Helping Others Wake Up

When we find ourselves in the midst of a spiritual awakening, we get the desire to bring our friends and loved ones with us. In this episode, Glenn helps us to navigate the path of helping others to wake up.

Transcript

Welcome to Life,

Lessons and Laughter with your host Glenn Ambrose.

Hey everybody,

Welcome to the show.

Today we are going to talk about helping people wake up spiritually.

How do we do that?

Do we have any ideas on how we help other people wake up?

Crystal,

Who is joining us again,

Do you have any ideas on what Glenn's gonna say?

No,

But probably not coffee as I joked before the show.

Okay,

So coffee is not going to do the trick.

Glenn,

What do you mean helping people wake up?

Ironically enough,

Coffee may be your best shot.

I knew it,

I knew it.

I thought when we started this episode,

I was like,

Glenn's gonna say that the answer to helping people wake up is you can't help people wake up.

Yeah,

Kinda.

I mean,

Yeah,

Let's just go down that avenue first because it's the most important I think.

Sure.

So,

Yeah,

I mean,

We'll touch on some,

You know,

Possible ways to help a little bit here and there,

But the fact is,

Is you can't,

You know,

And you,

It's,

You can't help people wake up because it's,

It's such a personal journey and it's,

You know,

I use addiction as an example a lot of times and it's a good example for this too because,

I mean,

Because it's,

It's the way many people have either seen or heard about the reality of this is through addiction and,

You know,

It's when somebody is just killing themselves through addiction,

Everybody on the outside is looking at it going,

Oh my God,

Why would they do that?

How can they keep making these choices that are hurting themselves,

Obviously,

And,

You know,

Oh,

They,

They,

They lost the love of their life,

Surely this will wake them up.

Oh,

You know,

They've lost their children,

Surely this will wake them up.

And,

You know,

They lost their business and they're homeless and all this stuff and they've killed somebody in a car accident.

And they,

You know,

All this horrible stuff people are going through and everybody on the outside is going,

This will surely wake them up.

And,

You know,

Of course,

You know,

In,

In wonderful situations it does,

But in,

In many other situations it doesn't.

And,

That is just the reality of the situation.

You can't do the work for anybody else.

It's just,

It's impossible.

You never know when somebody is going to open and you also never know when somebody is going to close back down.

You know,

When I,

When I was sponsoring people in addiction,

It was,

You know,

After a while,

After you kind of get solid with your own recovery and,

Or at least I shouldn't speak generally,

This was my experience.

Like I kind of anchored down and was,

Was comfortable with,

With my recovery process and how it worked.

And even what it looked like in other people that I knew and stuff like that.

And you almost start thinking you got to feel for it.

Like,

You know,

Okay,

I get it.

And,

You know,

And,

And I see how this works and all that stuff.

So you start thinking that you can tell what's going to happen with other people.

And again,

Addiction is really a good way to learn this is you learn real quick that you have no idea.

You,

The people who are getting everything that you're saying and it's clicking with you,

With them and you're like,

Oh yeah,

Yeah,

Look at them.

They get,

And then all of a sudden they hit a wall of fear and just shut down and they just can't do the actual big pop open.

That really changes their life.

They just can't do it.

And that,

And they end up using again and back out there and sometimes dead because of that.

And then you have other people who are struggling,

Just kicking and fighting and,

And just challenging you on every little piece.

And they're really a pain in the butt and it's really hard.

And,

And then all of a sudden you're sitting there going,

I'm like,

This person is never going to get it because they're just fighting everything.

They're resisting everything.

And then all of a sudden,

Boom,

They pop.

And it's just,

And they're open and you're like,

Oh my God,

I never thought they were going to get it.

You know,

So it's you and,

And those are the two extremes and there's tons of gray in between there.

So,

You know,

I learned that back then and as you're working with other people,

Of course me as a life coach,

But this also includes most of my listeners too,

Perhaps all of my listeners,

Because I mean everybody is,

Everybody that's listening,

That's working on themselves,

There's a reason you're listening and working on yourself.

There's a reason you're drawn to this type of teaching.

