Melt Fear With The Power Of Love

This is a powerful talk on how to dissolve fear with the power of love. I read to you a potent piece I wrote, and then I passionately break down the topics for a better understanding of the range of energies at play. I share from my experience how to navigate your life, healing, and relationships through the power of love. I speak to what fear is really asking for in order to dissolve and loosen its grip and highlight the perspectives that are bringing us closer to love and the ones that are leading us astray.

By stepping up to the plate and claiming more love and joy, you're able to use this infinite power of the universe to better hold the vulnerabilities of your mind and nervous system with care and compassion. I address the different aspects of your being - mind, body, heart, and soul, and how to move forward with patience and clarity. This is a powerful talk and I cannot wait for you to receive it!

This is a LIVE talk recording.

Transcript

If you are in a space where it is safe for you to close your eyes or just start to soften your gaze on one spot then please do that.

And then connect your left palm to your lower belly and take a deep full breath into your lower belly.

And then take a long sigh out.

Feel the earth beneath you,

Feel the ground.

Take another deep breath in and out.

Good.

Allow yourself to feel open through your heart,

Your mind,

Your energy field.

And then gently open the eyes if they're closed.

Okay,

Welcome.

All right,

So I'm going to read this piece to you.

Okay,

So it's called Love Will Melt All Fear Into Eternity.

Times are changing.

We are in the process of reordering and it can stir up feelings of discomfort and vulnerability.

The tendency is for the mind to cling to what it knows and to try to plan for the future from wisdom from the past.

But what we're used to doesn't work anymore so we're at a loss.

Fear bubbles up and past imprints of unresolved pain start crying out for help.

We begin to navigate a dissonance in our hearts,

Minds,

Spirits,

And find it difficult to move forward with clarity.

For myself,

I've recently been through some major life transitions where my heart and spirit are 100% on board,

But my mind and nervous system are slow to catch up.

It came to me the other day that our minds are the most vulnerable part of our being.

It's fascinating because our minds have been hyped up to be a strong,

Reliable part of our existence,

But through contemplation I've realized it's the most fearful.

Our mind's job is to protect our vulnerable temporary human body from death.

It also fights to protect the stories we hold to navigate our lives,

Our beliefs,

Perspectives,

Opinions,

Viewpoints,

And judgments.

This is all to keep it together so we know what to do with ourselves when we wake up in the morning and how to keep ourselves safe.

Because of this,

The mind senses danger and holds an underlying feeling of anxiety about the infinite possibilities of the unknown.

When we operate purely from this space,

Life can feel overwhelming,

Out of control,

Daunting,

And random.

While the mind is necessary and has its place,

Many more aspects of our being,

Such as our heart,

Spirit,

And body,

Have wisdom to share and hold direction as well.

In connecting with myself and these more subtle layers of my being over the past decade,

It's become clear to me through my recent life transition that parts of my being can be 100% online and ready to move forward with clarity,

While other parts of my being are not there yet.

This recent change has absolutely catapulted my life into one of the most positive,

Powering,

And joyful experiences I've ever had.

My heart and spirit are ready to go with full force ahead,

But my mind and body are taking their time,

Adjusting to the changes,

And are reminding me of feelings and thoughts of past pain and projecting potential problems onto the now.

It requires a lot of awareness and self-reflection to understand what is wisdom and what is trauma and to respond accordingly.

This is the art of transitioning from one experience to another.

Our hearts and spirits hold an infinite flood of possibility,

Love,

And joy,

So when something feels right,

They're ready to go.

It's our minds and our imprints from our bodies from the past that hit the brakes and try to hold us back.

This is why I see the mind as the most vulnerable part of our being because it's the most scared.

Our minds need the energy,

Trust,

And love from our hearts to relax their edges and stop clinging to what could go wrong in order to allow in what's going right.

This is where patience for our minds needs to come in.

Our mind is slow,

Our heart is fast.

We are navigating these opposing forces all the time.

Our mind works in linear time,

Our heart is connected to the timeless.

When we can breathe into the power of our hearts,

Our spirits,

And our inner knowing,

It can create a compassionate loving space for our mind to surrender its fear.

This is how we land in the infinite space of love and possibility amongst the finite expressions of life and ourselves.

So I invite you to tune in and listen to yourself during these changing times,

Worldly and personally,

And to make note of how the energy feels in your body,

Your mind,

Your heart,

And your spirit.

Then become curious.

Do they align?

Are they giving you different messages?

If you're like me and your heart and spirit are ready to go,

But your mind and body need a bit more love and attention,

Then it's time to slow down.

Feel,

Breathe,

And process past emotions.

I was told recently that the reward from our past pain is not the emotions themselves,

But the lessons that we learned.

This really resonated with me and reminded me to slow down and focus on feeling what hasn't been felt and expressing what hasn't been expressed so I can heal and step forward with an open heart.

Let yourself be held through grief and move through your new reality slowly but surely.

One of the most profound realizations I've had over the past couple of years is that it can be very vulnerable and scary to allow the power of love and to allow in the power of love and abundance.

