Understanding Self-Sabotage

In this session, we are going to explore the conscious & unconscious reasons why we may sabotage ourselves. Uncovering and accepting are essential steps to overcoming self-sabotage and being able to go after what we really want & need. Ready to get aligned & be more intentional?

Note: This is a Live Session Recording

Transcript

Welcome guys to another session today we are gonna be talking about a very very hot topic and that is self-sabotage self-sabotage and this is something that I would say probably majority of the people encounter at some time some more of some more than others but in my own life I noticed myself self-sabotaging what I really want to be doing because deep inside there is something that it's preventing me from taking action there is something that is causing fear it's causing stress it's causing anxiety it's causing a strong emotion that is it's very uncomfortable to be with so sometimes I would say majority of the times when we are doing self-sabotage we are somehow unconsciously trying to protect ourselves from what we perceive can be dangerous what we what we perceive can be yeah can be a threat so today I really want to have a conversation with all of you about self-sabotage I really want to get curious about it why why do we self-sabotage when is it happening how can we bring it from that unconsciousness into the consciousness into how can we become mindful of it how can we start noticing it and then what are we going to choose to do instead once we are aware of it I would like to talk about the steps that I personally feel are necessary from everything that I have read from my own personal experience from my experience of helping others and what I have seen and witnessed what are the steps that we need to take in order to to be able to overcome this pattern that we may be falling into okay so before I would like to ask you guys do you notice yourself self-sabotaging in a specific area of your life and I'm happy to share some examples of my own experience but are you guys aware of a specific situation where you notice that you are self-sabotaging yourself and I know it takes a lot of courage to share that and I know it takes a lot of awareness and it is okay if you don't but I would like to to know where are you guys at have you noticed any self-sabotaging patterns in your own life Anne HH says handling paper hi Damian you are new here thank you for joining yeah so handling paper so Anne why would you say that you self-sabotage yourself handling paper and how does that show up in your life and what what did you get out of self-sabotaging yourself because we always get something out of it Becca says hi is self-sabotage the same as self-bullying so Becca I will say that self-sabotage is when you consciously or unconsciously you do something to prevent yourself from taking action in something that feels scary something that you may feel that your mind your brain may feel like can be a threat so you are basically avoiding doing something and you do something else instead that is self-sabotaging yourself self-bullying it's more about the negative self-talk that you engage in when maybe self sabotage is happening so self-bullying can happen parallel to self-sabotage but it can also happen any other time you don't have to self-sabotage yourself in order for to practice self-bullying self-bullying it's basically negative self-talk about something that you don't like about yourself and that also really important to become aware of it when is that happening and how can you stop doing that because that's not very nice to yourself and also what is underneath that self-bullying why do you do you find yourself self-bullying and what are what is underneath that what is the emotion what is the pattern that is running your behavior in that specific moment and it's a it's a great opportunity for you to explore and heal and process and learn more about yourself Sherry says in eating well in relationships avoiding an activity versus negative self-talk so Becca that's a question avoiding an activity versus negative self-talk yeah so that can be related to each other but sometimes you may be avoiding a specific activity and maybe the self-talk is not happening sometimes you may be avoiding a specific activity and you may be saying there you are back again doing the same thing you are worthless blah blah blah that I hope that's not the case but it's it's worth being curious about it is worth understanding and using your metacognition executive functioning skill to really be present with yourself in the present moment and notice what's running are you self-sabotaging are you negative self-talking are you what are you doing and what is the pattern that is running you and try to become an observer of your own mind an observer of the own behaviors and patterns that are running you in that specific moment and the more you can detach yourself from those patterns the more you will be able to start accepting them understanding them embracing them and then start transforming them into something different not doing paper stuff like my taxes so Erin says knowing that I have already been putting something off makes it easier to avoid it yet again yeah Erin of course it does because it feels more more familiar more comfortable it's more certain and we're gonna be talking about certainty and uncertainty and the relationship with self-sabotage and the unknown because there is a very big relationship there yeah you you says I live for work at the last possible moment because I tell myself I can accomplish one more task yeah so guys thank you for thank you for sharing all your examples races all the time Wow all the time that's interesting let me see there is one more Susie says I purposefully fight going to sleep which ensures that my following day is going to be very difficult because I am exhausted and sometimes can't even drive yeah Susie that's great awareness and yeah that's that's a great example too so so some examples from my own life that happened like a couple weeks ago I I do kite surfing and I went to Fuerteventura in the Canary Islands and I have this thing with kite surfing that I think I overcame in this trip but I