Spiritual Trust

In this episode we are talking about trust in regards to spirituality, and how you can fully trust and rely on these spiritual truths. Learning to let things be and allow them to unfold as they would.

Transcript

Welcome to Life,

Lessons and Laughter with your host Glenn Ambrose.

Hello,

Welcome to Life,

Lessons and Laughter.

So today we are talking about spiritual trust.

Yeah.

I wanted to start this episode with a zen,

Because if you're listening to these shows chronologically,

You'll know that about 20 minutes into the last episode we started talking about this.

And we immediately were like,

Oh,

This needs to be its own episode.

Right.

So we were talking a lot about the just wait,

You have to,

Sometimes you just,

You need to calm down and wait and let stuff play out.

Yeah,

Give it space.

Yeah.

So that reminded me of a zen parable.

I don't know why I know this.

Because Ben is a famous zen Buddhist.

That I heard recently.

It's about an old farmer who had worked in the fields for many years.

One day his horse ran away.

So his neighbors came over and said,

Wow,

What awful luck.

And they all talked to him sympathetically and he said,

We'll see.

Oh,

I know this one.

The next morning,

Everyone surprised,

The horse returned bringing with it three other wild horses.

How amazing,

Everyone exclaimed.

The old man replied,

We'll see.

A day later,

The farmer's son tried to mount one of the wild horses and then he was thrown to the ground and broke his leg.

Once again,

The neighbors came by to express their sympathies for the bad luck.

And he said,

We'll see.

The next day,

The village had some visitors,

Military officers who had come with the purpose of drafting the young men into the army.

They passed over the farmer's son thanks to his broken leg.

The neighbors patted the farmer on his back how lucky he was not to have his son join the army.

We'll see,

The farmer said.

That's it.

You know,

We have to stop being so reactionary and judging things is good and bad,

You know,

And it's just,

We'll see.

We'll see how it plays out and just go with it.

Give it some space.

You know,

And I,

This plays out in a lot of different ways.

Like,

I learned it in relationships.

Like,

Dating and stuff.

It's like,

Dating,

Instead of,

Instead of sitting there going,

Oh,

They had three drinks at dinner instead of one,

Should I be concerned?

And just,

Like,

Over-analyzing every move that somebody makes and,

You know,

To try to find out if there's something wrong with them.

Like,

We don't have to put that much energy into it.

You know,

Just relax.

Time will tell.

If somebody has a drinking problem,

Trust me,

You'll find out if your eyes are open.

It's,

You know,

But,

Like,

What happens is we've lived unconsciously in the past.

So,

Since we've lived unconsciously in the past,

We expect our future to be similar to our past.

And we're not.

If we're living consciously,

We don't have to worry about 99% of the stuff we have to worry about when we're unconscious,

Because we're conscious now.

And that if we,

Our eyes are open and we're looking and we're paying attention and we're not lying to ourselves because they have pretty blue eyes,

Then we'll see the truth.

You know?

And it's really,

I've done this with clients countless times.

I've done it with myself.

It's just give it a little bit of space and keep your eyes open.

And if something is supposed to continue,

It will continue.

And if it's supposed to stop,

It's going to become abundantly clear that you should no longer do this.

You know,

It's like when I moved into my place.

It's like,

You know,

I use a version of this,

But,

Like,

I'll ask the universe to shut a door on me.

You know?

If,

Hey,

You know,

I researched this new place,

Looks wonderful,

I think I'm going to move there.

So,

If it's not the right thing,

Shut the door on it.

And then I just wait.

And I know that if the door comes,

Starts shutting,

I'm going to see it and go,

Oh,

It must not be the right move for me.

I'll go do something else.

You know,

That's,

That's what we need.

That's kind of a version of giving it space.

You don't necessarily even need to ask to have the door shut on things.

Although,

You know,

That's another technique that I like to use.

But just give it space.

If you're walking,

I did the same thing becoming a life coach.

Because I didn't know which avenue I was going to go.

I didn't know if I was going to open up a gym,

Stabilize my income,

And then use the time,

My spare time at the gym to study and become a life coach and get certified and then go into life coaching.

Or if I was just going to go straight into life coaching.

So I just started both.

I started researching the life coaching certifications.

I started researching buying a gym.

And it looked like I was going to buy the gym because everything was falling into place.

And I was like,

Oh,

Isn't that interesting?

So the universe wants me to stabilize my income and then become a life coach.

Huh.

Okay,

Cool.

And then all of a sudden,

Things stopped flowing with that.

And I hit a wall.

I was like,

Oh,

I guess not.

I guess I'm just going to go straight into the life coaching.

