Develop Mental Toughness And Live Better

How resilient are you? Did you know that there is a lot more to resilience and mental toughness than simply being "tough" and "withstand" all that comes at you? A great aspect of mental toughness is learning how to tackle your challenges, as well as how to reinforce your wellness when there are not. You get to apply in your life great advice when you listen to this podcast.

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Today,

We are talking about enhancing your mental toughness.

I have said many times that everything is connected,

You cannot separate it.

Plus,

As you know,

A spiritual touch is always added to everything and today will be no less.

So we live in a very competitive society,

As well as a society with a massive polarity between positive and negative experiences,

Good and bad people.

I will be frank,

Life is not easy,

You probably know this as well,

However,

You can make this difficulty a lot easier when you have the right approach to things.

And divide attention is one of them,

As I had shared,

But proper mental toughness is also essential,

Especially when handing pressure from other people and situations.

I want to share with you a quick tip that you can increase the endurance of your mind in difficult situations.

You need to work on developing your resilience because once you do,

You will be able to handle a lot more.

Only thanks to mental resilience,

You will come to grow stronger,

And recover much faster from negativity.

This is not a magic formula,

And there is no formula to be more resilient,

But setting clear intentions and making an effort is the essence.

Normally,

If you have had a difficult life since you were very little,

But you also managed to pull through,

You are likely to be highly resilient,

However,

You can always keep improving this.

I will share a few things that will contribute to have a greater mental toughness.

And the first one is dwelling in negativity.

Ask yourself this question,

Is your gas half full or half empty?

This is a very simple statement,

Something very common that you probably know.

If you want to start to have more resilience,

You should start seeing that the glass is half full.

I have had a hard time understanding why you would always think that the glass is half empty and that it is a bad thing.

Aren't you able to project gratitude to the fact you have at least half the glass full?

It's always something that greatly hurts me,

Especially when I see this on some of my loved ones that they stick to the glass half empty,

Because they sadly apply it to everything in their life.

Is this your case?

Think about a former situation that the results were not awesome.

Are you focusing on the positive results at all,

Even if they were insufficient?

Are you even able to open your eyes more and observe the big picture and notice the good?

This is essential for mental strength.

You can't imagine how much you are damaging yourself when you do not see the positive side of things.

Thanks to various laws of the universe,

You would attract more opportunities to keep seeing your glass half empty.

Is this what you want?

Perhaps you are listening to this and you don't make an effort to start seeing things more positively.

Why?

With more positive energy you bring your best in developing mental endurance by expanding your emotional resilience.

The next one is grudges.

Do you believe you hold grudges?

Did anyone,

Especially a loved one,

Tell you that you hold grudges?

Perhaps your ego doesn't allow you to accept it,

But when your loved ones tell you this,

You should consider looking more inside yourself.

Start addressing any hatred,

Grudges or negativities that you have within your heart.

You are perhaps holding on things for years,

Even towards loved ones,

And it can be very painful for them and for you.

You might believe that you are stronger when you hold on to things.

I am sure this sentence resonates with you.

I forgive,

But I don't forget.

I have at least heard it from some of the people about events in their lives,

People that I love the most,

And it breaks my heart.

Yes,

It is important to remember things,

To learn from experiences,

And grow stronger.

The problem is that usually the negative emotion attached to it remains in the heart.

As an empath for my loved ones who say this,

I certainly feel they hold this negativity in their heart,

Not contributing to emotional regulation but damaging them instead.

On top of this,

Their ego will make sure that they don't see or believe otherwise.

You can't truly let go of negative things,

Especially if they are connected with your loved ones who understand any potential pain they could have caused to you.

Otherwise,

You will weaken your heart by holding on to the bad emotions.

Trust me,

You are not stronger for holding grudges on the person next to you,

But you are tweaking yourself thanks to the principle of vibration and mentalism and it is affecting you in a negative way.

One essence for emotional resilience at work,

For example,

Is to maintain center on what you need to do,

Period.

If you want to think about others,

Only focus on what concerns and affects you.

Protect yourself from the negative and embrace the positivity,

Because if you do,

It will grow.

To be more resilient,

You cannot hold on negativity,

So if a problem is solved,

Let go of the grudge.

I mean it,

Let go of the grudge and start working on this right now.

About living in the now properly,

And this is another topic that promotes mental toughness about learning how to live in the now,

But you gotta do it properly.

I have shared a lot about this in an article that talks about linear time as well.

Sometimes there are powerful teachings that are incomplete.

For example,

The law of attraction is incomplete on its own,

As you need to keep into account more principles of the universe,

And the same happens with some teachings of living in the now.

In fact,

There is one particular popular song that teaches you to be well in the now,

But in my opinion,

Not the right approach because it promotes you to be irresponsible.

Even some teachings online share about not even caring for the future,

And this is wrong.

And I like to teach it in the following way.

You learn from your mistakes from the past,

But discard the rest and certainly do not dwell on them.

This promotes mental toughness and greater emotional regulation.

You give your 100% in the present,

The here and now,

Project and divide attention over the things that you do,

And make sure to live the now to the fullest.

Since you learn from your mistakes and are giving your all in the present,

You don't even need to think about the future,

Nor worry,

As you are reassuring a great one.

Once you take this into account,

You need to improve a little bit your time management to feel more confident and productive.

