Overthinking

Overthinking is an issue all of us tend to deal with, sometimes on a daily basis. In this episode, Glenn breaks down the causes and solutions for how to slow your mind down, focus, and let go when needed! Also in this episode, Glenn and Ben are joined with the newest member of the Glenn Ambrose Life Coaching team, Krystal Tubbs!

Transcript

Welcome to Life,

Lessons,

And Laughter with your host Glenn Ambrose.

Hey everybody,

Welcome to the show.

So today we are talking about something I've been thinking about a lot lately,

Overthinking.

I think something you've been overthinking about a lot.

I've been overthinking about overthinking.

Yes.

Before we overthink this intro,

We should probably let people know that we have a guest producer on the show today,

Crystal.

Crystal Tubbs,

How are you Crystal?

Doing well.

How are you?

Trying not to overthink this.

Awesome.

Awesome.

There we go.

We'll help you with that.

Oh,

Goodness.

Yes.

So,

Glenn,

Tell us a little bit about why you wanted to pick overthinking as a topic and some of the issues that people can get into when they're thinking too much about a particular subject.

Well,

Because everybody does it,

Including me.

So,

You know,

It's,

And it's come up,

I think people have mentioned it to me,

Like you should do a podcast on overthinking.

So,

You know,

You know our pre-production meetings,

That's about how extensive they are.

Yes.

So,

So we're doing it.

So,

So I mean,

Overthinking really is,

It's,

We're stuck in our brain,

You know,

We're stuck in our brain all the time.

So,

Of course,

We're going to be overthinking things and looking.

I think one of the biggest reasons we do that is because we,

We,

We're always looking for the answer.

You know,

Like our brain,

As soon as our brain has a problem,

It wants the answer.

So,

It starts heading in that direction and,

And it's so focused on it that oftentimes we don't pause for the middle period,

Which is gathering the actual information necessary to come to the conclusion.

You know,

So,

So we don't really have the information.

If we have enough information to come to the conclusion that we need to come to,

Usually it's very clear.

So,

I think what we're supposed to be doing,

I think,

Without overthinking it,

I think what we're supposed to be doing is just gathering information.

And then as you gather it,

It just stacks and stacks and stacks and one side becomes glaringly obvious a lot of times,

Not every time,

Of course,

But in most situations,

One time becomes glaringly obvious that that's the right choice.

And we just don't take the time to do that.

We're always and if we do get any more information,

We're just like,

Oh,

Is this it?

Yeah.

Okay.

So,

You know,

I have one more piece.

Let's compare everything and see if I can come to the conclusion because I have to come to the conclusion because once I come to the conclusion,

Then I'll be peaceful because I'll have come to the conclusion.

I'll be happy.

You know,

It's all it's that unconscious putting happiness outside of ourselves.

Once I figure this out,

Then I'll be happy.

Then I can rest,

You know,

And of course,

It's just something else to think about after that.

But I yeah,

I think that's one of the main things that our brain does is it's really trying for that conclusion.

And so it just chases it 90 miles an hour.

And if we're living unconsciously and we're not slowing down enough to do that middle piece of gathering the information,

Then it's just spinning.

So what do you guys think about that?

What do you think about that?

Crystal?

Let me put you on the spot.

Crystal.

Oh,

That's fine.

I guess the question that popped up for me is how can we make sure we're slowing down enough to kind of receive the right information to come to the best conclusion.

Well,

And it's just basically what you said.

It's slowing down enough.

You know,

It's living consciously.

This is why,

You know,

It's there's so much overlap in spiritual talk.

And I always say that.

And I always say that it comes down to living consciously.

Almost everything that I teach and everybody else teaches.

This is why mindfulness is so popular and consciousness so popular because it's the it's the basis for everything else.

If we slow down and live on purpose and pay attention to what we're actually doing and going,

You know,

Have thought process learning tools like this where we go.

Okay,

My brain,

The way it works is it's just going to be trying to jump to the conclusion as fast as possible.

So what I need to do is gather information first.

So,

You know,

Usually it's helpful to take the conclusion off the table to remind yourself.

I'm not looking for the conclusion.

I don't I'm not trying to figure out the answer.

I'm not going no matter even if I see the answer.

I'm not even going to acknowledge it for the next week while I gather information.