There's a reason,

You know,

You have a big heart,

You're working towards opening.

That's why you're listening.

And all those people,

We have kind,

Compassionate hearts as everybody does underneath,

But,

But the people who are working on themselves,

Their kind,

Compassionate heart is near the surface.

So they're very caring people.

We care about the people around us and when you care about the people around you,

You want them to stop suffering,

Of course.

So we want to help other people.

And that is,

I'll tell you,

It's one of the biggest things we have to learn is that we cannot save anybody.

We can't.

We can be the beacon.

We can be the light.

We can be the candle in the window,

But we cannot do the work for them because it's the,

We just never know who's going to wake up and who's going to shut down.

We have a choice with our spiritual awakening,

Just like we have a choice with every thing that happens in our lives.

And the choice is we either open or we close.

Every situation,

We either use it to allow us to open more and become more of ourselves or we use it to force us to close and tighten and become less of ourselves.

And we,

You never know what somebody is going to do.

So all we can do is really burn brighter.

You know,

That's like I envision it like a bonfire.

The brighter I burn,

The further my light and my warmth emanates.

So it can reach and touch more and more people to give them what they may need if they so choose to pick it up and open to it.

But it's still their choice.

And there's going to be people that are standing right next to me,

Like,

You know,

Like I envision that everybody is like a match and they all have the sulfur head on top and they're all capable of igniting and lighting off of the heat or the light when they get close enough to it.

And there can be somebody standing right next to me.

And if they choose to build a wall around that match head,

So no matter how close they get,

The light and the warmth won't ignite them,

Then they can be completely in my life on a daily basis and around it and they still won't open.

It still won't ignite.

They still won't light up,

You know.

So it's we have freedom of choice.

It's the foundation of our creation is freedom of choice.

We have to choose what we want and nothing,

Including spiritual law,

Can override that freedom of choice.

That reminds me of something that I said,

Well,

I've said it a lot.

I don't know if I've ever said it on the show.

But we put a lot of stock in moments as people.

Like,

When you started the episode,

You were talking about,

Like,

You know,

No car accident.

Like,

You know,

They hurt somebody in a drunk driving accident or they,

You know,

There is no rock bottom that's going to make someone change.

And there's no rock bottom that's going to make you change.

Like,

Having a kid is not going to make you stop being an addict or wake up.

Just be like,

I know that people talk about that,

Like,

Moment of like,

You see your child and like,

You love your child.

And that's absolutely true.

Or like,

You hit rock bottom like a car accident or something like that or an arrest or whatever it is.

And I know that it sounds like we're talking specifically about addiction,

But I mean,

Whatever it is,

You know,

A divorce,

Somebody leaves you,

Something like that.

Like,

You think that there's going to be this rock bottom and then that moment is going to inspire change.

But it's about choices.

Right.

Like,

You can have that rock bottom.

And if you don't choose to wake up,

Like,

If you personally,

And that means other people too,

All works is self work.

And that means it's self work for other people.

That's not just advice for you.

So it's their choice,

Just like it's your choice.

And no moment and no amount of you hoping that a moment or an issue or something is going to change someone else.

Nothing is going to matter unless you,

If it's yourself,

Or them being themselves,

Make a choice to open up.

Right.

And it gets confusing because it's spiritual.

So it's hard to put words to it.

And it's very,

There's only a small space in which this occurs.

And because,

Like,

Sometimes people do wake up from after a moment.

So they think that the moment did it.

You know,

Like,

Oh,

They had this huge horrible thing happen and then all of a sudden they get sober or all of a sudden then they found self love or,

You know,

And like,

If you just look at it real quick,

You go,

Oh,

The moment inspired that change.

No,

It didn't inspire that change.

It's like the moment,

There was a little gap after that moment occurred and something happened in there.

And it was,

It's an emotion.

There are no physical moments that are bottoms.

Every bottom is an emotional bottom.

So you can,

You know,

For an example,

Like you can lose your family,

You know,

Your spouse,

Your children,

And then like your shoelace breaks.

And then all of a sudden you're like,

I can't do this anymore.