I think I used to think that it would be easy to let amazing positive energy in,

But it actually takes a lot of surrender and processing of past pain to remember I am worthy to receive more love,

Joy,

And ease in my life.

Changing to a different frequency and allowing more love in is vulnerable.

It opens your heart and hands you the potential of claiming a more expansive life.

It's an energetic and perspective shift that will demand more of your power to alchemize,

Direct,

And live amongst a more potent energy frequency.

More love means more responsibility over your boundaries,

Choices,

Words,

And actions because everything you touch and feel is deeper and has more impact.

By stepping up to the plate and claiming more love and joy,

You're able to use this infinite power of the universe to hold the vulnerabilities of your mind with care and compassion.

You also have more capacity to carry your body through processing and feeling the past pain.

Then with time,

Your mind will loosen its grip,

Your body will soften its hold,

And trust will come forth as you glide into the place your heart and spirit already knows is possible.

So thanks for the hearts,

Loves.

That piece speaks to these different parts of our being that can all feel true at the same time.

There can be parts of us that are ready for something,

Parts of us that are scared to bring it in.

There can be parts of us that have clarity,

And other parts of us that are projecting things that aren't actually here from the past.

This is where things get challenging.

This is where things need to be kind of slowed down and processed and felt.

There needs to be so much love infused into these fearful thoughts,

Emotions,

And experiences,

And this is the only way that they will start to soften their grip,

And they will start to loosen their hold,

And you'll be able to come into a more loving,

Easeful,

Carefree space that will allow you to move forward with where your spirit or your heart is wanting to go next.

So this is such an important thing that took me many years to unravel and understand,

Because there is a lot of messaging and energy out there about speed in life,

That faster is better,

That going alone is the best way maybe,

That pushing past things or just getting on with it is good.

It has its place,

Right?

Everything I say has its place in a sense,

But the reality is is that if we don't give enough space and time to the parts of ourselves that are tender and scared,

They will become more scared.

They will shut down.

They will continue to yell out for love.

They will scream for love through fearful thoughts,

Through worrying thoughts.

They'll scream for your love through tensing your body.

They'll scream for love.

They'll call for you,

And if you keep pushing them down and judging them,

They will go further into their corner.

They will scream louder.

The thoughts will get more fearful.

You'll worry more.

They'll try to go faster and faster down this arbitrary treadmill of where are you even going anyways,

To run from yourself.

This is not something that we have to do alone.

Relying on other people and community and support is a huge aspect of this.

I'm going to start to break down.

I'm going to start to break this down.

Basically,

When you feel fear,

This is what a close person in my life spoke to me about,

Which really,

Really,

Really helped and gave such a strong image to this.

There's different parts of ourselves from all different timelines in our life,

From when we're a kid,

Teenager,

Different times in adulthood,

Etc.

They have different parts of ourselves create these imprints or experiences that we are walking around with all the time.

In the present moment,

We hold the entirety of every single experience that we've ever had.

The part of yourself that's small,

The part of yourself that's a teenager,

The part of yourself that was in those adult experiences that were challenging,

They all live here in the now.

They all are present in the now.

When you have a part of you that's feeling scared or fearful or there's negative thoughts or something coming through,

Then what he taught me and what's been very beautiful is just to take a moment to pause,

To slow down,

To breathe,

And to tune in and feel,

Is there a part of myself there that is crying out for love?

Maybe when I breathe,

I can feel an energy there or I can sense in my imagination or my head an image of myself,

Maybe in a ball in the corner,

Maybe scared and shaking,

Maybe feeling nervous and worried.

If I can tune into that and be with it and start to pour so much of my love and strength into that part of myself that is crying for love and help,

Then that is how it will start to change its form.

The energy will start to loosen or if they're in a ball,

Maybe they start to get up and walk over towards you.

These are all just examples.

It could be anything.

It's about taking time to pause and nurture yourself with the strength and the love that you have now.

It's about recognizing that you are the strong,

Loving person that you have built through your life to this moment.

Simultaneously,

You are the other part of yourself that is crying out for help,

That is scared,

That is fearful,

That is vulnerable,

That feels alone.

You are both at the same time.

It's not just both because there's lots of different parts,

Maybe dozens.

It's about using the part of yourself that is strong,

Tuning into the love in yourself to hold the other part of yourself that needs that care.

You can just do it through your mind,

Through your energy.

You can just pause and have a meditative moment with yourself.

You can speak to that part of yourself so many words of affirmation and love from your heart.

I love you.

I see you.

I hear you.

I understand you.

It makes sense the way you feel you do.

I totally understand why you feel that way.

I get it.

I'm here for you.

I'm always here for you.

You're never alone.

You can always come to me.

I see your value.

I see your worth.

I see your love.

I see your care.

I see your purity underneath.

I see your intentions.

I see you.

I get it.

I'm here.

I love you.

You're beautiful.

You're seen.

You're heard.

I feel you.

I love you.

I love you.

I see you.

For me,

It just helps to just keep going.