And at the end of the week,

I will look at the information and see if I have enough information to come to a conclusion.

Otherwise,

It's just like,

You know,

Oh,

I'll gather information.

Oh,

Did I get enough yet?

Oh,

And it jumps right back to the solution finding.

So it's slowing down and and living consciously actually taking the time to do that middle step of gathering information.

As someone who's been riddled with anxiety in the past,

Like how do you slow down when you're kind of in that state?

I guess is the other thing that I wonder because when you're in when you're in anxiety,

You're just like,

Oh my god,

Everything's going to go and burn and my life is over.

And what am I going to do?

Right.

And that's that's perfect because it's exactly what we're talking about.

Because anxiety is fear of the future.

So so we're we're trying to be out there.

We're trying to be in the future.

We're trying to be at the place where we already have the conclusion.

And that's what brings on the anxiety is because unconsciously with no,

I have to have this figured out.

I have to I have to have it figured out.

And like,

As long as you're worried about not having being in the spot in the future of having it figured out,

Then you're not in the present moment actually doing what you need to to figure it out.

You know,

So it's coming back into the present moment and doing what you can where you are,

Which is gathering information.

And it's also,

You know,

A good kind of rephrasing of why taking the finding a conclusion,

Why you need to take that off the table,

Because otherwise you just,

You know,

Your anxiety is going to have,

You know,

Your peripheral vision is going to be right on that conclusion.

Am I there yet?

Am I there yet?

Did I figure it out yet?

Like,

You know,

And that's what feeds that anxiety.

It's all about the future wanting to be somewhere where you're not.

So coming back into the present moment,

Slowing down and doing what you're supposed to be doing at that time,

Consciously,

Which is gathering information.

What about having a plan?

Because obviously you want to have a plan.

Like,

You know,

If there's if there's something that would cause a great deal of overthinking.

I mean,

It's probably something that you want to,

You know,

Plan ahead for if you know if it's if it's a situation where you're trying to get organized and you're trying to put ducks in a row.

And that obviously can be something that leads to overthinking and anxiety and stuff.

But you but what is the line of you want to actually have a plan versus,

You know,

You don't want to dwell in the future?

In planning?

Yeah.

Well,

It's I think the easiest way to look at it is is timeframes,

You know,

Give yours it's living consciously,

You know,

Doing things on purpose.

Like a lot of times we'll just be like,

Okay,

Well,

I have to put a plan together.

Well,

That's vague.

Be more specific.

Like,

You know,

Okay,

I want to put a loose plan together by the end of the week.

Okay,

Well,

Then then take the I have to put a plan together off the table until the end of the week hits.

You know,

If if you want to put a plan together and you go,

You know,

It's,

It's about you can look at the big picture for a moment.

Without causing anxiety,

It's where we live in the big picture that causes anxiety.

So if you take a step back and you okay,

Like,

If I if it's Monday,

And I gather information or put a plan together,

And I have that done by Friday,

And then I come to a conclusion on Saturday,

Is that going to work for this situation?

Yes.

Okay,

Then stay in the moment and put that plan together or stay in the moment and gather that information for those days and then on Saturday,

You take the next step.

And you can do the same thing with any plan that you put together.

You know,

And just,

It's it's living consciously and understanding why you're doing what you're doing.

You know,

It's I'm doing I'm putting information together to get here.

And when I get here,

I'll be able to do this.

And then I can see how everything's going to work out.

Does that make sense?

I mean,

I know it makes sense.

But there was like,

I could feel like there was a little slant to what you were asking that was slightly different than that.

So like,

We may need to expand on this.

That makes sense.

Um,

I think,

Like,

I guess I'm kind of thing,

You know,

This is sort of being a prisoner of the moment situation for me,

Of the stuff going on in my own life.

And we talked a little bit about this last week,

You and I off air,

About like stoicism,

And like,

Thinking about,

Like,

The worst possible scenario,

And having a plan for it and knowing that it wouldn't be that bad.

And then from that being able to take,

You know,

Lesser things.

So when it's something that you know,

It's not,

It's not necessarily something that you can have a plan for,

Because it's something that needs to be done by Saturday,

And it's Monday,

And you need to figure it out in that timeframe.