So that's what I did.

And I became a life coach.

And the rest is history.

So we don't have to get our hands in there and our minds into it and overthink everything and manipulate and control and judge and all that stuff.

If we just take a step back and keep walking towards what we want.

And when a door opens,

Walk through it.

That's why it opened.

And then once we get on the other side,

If a door closes,

Don't spend the whole time knocking on it,

Trying to get it open.

Just look for the next open door and walk through that.

It's a lot more relaxed way to live and to go about things.

I was at a funeral this weekend and I was talking to my pastor and he was like,

People talk to you a lot.

People come to you and talk to you for stuff a lot.

And I was like,

Yeah,

I'm not a pastor,

I'm not a therapist,

I'm not a life coach.

I know those people.

But he was like,

You have peace.

You radiate inner peace.

You're not shaken by stuff.

So it attracts people who want that.

And I told you about that.

You seem to agree.

That's awesome.

It's a big deal.

I was like,

Okay,

I get that.

But I think that what it really is,

Is trust.

So I have my whole thing,

Kind of like my whole philosophy on a lot of stuff is people will often say like,

Oh,

This is so bad.

This is awful.

Should I have done this?

Should I have done it?

And I'm like,

Eh.

Non-judgment.

It doesn't have to be.

It's fine.

Everything can be fine.

The moment you say everything can go back to normal,

It'll go back to normal.

Yeah,

That's spiritual maturity.

As we walk this path,

We need to be confident in what we've learned and being and that everything actually is okay.

Like I said,

Instead of being reactionary and trying to fix everything,

There's a spiritual maturity that comes when you start trusting in who you are and that life is happening for you and not to you.

It's just understanding that and walking in it.

Then all of a sudden,

Not every little thing is throwing you and you get caught up in this situation.

It's like,

All right,

We'll work through it.

And you do.

You know,

Like when we take a step back and away from our problems and understand that it's going to be okay.

I literally did not understand what people meant when they said that before I woke up.

When somebody said it's going to be okay,

I was like,

I used to get so angry because I didn't understand what they meant by that.

I was like,

No,

It's not going to be okay.

And it's not okay.

It's literally already not okay.

It's not okay right now.

Do you get it?

It's not okay.

So don't tell me it's going to be.

I don't even know what that means.

It's just not okay.

It's already not okay.

You know,

And that's where I was stuck.

But now I understand through spiritual maturity that it is going to be okay.

Everything's going to be okay.

You know,

Like take a list of all the problems that there are on this planet collectively and individually.

Absolutely everything that man and humankind has been through for the last 5,

000 years.

Some of it has been horrible and we've made it through.

We made it.

We're on the other side of it now.

You know,

So we're,

You know,

Things are going to be okay.

It's going to be all right.

We are going to make it through.

So once we really start believing that and sitting in it and not trying to stick our hands in and fix everything and tweak everything and judge everything as good or bad and try to change it.

And then think we're going to be happy once this gets straightened out.

It's like,

No,

Just sit.

Everything's okay.

There might be some life situations that require our attention and we can put our attention on that.

You know,

And we can walk towards a solution.

But it doesn't mean that,

You know,

That we have to panic and run around trying to fix everything all the time.

My favorite thing is too,

Is an interpersonal conflict where people are like,

I just want it.

I just wish it went back to normal.

And any time that that happens,

When people talk to me about it,

I'm like,

Then do it.

That just,

If you want it to be fine,

They want it to be fine.

Why is it?

Just let it go.

Whatever it was,

Whatever.

If it was an argument,

If it was a,

You know,

Somebody did something like just,

If you,

And not even like,

You can work through,

Like if it's something big that you have to get over.

Obviously,

Like there could be trust issues and all of this stuff,

But if you sincerely want it to be okay,

And it's a small little everyday thing,

It should just be okay.

Within a day or so at least,

Like,

You know,

Just,

Or at least have the trust that it's going to be fine.

Like it will be fine if just give it a tiny bit of time.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And you know,

I think that that's a,

That's a good aspect of relationships,

You know,

And of course romantic relationships are the most common ones.

They're probably the most extreme.

So,

So it's,

You can use that as an example for all other relationships.

You know,

This works in all relationships.

It's,

This is,

I'm going to go right into it because it popped into my head.

I was watching a movie this weekend.

It was about,

I think it was called Only the Brave.

It was about smoke jumpers and stuff.

Well,

Not smoke jumpers,

But the.

.

.

I have never seen a single movie that you've ever said that you've watched.

Really?

Well,

It's a,

It's a new one on DVD and it just,

It's about the,

The people who fight the forest fires and stuff.

