The Cost Of Inaction (Live Session Recording)

What happens when you don't make a change, that deep inside feels aligned to you? How much does your inaction cost you physically, emotionally, financially, mentally? If you are looking for ways to get out of your comfort zone and start making intentional changes, then this session is for you.

Transcript

Hello,

Hello,

Hello.

Happy Thursday,

Everybody.

Thank you for being here today with me.

Hi CJ,

Hi Susan.

Hope you guys are having a good day.

Maybe you are starting your day or maybe you are already half day pass.

I'm at 4pm here in Barcelona.

So my name is Emilio Jose Garcia.

For those of you who may be new to this session,

Hello from New York City.

Hi Warrior,

Hi Susan,

Hi Liz.

Is anyone new to this live session with me?

Is this your first live session with me?

I just want to know.

I'm curious.

Yeah,

So as I say,

Second time.

Yes,

Hi Tom.

How are you doing?

Warrior,

First time.

Thank you for being here.

Yeah,

So my name is Emilio Jose Garcia and since 2012,

My passion has been helping others create more intentional lives.

And thank you,

Tom.

I'm good too.

So happy to see you here.

Yeah,

And I'm so passionate about sharing this on Inside Timer.

I discovered Inside Timer last January.

So it's been less than a year.

And I found I find this community so engaged and so amazing so that I put all my energy into this for the last few months.

I've been doing live sessions every week,

Twice a week.

I have three courses.

Yes,

My third course is already published.

Today I received an email and it's live.

So for those of you who are new,

I just want to let you know that I have three courses now published on Inside Timer that you can check.

Okay.

Hi Gilbert.

Hi Amy.

Hi Vicki.

Thank you so much,

Amy.

So the first course that I created was a 10-day course about self-care where you will learn amazing strategies that are very simple and very doable to take care of your self-care,

How to create your self-care list,

And how to remind yourself to practice self-care and how to find the time and how to say no and all those cool things.

So that's a 10-day course.

The 14-day course is about minimalism,

How to embrace minimalism in every area of your life.

Okay.

That's going to show you how to understand minimalism and how to actually put minimalism into practice.

And the topic of today is the cost of inaction.

We're going to be touching on all those areas,

Like the intention behind things that we decide to do or not to do and becoming aware.

And when we are becoming aware,

All the emotions that come up,

How to deal with them,

Right?

How to deal with them in a healthy way.

That's why that first self-care course is very important.

And the third course that I created is a 30-day course.

Yeah,

I went from 10 to 14 to 30.

And let me tell you that that 30-day course was a lot of work,

Way more than I expected.

But I am very happy that you guys helped me a lot.

You guys helped me with the layout.

I shared that in my circle.

I do have a circle on Inside Timer that you can check.

It's called Your Thriving Lifestyle.

I saw you,

CJ.

Thank you so much for your support.

I actually responded to your message already.

Yeah,

So that course is called How to,

While creating your peaceful and clutter-free home.

And that's just 30 days of diving into how to eliminate clutter from your home and how to create the home that you always wanted.

Okay,

So I'm so happy about that.

And this week also happened while I'm on vacation here in Barcelona that my workshops are live.

So if you guys are interested in joining,

I have two workshops coming up,

One in January and one in February.

So they are on my profile.

You will see workshops in there and then you can learn more about them.

They are about minimalism and unintentional living.

There is one that is a two-day workshop and the other one is a five-session workshop.

So you will see the pricing,

What's included.

And if you have any questions about that,

Just let me know here or in any of the other lives that I do.

Yeah,

They are Zoom.

So that's the beauty of workshops.

We are doing Zoom.

So you guys are going to be on video if you want to and you can participate,

You can ask questions and I share some theory,

But I'm going to make it more about the engagement with the people who are in their life and opening up for questions for specific examples.

And it's going to be very,

Very interactive.

I have done over 150 talks now.

So I have been learning more and more how to do this more engaging and I love doing the Zoom ones because you guys have the opportunity to participate.

Okay.

So all that good stuff happened this week and I'm so excited because I am in Barcelona on vacation.

I normally live in Canada.

I am from Barcelona,

From Spain originally,

But since 2012 I lived in Canada and I always do my sessions from there.

So this is the first time that I'm doing them from Barcelona and everything is happening while I am on vacation.

So it's so beautiful.

So thank you for being here guys.

So today's topic,

It's all about the cost of inaction.