But it's like the big life stuff,

You know,

Which is which is like riddled with overthink.

I mean,

It's,

That's the thing that people,

You know,

Think they go to first when they think about overthinking is the right is the big life stuff.

And so and you know,

We crystal touched on it and now you're touching on it,

You can see how the overthinking is fed by fear and by anxiety of the future.

So it's,

You know,

That's where the the worst case scenario comes in.

It's like the first,

The best thing we can do is get rid of the fear.

Just get the fear off the table,

And I,

You know,

I'm fairly extreme,

I've noticed over there,

Because like I always did this with myself and then talking to other people that like,

I don't have to really go that far.

And I was like,

Oh,

All right,

Well,

I do,

Because I'm really extreme.

Plus,

It's a good teaching point.

Like I go all the way to the end,

I go worst case scenario.

It's like,

Okay,

What if,

You know,

What if my whole,

You know,

I'll use my scenario,

You know,

What if my whole business falls apart,

And I can't pay my bills and I end up homeless on a street and no place to stay and no place to go.

Okay.

So,

You know,

They have like I'll.

Fortunately,

I'm in Florida that helps it's warm,

You know,

So I could probably get a 10th of 30 bucks right before I know that I'm broke at Walmart.

That's nice.

You know,

I can stay at the Salvation Army.

Like,

Whatever,

I'll live for a little while.

Until I figure it out.

You know,

I'm sure I can get a job doing something,

Even if it's minimum wage doing something getting some sort of income coming in maybe rent a room from somebody to get out of Salvation Army like and like,

You know,

I have a brain.

I have a body.

I'm fairly capable.

I'm sure I'll do it.

And it doesn't hurt that you know my path I have my past to lean on to,

You know,

I've been unemployed and homeless so And I'm thinking a lot clearer now than I was then and I made it then,

You know,

I mean if a whacked out alcoholic homeless,

You know,

Can figure it out somehow.

Most of my listeners,

I'm sure can figure it out somehow,

You know,

We're going to make it.

But the point,

The point is,

Is,

Do I want all those things to happen.

No,

Do I mentally and emotionally prepare myself for those things to happen.

No,

I don't spend that much time on it.

I just look at it conceptually and go,

If crap really hit the fan and I lost everything.

What would I do?

Well,

I don't,

You know,

I don't know.

I make it somehow.

I look up and I start moving in a direction and eventually I'd land somewhere like and that's that's the biggest piece is to understand that we all go through difficult times and we all go through situations where we don't know what the future is going to look like.

But worst case scenario,

We're going to be standing there breathing and have an opportunity to move to make other choices and to move forward and get out of the situation.

You know,

The one constant in life is that it changes.

So if you're at the bottom,

As long as you're moving trying something,

You're going to get off the bottom.

There's no place to go but up.

And you can't stay down as long as you're moving.

So,

So it's,

You know,

That's really the worst case scenario.

And once you can just be like,

Okay,

Well,

Because your mind loves to live,

You know,

Fear lives in that space where you don't think things all the way through.

Oh my God,

What if this happens?

Oh my God.

Oh,

That's horrible.

That would be horrible.

Oh my God.

Oh,

That'd be horrible.

Oh,

That'd be horrible.

As long as you stay there.

You're screwed.

Because that's where the fear lives.

It's like,

Oh,

Yeah,

Okay,

It'd be horrible.

We got that part.

But but then what what would you actually do?

Would you get up in the morning like you always get up in the morning?

Would you attempt to do something with your life?

Would you have breakfast?

Like,

I mean,

You know,

Your life would go on.

Of course,

You don't want the horrible thing to happen.

If it did,

You would move on,

You would keep moving on.

And that's the piece that is like if we never get there,

Fear can just fester.

You know,

So if we get there,

We go,

Okay,

Well,

I obviously don't want this stuff to happen.

It'd be horrible if it did.

But if it did,

I would deal with it.

And I would move forward.

And you can feel like the all the tension just fall off.

And all the fear just subside a little bit and then you can start dealing with the situation where you are doing the best without all that fear of the future of the what ifs.

I'm curious.

Like if you've ever had someone where you've taken them maybe to that far and extreme,

But then they're like,

That gives me more like that scares me more than the actual situation and how you kind of help them get out of that.