Maybe you don't need to hear it once.

Maybe you need to hear it dozens of times.

This is so important because it is the only way that that part of yourself will start to soften its edges and will stop crying for your attention.

We are not taught to do this just naturally.

We're not taught that it's one of the most valuable,

Worthwhile things to do with our life is to stop and to slow down and to pay attention to the parts of ourselves that are crying out for love.

We are taught to shun them,

To judge them.

Oh,

Just get away.

Why are you still yelling at me?

I just want to move forward with my life.

Why are you still there?

Why are these fearful thoughts still here?

Why is my worry still here?

This is so annoying.

Why can't I just wake up and feel okay already?

Why can't I just et cetera,

Et cetera,

Right?

Why is this still here?

I don't like you.

I don't like myself because of this.

I don't like myself because of these thoughts.

I don't like myself because of these feelings.

I'm not as good as this other person because I feel this way.

You're saying,

Fuck you to that part of yourself that's crying for love.

You're saying,

I don't care about you.

I don't want to see you.

You annoy me.

Why are you still here?

Get away from me.

Why can't I just move on already?

That is how we bully the part of ourself that is so scared already,

That is so afraid already,

And we shove them more in the corner,

And we push them aside.

We don't give them the time.

We get something else to experience instead,

Thinking something else is going to save us.

That relationship is going to save me.

That job is going to save me.

That trip is going to save me.

That new clothing is going to save me.

That next accomplishment is going to save me.

That next paycheck is going to save me,

Right?

And all while that is happening,

That chase to get away from yourself,

That running,

That part of yourself that's scared,

That part of yourself which is maybe one,

But probably dozens of parts of yourself,

Is in the background wailing for you.

Love me.

See me.

What are you doing?

Where are you going?

Why are you moving so fast?

Why do all these things fucking matter,

Right?

That part of yourself is in pain,

And you're shoving it down.

You're destroying yourself from the inside out.

And the world experiences that because we give out that energy,

And then we start judging other people.

And then we're like,

Wow,

Why can't that person just get over their shit already?

It's all coming from the internal judgment towards yourself,

Right?

So this is a huge wake-up call.

It was for me,

Absolutely.

It took me many years to realize this,

And I teach a lot of yin yoga.

Yin yoga,

I feel,

Is a very healing,

Beautiful practice that allows us to hold space for these types of emotions,

To process,

To hold space for ourselves,

To pour love into the truth of the present moment,

Whatever that is.

Show up with your grief.

Show up with your sadness.

Show up with your pain.

Show up with your joy.

I don't care.

You're here.

We're breathing alongside the present moment.

You're breathing alongside yourself and every part of yourself with an endless depth of compassion and love.

And I am 100% so certain that compassion is our path to liberation.

It is our path to liberation.

It's compassion.

The understanding of suffering.

The understanding of suffering within yourself.

You're not going to understand suffering within yourself if you can't do that.

You're not going to understand suffering of other people.

You're not going to understand suffering of the world if you don't understand the suffering in yourself and you don't give compassion to yourself for what you've been through and value what you've been through and love the parts of yourself that are crying and are there to receive the love,

Care,

And attention that they haven't.

Right.

So,

This is how love will melt fear.

It's devastating for me to witness in my life and to understand the lack of importance and care that's been put on slowing down to process emotional pain and to feel and to love.

Because every time something in your life happens that you don't feel safe enough,

Seen enough,

Loved enough to move through that pain,

It gets shoved down and becomes a part of yourself that starts wailing.

And then you just push on.

And then it just stays there.

Locked in that timeline.

Locked in that place.

Because it hasn't received what it needed,

So it just stays there.

And then that happens again.

And it happens again.

And it happens again.

And it happens again.

And then we live in a society for the most part,

At least in the West,

Where we don't get the time or the space to slow down and to start to feel and love these parts of ourselves that are trapped in these timelines of fear because they didn't get to process properly.

And then what happens is they start calling.

And when they start calling,

You can't move forward with clarity and peace.

You just can't.

You get stuck in the past.

You get stuck in what happened before because it's not processed.

And all of those projections and perceptions are playing out in your mind.

And all those emotions are playing out in your body.

And you can no longer see the present moment for a clear blank slate.

This can be whatever you want to experience.

You're not able to access that as easily because there's all this unprocessed fear that needs love.

And then you start making decisions out of your fear.

And you start worrying out of your fear.

And you start projecting problems onto places where there's no problems at all.

Thanks for the hearts,

Loves that are coming through.

I'm seeing them and they help and they validate.

So I love your hearts.

And then and then we give mean names to these things.

Again,

There's so much like messaging for like bullying ourselves out here.

Like then when we project past pain onto something that's good,

We call it self-sabotage.

Does that sound like a very loving word?

No,

It's another judgment towards yourself.

Another judgment.

You're judging yourself on top of judgments that are coming from fear.

And then you're putting more judgment on top of it all.

We are headed in the wrong direction with all of this.

And it's causing with all of this.

And it's causing agony inside people.