was noticing it every time I went to the beach I was feeling this anxiety I was feeling this tension in the pit of my stomach I was sweating my breathing was shallow and I was all my brain I was noticing myself always looking for excuses not to go and try kite surfing and I was honest I was really trying to understand why am I trying to self-sabotage myself here all the time with something that I truly want to do and then the more I was thinking about it the more I realized the reasons why and in my own example of this specific example there were a few things that were happening one I was afraid of having an accident and I was afraid of what happens if I have an accident with a kite something happens I hit myself I have an accident and then I am not able to be a dad for my daughter I am not able to be a good husband for my wife and it felt selfish to do that activity because it was risky that's one another one and I realized that later it's like wow I don't really trust my gear because there was something that wasn't functioning I didn't quite understand how the self-release safety mechanism was working in my kite and I didn't I couldn't have anyone help me figure that out so as soon as I got help from someone that knew and helped me go through the process and I understood and I trusted my gear then I feel more confident and the other one was that I needed a little bit of support the first times and I wasn't allowing myself to do that so those are three examples of why I was noticing that I was looking for excuses the weather is not good there is no one on the beach my kite is not gonna work well etc etc and deep inside I really wanted to do it but I was self-sabotaging myself okay another example of with regarding home organization a self-sabotage behavior that I saw in a client a few months ago deep inside she was afraid of what's gonna happen once I finish decluttering and my home is organized then her fear was I will have no excuses so that I have to do what I want to do in life and doing what she wanted to do in life included showing up included starting something new that she didn't know if it would work and basically she was opening herself up for failure she was opening herself up for what other people will say about her how other people will view her maybe some people will criticize her for what she was doing new that wasn't doing before and then deep inside she was feeling fear about confronting that uncertainty there was some some piece of like I don't think I'm good enough to do that who am I to claim space to do that etc so there were a lot of underlying reasons of why deep inside she didn't want to confront that reality of having an organized home and then she had time and energy to invest in those new things so deep inside and consciously of course she will not declare her home she will not finish organizing her home because that was her defensive mechanism to keep herself safe so until she was able to confront all those excuses all those reasons all those beliefs that she had in her head she wouldn't be able to move forward with organizing physically her home and this is another example of the deep relationship between your mental and emotional health and your physical belongings so this is another example of how noticing what was present and covering all those things allow her to then make a choice like what do I want to do is this new thing that I'm trying to do really what I really want to be doing and if yes then you have to be courageous to take the leap you have to step into that uncertainty into the unknown and start creating what you want and yes you're gonna feel anxiety and yes you're gonna feel fear and yes it's gonna feel very uncomfortable but it is your choice you want to choose to do that so at the end of the day it's so important to start taking ownership of your own choices start taking ownership of what you truly want and start taking ownership of what you are currently doing because you are doing it and it can be consciously or unconsciously but you need to be willing to come to the present moment you need to be willing and courageous to look at the reality of your life now the reality of the specific situation that you are trying to stop that self-sabotage if that's what's happening you have to be courageous and curious and and engaged in the process of I want to change this I want to transform this and if you don't want to then you have to be get clear with yourself say I don't want to do that and that is my choice and then stop self-sabotaging you are choosing not to do it intentionally consciously and then just remove it from your life and move on with something else so that those are the choices that you have right so Anne says it's an old procrastination self-sabotage yeah I am gonna share a few ways of how do we get into that self-sabotage and how does that self-sabotage show up procrastination absolutely it is a way to self-sabotage yourself sometimes because when you are procrastinating something you are keeping yourself safe you are avoiding a specific task because doing that task there is something in doing that task that makes you feel uncomfortable maybe there is an emotion that you want to avoid maybe there is a communication with someone else that you want to avoid maybe you are afraid that you're not gonna be good enough and then you rather avoid failing by not even getting started maybe your task completion executive functioning skill about that task the definition of completing that task is so humongous so big that you feel overwhelmed and you don't know how to get started and you know that whatever you do is not gonna be good enough and then you just avoid doing it perfectionism could be another way of self-sabotaging yourself you and this happens in my life a lot and I noticed my perfectionism mindset so many times and I am taming it now I am forcing myself to take action sometimes imperfect action just to practice that muscle of not everything has to be to my high expectations sometimes I need to finish things I need to ship things fast I don't want to spend a lot of time and then this is your choice so perfectionism is one procrastination is another one avoiding conflict can be another one