Okay.

And what does that mean?

That means that so many times we feel that we,

We need to do something or we feel that we want to do something,

But we just don't take action.

We just don't get started.

And sometimes it's important to really understand what,

What's,

What's this inaction costing me?

Okay.

That's me.

I think we all can say that we are choosing inaction so many times.

Okay.

And sometimes inaction is good.

Okay.

And this is something I want to start by this.

The most important thing is that we all connect with ourselves in whatever way we feel comfortable doing that.

Inside Timer is a beautiful platform to explore different tools.

My self-care course is a,

It's an example of learning different tools like meditation,

Affirmations,

Mirror work.

There are so many things our bodies can,

There are so many things that you guys can do to connect with yourself,

To be in touch with what you really want so that you start creating the things that you want to see in your life,

That you start setting the intention that you want,

Because if you don't choose what you want,

Life,

Other people are going to choose for you.

And majority of the times you are not going to like what's coming out of that.

It's not going to be something fulfilling.

It's not going to be what you truly want.

And that's why it's important to check in with yourself first.

And then when opportunities arise,

You can choose to take action or to say no.

And this is something very important.

Sometimes inaction is good.

Sometimes say no to something that is going to drain you.

It's good.

Sometimes taking the time to be intentional,

Become aware of what you are up to and prioritize and focus your energy in one or two things temporarily and say no to the rest.

It's good.

But some other times,

Say no to something or not taking action on something that we know it's going to be good for us,

That we feel it's going to be good for us.

That's not good.

That's going to have an impact in our life.

Okay.

So are you guys understanding what I'm trying to say here by the cost of inaction?

You guys want to share examples of when you find yourself not taking action on something that most likely is going to be good,

But you just find yourself just procrastinating.

I will be happy to see what you guys share.

And I'm happy to share some of mine too.

Okay.

I'm happy to share some of the ones that show up for me.

The ones that I choose not to do something about and the ones that I know I am procrastinating.

So Amy says,

Yes,

Not writing my book.

So embarrassing still.

Okay.

You are afraid to fail.

So that's a cause,

But what are you not doing CJ?

What are you not taking action on because you are afraid to fail?

Exercise.

So Lisa says exercise.

That was me during COVID.

I normally play squash.

I love playing squash.

And I just had a hard time exercising during COVID because I was procrastinating,

Low motivation.

Yes that's a reason of why you don't do something.

But what are you not doing because of lack of motivation?

Starting my own business.

Meryl,

Amazing.

What are you trying to create?

I am curious.

This says inaction around my exercising.

Yeah.

Exercising.

That was me during COVID.

I had a hard time staying active because I love playing squash and that's my favorite sport and I couldn't do it.

Sleep discipline,

Not getting enough,

Stay up too late.

So for you Dave,

You are trying to create a healthier sleeping routine,

Right?

And you just,

You are not taking action on creating that.

Angie says spending too much time online,

Getting behind with daily chores,

Going to bed too late.

Yeah.

So that's how you find yourself.

So that's good Angie.

You are aware of it and you want to do something about it,

But then we're going to see why sometimes we don't take that action.

What are the reasons behind that?

Calling my dad in Colombia,

He's Alzheimer's,

It's painful and our history is abusive,

Amy.

So I see lots of red flags in there of why you may choose not to do that.

And as I was saying,

Sometimes it's a healthy boundary of saying no and being inactive.

Sometimes it's not bad,

But sometimes you know deep inside that you,

It's time to do that.

And you are the only person,

I want to tell you that you are the only person who knows when the right time is,

But you just have to take in with yourself.

And so many times we just get busy with life and we don't even take with ourselves to know what is it that we want.

Enthusiasm for everyday life,

For example,

Getting out of my Thanksgiving decorations and dishes for our dinner today.

So that's something that,

Yvonne,

That's something that you would like to do,

But you just feel yourself not doing it,

But it's really important to you.

And it's something that you think you should be doing because it feels good,

But you just don't do it because maybe it's just too much work.

And this is,

Guys,

I just want to say that this is a great opportunity to really become aware of,

Find deeper awareness of why you are choosing what you are choosing.

Sometimes,

As I was saying,

Inaction is not bad because in your case,

Yvonne,

If you are trying to do all that,

But then you find yourself like,

Wow,

I just don't have the time realistically.

And I'd rather do,

I'd rather spend more time with my family.