And me,

Everyone,

Right?

It's important that when these things come up and you recognize,

Oh,

I'm doing this,

But maybe it's not coming from the truth of this moment.

Maybe this is coming from another part of myself.

That we stop and take space.

If you're in a relationship and you feel like you need space to process,

Take space.

Hey,

I need three days.

Hey,

I need a week.

Give me space.

I'm getting triggered right now.

There's something in my past that is projecting fear onto this moment that I don't want to happen.

And I don't want to just sit with you and let that continue to trigger and let this be destroyed.

I'm going to stop.

I'm going to take space for myself.

I'm going to get the support I need.

I'm going to love myself.

I'm going to come back.

And then I'm going to come back to you.

And I'm going to see you differently.

And I'm going to approach this differently.

And this is something that I've done recently,

Just in the past week.

So those are things to consider.

It's not about having resentment towards people that weren't there for you when you were young.

It's not about hating people for failing you.

It's not about shutting down because you feel like everyone's against you and you just got the shorthand and you're a victim now.

There's no compassion in that.

There's no compassion in that.

And I've been there.

I've 100% been there.

I've been to places where I'm like,

Wow,

You really screwed me over.

Like,

I'm so mad at you.

I'm so mad at you,

Mom.

I'm so mad at you,

Dad.

I'm so mad at you,

Teacher.

I'm so mad at you,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Blah,

Which is 100% valid in one sense because you need to move those emotions out.

So what I just said is 100% valid in one sense.

So this is the hard thing about language.

Because I'll say something and it will have multiple different avenues or truths or meanings that are coming out of it.

So it's like there's value in the emotions,

The raw emotions that you feel.

And they're valid.

And they need to be spoken at one level.

They need to be spoken without any consideration of other people.

Like,

This is one level of it,

Right?

Like,

No consideration.

Like,

If you were a neglected child,

If you went through bullying and you didn't stand up for yourself,

If you were sexually assaulted or abused and you did not stand up for yourself,

Right?

Speaking from experience here,

You need to express that in the most raw form possible.

There's therapists that can hold space.

You could do it yourself in your journal.

Just dear whoever.

And just fucking go.

Like,

Say everything.

Like,

I hate you.

You destroyed me.

And like,

Speak every single word that wasn't spoken out.

And then maybe burn it and watch it burn and take a deep breath.

I did that recently and it shifted a shit ton in my field.

So these things matter.

Part of it,

The truth is that you have to express what hasn't been expressed because that part of yourself,

Right,

That was suppressed is sitting there blocked up in its throat,

Blocked up in its energy field,

Blocked up in its mind.

And then it's there.

So then in your present moment life,

When you're trying to speak your truth,

When you're trying to stand up for your needs,

When you're trying to follow your desires,

You have a part of yourself that's sitting there blocked completely from the trauma or the abuse it went through.

And it's not going to let you speak.

It doesn't feel safe enough.

It doesn't feel loved enough.

It hasn't been heard.

And if we want to bypass that and be like,

Oh,

Just get out of here.

I need to like move forward already.

We are marching down a dangerous path,

Right?

So if you pause and you go that part of yourself and it's in you,

You know,

You can access it.

You feel it and you're just like,

Okay,

Right?

Like that part of myself needs to be heard.

So then you tune into that energy,

You maybe visualize it.

You can have people hold space for you if you want.

You can do it yourself and then express.

Maybe you're saying it out loud.

Maybe you say it in a voice note.

Maybe you say it in a video.

Maybe you write it out.

Maybe you go to the forest and you scream.

Maybe you whatever you want to do.

And then that part of yourself starts to loosen and starts to soften and those blocks start to dissolve because it's been spoken.

It's been spoken.

It's been heard.

It's been processed,

Right?

It's starting to be processed.

And then when that starts to let go,

Now in the present moment,

You're trying to speak your truth.

You're trying to stand up for your needs.

You're trying to do your thing.

And now it's easier because that part of yourself has spoken and it's loosened.

It's fear from your love and the time and the patience and the presence that you gave it to be heard.

And as you do that,

You're holding yourself in your strength.

You're holding yourself in your love.

You're holding yourself in who you are right now,

Right?

And that's part of the healing process.

So that's one piece of your emotions matter.

They're raw.

They need to be expressed.

And when you're expressing them,

You don't feel bad for anybody else.

You don't feel bad for your abuser when you say,

Fuck you.

You just do it and you fully express it and fully express it.

Okay?

So that's that,

Right?

That part of yourself needs to have that space.

Thanks for the heart slaps.

Okay.

So that's one truth.

That's one piece of the reality.

The other piece of the reality is that hating the people that did this,

Hating the people that neglected you,

Whatever it is,

Right?

It just fuels that fear and that anger it fuels it,

Right?

So you,

You process it,

You do that,

But at the same time,

You know,

Maybe after you're done that you start to put yourself in their shoes as best as you can.

We do the best we can,

But you try to find the part of yourself that can be compassionate for that person.