I can't do this.

And that's what changes.

It's not the shoelace.

You know,

And it's not the straw that broke the camel's back.

I mean,

It's it,

Even that it pushes us towards it.

It pushes us towards it.

But every bottom is an emotional bottom.

You know,

Like,

I think maybe my situation might be a good example of it.

So like,

You know,

My son was 1400 miles away.

That was killing me,

But it couldn't get me sober.

So me not being with my son couldn't get me sober.

But the thing that really was a big catalyst for me to get sober was me picturing him living his life without a father figure because of the choices I was making.

So I,

So that was an intellectual understanding,

Which induced an emotional bottom.

I couldn't make sense of that.

I could make sense of how I lost my kid.

I could make sense of why he was 1400 miles away.

I could rationalize that.

I could say there were reasons for it and all that stuff.

But I couldn't understand.

I couldn't make it okay that he was going to live the rest of his life without a father because I mean,

I,

I knew I wasn't going to live much longer.

So,

So he was going to be without a father completely.

So I was like,

I couldn't understand.

I couldn't rationalize that.

I couldn't make sense of it.

So then I hit an emotional bottom,

Which changed.

So it wasn't the physical act of him not being there that woke me up.

It was the most,

It was an emotional place that I couldn't make sense of that got me there.

And if we look deep enough in,

In people's lives,

That's what induces the awakening.

When it's an emotional bottom,

It's when you know,

You just can't take it anymore.

And,

And as far as physical incidents,

What happens is when we're going down the scale and our life is getting worse and worse,

It's basically a lack of self love in one way,

Shape or form,

Whether it's addiction or anything else.

So as our life is getting steadily worse,

What we do is we just lower our standards to meet our circumstances.

You know,

That's the best definition of bottom I ever heard of in recovery.

It's like,

Well,

You know,

I'll always have a job.

You lose your job.

And it's like,

Oh,

Well,

My boss was a jerk.

Well,

I'll always have a place to stay.

Oh,

You lose your apartment.

Well,

I mean,

It happens to everybody,

You know,

And I mean,

I'm staying with friends,

So I'm technically not really homeless.

You know,

I'll always have a car.

Well,

You lose your car.

Oh,

Well,

You know,

I mean,

It's not my fault that the thing died.

Like,

You know,

Like you just constantly lower your standards to meet your circumstances.

So that's why incidents aren't actually as good a catalyst to change as we think that they are,

You know,

And they can induce an emotional shift.

I mean,

You know,

But it's still the emotional shift that has to take place.

Otherwise,

Everybody that lost their family would wake up or everybody that had a child would wake up or everybody that had a car accident would wake up.

And it's just not it's so it's not the actual incident.

It's the emotional bottom.

And like you said,

The choice that comes from that emotional bottom that really makes a difference.

I wish that we had someone that we could talk to right now that was having a fairly recent spiritual awakening and that maybe like someone that Glenn,

You described to me as opening up like crazy.

Oh,

My God,

I have to ban is now king of the segue.

You have the corniest segues.

Thank you.

It's that way on purpose.

Yeah,

I know.

I know.

That's what makes it funnier because I hate I hate segues so much that I need for them to be making clear crystal clear.

Let's let's get crystals take on this.

That was a that's what you call a double whammy segue.

Take it out.

And we're professionals.

Yeah,

Well,

And I was just sitting there laughing.

I was like,

Oh,

I see where this is going.

Yeah,

Oh,

Good.

Oh,

I'm glad you could see through that.

Yeah.

With that crystal clear clarity.

Yeah.

So what do you think crystal.

Um,

I,

I mean,

I agree with you.

I think it's all an emotional bottom.

I,

You know,

I wasn't in addiction or anything.

My life really wasn't that terrible,

But I was just completely miserable where I was.

And I reached out to Glenn and because I was like,

I can't actually keep living this way.

Like,

If I envision my life in the future,

I'm like,

Is this is this really in,

I can't.

This isn't going to work.

And I ended up having what one describes as a profound spiritual awakening.

So,

And I agree that a lot of it was definitely centered around self love and my lack of it.