disorganization as I shared in that example sometimes staying disorganized can serve as an excuse that allows you to stay where you are instead of taking action and leaping into that new thing that you really want to create but when you are disorganized you have an excuse you have a reason to stay where you are at and of course you are going to self-sabotage yourself to don't get organized because if you get organized then you have to face whatever you need to face that is scaring you and then a way for you to self-sabotage is to stay disorganized another example is a physical clutter just having clutter around it's the same as being disorganized another one is having a pessimistic point of view another one is a negative self-talk people pleasing when you are pleasing others many times you are people pleasing because you are avoiding a conflict you are avoiding a conversation and that can be a form of self-sabotage controlling controlling having the need to control everything can be a form of self-sabotage because when you want to control everything to the way you want things done to the way that you understand you don't leave any room for the unknown you don't leave any room for something new to come into your life and I am guilty of that sometimes I notice that I am so rigid and I want something done in such a specific way and then I realize wow I'm not allowing anything else to flow into my life in this specific scenario because I have a box like this big and that's it I don't allow anything else to flow in there so that can be a form of self-sabotage nothing new can come because there is no space for it I am not willing to create that space so what else feeling not good enough sometimes we don't feel good enough we feel that we don't deserve what's about to happen to us what we want to create it feels I don't deserve that so you are going to avoid it you are going to self-sabotage in so many different ways okay so this is just some examples but I want you guys to really understand that every situation okay every every life experience that each of you is living it's gonna look different okay these patterns are gonna show up in a different way for each of you that's why it's so important and that's why I have a full course on executive functioning skills and one of those skills is metacognition metacognition is the skill that allows you to be present and as I was saying before one of the first steps is to really recognize and notice when that self-sabotage is happening you have to create that capacity to be present but separated from yourself and then it's like you are watching your mind thinking it's like you are watching yourself acting it's like you are watching yourself feeling but you are kind of sitting on a couch watching yourself like in a movie and you are noticing Wow Emilio there you go you wanted to to come and do kite surfing you are on the beach and there you are trying to find an excuse not to get there and start sailing there you go that's Emilio again the protagonist of this movie trying to do the same thing again because he's scared and then when you start noticing and you start becoming aware and then you start accepting the reality okay I am feeling this way I am feeling fear I am feeling anxiety I am feeling like I will make a mistake and if I make a mistake those people over there are gonna laugh at me and that's gonna make me feel that I'm not good enough and that's a childhood when I have so I understand what's happening and then I question myself do I still want to go and do kite surfing yes I do is it risky absolutely but I choose to do it so you have to notice you have to become aware okay of those behaviors and then you have to start recognizing the triggers what are the triggers that you notice that when they happen it sends you into self-sabotage that can be a sound that can be a sentence that can be a specific location that can be a specific task that can be a comment from someone a ton of voice what is it what are the triggers that when that happens you go back to somewhere and a pattern start repeating itself this happens a lot without trauma anytime a very emotionally charged experience happen to you you have those triggers that when you when you when they get activated you're gonna go back to that experience that that's that's going to condition how you feel in the present moment and many times that's going to engage with self-sabotage because you don't feel safe okay you don't feel safe understanding the order underlying emotions and beliefs that you have in your head that are driving you in the present moment and then questioning those beliefs so first you have to become aware and notice them you have to notice well what's happening okay this was the trigger okay this this is coming because I had that experience and I feel this way wow I am feeling anxiety wow my heart is pounding wow like I have something in the pit of my stomach I am sweating but I still choose to do this so how can you push forward right how can you start questioning the beliefs that you have the stories that you are telling yourself and then how can you recognize them and then yes I understand that this story is telling me that this is unsafe this story is telling me that I may fail this story is telling me that I'm not good enough but I still choose to keep going okay so you see where I'm going here so you are being present with everything that's happening and at the beginning it's gonna be very uncomfortable very confusing and you won't be able to get to the bottom of it and that's okay this is a process every time you notice it it's an opportunity for you to go deeper and deeper and deeper and then it will get to the point where you are going to start building capacity presence awareness acceptance forgiveness you're going to start forgiving yourself you're going to start forgiving others you're going to start forgiving what happened and you're going to start disconnecting energetically from all those events that happened in the past that are conditioning how you act now and then you are going to start finding new empowering ways okay new empowering ways that they're gonna look different to what you have been doing until now so that is