You try to find the part of yourself that sees the care and the love that was also in them.

You understand that everyone's doing the best they can from the circumstances and the state of consciousness they're in in the moment.

And we all are.

And instead of being hard on them,

You can start to find that compassion and move forward.

But doing that to find that compassion and move forward,

You have to express the emotion and you have to process the pain because you will not be able to access that until you do.

You'll have too much hate.

You'll have too much stress.

You'll have too much everything in you,

Right?

So it's a dance and it's both.

If we process all that and then continue to hate and continue to push down and continue to be so mad at these people,

We keep it going.

We keep feeding that reality.

And we don't let go of it.

You don't move on from it.

And you create more separation between yourself and the world.

So it's both.

Okay?

As you start to process,

You'll be able to see the people in your life,

The world from a more expansive perspective.

Oh,

They really messed up here,

But they're really good in this sense as well.

And you get this more balanced,

Big picture view.

Both polarities can exist.

You don't have to put any expectations on yourself to get anywhere with that.

Oh,

I need to be there.

No.

You take as much time as you need to whatever amount that you feel like,

And then you just move on.

What this person told me when he was telling me about the parts of ourselves that I found was really beautiful is just like when you're going through your daily life and you notice a fear or tension or something coming up to just recognize that is a part of yourself.

And if you have space to hold and process or feel or send love or send,

Sit with it,

Hold it,

You know,

To do that.

And if you don't have space to do that,

At least have the compassion and the understanding for yourself.

And don't push it down and bully it further into the corner.

I want love and healing for everyone,

Including myself.

And I think this is very important.

Melting fear into love.

Melting fear into love.

Okay,

So next piece I have here is that love,

Love is a way stronger vibration than fear.

Like way,

Way stronger.

Like pure,

Authentic love.

Like fear doesn't stand a chance.

It just doesn't.

Like fear will just fucking dissolve into the oblivion.

For example,

If there's someone who's going through For example,

If there's someone who's going through a really hard day,

Like on the edge of tears,

Like barely holding it together,

Can barely get out of the house,

Like feeling terrible,

Thoughts are terrible,

Not even wanting to really be here,

Trying to force themselves to their daily stuff.

And then something happens,

And they get triggered.

And then now they're crying.

And now they're just a mess.

And they're like,

In the best way,

It's good to feel.

But it's also just like,

Oh,

Like,

Can't hold it together.

All this fear,

All this fear is taking over.

Okay,

So they're in that place,

Right?

And then someone they trust comes up to them.

Doesn't even say anything.

Doesn't even have to say one word to them.

Someone they trust comes up to them and wraps their arms around them and hugs them so deeply,

So tightly.

So much presence and attention and care and doesn't let go.

And says,

I'm here for you.

I got you.

You can get through this.

I love you.

I see you.

I understand what you're going through.

I have compassion for your pain.

You're not alone.

You're not alone.

You're not alone.

Then what happens?

That person's fear starts to melt away.

They start to ease.

They start to relax.

The world looks a little bit brighter.

Just a little,

Right?

That's the power of love.

Fear will dissolve because the vibration of love is stronger.

So the fear we feel comes from parts of ourselves that haven't received enough love.

Not just love from ourselves,

But love from other people,

Love from community,

Love from connection,

Love from the earth,

Love from the trees,

Love from the stars,

Love from the animals,

Love everywhere.

Don't receive enough of it,

Then there's fear.

You receive some of it,

There's less fear.

You receive a lot of it,

Barely any fear.

So let's talk about this a little bit deeper.

So there's contemplations here I was working through,

Just thinking,

Just speaking to and connecting into the influences we have,

Right?

Especially in this Western society.

It's very,

It's very,

This is my experience.

It's very,

It's very,

This is my perspective,

Okay,

That it's very isolating.

There is a lot of,

Like,

Like pressure to be so individualistic in your thinking and in your actions.

There's a lot of competition.

There's a lot of idea that there's this hierarchy between people,

Right?

Wake up and what are you going to do for your day today so you can feel better?

Individualistic thinking.

What are you going to do for your health so you can live the life of your dreams?

Individualistic thinking.

You,

You,

You,

You,

You,

All this pressure on you.

And it's not that your individualistic needs and desires don't matter.

It's about paying attention to them,

Yes,

Knowing them,

Yes,

But working with them in harmony.

So you wake up and you're like,

What do I need to do for me so I feel full and good in my being?

Once I feel full and good in my being,

My next question is what can I do for you?

What can I do for my community?

If I have a pure desire to create something,

Who can I connect with to do it with them?

That's the next question.

Wake up and take care of your basic needs and make yourself feel good,

Yes.

If you're on MM drink,

You're not going to feel good.

But if you're on MM,

Yes.

If you're on MM,

Drink your HGMS,

Do your thing.

But once you feel good,

It's not just about you.

It's not just about what you want to do all the time.

It's about how what you want to do aligns with what the collective needs and what other people in your life need.

What does your family need?

What do your parents need?

What do your friends need?

What does your community need?

That's going to lead you to your purpose.