And it's been an interesting journey learning to love myself.

Yeah.

And it's,

It's that,

Yeah,

You are a good example because you didn't have these huge,

With some people called jackpots where,

Where you're,

You know,

Your life is exploding in these huge areas around you and you just get,

You know,

Like often happens in addiction.

And it's,

It's,

You know,

And,

And most see,

To me,

This is one of the most beautiful things though,

Is that this is how the spiritual awakenings it's,

It's almost like for lack of a better term,

Bottoms are getting higher.

Like people don't have to lose everything.

There's so much information out there.

There's so much,

There's this,

There's so much possibility and hope out there.

Now that's growing extremely fast.

And you know,

When you start seeking,

You'll find,

So when,

And,

And especially in this day and age of information,

If you start seeking for things,

It's pretty easy to find what you're looking for nowadays because it's out there.

You know,

It's out there and it's accessible.

So,

You know,

I think that's one of the things that's speeding up the spiritual shift is,

Well,

Two things.

One,

You know,

Technology is definitely helping because people have access to information,

But the,

But internally people are just sitting there going,

Like,

It's gotta be more life than this.

Like,

I can't,

You know,

Like you said,

You look at the future and you're like,

Like,

This is it?

Like,

I'm gonna,

I'm gonna live for the rest of my life,

Like doing this type of stuff and like,

Like feeling like this and like,

Come on.

I mean,

And it sounds,

It sounds like not that big of a deal when you first,

When you first hear it like,

Oh,

Well,

Yeah,

You know,

She,

She didn't like the way her life was going,

So she changed it.

It's like,

No,

That is so profound.

We've never lived in a time in human history where this is happening at the level that it's happening.

I mean,

You know,

You didn't have people in the depression saying I wasn't fulfilled with my career,

So I quit.

I mean,

They're just trying to put food on the table and live,

You know,

Like,

I mean,

Times are changing.

We are living in a day and age where,

You know,

Good enough is not good enough anymore.

Just maintaining and just kind of existing isn't good enough anymore and it's bubbling up and people are just feeling this push that there's something more and they're following it and they're waking up and they're fine.

You know,

This is the big spiritual shift that's happening.

It's funny,

The,

You know,

There's so much emphasis put on the negative things in the world right now that,

So,

You know,

That's what we,

That's what everybody tends to focus on,

But like we are categorically living in the most special best time in human history right now.

I mean,

We just are,

Like,

There's not.

Yeah,

People are waking up.

I mean,

Species is waking up.

Yeah.

It's insane.

For,

Like,

For as much negativity as there is in the world and as many problems as there are,

There are problems that we address as big problems now because we're addressing them.

Like,

And just like 30 years ago,

They were still there,

You just weren't talking about them.

And the fact that we're even talking about them is a positive thing.

The fact,

I mean,

Like,

There's hate and injustice and unfairness and,

And,

Like,

Downright horrible things that are done every single day in the world,

Right?

The fact that there's a large voice that says that those things aren't acceptable anymore at all,

Like,

The fact that that's even a conversation makes this a better time than it used to be.

Right.

It's contrast.

It's getting clearer what's wrong with this world.

And I think I saw,

I saw a meme the other day that was,

I thought was a really good example of our growth.

It said something about,

You know,

I'm not going to get it exactly right,

But basically it said,

It was this little cartoon and it was talking about climate change.

And somebody like in the audience was said,

There was like this bubble and they said,

Well,

Yeah,

But what if we go through all this trouble of,

Like,

Learning how to use sustainable energy and take care of the earth and all this stuff.

And then we find out that we weren't actually,

Like,

Climate change wasn't actually happening.

Like,

Who cares?

You know,

That's such a good point.

Who cares?

Like,

I mean,

What if we,

What if we,

You know,

Move to cleaner,

More sustainable energy and then we find out climate change wasn't happening?

Who cares?

We're still in a better situation anyway.

Like,

You know,

It doesn't matter.

Like,

We've spent the last 30 or 40 years fighting whether climate change was real or not.

Do you realize that?

We've spent 30 years arguing whether climate change was real or whether it wasn't real.