Yeah,

It's,

It's basically to I go deeper.

That's how I,

You know,

I just go,

Okay,

This scares you.

Let's really stand in it.

What scares you about it?

Well,

I,

I,

I,

And see what what you always come across if you keep going,

If you're sitting in fear and you go deeper,

What you're going to find eventually is the other side of it.

Because,

Like,

Because fear is an illusion.

It's not actually real.

Like,

Literally,

Anything could happen in this entire world.

I mean,

The most horrific thing humanly possible could happen to you,

And you would be sitting there.

After it.

And at some point you would go.

Okay.

I guess I have to eat breakfast.

I like it,

You know,

Like,

At some point,

Life moves on.

Not forgetting about it,

Not just dismissing it pretending that it didn't happen.

You're changed,

You know,

I think it's,

It's like,

It reminds me like to me one of the most horrific things that can happen that I hear is,

Is losing a child.

Like,

I couldn't imagine that.

So,

You know,

So for for an extreme,

I think this is a good example.

Because,

You know,

People always say,

Oh,

I'll never be the same.

No,

You won't be the same ever.

Absolutely not.

And you want,

You know,

Loss of a child or other loved ones.

And but people say I'll never get over it.

And that's a trap to keep them stuck.

It's not about getting over it.

Of course,

You're never going to get over it.

I mean,

The life certain life situations change you forever.

But the mentality of not getting over it usually implies I'm going to be miserable and broken for the rest of my life.

And that's the trap that sets.

You know,

There are people who have lost children have found happiness.

They're out there.

It's happened.

It's possible.

And everybody else,

You know,

It's possible for other people,

Too.

I'm not saying it's easy.

I'm not saying it would.

You know,

I'm not saying that you would ever transcend it.

It's not about transcending major life changes.

Like I haven't transcended the 20 years I was out there as a.

Frickin dysfunctional jackass.

You know,

It's I haven't transcended it.

I've I'm like,

That's my some of my best name ignition for what I do now.

It's you know,

It helps me be who I am now.

It's part of me.

It will always be a part of me,

Even though I don't live that particular lifestyle.

I don't forget it.

I don't.

Of course,

I'm still impacted by it.

But now I can use it for good instead of using it for bad.

And,

You know,

That's the type of thing that we can do.

It's it's so it's about so in these extreme situations,

You know,

If we if we sit there and go,

Oh,

My God,

I'm going to be mentally distraught.

Yeah,

I mean,

In extreme situations,

You will.

And sometimes it's for months,

Sometimes it's for years.

But somehow we get up and we occasionally shower.

We occasionally eat.

We might continue working because it helps us.

Maybe we don't.

Everybody's,

You know,

Path is different and how they what they need to do to deal with these major situations.

But the point is the point is,

Is that we keep moving.

We keep moving forward one way or another.

We keep moving.

Even if we're sad,

If we're sad for five years.

Well,

We're sad for five years and we're moving forward in a sad manner for five years.

Does that suck?

Yes,

It sucks.

But it doesn't mean that it's not happening.

You know,

And if we stay focused on the fact that,

Oh,

It's you know,

I might be sad for five years or 10 years and we go,

Oh,

My God,

That would suck.

That would suck.

It'd be horrible to be sad for that period of time.

Oh,

My God.

Oh,

My God.

As long as we stay there,

That's the space where fear lives.

And it won't be five or 10 years.

It'll probably be for the rest of our lives because we'll stay there.

But if we go,

Yes,

OK,

I might be sad for an extended period of time,

But I'm going to get up and do the best I can that day somehow.

Maybe my best will suck that day because I'm in crappy space,

But I'm going to get up and do my best.

I don't know what my life is going to look like,

But it's going to look like my life.

I'm going to be doing something.

And that's the point.

You know,

I don't I don't know if I'm expressing it right.

But it's it's just the point is,

Is we're going to be moving on.

We're going to be living our lives in some way.

You are expressing it correctly,

I think.

You know,

I don't I'm trying like hell.

I know I've been talking a while.

So,

I mean,

I,

You know,

I agree completely and I understand everything that you're just saying.

Basically,

You know,

I think that my I've been giving my best the last week or so.

And it's been pretty crappy.

My best has not been great those those days.