Right?

So,

So this,

But this one scene kind of out of the blue really struck me.

And it was this guy had had a very difficult situation and he calls home to this woman he's in a relationship with and he's like,

Oh my God,

This happened.

I'm really freaked out.

It's kind of bad.

And I don't know how it's going to play out.

And she's like,

Okay.

She goes,

Um,

I peed my pants today.

And he's like,

What?

She goes,

I peed my pants today.

And he's like,

What are you talking about?

So she tells him this story about how she peed her pants.

She had to go and something happened and she ended up peeing her pants.

And she's like,

Did anybody see?

She's like,

Yeah,

Everybody saw,

You know?

So then they hang up the phone and he goes,

He goes,

Thank you.

Thank you for telling me that,

You know,

And they hang up the phone.

Then everything was all right.

You know,

Like she just pulled all the fear and the commotion and like,

So out of that situation and just pulled him 30,

000 steps back to see that life really isn't that important.

You know,

I mean all these little day to day things that we freak out about and stuff.

It's okay.

It's going to be okay.

You know,

What an awesome example that is,

You know?

So,

So we have to take that giant step back and,

And I'll know we have to have some trust in ourselves as spiritual beings that we've learned it a lot enough and that we can have faith in ourselves and that our whole world isn't going to be flipped upside down just because of a difficult situation.

And that it's going to work itself out.

You know,

That that's that spiritual maturity that we're talking about is just that,

That trust,

That trust in yourself,

That trust in a higher power,

That trust that everything's going to be okay.

And if we sit in that,

If we just sit in that comfort,

That safe place,

Then and function from there,

You know,

That's what,

That's,

That's where our peace comes from.

That's how we can deal with,

With difficult situations with a level of grace is by just functioning from there and not running around trying to put band-aids on everything and just relax.

Keep our eyes open.

If somebody,

If you think somebody is betraying your trust,

Keep watching them.

It'll become just so apparent that you'll know what to do.

You know,

You'll know that you can't trust them.

Then you move on.

And then,

You know,

So it's,

It's all things like that.

We can apply this to countless things.

If you're concerned about,

Sometimes with my clients,

I can tell something's going on that they're not ready to talk to me about,

Or they're not talking to me about.

I don't push them.

Oh,

What about this?

What about this?

Oh,

Are you lying to me?

I don't worry about any of that stuff,

You know,

And then sometimes things will come back and they'll be like,

Oh,

I wasn't really being honest with you,

You know,

Last month.

Yeah.

Yeah,

I kind of figured that.

Why didn't you say anything?

Well,

Because if it needed to come up,

It was going to come up.

I'm not concerned.

I don't worry about if people lie to me,

Because if they do,

It's going to become glaringly obvious in a very short period of time,

And I'm just going to disconnect,

You know,

In my business or my personal life.

And if it's in my client's life,

Then we'll deal with it,

You know,

It's,

But I'm not running around fearful that somebody is going to take advantage of me.

So just having that trust in yourself and that things are going to be okay.

And if there is something wrong,

You just keep an eye on it.

And it'll become glaringly obvious in a short period of time because your eyes are open.

Trust that your eyes are open.

You know,

So there.

Oh,

Man.

I wish you guys could see it.

He just took a bit every every episode we get to like the 15 to 17 minute mark and he goes on a really long,

I read about something and then he just takes a deep breath and looks at me and goes there.

All right,

Ben,

Please transition into something.

Now what?

Yeah.

Now what do you want me to go off on?

Yeah.

So.

I just it's a great.

It's a great message,

And I know,

As I said before,

That we have the pause before reacting in the archives from one of the first few episodes.

This is different.

Definitely different.

But it's along the same lines,

You know,

But,

You know,

We overlap constantly because everything overlaps.

That's what spirituality does.

There's like seven laws.

And,

You know,

I was I know somebody that's that's contemplating writing a book about spiritual laws and they started,

You know,

And they started researching it and they were looking into it and stuff like that.

And I was talking to him about it.

I'm like that one of the things you're going to have to do is navigate the overlap.

And they're like,

Oh,

My God,

Yes.

They're like,

You know,

They all overlap.

I'm like,

Yeah.

And they found that out when they said research.

You know,

And I'm like,

Yeah,

They do like like tremendously.

Like you could probably take all the spiritual laws and all the theories of spiritual laws and you could just keep simplifying,

Simplifying,

Simplifying,

Simplifying.

You could probably get to one.

You know,

That's how much they overlap eventually.

But we have to look.

We're also intellectual beings.

So we need to look at things in different ways to,

You know,

To to be able to manage them and deal with things in different situations.