Do you know how stupid that is?

Yeah.

It doesn't matter because it doesn't matter.

This is what we get lost in.

This is why I don't follow politics because politically people argue about the same thing for 30 years and they're not even talking about the solution.

Like,

It doesn't,

Or whether it matters,

It doesn't matter if climate change is real or if it's not real.

What matters is that,

You know,

We're not treating the earth respectfully and we live on it.

That's bad.

You know,

What matters is other options for energy would give us,

I don't know,

Other options for energy.

That might be good.

Sure.

So,

Like,

The solutions we're working on are good contained within themselves.

It doesn't matter if climate change is happening or whether it's not happening.

If it's happening,

We'll fix it by doing this stuff.

If it's not happening,

We'll still benefit by doing this stuff.

You know,

But we literally argued for 30 years missing that and now we're not missing it.

And that's,

To me,

A beautiful sign of growth.

It's such a good example of what you started talking about,

Ben,

And what I try to show people.

People are like,

Oh,

You know,

All we do is look at the negative.

And it's like,

Yeah,

But the contrast is getting to the point we've talked about stupid things for so long that we're starting to get sick of talking about them and we're starting to actually look for solutions instead.

For some stuff.

Right.

Yeah.

Bringing that back to helping other people wake up,

Let's talk about the fight.

Let's talk about the fight of the political spectrum.

So,

Like,

You're not,

If you've ever had to try to talk to somebody who's on the other side of you,

Ideologically,

In politics,

Especially in the country that the three of us live in,

Where it's diametrically opposed to parties,

Generally speaking,

And anybody who's on the fringe of that also equally makes the other two people mad,

The other two parties mad,

Right?

Anytime you're trying to talk and prove your point and really hammer it home,

I'm sure that you've noticed,

Like,

Almost 100% of the time,

You're talking to a wall.

And I mean Democrats talking to Republicans,

Republicans talking to Democrats,

Green Party people trying to be like,

Hey,

Let's just all get along.

You know what I mean?

Like,

Nobody wants to hear anything other than their opinion.

And that is the essence of it's really hard to try to get people to wake up,

To help people to wake up,

Because anytime you're approaching anybody with something that isn't a confirmation bias to how they already feel,

You know,

And in this case,

If they're somebody that's not waking up,

If it's somebody that you love,

That you want,

There's a good possibility that they live in this negative headspace of whatever it is that they feel about their life,

You know,

That is causing their misery,

And people that are miserable like to stay miserable because they know it.

And it's comfortable,

As you've talked about on this show,

160 times.

So it's very difficult to even have a conversation where you're trying to encourage somebody to do it.

So other than,

You know,

Being a bonfire that burns as bright as you can,

What would your solution be to that,

Since it's essentially talking at a brick wall?

Yeah,

Well,

Stop talking to a brick wall,

You know.

It's,

I mean,

You're right,

It's a waste of breath.

It literally is a waste of breath.

So don't get into the conversation because it's not going to go anywhere.

So I don't,

You know,

I don't,

Like,

I've had many people,

And I've said this many times,

I've had people,

You know,

Just like,

When,

If I'm in a social situation and somebody comes up and they,

You know,

As soon as,

Most of these people,

As soon as the conversation starts,

It's not really difficult to figure out where they stand,

You know.

So it's like they,

And it doesn't matter if I'm in alignment with it or if I'm not in alignment.

If somebody just comes out and they go,

You know,

They throw something,

They let their position known,

And it's not my position,

I'll just change the subject or,

You know,

What,

Maybe walk away,

Whatever.

It's just,

I don't get into it with them.

And a lot of times,

You know,

People will,

Because I can talk,

And the people that usually I surround myself socially with,

Like,

They tend to like the way I think.

So they'll think that,

Like,

I'm going to shut this person up by proving my point because I can speak well and I can really prove my point.

And like,

It's the opposite.

I don't engage them at all because it's a waste of my time.

It doesn't matter how good I can speak or how strong my point is.

They're not open to it.

So why bother,

You know?

So it's,

And people come up,

Well,

Why didn't you straighten them out?