I'd rather exercise.

I'd rather do other things rather than spending that extra hour decorating my home.

Maybe deep inside,

That's what you really want to do.

But then in the surface,

It seems that you should be doing that because maybe other people will be,

I don't know,

Maybe you are trying to please someone else,

But deep inside,

You know,

Like,

No,

That's not a priority for me.

Or maybe it's the opposite.

Maybe it's like,

No,

I really want to do this.

I'm just procrastinating because the boxes are in the basement behind that box and it's just inconvenient.

And maybe that's an awareness of maybe tackling that area of your home and making it more convenient is what you really need to make that show more inviting.

So again,

This is an opportunity for you to really dig deep and say,

Why am I not doing this?

Considering dating after divorce,

Yvonne,

That must be really hard,

Right?

Because maybe I don't know how your divorce was,

But putting yourself out there,

It's scary.

It's,

It's,

Yeah,

It's scary.

So I understand why you may be procrastinating that,

But deep inside,

Maybe you want to do that.

Maybe you would like to find a partner.

So again,

A huge opportunity for,

To really understand yourself more.

Do it yourself home renovations and moving forward with creating content for my business.

Why would you say best that you cannot do that?

Let's move now.

Thank you so much for sharing guys.

This is,

This is gold.

It's amazing how aware you guys are of,

Of the things that you are not taking action on.

So you really know what you want to do.

Now let's just think about what are the reasons of why,

Why are you not taking action?

What are the really,

The causes?

Like if you start digging deep,

Like why aren't you taking action?

Merel says,

Thanks for your question Emilio.

I want to start my own business around body work,

Therapy,

Meditation,

Helping people to create awareness,

Living a conscious life.

That's beautiful Merel.

That's very beautiful.

So what are you trying to do around that?

Like how do you get started?

And I understand that when I started my own business,

I was very confused.

I didn't know how to do it,

Right?

I didn't know how to get started,

But it seems that you are very passionate about that.

So do you have any idea of how to get started?

Have you decided something?

Feel free to share.

Yvonne says lack of inner motivation and joy.

When we talk about motivation and joy,

I think joy is a result of something that you do and then you actually enjoy doing it.

But that motivation,

It's a,

And I see this when I'm trying to help people,

Right?

Before I start doing something,

I always try to find that thing that when we talk about that,

I see people's faces lifting up.

I see people's eyes opening up and I need to ask sometimes questions.

I need to ask about how's your life?

What do you do?

What are your hobbies?

And then I keep asking,

Asking,

Asking until I see that.

When I see that,

Then I know that that's an entry point.

And consider this as an entry point and there could be different ones.

Okay.

You can have different entry points to find that motivation.

But when you start discovering yourself about first,

Why do you think you need to do the thing that you want to do?

Okay.

Second,

Why don't you do it?

Okay.

And then when you are not finding that motivation,

It's,

It's a lack of clarity of the outcome,

The exciting outcome that you are seeking for.

Okay.

Or maybe you are afraid of not being able to create that outcome.

And that makes you retract.

That makes you procrastinate.

That makes you be afraid of taking action because you are not sure that you are going to achieve what you want and you don't want to fail.

And that's another thing.

You are attached to the outcome too much and you are not letting things flow.

You are not being,

You're not trusting the process.

You are not trusting whatever you believe in to guide you through the process.

Maybe you need to know every single step of the way.

And because that's impossible and because there are so many things that you cannot control,

You just don't get started.

And I find myself in that situation so many times because I am on the perfectionist side,

But I am learning to,

To stop doing that.

I am learning to relax.

I'm learning to just let things flow.

I keep in mind my outcome,

But I don't need to control the how to.

And this happens when I do sessions with people guys.

At the beginning,

I was a little bit anxious because I wasn't sure if I will be able to provide results,

But I learned over the time that if I relax and I just do my best and I just try to find that motivation from people and I find that thing that excites them,

I know the how to always unfolds itself.

And sometimes I tell people like it magically kind of works sometimes.

And I don't know why,

Like why I can't explain it.

And if you asked me at the beginning,

How are you going to do this?

I will not have a plan,

A specific step by step plan to share with you,

But I trust that it's going to get there.

And I trust that whatever happens,

It's going to be the right thing.

And the result has always been good.

So that's a sign that this works.

So detaching yourself from the outcome sometimes is necessary.