how the process can look like okay but you have to really understand your beliefs you have to understand your values you have to really get clear on what is it that you truly want what is it that you truly want to be doing and then there is a sentence that I got from I can't remember where I got it from but basically it says I want to blank but I keep doing blank and I invite you to really think about this I want to blank but I keep doing blank and then really think about that and try to apply that sentence to each situation in your life when you notice that you really want to do something different but you find yourself always repeating the same pattern and you are noticing that most likely you are self-sabotaging yourself and then with curiosity with compassion with an open heart you will look at the situation and you will be honest with yourself I want to kitesurf in my example but I keep finding excuses not to do it okay so what is your sentence if you want to type an example in the chat I would love to read some of the examples if you are brave enough to do it I want to but I keep doing okay so let me see t3 says hi Emilio can you clarify some ways or steps to address these self-sabotages okay so let me and Erin says I find myself constantly responding to my six-year-old son's wants and needs I want to set a boundary and be able to communicate that mommy is busy right this minute I sometimes don't initiate a task because I know I will be interrupted Erin and then I'll go back to t. Erin I find myself in there with my daughter she's four years old and so many times it takes a lot of time and presence and patience to set that boundary to make it clear that she understands it so there are many different strategies that I have found that work one strategy is I use a timer and I set that timing and I tell her like a puppy's gonna be busy doing X this much time when the timer goes off what would you like to do with me and then I get her excited but then she knows that she has to wait another one maybe I have a treat and I say Eva you want a treat okay so I will give it to you if you let me do this task for like X minutes so I try to like really find a way that she's excited that she respects that she understands and then this is something that you have to nurture I notice that the more I do it the more she learns how to respect that the more that she learns how to accept that boundary and then the more that she is willing to do it so that's that's that and then Anne what are what are some of the steps like a wrap-up so first you have to recognize you have to become aware okay if the first step is becoming aware and noticing that you are you may be self-sabotaging yourself okay so you have to be curious you have to be courageous enough to like be honest and you have to be in the present moment you need to use your metacognition executive functioning skill to be mindful to be in the present moment noticing what's happening in your brain and noticing what you are doing okay once you are detached and you can become aware and notice it then you have the opportunity to process to explore to question why am I doing this where is this coming from where did I learn this who told me that is it true do I still choose to do what I want to do regarding of this resistance that I'm facing what are some options that I have in front of me that I can do instead so just really accepting processing and then hopefully you start forgiving yourself for what you have done forgiving others that maybe told you that story that is not true anymore so you disconnect energetically from whatever happened to you and then you are in the present moment choosing to move forward in a different way so that is like you become aware you accept you process you forgive you do whatever you need to do to get clear to feel clear about it and then that's when you are going to start choosing something different you start taking ownership of your choices I want to keep doing that I don't want to do that this is relevant in my life this is not relevant in my life I am facing resistance I am facing fear I feel this this and that and that is true for me right now and I'm not willing to move forward right now I need to be here for a little bit more because I'm not ready so then on that that's that's where you are at and that's okay I'm perfect and then you will know when you are ready to move forward sometimes this process can take more or less time depending on the person depending on the triggers that you are experiencing depending on what you are trying to do the journey of healing the journey of processing can look very unique and different for each of you so you need to honor that you need to honor that pace and you need to really trust your intuition your inner guidance because you are the best person to heal yourself you are the best person to notice your self-sabotage and yes you can ask for support and help yes you can go and see someone absolutely but don't forget that you have the power that you have the knowledge you know yourself best no one knows you better than yourself so don't give your power away okay use it and then after that really noticing like start exploring those all the patterns that we talk about the procrastination the perfectionism people pleasing not feeling good enough feeling that you are not worthy feeling anxiety of making mistakes feeling afraid of the unknown the uncertainty needing to control things to a specific way if not it's not good and you won't accept it so all those rigidity patterns that you may notice in yourself start questioning them start trying something different start recognizing that whatever you have done until now maybe it is not serving you anymore in the past you created those because they were protecting you and maybe you didn't know better maybe you didn't know any other strategies but now you have other strategies you have other ways of doing it but you have to relearn and you have to make a different choice and you have to be present with that choice so that it becomes a new habit okay so yeah I want to be open with my partner but I don't say what I need to say I start thinking of the results of mine and I give excuses why not to talk