Because they weren't interested in being straight.

Like,

They wanted to be where they were.

So if they're not open to it,

It's a complete waste of time.

I mean,

I'll have discussions with people who are open.

You know,

This,

I think we did a podcast on this.

There's three types of people.

People that are open,

People,

What is it?

People that see.

People that see when they are shown and people who don't see even when they're shown.

And too often,

People who see spend all their time working on people who don't see even when they're shown.

And they just keep trying and trying and trying and trying.

And it's like,

Just stop.

You know,

Put your attention on the people who see when they are shown.

You know,

If you say something and people go,

What do you mean by that?

If they lean in,

Now all of a sudden,

That might be a person that you can,

That they're already opening.

So they might be open to what,

To them.

They might be willing to open to what you have to say or to themselves.

You know,

Spiritually.

So,

You know,

That you can feed and continue on.

But if you see a brick wall,

Walk away.

It's just not worth your time or energy.

I think,

Well,

What keeps coming up for me is this idea while you're talking is you kind of have to be willing to be wrong to open up.

You know,

If I had,

You know,

Using my life as an example,

If I had decided,

Well,

This is fine.

This is just the way people are supposed to be miserable and going to a job they hate or whatever.

You know,

Then I wouldn't have changed.

But I was like,

Well,

Maybe I'm wrong.

Maybe I'm,

Maybe there's something else that I'm not seeing here and I need help seeing.

Right.

But until people are willing to not be right,

You know,

They might not open up.

Right.

And that's why,

You know,

Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?

That's such an important phrase because that's what it comes down to.

I mean,

We can be right all day long.

That's why I think that's why my bottom was so low is because I was really good at rationalizing.

I mean,

So good that most people like,

You know,

I was homeless and just real low bottom,

You know,

Really horrible bottom.

And like I could get normal people to be like,

Oh,

Wow,

Glenn,

You know,

Like after an hour talking with me,

They'd be like,

Geez,

You know,

Boy,

Glenn's really had it tough.

No wonder why he drinks like they'd be on my side,

You know,

Like because I was really good at rationalizing,

You know.

So like it's it took it took a long time for me to to hit that bottom because I could rationalize things in my head.

But when I couldn't when I couldn't make sense of anything anymore and that forced me to open,

You know,

It's and this is the three things that I found that they teach in recovery.

And I found this is normal.

This is,

You know,

When I made the transition of working with people in recovery to working with everybody,

I the reason it was so easy is I found out that we all struggle with the same things.

It just looks different on the top.

You know,

It's more obvious when a when an addict is is dying.

Everybody else is dying to it's just slower and not as obvious.

But but we're all struggling with the same things.

And and it's the same.

The solution is the same.

And it says that you need to be open minded,

Honest,

Oh,

Geez,

And willing,

Willingness,

Open mindedness and honesty.

Those are the three things that you need to recover.

And these things are indispensable.

And I find that that is the exact same in recovery as it is with everyone else.

You need to be open minded so you can see another way.

You can't be closed off and saying I'm right.

You know,

You need to be able to be honest with yourself.

When somebody shows you something and goes,

Look like.

This is real.

You need to be able to go.

OK,

Yeah,

I was I was blocking that and I probably shouldn't be.

And I don't know everything.

You need to be able to be honest,

Mainly with yourself.

And you need to be willing to make that change.

You need to be willing to try to do things differently.

And if you have those,

You know,

It says those three things are indispensable.

There's only three of them.

But you got to have them.

And it's true.

That's you know,

It's it's what I found because I've seen everybody I've seen wake up has the ability to be honest with themselves.

They're open minded and they're willing to do the work.

I would agree.

So look for those people.

Right.

And so to summarize,

Because I think that most of this boils down to the thing that you said at the very beginning.

And it comes back to it because the podcast is titled How to Help People.

You know,

It's about helping people wake up and the fact that the best thing that you can do for that is to just be a beacon.

You know,

As you said about being a bonfire that grows that glows wider.