You know,

But but,

You know,

Doing it.

And but regardless,

The transition that I'd like to make into this question is sometimes I think people can use and I'm taking this from personal experience again,

Overthinking as a crutch to not do the simple thinking.

So and this is what I mean by this.

And I talked to Crystal about this the other night.

I I'm sorry that I'm being vague,

By the way,

Listeners.

It's been a Glenn.

Hopefully you can attest.

This has been a terrible,

Terrible,

Kind of difficult time for you.

It's been a very difficult time.

And I and you're still breathing.

Yes.

You're still moving forward and you're still doing what you need to do.

Absolutely.

And and I realized Friday night or Saturday night.

I don't remember when it was.

It doesn't matter.

But I remembered a couple of days ago that I like I realized that I hadn't slowed down to like to pray to like just sit in it for a minute.

And I had been doing so much overthinking that I that I didn't,

You know,

Slow down to do the simple thinking.

And I was using the overthinking and the overwhelm.

I was using the overwhelm as an excuse to not slow down enough to do the simple things.

And so can you talk a little bit to that about how sometimes overthinking is a crutch?

Because we don't want to,

You know,

Overthinking is based in fear.

But sometimes I feel like it's easier to overthink than it is to sit in the moment of that simple fear.

Yeah,

Because it's it's got a pull.

You know,

We're masters of distraction.

So as long as we can keep moving,

Keep our mind moving,

Thinking,

Doing,

You know,

Then we don't have to slow down and actually deal with what's happening.

And because it,

You know,

It usually is painful when there's something serious going on.

It's,

You know,

That if we just,

You know,

It can be painful from an emotional sense.

It can be painful from a fear sense,

But just stopping and sitting with it and just,

You know,

That that's kind of what this exercise I was talking about.

Worst case scenario is just stop.

Stop with the constant movement and spinning and thinking.

And that's got such a pull.

And when you're talking to people who are caught up,

You know,

And I mean,

I still get caught up in this stuff every once in a while.

And I can feel the pull.

You know,

Fortunately,

It happens a lot less,

But I can feel the pull.

And,

You know,

When I go,

Hey,

Glenn,

You should really stop.

The first thing my brain goes is I can't because I have all this stuff.

You know,

And it's I mean,

That's it's so easy for your brain to keep you going.

That's just the pull of it all.

And we have to force ourselves to stop anyway.

It's,

You know,

And I think what helped me the most was really understanding that.

I am not at my best when I'm moving as fast as I can move.

When I'm multitasking and going 90 miles an hour and just going accomplish,

Accomplish,

Accomplish,

Accomplish.

I am not at my best.

I'm actually at my worst because I'm just caught up.

I'm just going 90 miles an hour.

I'm missing things.

I don't do things well.

It's,

You know,

When I slow down and really just get back into the present moment,

That's when I function more effectively.

When I really understood that,

Then that that lie that said,

No,

Glenn,

You have to keep going.

Keep going.

Keep thinking about that.

Do,

Do,

Do.

And I'll ask stuff.

When that came up,

I was like,

No,

That's a lie.

That's I'm not I don't have to keep moving.

I have to stop.

And so once I could break that pole.

Then I could,

You know,

Sit and like you said,

Just process and deal with actually what's going on.

And if there's some fear,

I can work through it.

If there's some emotion I need to feel,

I can allow myself to feel it and then go.

And then I can get back to doing what I need to do in an effective manner.

But it's like that that emotion we're so trained to not feel emotion that we just distract ourselves constantly from it.

And it's,

You know,

The overthinking and the doing and no,

You don't understand,

You know,

That whenever you hear yourself say,

No,

You don't understand to somebody.

That's that's usually that's usually when you're caught up in overthinking and overdoing and all that stuff.

So,

Yeah,

It's about hitting the brakes,

Breaking that unconscious pull of everything you need you think you need to do.

And just and,

You know,

I mean,

It can take literally five minutes.

Just sitting there and and just processing the fear or some of the emotion that is making you distract yourself.

In an unconscious way,

And then I'll send you are you,

You know,

Like if you if you feel sadness and overwhelm and you take five minutes and you just allow yourself to feel that and you process it and and,

You know,

Emotion needs to be felt.