Start a blog,

Build material for that book still in action.

So Amy,

Maybe you need to find a different entry point.

Sometimes,

Sometimes we feel stuck with something and sometimes we feel like we are not moving forward,

But deeply we are.

Even if there is no movement outside,

Tangible movement that we can measure,

We are still doing invisible work.

I call it invisible work because you don't see it,

But there is a world that is happening in your mind.

There is a world that is happening with your creativity.

You are linking ideas in your brain.

You're becoming aware.

You are assimilating things.

You are changing your emotional state.

You are doing things inside sometimes that you are not aware of.

Okay.

Gilbert says,

In action,

I was following my dream of living in Europe held back by family concerns.

This is another thing.

And Gilbert,

I don't know what your family concerns are.

And sometimes they are legitimate,

Right?

Sometimes you just want to be close to your family.

I am really far away from my family.

That's why my priority and my intention is always to come here as much as I can.

And that's why I am creating a business that allows me to be flexible because in the future,

I want to be even more flexible and I want to be able to come here for a few months at the time if I can and just work from here.

So that's my intention,

Right?

Because that's important to me.

In your case,

When there are other people involved,

And this is for all of you guys,

When you change people around you,

Some people may not understand what you're doing.

Because if you become a different person and you start doing different things,

Some people are going to be like,

What are you doing?

What is the person that I used to know?

And sometimes like it's normal to lose friends along the way.

It's normal to face resistance.

Okay.

That's normal.

It feels like there are so many small and time sensitive things that cause the bigger chunkier projects to get put off.

Fear of not doing it right.

Best.

So you said it there best.

Fear of not doing it right.

And then you say bigger chunkier projects.

So that's a sign to me that you have projects that are overwhelming to you.

You have projects that taking action is difficult because they are too big.

And sometimes those projects that are too big,

You have to kind of slice them in smaller achievable tasks,

Because if not,

It's very difficult to achieve them.

Okay.

So sometimes that's another reason of why you are not doing it because you are overwhelmed.

Because the project is too big and you are confused about how to get started.

You don't know how to get started.

It's just too big.

I want to downsize and move yet can't get started.

I need to cut by 90%.

No headlooms,

No boxes of mementos or photos.

Want to move only basics.

So Jules,

I don't know how much time you have,

But you can benefit from my course of creating a clutter free home.

90% is a huge downsize.

Okay.

So I would say that 90% letting go of everything.

Again,

If you have done,

If you have done that invisible work already and you are emotionally and mentally prepared to make the decisions prepared to let go of things that you no longer need,

Prepare to face everything that you own and being able to let it go with love and give it away to someone that may need it.

If you have done that work,

I will say that the physical work itself is just a matter of time and you can always hire help.

Okay.

The problem is if you are trying to do the 90% downsize,

But you are not ready physically.

No,

Not physically.

You are not ready emotionally and mentally.

Okay.

So would you say that you are ready mentally and emotionally to make that huge change or would you say that you are still facing emotional attachments,

Overwhelmed and confusion?

Let me know.

I'm just curious to know.

That's a good point.

Changing is scary.

Thinking will it be easy or will it be too hard?

Yeah.

Change is always scary.

Wow.

Thank you,

Emilio.

Yes,

There is tons of invisible work daily.

Yeah,

Amy,

Absolutely.

Invisible work is real,

Guys.

It is real,

Even if you cannot see it.

Can you give examples of questions you asked your clients until you saw their face light up?

I want to write down some of those questions to ask myself.

Yeah,

Amy.

So what I normally do first,

I just want to say that I only work with people who are ready.

Okay.

So my job is to create content and to share,

Share it with the world.

And then people who need my help,

They will find me.

That's how normally it works.

So they are ready.

So when they call me,

They have done some of that invisible work already.

So,

And this is something interesting that happens.

Okay.

When someone refers me to someone else and that someone else don't know who I am,

I have a hard time connecting with them.

I have a hard time understanding what they need.

A majority of the times they are not ready to even to work with me because they don't even understand what I do.

People who kind of follow me or read a blog post from me or come to one of these sessions and they have done work,

They have become aware,

Maybe they took a course,

They are in a completely different state.

Right?

So when they come to me,

It's just easier to,

For me to go inside of their situation.

They are more willing to share.

They are more aware.

They are more willing to try something different because they know that what they are doing is not working.

So some questions that I will ask first is like,

Why are you doing this?