And I think that the most important thing that we haven't talked about and I'm just going to say that,

I mean,

We have covered this in many,

Many,

Many things,

Including episode two of this podcast five years ago.

And it's chapter 40 of your new book,

Care for Yourself.

Like,

Remember to care for yourself so you can better care for others.

Like,

Because you can't give you can't pour from an empty cup as the memes are very popular right now.

Like,

You can't do that.

You can't be a beacon that shines bright for others if you're not and you're not going to force somebody into waking up.

So just remember to care for yourself.

And I'm saying that as a final thing on this episode to remind myself because I really need that information this week.

Yeah.

And it's,

You know,

It's you have to be the change you wish to see.

You know,

Be the change you wish to see.

If you want other people to wake up,

You just live it.

Just walk it.

You know,

They are it's there's so many similarities with this aspect to recovery.

It's attraction rather than promotion is what they teach.

So it's just be happy.

Be peaceful.

Be loving.

Be accepting.

Be kind.

And after a while,

When you're not trying to change everybody around you,

See change is manipulation.

So when you're trying to,

We're going to have to go over on this podcast.

Oh,

We're already over.

It's fine.

Good.

So change is manipulation.

When you're trying to change people,

We play the martyr.

Like,

We're good people and we want all this wonderful stuff for people.

Yeah,

It's a nice thought.

But if they're not willing to change,

That's called manipulation.

So we have to stop.

And that's an energy.

Manipulation is an energy.

So we can have the best intentions in the world.

But if we're trying to make somebody do something,

Even if it's good for them,

If we're trying to make them do something that we want them to do,

That's manipulation.

And it can feel that.

And then we wonder why they're repelled by us.

It's because they can feel the energy of manipulation.

So stop trying to manipulate people and just be the change you wish to see.

And then after a while,

They're like,

Screw you.

Well,

I don't want to do that.

And you're like,

OK,

You don't have to.

It's your choice.

Yeah,

Damn right,

It's my choice.

So what are you doing?

You know,

Like after when there's no resistance,

After a while,

The people who might be open to it start warming up to it.

But as long as you're pushing and trying to manipulate and to try to get them to do what you want them to do,

There's that energy of manipulation that they can feel and they resist it.

So it's not about trying to change people.

It's just about,

You know,

Just being the change.

And the last thing that I want to touch on is that it's along the same lines as this.

We technically,

Like we just spent the whole podcast talking about,

We can't change people.

We can't induce change.

But what we can do is another part of being that beacon,

Being that light,

Is everything's vibrational.

We're energetic beings.

So if our energy field is vibrating at a lighter,

Higher rate because we are awakened and we are awake and we're just vibrating love,

Then that lightens the atmosphere around us,

Collectively in the entire universe,

But also around us.

So if somebody is around other closed off people and they're closed off too,

Well,

That's kind of natural.

People who are on a verge of awakening,

If they're around a lighter atmosphere,

A higher vibration,

It's easier,

They're more susceptible to opening.

Because the atmosphere in which they're in is lighter and it's more loving and they feel safer within it.

So that's the only thing that we can do.

We can be a safer vibrating atmosphere for them to stand next to.

So if they're standing near somebody that's awakened and they're close to awakening,

They might pop open.

Whereas if they're standing next to somebody closed,

They wouldn't.

Just because of the collective vibration there.

So it's easier.

This is why some people get confused when they go find a guru somewhere and they're in their presence and they feel the love and they think it's emanating from the guru.

They think they need to be in that guru's presence to be able to feel it.

They get attached to it.

They don't understand that it's actually coming within them.

And it's just easier to fall into it when they're with the guru.

So that's how the vibrational atmosphere works.

But it all boils back down to be the change you wish to see.

Just live it.

All work is self-work.

Go inside,

Do the work,

Awaken,

Live awaken,

Talk awaken,

Be present,

Be loving,

Be kind.

It's all what you do.

And then those people that are capable of awakening will awaken off of you when they're ready,

When they choose to.

That's it.

But you can't make anybody.

Oh my God,

I feel better.

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I figured I would just get the shilling out for everybody at the end so that we could wrap it up quick.

All right.

That'll do it.

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