So once it's felt,

It transmutes into a different form.

So once you feel that it's not inside of you pushing you to keep going,

Going,

Going.

You process that emotion,

Then you go,

OK.

I process that emotion.

Now,

What do I need to do action wise right now?

I need to do this like you'll go back to your actions in such a calmer,

Clearer way because you don't have that unconscious emotion that you're trying to stuff.

No,

I don't want to feel you.

I don't want to feel you.

You got to keep going.

Got to keep going.

I got stuff to do.

I don't have time to feel you right now.

If you take five minutes and you actually allow yourself to feel it and allow it to go,

Then you can stop functioning a lot more consistently and a lot a lot better at higher levels.

I love it.

I love it.

So that's that's about it for the show.

Crystal,

Do you have any,

You know,

Last questions or anything that you'd like to answer on this topic?

I mean,

It's something that as Gwen was talking kept coming up for me was the word acceptance.

And I'm wondering how kind of accepting the situation you're in kind of plays into slowing down and stopping that overthinking.

Yeah,

Yeah.

And that's that's a great word to kind of kind of sum up what I was saying.

It's just stop living in the future and in the past and just get into the present moment and just accept the reality of what's happening.

You know,

Most of our suffering comes from resistance to what is all of our suffering is resistance to what is so we're resist the problem.

You know,

It's it's tricky with the words because,

You know,

I don't want people to think that I am not understanding from a compassionate level.

I am.

I get it.

I know that this stuff isn't easy.

I know that you're going to experience emotion and pain.

And I know that fear is difficult.

I mean,

I get all that,

But it doesn't change the answer.

I have to keep harping on the answer.

And it just it doesn't mean that I don't understand the compassionate angle of it.

I do.

It's just if you know that that most people live and talk about compassion the whole time and they never talk about the solution.

And I tend to talk about the solution too much.

And maybe I don't put enough attention on a compassion.

OK,

Everybody.

So for the record,

I get it.

I do have a compassionate side.

I know it's not easy,

But it doesn't change the solution.

So,

You know,

This is going to be difficult and all that stuff.

But you have to sit and practice that acceptance.

You know,

It's the resistance of the situation that's causing your suffering.

So when you accept the reality of what it is and it's like,

OK,

This is happening and process that,

Allow yourself to feel some of that.

And if it's something gigantic,

You're not going to be able to feel all of it at once.

You're just going to be able to feel a little patch of it.

That's all you can handle.

But that's all you need to do is just release a little patch of emotion at a time,

Just enough to center yourself,

Accept the reality of the situation you're in,

And then be able to take the action where you are in a place of acceptance.

And it's you know,

It's the three ways of doing things.

You either do them with enthusiasm,

The things you like to do,

You're doing with acceptance.

Those are things you might not like to do,

But you have to.

Or,

You know,

Think actions that you need to take while you're going through a rough time.

You accept the reality that you're in a rough time at the moment,

And then you take those actions anyway.

Or the third option is you just don't do it.

Anything else causes suffering.

So,

Yeah,

I think acceptance is a good word to sum it up.

We've got to get to that place,

Just accept the reality that it is happening and stop resisting the fact that it's happening.

Then you can start taking the steps necessary.

You know,

And I wish that,

Like,

I wish that there was a guide to this because,

Like,

You know,

Being a spiritual being,

Having a human experience,

I wish somebody would describe it to me in a really down to earth way.

And I just,

So yeah,

So as a horrible segue,

If you've never heard this show before,

By the way,

I do not do those segues like that or hard sells.

But I'm excited.

But I'm excited.

Hey,

Listen,

I'm a shill.

I am excited that I actually have the hard physical copy.

This was insane to look at.

Like when I opened the book,

I was like,

Oh,

My God,

It's really Glenn's book.

It's a real book.

It has Glenn's name on it.

Yeah.

So everybody that's listening to this and not watching it on video,

Ben just held up real slow,

Like,

And dramatic and a traumatic fashion.

Also,

Check out the videos on YouTube.

Yeah.

Yeah.

So down to earth,

The spiritual beings guide to a happy human experience.

It's insane.

Looking at this book,

Like I opened it in the same chair that I was sitting in when we spent like what felt like 16 hours on video chat,

Going through in painstaking detail every chapter of this thing.