Like do you need to do this?

And why is this a priority?

And there is a few techniques.

One of them is asking the five whys.

You can even ask 10 whys,

But if you ask five whys,

You will dive very deep into something.

For example,

Someone comes and says,

Emilio,

I want to declare my home.

I will say,

Wow,

That's very vague.

So why do you want to declare your home?

And they will say,

I want to declare my home because I,

I feel embarrassed.

Okay.

So why do you feel embarrassed?

I feel embarrassed because I don't want my family to come over because I don't want them to see my mess.

Why don't you want them to see your mess?

I don't want them to see my mess because they will feel or they will think that I am not good enough.

Okay.

Why do you think they will not think that you are good enough?

So you start digging,

Digging,

Digging,

And then if they don't have an answer,

They will think about it.

Okay.

They will think about it.

And if they do have an answer,

Then I will find the deeper reason of why they are doing this.

And once I understand the deeper reason,

You can create a home that is way more intentional than just a clutter free home because a clutter free home without intention,

It's nothing,

It's just when you are creating your clutter free home,

You are setting intentions of the lifestyle that you want to have.

How do you want to feel?

The activities that you want to do.

It's a whole process.

And if you take the course,

You will see that the first 10 or 11 sessions are all about helping you become aware because that's the most important step.

Doing the physical work after it's easy.

It's just a matter of time.

Honestly,

It is.

But that invisible work,

That clarity,

That motivation,

That excitement,

That true intentions that you have inside,

They need to come out because if they don't,

You are going to get started with the process.

You are going to get started moving things around.

You're going to become overwhelmed.

You are going to become fatigued.

You will not be able to make decisions and then you will give up.

That's what happens to everybody that doesn't do the work.

That's why it's so important to become aware.

I have insights already.

Thank you.

Amy,

Amazing.

So just do that five wise technique.

Another technique is to visualize yourself being really,

Really old.

Okay.

Sitting on a chair and then you are sitting on that chair.

You are maybe 95,

A hundred years old,

And then you are looking back at your life and then ask that future self.

That question,

Should I do this or should I not do this?

And then that's going to help you put things in perspective.

Okay.

That's another thing that some people do is like,

What would you do if you knew you would die tomorrow or next week or next month?

And it sounds really harsh,

But when that happens,

When you have a near death experience and these many people can tell you that when they had something that they were very close to dying,

But they didn't die,

They come back of that experience with a completely different mindset.

All of a sudden,

The priorities have changed.

They are different persons.

They will decide different things because they realize how little time we have.

So that's another thing.

If you were to die tomorrow or next month,

What would you do?

How would you use your time?

Right?

And this is not to be irresponsible,

But this is to really put things in perspective.

What's important and what's not for you.

So true.

Really.

I just want my family to be blessed by our home and for my world to be fruitful and helpful to others.

Thinking of the yummy desires.

Yeah,

Best.

So that's something that seems to excite you,

Right?

So that's maybe your intention.

You can create a sentence,

An affirmation that maybe says,

My home is a place where everybody feels blessed or where my family feels blessed.

Anytime they come into my home,

They feel X,

Y,

And Z.

And then my work is fruitful and I am able to help X amount of people.

And so create something that when you read it,

It uplifts you.

It's something that you read and you just feel like,

Wow,

I really want that.

I will do whatever it takes to get that.

And that's what's really important for you.

And then that's when you are going to stop procrastinating.

And then that's when you're going to start taking action.

Okay.

So some of the cost of not taking action in those things that you deep inside know you,

It's going to be beneficial for you.

Just share with me,

What will it cost you?

What's the cost of you not doing something that is going to be beneficial for you?

Just share some of the cost.

I have some here,

But I would like to read yours first.

So Amy says a few techniques for everyone here,

Five way questions,

Right?

A letter to your future self.

Should I do this or not?

And imagine I have a few months left to live.

Thank you,

Amy,

For typing that.

So at what point do you stop holding on to family heirlooms that the younger generations no longer value?

So you mean heirlooms?

I'm not sure about what that was.

That word means,

But are you talking about physical stuff?

Isadora?

Guilt themselves loathing,

My cost,

Lack of meaning and purpose,

Depression.

Okay.

So Isadora says,

So for you,

You are dealing with that physical clutter.

At the end of the day,

It's physical clutter from your family members.

So you have to set healthy boundaries.