right then and there yuckling that is me with my wife so this is my pattern my mom she avoids conflict she goes with the flow she doesn't inconvenience anyone she doesn't want to be a burden so she follows my dad he doesn't express anything he wants the things to be done his way and he doesn't have a lot of emotional communication so he goes to frustration like this and you have no idea why he said what happened you were right and all the sudden you flip and you are in frustration and you are being mean to me so this is Emilio this is me something happens with my wife and I am my mom I try not to say anything I try not to inconvenience I don't want to take space I don't deserve it I'm not good enough but then when I got enough I switch that switch and I become a mean person frustrated I elevate my voice my body language changes and my wife is like what the hell has happened and then she she confronts me and says Emilio you have to talk you have to voice out what you are feeling you don't have to you can't let things build up until you explode because then you disconnect from your heart and I can't feel you anymore and I am trying to change that that is my pattern right and then I tell her like it just feels wrong to do that it feels wrong to stop you interrupt you and claim the space that I need because it feels that I am being selfish it feels that I don't deserve it it feels that that you don't want it and I am a burden to you but if I don't do that if I don't learn how to do that with her I just flip to that frustration because my needs are not being met because I am frustrated but I didn't use the new strategies that I know now to stay connected with my heart to speak out my truth to communicate clearly to call a dialogue that we do dialogues where we express what happened we express what we need in a safe way and that is a pattern that I see myself reflected so Jacqueline you are not alone but this is an opportunity for you to really think about what can I do different how can I move forward in a different way why am I self-sabotaging myself with this communication piece what am I trying to avoid what do I feel that feels so charged and so uncomfortable that I don't want to go there and how can I start touching that piece in a way that feels safe in a way that is not too intense and then I start carving and carving and practicing and gaining capacity so that I can change eventually and I can become someone else in a different way do this connect from your heart was a good good morning from Ecuador hi Steffi yeah I honestly I do disconnect from my heart because I just feel so charged I feel so unheard and I feel so unsafe that I need I protect myself and this is what I see because that's what my dad does he cannot clearly communicate what he's feeling in the process of he builds up builds up builds up and all the sudden he is a wall he is mean he is demanding he has no compassion because he didn't learn how to do that my grandfather was the same way so I can't blame him I visualize him as a little three-year-old and every time I do that I have so much compassion for him because I understand that what no one did that for you no one modeled that for you so how are you gonna model it for me but now I have the opportunity that I am learning all these things I have other support I have seen this model to me in a different way so now it's my opportunity to model that back to him and stop that generational trauma from happening again with my daughter that makes sense cannot express so then a blow-up yes wish I could teach my adult kids to think about this tea you can try there are so many techniques now there is tapping there is intentional dialogue there are so many many different techniques that you can try so that your kids will learn how to self-manage how to process emotions how to clearly communicate how to be respectful and how to stay connected with with their hearts when they are frustrated because that that's my challenge when I am frustrated to me it doesn't feel natural to keep my heart open because I'm gonna feel I feel like I'm gonna get hurt and I have to protect myself but then my wife she feels that I am NOT in my heart she feels that I'm not connected so she feels unsafe and then she will protect herself and then all the sudden we can't not communicate we cannot express what we need because it's unsafe so that's why we started doing intentional dialogues because we both come to that dialogue with the intention of creating a container of safety for both of us and then inside that container where we both feel safe we then can express the reality of what we are feeling even if it's ugly we can express it in there and we can both hold space for each other and then we can do something with it but before it was just a blow-up and then a fight and then very difficult to get back to connection right yeah thank you see I do have a recorded session about in imago dialogue or intentional dialogue that you guys can can listen to and I actually model a dialogue with my wife Samantha you can see both of us what you can listen to both of us doing a dialogue and you can see how it works but you can also find you can also find a lot of videos on YouTube also if you want to learn more about yeah so guys we are almost at the end of the session so what did you get out of this session what did you learn what are you going to do now that you have this information and have you become aware of any other self-sabotage patterns that are happening in your life I would like for you to use the chat if you want to share something and then while you do that the last thing that I have on my note it's for you to start taking action step by step action can look different for each of you ask for help when you need it okay request the support that you need speak up for yourself and be aware that sometimes the expectations versus the reality can be very different and it's just very different so if you have high expectations and the reality outside doesn't reflect your expectations it's very easy for self-sabotage to happen because it's very they are very different so that's why you have to really question your expectations you have to really question the way you feel the