And I'm like,

That was only like a couple months ago that we were doing that.

And like it's here.

It's physical.

It's in my hand.

It's signed.

Thank you very much.

It's,

You know,

It's awesome.

So,

You know,

You can check out the book.

You can order it now.

The paperback or digital,

Amazon,

Barnes and Noble.

There's a ton of places.

Just search for it.

Glenn,

I'm so excited for you for that.

Thank you.

It's fun stuff.

And Crystal,

You also did some help with the book with endorsements and stuff.

So that's awesome.

Crystal is the newest member to team Glenn Ambrose.

Yeah,

She was very helpful.

There was so much stuff to do that I didn't realize.

And it was just I was never going to get it all done in 2019 for sure.

So you slowed down and stopped overthinking it.

Yes.

Yes.

Also,

To be fair,

Crystal is the thing that makes it a team.

Otherwise,

It was just like me and you.

You can have a team.

Two is a two.

One isn't a team.

Yeah.

So it was just I mean,

But you're the all right.

So I guess there was a and she's the all I know is that all I know is that my emails never said,

Hey,

Team from you before.

They just said,

Ben,

Do this right?

Because that's the dynamic is there it is.

Yeah.

Because like now there's two of you.

Yeah.

So so I guess it does make it a team.

Absolutely.

So Crystal,

If you don't count me right.

Exactly.

And I've never counted you for anything.

Crystal,

Where can you find you?

Crystal,

Where can people find you?

And then and then we'll and then we'll do the Glenn segue.

Yeah.

If people want to find out a little bit more about me,

They can check out my blog at CrystalTubs.

Com.

Awesome.

Glenn.

Yes.

Can I help you?

Can you tell people can you tell people where they can find life coaching and blogs and blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah?

I guess I can.

Yeah,

It's real complicated.

Get a pen and paper.

It's GlennAmbrose.

Com.

Glenn with two ends.

You might be able to find that the spelling of that name on the podcast you're listening to.

I don't think so.

So yeah,

Everything's there.

You know,

My blogs and and videos and the book,

Of course,

That the book is the big thing right now.

I'm really excited about.

And we've got a lot of five questions with Glenn.

So sign up for my email list and you get free video versions of five questions with Glenn.

And we've got,

You know,

The reason that there's a team or at least one of the big reasons we have a team now is because of all the big stuff coming up this year.

Twenty twenty is going to be off the chain.

So like this,

You know,

Getting on the email list to be in touch with what's all the things that we're working on already.

It's it's not even halfway through January and we have multiple gigantic projects in the works.

So,

Yeah,

This is going to be phenomenal.

So get on that list so you can find out and keep track of what's going on.

So that's going to do it.

Thank you,

Ben.

Thank you,

Crystal.

Thank you,

Everybody,

For listening.

And get on that email list.

We will talk with you soon.

Glenn is available for life coaching sessions to book an appointment or for more information,

Go to Glenn Ambrose dot com.

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Reviews

I found this talk really supportive down to earth, practical suggestions to help with overthinking and plenty of moments of humour to help it all along. Thanks so much Glenn and team.

I love that you did this talk 2+ years ago and I’m just hearing it now…and it’s super helpful. I would add acceptance is key but that is not only how you feel about a situation but accepting how you feel about a situation (or person). I.e. I accept that this person frustrates me

Thanks for your reply- I like your suggestion and will put it into use 🙏

Love this podcast like all your podcasts! Like how you get to the crux of the matter and offer solutions which while not necessarily the easiest thing to do is still a solution to start moving forward to stop getting stuck for ages with all the crappy overthinking in my head!

I use to find myself deep into the thinking, a lot more, before I would even become conscious with it.
I was attaching to those thoughts until I recognized how it was affecting me. It occupied my energy, my everything.
I've been on a growth journey to notice when "the pull", arrives, like you said..... I want to notice it and to catch it. It is so tiring.
it's funny but I automatically smile from within.....a knowing kinda heart smile and it truly begins the shift when I can notice that i'm thinking...( overthinking).
When I'm present with mindfulness, my mind gets to rest and I rally notice the difference.
bonnie

Great chat. Thanks guys. Welcome to Crystal 💙x

Great as usual! Thank you!