In your case,

Isadora,

Your cost is space.

Your cost is frustration.

Your cost is having to deal with things that are meaningless to you.

Things that are not going to facilitate the lifestyle that you want to have.

So it's having conversations.

And this is something that I covered in my new course.

There are a few sessions about that,

How to involve others in the process,

How to say no to things,

How to set healthy boundaries,

How to create a home that reflects the person that you want to become and how to protect it from all these things,

Right?

Because this is,

At the end of the day,

These are expectations from other people placed on you.

And if you don't sit in your place and you don't make those boundaries yourself,

You are going to always be facing those problems.

There is a session in that course only about inheritances,

How to deal with inheritances from family members and how to have those difficult conversations and strategies to actually make that inheritance process easier for everybody,

Right?

So my cost fatigue and lack of sleep,

Not living a better day because of it,

More eating from being tired.

Amazing cost,

Like that's a huge cost,

Right?

You are welcome,

Isadora.

Yeah.

Can you donate the unwanted heirlooms to a museum?

Sometimes you can,

Depending on your,

On the community where you live,

Like you may find places that may be interested.

There are auctions,

There are donation places that are,

You can private sell them.

There are so many different avenues you can explore,

Right?

And that's another topic that I covered in the course,

Like how to give your unwanted items a new life.

And there are so many different avenues that we have used and we have seen great transformation.

So you need to explore your options in your community.

Cost cycle of making some progress,

But not completing the task.

So discouragement.

Amazing,

Savannah.

So you are aware of that.

So you get started,

You make some progress,

But then you don't complete the task and then you give up and then you feel discouraged because you have not finished.

So maybe if you share the specific example of what you are trying to do,

Maybe I can help you out more,

But maybe you can make that project a bit smaller so that you can actually complete that specific task and then you feel well about it.

I don't know if that helps,

But for example,

In my case,

Sometimes I feel overwhelmed with a task.

And then when I start thinking about it,

I realized that the task is too big and lots of things are involved to make that task a reality.

And that's why I am procrastinating and I have unrealistic expectations,

Right?

So try to make a task doable in the amount of time that you have.

And if it's too big,

Try to break it down into different chunks.

Okay.

For example,

Imagine that I am trying to make a YouTube video.

So my goal is to publish a YouTube video and I put that on my calendar.

Sometimes I am a little bit overwhelmed by that because if it's a simple video that I record and publish,

That's fine.

But if it's a video that requires a little bit of work from me,

Then I cannot just put make a YouTube video because that involves thinking about the topic,

Researching the topic,

Thinking about the outline of the video,

Recording the video,

Editing the video,

And then writing a description for the video,

Then uploading it to YouTube.

So it's seven tasks.

So I was saying,

I want to upload a video to YouTube,

But that's not just one task.

That's seven tasks.

And every task is going to require between five minutes and 20 or 30 minutes.

So realistically speaking,

That's a huge task depending on the kind of video.

Okay.

So think about that.

If you are being unrealistic,

If the project is too big,

Just try to make a task that is doable,

A task that you can complete so that you can actually check it and then you feel good about it.

I don't give myself enough time and I seem to be slow.

So Savannah,

That's a time management issue.

Okay.

And you have to be aware of that.

Are you being too hard on yourself because you are trying to do something that it's impossible to do in that amount of time?

Are you being distracted by someone else when you are trying to do that task?

Are you having a hard time to concentrate?

Are you maybe doing the task in an efficient way?

Maybe you can create that task more efficient.

Maybe you can optimize how you do it.

Again,

I don't know what specific task you are talking about,

But maybe that's something that you can improve,

Right?

So Amy says,

When I was in alcoholism,

The cost was a shame-remorse cycle that led to self-hatred.

I think the cost of not writing the book is the same.

So Amy,

So you are very aware of that,

Right?

So some of the costs that I have seen and I have experienced myself are a financial cost.

Sometimes not doing something has a financial repercussion.

Okay.

An emotional cost.

Maybe not doing that thing is actually emotionally affecting you.

Maybe you are having a mood.

Maybe you are not being patient.

Maybe you are feeling frustrated.

Maybe you are not being nice to your family.

Maybe you are not being nice to your friends because that thing is bugging you.

That thing is in your head all day long and you know you have to do it,

But you don't do it.

And that's causing you an emotional cost and a mental cost,

Right?