If you could simplify it down to one,

What do you think that one would be?

Oh,

Come on,

Man.

That's on the spot.

So which I like on the spot usually.

This is a big though.

It's got to be love.

I was just going to say I do what it was as soon as you say I talk.

I mean,

I know it's love,

But I just I'm like,

Well,

You know,

Like what I guess I guess what you'd have to do is that there is only love or absence of love and then build off of that.

Oh,

OK.

What's absence of love?

That's fear.

OK,

So then now we're up to love and fear.

OK,

And then build off of that and then build off of that and then build off.

I think that love and fear is enough for one.

Is it is enough to say that that's one law?

No,

There's only love.

That's the core.

One thing.

Love.

Because fear isn't a thing,

It's just absence of love.

Like there is no darkness,

There's not a thing called darkness.

When you flip a light on,

Light and darkness does not fight.

It's just no longer dark.

Because light you brought light in.

OK,

Well,

The people who listened through 20 minutes of this episode.

Who trusted that there was going to be more gems at the end.

There are.

It's not about spiritual trust,

But it's that was amazing.

It's just based in love.

Sure,

Yeah.

I think that that's a spiritual and that's also religions would,

You know.

That's what Jesus taught.

Right.

Just love.

It's all.

You take everything that Jesus taught and just talk about love.

Sunday,

Everything.

No.

So I have just single handedly fixed the world.

Maybe not.

I wish that there was something like a great love project.

I should start.

Wait,

I did.

There is the great love project.

Go check it out if you listen to us.

So.

Yeah,

So.

But what the heck were we talking about?

Spiritual trust.

But you hammered it home so hard.

Yeah,

So.

But I have no more questions about it because.

So we looked at it in relationships.

We were walking in the door of when people grow spiritually and giving it space.

You know,

That's that's another way to look at it.

It's giving when you give things time,

The truth will present itself.

You know,

And it's like I used to do it as a personal trainer all time when people had an injury.

Keep an eye on it.

That's the best advice you can ever have,

Because one of two things is going to happen over time.

It's either going to get better or it's going to get worse.

You know,

If you have an injury and it gets worse,

You need to go see a doctor.

If you have an injury and it gets better,

You don't.

Like so that is that's what we're talking about.

Just give things a little bit of space.

You know,

Of course,

Unless it's an extreme injury,

If you have bone sticking through the skin,

Go to a doctor immediately.

There's no reason to wait.

There's obviously a problem.

You know,

But that's what I'm talking about.

Just giving things a little bit of space.

And what is necessary to happen will become very,

Very apparent.

And so that's how the universe works.

That's how that's how time works.

That's that's what will happen.

You know,

The truth will come to the surface.

What we have to do is trust in ourselves that we'll see it.

And that's the spiritual,

Spiritual maturity that I'm talking about is under having enough trust in ourselves.

That we've gotten to a point where we're not going to be fooled like we were when we're unconscious and that our eyes are open and we can give things a little bit of space to show themselves.

You know,

That is oh my God,

I'll tell you,

That's relaxing.

You know,

There's certain things in my spiritual walk that I felt gigantic shifts when I when I've not only grasped the concept,

But implemented it.

And this is one of them.

When I could just go when I could just lean back and just.

Oh,

OK.

Oh,

It'll be it'll be all right.

You know,

If something needs to happen,

I'll see it.

If some somebody is trying to take advantage of me,

I'll recognize it.

You start living like that.

You get so much peace because you're not running around trying to trying to defend yourself from the world and and and manipulate consequences and catch people in the act.

And it's oh my God,

All that frickin tension and intensity and energy going to all that stuff.

You just relax away from it all and just live in that space of trust.

It's beautiful.

This is my second one.

I think I mean,

You know,

We're not quite at 30 minutes,

But I think that that's a great place to end this episode,

Honestly.

Yeah,

Probably is going to have to.

Yeah,

We'll give everybody a treat and end a little early.

Yeah.

Wow.

You nailed this one.

And I'm usually not a fan of the show.

Right.

So if Ben likes it,

It must be good.

So,

Yeah,

That's it.

Really,

You know,

One of the things that I preach a lot is allow yourself to become who you're who you're trying to become.

You know,

So so it's important to learn all this stuff and do and work on yourself spiritually and grasp concepts and all that stuff.

But this is one of those stages where it's about just being who you're trying to become.

Actually sit back and relax into who you've worked so hard to become and live life from that vantage point.

You know,

That's what really brings the peace.

So.

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Yeah.

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Reviews

A very necessary conversation!

Really good one. Like the door analogy... Thanks Glenn 💜 x