As time goes on,

You will feel that living your life this way makes you a lot stronger,

Yielding greater mental resilience.

Sounds simple,

Right?

Sometimes simplicity is best,

And the above mention only requires you to do your best focusing on the now.

This is a fantastic way of building emotional resilience because it's difficult to have a bad strike here.

You can rely on a stronger foundation that you have built.

There is nothing more of mental toughness than this.

And finally the 8 ways to build up mental toughness and resilience.

Now that you know a lot more about resilience and mental toughness,

You will get your 8 steps to start making an assertive move towards a greater version of yourself.

I recommend you start slowly applying this in your life,

Don't try to do them all at once,

But be truthful instead to yourself in what can you handle and do.

Cultivate a growth mindset.

You want to focus on slowly but steadily improving,

Every day little by little.

This comes from trying better every day,

But without getting obsessed with it.

A tiny step is still a step,

And all steps forward are great.

Always keep this in mind.

One simple way to do this here is to observe more on how you are doing things,

And how you are doing them now.

Honor your progress,

And reinforce what is necessary.

Develop emotional regulation skills.

Here you need to be more connected with yourself and understand your feelings.

You need to know what you are feeling,

When and why.

When you figure it out,

You will not succumb to your skills.

During difficult moments,

Especially if you can't do much about it,

You want to focus on projecting positive feelings,

Even if it comes by recalling other situations.

This increases emotional resilience by a lot.

Setting realistic goals.

It is super important that you set realistic goals to promote mental toughness,

Otherwise you will exhaust yourself for loose motivation.

If you are very assertive you can overdo things,

Pushing yourself to the edge and beyond,

Inducing massive anxiety,

And trust me I know this well.

Other people will feel very discouraged,

Losing motivation and growing weaker,

So you need to find your sweet spot,

And one way to find it is both experiences and knowing yourself well.

Strengthen your support system.

If you need to ask for help,

Ask for it.

You are no less of a person if you need help,

Care nothing whether others need no help,

Or need more help than you do.

Focus on what you need,

Drop your ego,

And seek the help that will bring the emotional and mental toughness you need.

You are not alone,

You don't need to face your demons together.

With some help,

You will do it better and faster.

Practice self-compassion.

This one might be harder than you think,

Or better said,

You might make it harder because you don't find it your worth.

I know a lot of people,

Including loved ones who don't even want to bother with self-compassion,

And while being aware of it,

They instead prefer to make self-destructing comments and put themselves down.

Is this your case?

If so,

You are not contributing to your mental toughness and it is time for a change right now.

Step out of your comfort zone.

Another one that takes willpower.

Even if you think you cannot step out of your comfort zone,

You can indeed,

And perhaps you are already doing it,

And you cannot even honor yourself for it.

You need to try new things,

And you will discover more of yourself,

And this will make your mental toughness and emotional resilience increase.

You will little by little bring new things to your life,

Contributing to your overall happiness as well.

Develop a daily routine.

You need to add new things to your life,

Such as being more focused,

Knowing how to approach the positive side of things,

And adding new experiences to your life.

With the busyness you probably have,

You want to add a few things to your daily routine.

For example,

Add 10 or 15 minutes of daily introspection for a greater self-awareness.

The key is little by little adding more to your life.

As I said above,

Not all at once,

Start by loving yourself more and honoring your efforts every single day.

Keep your connections strong.

As a human being,

You need to interact and socialize,

Plus,

Divide and conquer only weakens us.

It's better to group up and move forward,

Together,

Because together you will pull a lot more power and have much greater results.

Honor the positive connections you have and nurture them.

Work on reinforcing the bond by being present,

Kind,

And loving in all of your personal and professional relationships.

As you can see,

These are quite simple steps.

I am not sharing any ancient secret that will make your mental toughness flawless.

You only need to keep these few things into account and add a new change,

Little by little every day.

Don't feel you have to rush,

As feeling the need to rush already reduces your emotional resilience.

So mental toughness will develop within your mind and subconsciousness.

From here it is all about and how you approach life.

You need to keep into account to always project positive behavior over things.

Remember,

Like attracts like.

Mental toughness is not only about being able to take hits,

It's about doing things in a way that you will take fewer hits.

This is one of those situations where positive offense yields the best defense.

The offense goes around hunting and destroying everything that doesn't belong in your consciousness.

You just cannot cope with setbacks and challenges,

Just like that.

You need to have a strong foundation,

And precisely it is here where one of my statements come to light.

Learn from the past and live in the now to ensure a secured future that you don't have to focus nor worry on.

Because if you have a problem or setback,

Which you will eventually,

You will have a lot of answers to the problem,

As well as a whole deck of cards available to use to face the problem.

If you find yourself in this situation,

I can assure you that your mental toughness is fantastic.

Besides powerful mental endurance and emotional resilience,

You know better how to approach things so you don't need to use that toughness or resilience.

Things will simply flow better.

So building mental strength is a daily journey,

And I want to wrap up with a reminder.

You become and continue to be a person with strong mental toughness,

So it is not a tool,

It is part of you.

This means that you need to keep into account everything you have learned and apply it every day.

I advise you to start little by little,

So it will not become overwhelming.

Again,

You only need to remember that mental toughness is something you develop and something that you keep getting better at.

As with everything,

Practice makes a champion,

So don't feel rushed or weak,

You are strong because you focus on improving on yourself and on your life.

Namaste.