Sometimes it's a social and family conflicts.

That thing is costing you conflicts,

Right?

Sometimes it's time.

A time cost,

An energy cost,

A creativity cost.

Okay.

And sometimes it's a cost of space.

For those of you who have inheritances and you are confused and you don't have healthy boundaries in there and you are feeling bad about having all that stuff because it's causing you frustration,

That's a space cost.

Some people are paying for storage.

So they have the work of dealing with the storage place.

They have the financial cost of dealing with the storage place.

And then they have that overwhelm of I have to deal with that,

But it's too big and I don't have the time.

And that's a cycle that repeats,

Right?

And sometimes it's a health cost.

Okay.

Sometimes it's a health cost.

So this is yes,

Have to remember every day to break down the job to small tasks.

So this is something that again,

You have to change a habit.

And so far you have done that forever,

Right?

You have always done the same thing.

So how are you going to change that habit?

T,

Feel free to share.

How are you going to make sure that you are going to break down that job into small tasks?

Are you going to create different,

Are you going to write in a piece of paper the project and then maybe write what's involved and then do a time estimation and then you put that in the calendar.

And then when you are realistic,

You will do that task and then you will see how long actually takes me to do this.

And if you say 15 minutes and it takes you an hour,

Then just reflect like,

Do I need to book an hour next time?

Is there anything I can do to make this more efficient?

And then over time that will become a more sustainable process for you.

Okay.

Any other course that you guys can think of that I didn't mention,

Have to use tools.

It's true.

Set the intention each day.

How do you deal with the frustration and overwhelm while trying to do the task,

Especially if it's a big task and long-term.

So Donna,

If you can be a bit more specific,

I can maybe help you out here,

But sometimes when you are feeling overwhelmed,

The best way to deal with overwhelm.

Hi Elena.

The best way to deal with the overwhelm is to simplify things.

So it's a,

I invite people to do a brain dump,

Basically half a piece of paper,

Half a pen,

And then start writing down,

Not the details.

Okay.

Just the big things that are in your head,

A mind map,

A brain dump.

Okay.

Just dump everything in a piece of paper,

And then you see,

You kind of distance yourself from those things.

Keep writing things until you feel complete until you feel like,

Okay,

There is nothing else I can think of.

Everything is in this piece of paper.

Once you read that piece of paper,

I then will help you to connect things.

Maybe two or three of those things kind of relate together,

But then you will have specific areas that are out of your attention,

Things that you want to take action on.

Then I will ask you like,

What's involved with this first one?

How much time would you need to do this on a weekly,

Daily,

Weekly basis?

And I always boil it down to a week.

Try to always put it in a week.

Okay.

And this is something that will help you be realistic.

Okay.

So once you have the different things that you are trying to work on,

And then you have a time estimation of how long each one is going to take you,

Then I will invite you to prioritize what's really important right now.

And what can you put on pause?

Because when you can do that,

If you have 10 things there,

And then you start prioritizing and you only have two main things and you can put eight things on hold because they are really not that important now,

All of a sudden,

Your overwhelm will be reduced by a lot because now you're giving yourself permission to just focus on two things.

Okay.

And then I will invite you to create your ideal week and place those things in your calendar.

So I will invite you to grab a piece of paper,

Look at your week and put in there everything that you are doing.

If you are working,

When you go grocery shopping,

All the main things that repeat weekly.

And then if you have free time that hopefully you do,

That's when you are going to put those things in there.

And that's the process that I follow with people.

And it really works because when I invite them to put it in a week,

That's when the problem arises.

It's like,

I don't have enough time.

I don't have enough time to do all of these things.

So the only way to find the time is to prioritize.

The only time to find the time is to become intentional about what is really truly important right now.

Okay.

What can you put on pause?

What can you let go of and just be intentional with your decisions and then prioritize them and then become more efficient with them.

And that's another thing.

Being productive,

Doing something that you don't care about,

It's not productive.

You have to be productive with the things that are really important to you.

Okay.

So the productivity comes when you have decided what you want to do.

You don't apply productivity to everything in your life if you have not been intentional first.

You have to be an undecluttered first.

I hope that makes sense.

I have the same issues.

Tracking my week is helping me.

It is a step before creating my ideal week.

Yeah.

Tracking your week means that sometimes creating your ideal week from scratch is difficult and overwhelming.