That's going to connect you to love.

And is that talked about very often?

Or do we have a lot of pressure on what are you doing for yourself all the time in comparison and competition to everybody else that is so individualistically thinking what they need to do for themselves all the time?

There is so much dissonance.

And it causes pain.

And I've been through this.

So you can feel the passion in my voice because I have been through years of trying to do it by myself.

Isolated.

Thinking it was the way.

It's not the way.

Your body will feel so much vulnerability and isolation.

This is what I felt especially during the pandemic and working online.

This is what I really was woken up to.

I spend a lot of time inside staring at a screen that's not tangible life.

My body feels vulnerable.

My nervous system feels vulnerable.

My body can feel that I am disconnected.

And that creates fear.

When I'm out in nature and I'm connecting with the earth,

My body feels that I'm connected to the earth,

That I'm connected to support,

That I'm connected to life force.

And I feel stronger in my body.

I feel less fear.

If I'm inside by myself,

My thoughts are spinning and hitting off the walls and I lose all sense of what should I do,

What is real,

What is not.

But when I reconnect with people and reconnect with earth,

It's like,

Oh,

There it is.

It's clear.

I can see it.

Everything calms down.

Fear calms down.

There's weakness and isolation.

There's fear and isolation.

Moving forward alone,

It makes you be able to go quickly.

This is a piece that I heard from somewhere.

I don't know where.

But if you want to go fast,

Go alone.

If you want to go far,

Go together.

We have a lot of going fast alone in this Western society.

And we're all suffering because of it.

And when we don't take time to slow down to process these parts of ourselves and the pain,

We are moving quickly with fear from unprocessed pain.

And we are creating outcomes that are creating more fear.

That's what's happening.

They're not grounded intentions.

They're not holistic,

Collective,

Everyone's benefiting if I put my energy in here,

Intentions.

Of course that exists.

Of course that exists.

But in general,

Why are you doing what you're doing?

Right?

Why are you making the choices that you're making?

Right?

Why are you making the choices that you're making?

Why are you taking the actions that you're taking?

If we don't slow down and contemplate these things,

Then we are all adding to the fear.

We're adding to outcomes that are created from past projections.

That maybe aren't for the highest good for ourselves or other people or the world.

And we're moving quickly and alone towards disharmonious outcomes.

We need space to process and heal.

We need time to slow down and contemplate why we're doing what we're doing.

We need to infuse our energy actions and choices with the energy of clarity,

Connection,

And harmony for each other and the planet.

We are not going to do that by going quicker,

By pushing harder.

Right?

That's how I feel.

Slowing down,

Prioritizing relationships,

Going together,

Letting yourself be supported and held by people you trust and love,

Honoring and valuing the space you need to give to yourself so you can feel your love too is very important.

Focusing too much on yourself makes life feel scary,

Daunting,

Overwhelming,

And increases feelings of insecurity and fear.

Coming together,

Prioritizing relationships,

Receiving the love and giving love to yourself that you need and desire is first and foremost the most important step in healing fear with the power of love.

Where in your life are you afraid of connection?

Maybe it's connection to others.

Maybe it's connection to yourself.

Maybe it's connection to the world.

Or maybe it's all of it.

This is what we need to look at.

Where are you afraid of connection?

What parts of yourself are terrified and scared and crying out for attention and love and processing so you can move into deeper connection with a feeling of deeper safety?

And it's hard.

This stuff is important.

I don't hear it being talked about a lot,

But it's important to acknowledge the environment that you're living in as well and have compassion for yourself as you move forward.

If this resonates with you,

To tune into your connection to self,

Others in the world,

To get curious about fear around that,

To hold space,

To process,

To slow down,

To connect,

To feel.

You're working against an energy that's pushing in the opposite direction.

It's important to surround yourself by people that maybe have these same intentions.

It's important to be a part of spaces or groups where this stuff is prioritized,

Such as yin yoga classes.

It's important to not go at this alone,

Right?

It's important to acknowledge the environment that you're in and have compassion for yourself.

It's important to understand that there is a hell of a lot of information and pressure pointing us in a direction to shun our fears,

To judge,

Such as saying that we're self-sabotaging.

It just pushes us lower.

It lowers our vibration and frequency.

We need to have awareness that we're sitting in this environment,

Especially if you're in the West.

As I see it,

This is my belief.

Also,

There's devices,

Right?

I don't consider Instagram social media.

I mean,

Not Instagram.

Sorry,

My apologies.

I do consider Instagram social media.

I don't consider Insight Timer social media because Insight Timer is so pure.

It does so much good for the world.

Instagram,

Facebook,

TikTok,

Snapchat,

All these other algorithms,

YouTube,

One of the biggest underlying drivers of those platforms is to promote anger,

Negativity,

And fear.

This is why,

Because it keeps you on the platform.

If those platforms were promoting positivity,

Sunshine and fucking rainbows every single day,

You would look and be like,

Hey,

That's a nice image.

Okay,

I'm going to go do the rest of my day now.

I feel good.