way you look at the reality because the reality out there is it is what it is and your expectations can be really high really low but if they are very disconnected from how the reality really is it's very easy for you to avoid confronting that reality because it's gonna be painful and uncomfortable so that can also create a lot of self-sabotage patterns yes Steve thank you say have done imago with Harvey Hendricks amazing work yeah amazing he has wonderful books that you guys can read thank you Amelia I'm going to explore the areas where I feel like I am stuck your talk has helped me very much thank you you are welcome Julia thank you Christina says I am going to be more patient and compassionate with myself I know my pattern of not speaking and I am working on it one step at a time amazing Christina I really I really relate to that because that's my work too Steve says thank you for sharing about your parents and how they act versus communication so my own situations yeah amazing he's a super helpful I have some important things to discuss with one of my kids and I see how I can approach it more easily amazing thank you for your donation Becca yeah guys remember that majority of the work that is going to create the majority of the experiences that are going to create self-sabotage patterns they may come from infancy they may come from when you were a child it's what's called inner child trauma so be aware that some of those have been with you for a really long time and doing the work of going back there noticing what happened changing that story changing those beliefs creating new ones it can be very daunting it can be very very emotional so just be gentle with yourself and you are amazing just the fact that you guys are here watching or listening to this it's an amazing step forward Emilio thank you for sharing this portion of healing it felt important to step into places of embracing those vulnerable places with twin I love the point of how we are vital to our own healing process yeah Patricia thank you for the reminder we do have a lot of power we do have a lot of healing capabilities and it's important that we keep the power for ourselves we can ask for help but we are our own masters we are our own healers and we know best what we need so it's really important to keep connecting with our inner guidance with our intuition in whatever way feels good to you so stay connected with that and then trust it start taking the steps that you feel you need and I promise you that you will start noticing a path unfolding in front of you and you don't need to have all the answers you don't need to have all the steps you don't need to know what the destination is just one step at a time think about what is the next available step that I have in front of me and then take that one and the next one will reveal itself after that's what I do many times I just take the next step and I don't know what the next one will be but what me taking that next step that is available for me and I have I have the capacity to take then everything else starts unfolding after slowly and then everything starts flowing and it's like wow if I didn't take that step these new steps will not wouldn't show up so that's why the work is always consistency being in the present moment following your inner guidance your intuition and always take the next available step that you have that you feel is the right one for you Erin says inner child trauma is something I am trying to really work on and be patient while I heal and work towards reclaiming my power yeah Erin it's it's so it's so connected we are people and we learn about the world and we learn how to express love we learn how to communicate everything that we learn about life we learn it in the first years when we were born and up to like five six years old so of course everything was our blueprint of the world of ourselves was created in those early years and was created by the people who raised us was created by what we saw in our environment and it's very ingrained that's why it's so difficult sometimes to even see it because it became unconscious and now we have to go back there and we have to really assess what what happened how is this serving me now what do I need to change and always being very very gentle yeah so guys thank you so much for being here I have to go because my wife and I we have to give a talk to a group this is a Spanish time and we are giving it to Canadian time so it's happening in half an hour yeah thank you so much for your presence guys thank you as always for being here if you have any questions please use the circle it's called your thriving lifestyle and if you are listening or watching to this recording in any other platform please share a comment give me a like share your experience and let me know how can I support you further and if you have any topics that you would like me to cover in the future also share them with me because I'm always looking for topics that are relevant to you guys okay amazing so guys thank you so much I really appreciate your support with the donations also but the most important piece as always is your presence and your beautiful energy that allows for this container to be created with all of us right now 228 people so that I am so blessed to have all of you here and I hope that this session helps you in your journey of uncovering that self-sabotage getting curious about it process it transform it into something beautiful that you really want and hopefully you can start moving forward into whatever you want to move forward and you start noticing that resistance and instead of feeling charged about it really embrace it with love integrating your life learn from it and then move forward with the wisdom that you are going to get out of the process of uncovering processing and overcoming that resistance that's what's called post-traumatic wisdom okay so I hope that you get a lot of post traumatic wisdom in your life amazing guys thank you so much and I will see you on Thursday if you can tune in at the same time same place okay adios

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Very insightful, Emilio. Thanks for putting this up🙏🏻❣️ Timely for me in moving forward. 💝