

You know,

We have to understand that we are good people at heart,

And if we if we treat people like that and we act like that,

People will behave like that.

So when somebody does one wrong thing,

They're not judged for that one wrong thing.

You know,

The whole tribe circles around and reminds them of their truth,

Gets them back into alignment with who they truly are and what they truly are,

Which is good.

And then symbolically,

Welcome them,

Welcome them back into the tribe.

Are you kidding me now?

How many you know,

Like maybe there might be one person that was was who knows,

Man,

Who knows if certain people,

You know,

We blame too much on chemical imbalances.

So most of them are a bunch of crap,

I think.

But,

You know,

Hey,

You know,

It's possible that there are some.

So who knows,

Maybe somebody was or comically they were born into this life with some some stuff or whatever.

My point is maybe there are some people that even with this type of treatment,

Maybe there might be one or two possibly that actually continued behaving badly.

And there's a reason for that,

Too.

OK,

But let's say we can't figure out the reason,

Whatever.

OK,

Let's so I bet you,

You know,

Compared to the way we live society now,

If you have.

You know,

Let's say you have 20 percent of society that that behaves negatively,

Consistently,

And then you,

You know,

Probably at least 15 percent of them.

Are consistently behaving negatively for years and years and years and years and just repeat the pattern over and over and over again,

Someday,

Who knows,

Maybe they get old enough where they learn,

Maybe they don't,

Maybe they find themselves,

Who knows.

But but like you have 15 percent of a society that has millions and millions of people in it that are just stuck in that pattern.

That's millions and millions and millions of people that are stuck in that negative pattern that don't need to be that are consistently breaking the law,

That are consistently causing chaos in society,

That it and it usually gets worse.

You know,

It doesn't get that they don't do less extreme things.

They do more extreme things.

Can you imagine like I bet you,

I bet you it's less than one percent in a community that behaves like I just described this tribe.

I bet you less than one percent would become repeat offenders where they just consistently did bad and became worse,

Less than one percent compared to 15 percent.

Like you,

You would wipe out 90 percent,

At least probably 90 percent of crime you would wipe out if we lived like this.

OK,

So that's just to comprehend what we're talking about.

Again,

You know that the critical mind comes in and goes,

Oh,

We're going to live like this from now on,

Huh,

Glenn?

No,

That's not what I'm saying.

But we have to start walking towards it.

Like.

We act like if I can't snap my fingers and make a utopian society tomorrow,

Then we should continue putting energy towards this falling,

Crumbling piece of crap society that's never worked.

Like those are the two options.

Like,

No,

Walk towards something that works.

You know,

When people think fulfillment comes like when they accomplish something,

It doesn't.

Fulfillment comes when you're walking towards something that you enjoy,

When the joy is in the journey,

When you're actually doing it,

When I'm doing this podcast,

I'm actually receiving energy.

I'm feeling joy through my body.

I'm feeling fulfillment now while I do this.

I'm not it's I don't like if I let's say I reached a big group of people and also they started some community in the middle of somewhere and they grew and it was one hundred thousand or ten years from now and they all lived the way that I just described because of this podcast.

And they brought me over there and they say,

Glenn,

Thank you so much.

Look at what you've created.

You know what?

I would not be fulfilled then.

Would I be happy?

Sure.

Would I be humbled?

Sure.

But that's not going to bring me fulfillment.

I'm going to experience momentary happiness and who knows,

It might last a day,

It might last a week,

It might last a month,

But it's it doesn't make it doesn't fulfill me.

Fulfillment is what you get when you're doing things,

You know,

So walking towards a healthy life,

Walking towards a happy life.

That is fulfillment enough.

We don't have to wait until we get to some imaginary destination where we live in a utopia.

And then anything short of that is just a waste of time.

That's ridiculousness,

You know,

But this is how people talk and act.

Like when I bring up stuff like this,

A lot of times people like,

Well,

Like,

Like it makes sense.

Like,

What am I supposed to do,

Glenn?

Like just,

Oh,

We're supposed to close all the prisons tomorrow and we're just all going to suddenly live in a world like that.

No,

That's not what I'm saying.

OK,

Then.

Like they prove their point or something.

Like,

No,

You didn't prove your point.

That's not the choices.

It's not instant utopia tomorrow or continue living stupidly and effectively because that's what we're doing.

We're living in ways that are ineffective and stupid.

They don't work.

Punishing people over and over,

Judging people over and over.

Every time somebody does something that's out of step with perfection,

We judge them and label them as bad and put them down.

And then we wonder why we have so many people that are depressed,

Killing themselves.

Like,

I mean,

It doesn't work.

It doesn't work,

So don't do what doesn't work.

Start walking in the direction of something that does.

How do you do that in your life?

You start wrapping your brain around this mentality.

You start wrapping your brain around the reality that judging people doesn't work.

That's how you start.

You start by working on yourself.

Be the change you wish to see in the world.

You know,

Everybody heard Gandhi say that,

And it's on every bumper sticker all over the world,

But half the people don't understand the depth of what that saying means.

Be the change you wish to see in the world.

Be it in you.

You change.

If you change and I change and they change and everybody else changes,

Then all of a sudden we have a different reality and we can only control ourselves.

So be the change you wish to see in the world.

Do it for yourself.

Start understanding this concept.

Stop the judgment.

Start understanding the depth of why people behave the way they do instead of just judging them as bad and understand that they fell out of alignment with their truth momentarily.

It doesn't mean you have to put up with it.

If they're treating you poorly,

You can still set boundaries and say,

No,

That's not allowed.

You can't do it to me.

You can still do that,

But you can do it without the judgment.

You can do it without saying you're bad.

You're just saying,

I don't allow that.

I don't allow people to treat me like that.

That's why I'm saying you do it to me.

I'm not saying you're bad.

I'm saying I don't allow it.

You see the difference?

That's night and day.

That's what we practice.

Take care of ourselves.

Learn ourselves.

Stop judging others.

Stop labeling this negativity as bad people.

Stop understanding that people are out of alignment with who they are.

They're functioning from a place of ignorance where they don't know how to behave better.

They have a lack of hope.

A lot of it is a lack of hope,

Especially in impoverished societies.

People don't have hope.

They look around and they see people been suffering for generation after generation after generation.

And then you walk up to them and you go,

Well,

Just think positively and apply yourself and everything will be fine.

And they're like,

What are you talking about?

I have mounds of evidence that this doesn't work.

I've been trying to be positive my whole life.

Nothing's worked out for me.

So why is it going to suddenly work out for me now?

You know,

We have to understand why people think the way they think,

And then we can meet them where they are and then walk them out towards a solution gently if they're willing.

So there.

That's that.

Yeah,

I think that's it.

It's just,

You know,

Understand that.

Let's understand one another better and work on ourselves,

And then our society is going to automatically become less judgmental and better and healthier.

So I'm going to wrap up with that.

All right.

Thanks,

Peeps.

Blessings,

Best wishes,

Peace.

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Well said! Great point about what overstimulation does to all living creatures! Thanks for sharing your insights. 🙏🌊💫