Cool.

I'm going to put it down.

I'm going to go do the rest of my day now.

That was a nice image.

Thank you,

Instagram.

You know,

Back in the day,

There was those more highlight,

Like nice days,

But those are gone,

Like gone,

Gone,

Gone,

Gone,

Like done,

Gone.

They're out the back door.

They're done.

They're dead.

We now live in a reality where all these platforms promote and incentivize and coerce people into anger and sadness and pain.

Because if you look at something,

And it's some devastating thing,

Some shocking thing,

Something that makes you angry,

You're going to stay on that platform,

And you are going to comment and like,

And you're going to get angry about it,

And you're going to look back at it,

And you're going to go through your day,

And that thought's still going to be in your head about it,

And the emotions are still going to be in your body about it,

And then you're going to tell other people about it,

And then you're going to be like,

Hey,

Do you want to see this really messed up thing that I saw on social media?

Look,

And they're going to be into it,

And now they're commenting on it,

And look,

Look how much they're banking off your time and attention and energy.

Those platforms make money when you look at them.

If you look at a photo on Instagram,

It calculates how much time you're looking at it,

And that money goes directly into the pockets of advertisers and big business.

You sell your presence,

You sell your value,

You sell the deepest,

Most worthy part of you to darkness,

And that's just the truth.

I know that it's a gray area.

There's things to benefit from the platforms.

You do whatever feels right for you,

But it's acknowledging that this is the environment that a lot of people are living in every single day,

And it re-traumatizes those parts of yourself,

And it pushes down all those parts of yourself,

And it distracts you,

And it makes you push forward out of fear.

And it disconnects you from other people,

And it disconnects you from the world,

And it makes you more isolated,

And it makes you more vulnerable,

And it increases your fear.

Right?

Another piece that's a part of this environment is this huge emphasis we have on this hierarchy between people.

It's like,

Oh,

You're better than this person because you have more money,

Or you've been to more places in the world,

Or you've talked to more important people,

Or you've da-da-da-da-da,

And then you are not as worthy,

And you are lower on the hierarchy because you have less,

Or because you don't know certain people,

Or because you haven't been to so many different places.

Right?

This also creates huge amounts of fear and disconnection within our society.

It's important to value people if they have expertise or something.

If you want to have a mentor,

Then you have a mentor,

And you respect them,

And you get what you can out of them.

But the minute that you think that they're more valuable than you are at your core because of whatever,

And you deny your uniqueness,

And you deny your needs and your desires,

Then we got a problem.

The person king of the castle is just as important as the person who sweeps the front of the castle and takes care of the maintenance.

The person driving the garbage truck is just as important as the person making big decisions with a lot of money.

What would happen if all the garbage men just decided,

Oh,

I'm just going to stop doing my job now because,

You know,

I'm undervalued,

And I just,

You know,

I don't matter.

Then what?

Where does everyone's garbage go?

We are so interconnectedly reliant on thousands and millions of strangers that are doing a whole bunch of valuable work every single day.

But society doesn't highlight that.

And it shames it,

And it judges it.

And it has us all chasing for that top seat because apparently that's where love is.

But it's not.

In the small ways I've experienced this,

In the small,

Small ways,

Right?

So I've been teaching yoga for a long time.

I have a bunch of regulars that love to come to my yin classes,

And I've had several people over the years look at me like I'm some spiritual whatever.

And you can tell in the way they talk to me that they think that I'm higher than them or better than them or something.

And it's just inaccurate,

Right?

It's not accurate.

I'm sharing my gifts,

And they have gifts that they need to share as well.

But it's like,

In that moment,

It's like,

Oh,

I'm sharing my gifts,

Maybe your ego or some part of yourself is like,

Oh,

You know,

That's great.

But I don't really feel that way.

It's actually uncomfortable for me because it doesn't feel authentic.

I don't feel like I'm seeing someone eye to eye.

And at the end of the day,

It's like,

That small amount,

Miniature amount of like,

You call it fame or like attention that I get or whatever.

It's like,

It's not me.

Like you have seen such a small fraction of me,

Like the gifts that I'm sharing with the world.

Such a such a small fraction of me,

Like I am such an intricate,

Complicated human with fears and feelings and emotions and desires.

And you don't see any of that.

So you see me in this small way.

It's not like I feel seen.

It's not like I feel truly loved and heard and accepted.

And valued.

It doesn't do it.

It's the people in my life that do it.

It's the people that are close to me that do it.

It's the five,

Five people that I spend the most time talking to about my fears and my worries.

And that's what does it.

And that's what's going to do it,

I believe,

For everyone.

Not getting to that seat somewhere up there when I have X amount of people around me somewhere up there when I have X money and X this and blah,

Blah,

Blah.

So someone can see me in some way and then I'll feel some love.

And I've been through that desire in my life too,

Because you have that conditioning.

But it's not,

It's just not,

It's not the answer.

It's lonely.

People don't see you for you.

They see you for the fraction that you share that you want to share.

And that doesn't feel like what we're craving deep down.

What's important is to pay attention to who's around you,

The close relationships in your life that are not out there for show,

That are not there for attention,

Et cetera,

That are just there for you.

That's where your fulfillment is going to come from.

That's where you're going to get the deepest love,

Is nurturing that,

Forgetting about the likes,

Forgetting about what it looks like to society,

Because it just doesn't matter.

It's interesting to start to contemplate and break down within your mind what messaging and conditioning has come through to you that makes you value certain experiences in life over others,

Or certain jobs in life over others.

The stay-at-home mom is one of the most valuable parts of our society,

Doesn't get paid,

Home alone,

Isolated,

Doing everything they can for their kids.

They're raising the future.

They're putting in the time and energy sitting there,

Reading the bedtime story that's not getting an Instagram like,

That they're not getting paid for.

That is the foundation of what is so important in our society and moving forward,

But they don't get that validation or that attention or that support.

It's important to notice,

Why do I value one thing over another?

Where did that messaging come from?

Do I actually believe that?

What's my authentic truth when it comes to this?

Because we're made to think in a way that pins us against each other,

That makes us feel small and disconnected from other people in the world.

It's bruised fear makes us feel alone when in actuality we're all feeling very similar things and a desperate cry from the cosmos is for us to connect again and to find our way forwards with each other,

To see ourselves in each other's eyes and walk forwards with clarity and courage,

Knowing that whatever happens,

You got me and I got you,

And I'm held and cared for in my path of learning how to love again.

If you want to go fast,

Go alone.

If you want to go far,

Go together.

Last piece here.

It may feel scary and vulnerable,

But respecting yourself first so you have the capacity to respect others is one of the first steps in valuing and honoring the sacred nature of human connection and the deep love,

Trust,

And abundance that is waiting to be accessed there.

Our way forwards is in love,

In connection to ourselves,

Other people,

And the planet.

The more we isolate,

The more we disconnect,

And the more fear we feel.

When anything goes wrong,

You are always,

Always better off with the resources,

Skills,

Insights,

And love of a shared community than you are alone.

Through my experiences,

I learned that my mind loses sense the more time I spend alone and finds clarity and connection with others.

I deeply feel and believe our nervous systems and bodies feel vulnerability of being alone,

And it creates fear.

We are at our core mammals that are born to intimately connect with the earth,

Trees,

Stars,

Sun,

Cycles,

And the moon,

And to hold each other,

To see each other with love,

Care,

And compassion.

Every hardship is easier with the ones you love,

And every joy is more ecstatic with them,

Too.

The richness,

The meaning,

The necessity of falling in love with life and earth all comes from reconnection.

Contemplate.

How much time do you spend away from the natural earth inside,

Indoors?

How many meals do you eat alone or in a hurry?

How many hours of the week do you spend with meaningful quality time with people without electronics?

When was the last time your bare feet were on the earth,

Allowing the soil to neutralize your stress and remind you that you're not alone?

How often do you express gratitude to the people who care about you?

When was the last time you prioritized love?

This is what needs to be focused on.

If so,

Your fearful thoughts will start to unwind.

You will be met with the dissolving of the conditioning that kept you alone.

You will finally find your true self,

And you will be able to move forward.

And yes,

There is a hell of a lot more love and ecstasy and joy and more easy movement through grief and pain accessible to all of us right now,

On the planet,

Right here.

And as you step deeper into this,

You start to feel more energy in your body and more love and more connection and more trust,

More surrender through all of this reconnection to love.

You will be asked to step into your power.

You will have more impact with your energy.

You will feel everything deeper.

And you will be met with the need to surrender,

To allow more love and more ease in and to know that you are worthy of that.

And it's gonna ask you to be more intentional with your choices,

To have stronger boundaries,

To say no when something doesn't feel right,

To have standards to hold the love and the care that you have cultivated.

And in doing so,

You will live more easeful,

More ecstatically,

More joyful.

You will hold a presence and an energy for the world and for other people that they'll be reminded to come out of their isolation.

And you will be a path,

A breathing being for what's possible.

And I hope that for you,

For me,

For all of us,

As we start to soften and nurture the parts of ourselves that are scared,

As we start to express gratitude and prioritize connection,

As we start to slow down,

Ask ourselves why we're doing what we're doing,

And to ultimately move forward in this path of love that will melt all fear into eternity.

Reviews

This resonates so much with the journey I’ve been on these last couple years. I love the teaching around how we can learn to embrace, care for and learn from the parts of us who in the past we may have tried to get rid of, been pissed off with or hated. It reminds me a lot of IFS, a therapy I’m getting trained in.

Thankyou for doing the deeper internal work that is required to receive this wisdom and for the way you create intentional safe spaces for others to integrate and heal. Your Yin classes help me do much of what you teach in this track so it’s proof you are living out what you are saying.

Dear Laura, grateful for your high vibrational transmission. Deeply resonating with your words' intention, thank you. Sending good wishes with love. 🌻

Powerful, honest, and timely. A soul-nourishing offering.