So sometimes I will invite people to track their week,

Especially for those who are really overwhelmed and they have no idea what they are doing.

That means that there is a lack of structure.

That means that there is a lack of awareness.

So the only way for you to become aware is to become aware.

And for you to become aware,

The best way to do it is to actually look at your real week.

And the only way for you to look at your real week is to actually track what you are doing every day for maybe one or two weeks.

And I do this in my journal and I will write 9 a.

M.

I am doing emails.

9 30 I am creating a video.

10 o'clock I am going for a walk.

11 I'm making lunch.

12 to 1 I am playing squash.

So I start tracking my day like 4 to 8 I'm taking care of my daughter.

I don't know.

I start doing that and then when I can see a week,

You will become aware of like,

Wow,

Like I go to the grocery store like five times every week.

Why is that?

Oh,

I'm doing image like 25 times every day.

Is it really necessary?

Or can I batch that into a chunk of time and be more efficient?

You see what I mean?

So you start prioritizing,

Optimizing and some of the things is like,

I don't need to do this.

Boom,

Gone,

Declutter.

Okay.

So that's what tracking your week means.

You are describing my same challenges.

Yeah.

Amy says another course is spiritual.

Spiritual to me means knowing my life has a purpose.

Not taking action,

Cuts me off from my higher powers gift for me.

Amazing.

That's an amazing cost.

And that's such a huge cost.

Probably more important than any other one that I mentioned because that spiritual cost is the most important thing in life.

Money is money.

Time is time,

But that spiritual feeling of that you are not doing what you are supposed to be doing.

It's really bad.

So that's why it's so important to first connect with yourself and see if this is really part of what I am supposed to be doing.

And then yeah,

Feeling spiritual about it.

Feeling that purpose,

That fulfillment is so important.

Thank you,

Amy,

For that.

I knew if I waited,

The answer will come.

Love when I go to bed,

Et cetera.

Yeah.

So guys,

How are you feeling with all this information?

What is the first step to creating a blog?

Too big?

Too big of a step for me.

So Amy,

I will say to create a blog,

There are different things you need to do,

Right?

I will say what is the platform that you are planning on using?

And then I will create a content calendar.

So something like how often are you planning on writing a blog?

That's something that you can sustain and then make a list of the topics and then make a list of the keywords that you are going to use.

And then you can get started.

For example,

In our case,

We get started blogging once a month.

And then once that became a habit,

We started doing it once every two weeks.

And then once that became a habit,

We started doing it once a week.

Okay.

And then that was our goal for like a few years.

And now we are back to maybe once every two weeks,

Once every month,

Because we are doing other things other than blogging.

So for you,

Just set the intention about how often can I write?

What are the topics that I am planning on writing about?

And then create a content calendar.

Make sure that you have enough topics to write about.

And then just be consistent about when you are going to publish those blogs.

That's what I would invite you to do.

I just added your course.

Thank you.

Had some good motivation during the summer and got my closet done,

But then I got off track.

So I know your course is the right step to help me complete.

Yeah,

Bidi,

I hope you enjoy the course,

But there are specific sessions about different areas of your home at the end,

And there is one only about the closet.

So hopefully that will help you out too,

If you still need to do the closet.

Lobi,

Going to read your blog as my first step,

A source of inspiration I love once a month and list topics.

Thank you.

Yeah,

Amy,

Because when you can create,

If you are writing once a month,

You only need 12 topics.

And then what we used to do,

Instead of writing a blog every week,

We used to go,

We used to create trips.

We will call them a bride in T a bride in trips.

Basically my wife and I will go before we had Eva,

We will book a cottage.

So we will go to my family's cottage or something for two or three days.

And our intention was,

I am going to write six blog posts each.

So we had 12.

So in one trip of like three days,

Our goal was to write six blocks each.

Of course we went hiking,

We went,

But then we decided,

Okay,

We are going for three days.

So every day we're going to write two blog posts.

And when we finished,

We're going to go hiking.

We're going to go kayaking.

We're going to go and do these fun things.

But before we have to write two blocks each.

And we did that for the three days.

And by the end of the process,

We had six blocks each.

Okay.

That was 12 blocks.

That was a whole year.

And then when we increase,

Then we had,

We needed 24 topics.

And then when we did that every week,

We needed 52 topics.

So it becomes more and more work,

But you can decide how often you do it.

And that was something fun and playful that we did.

I hope that helps you.

Okay.

So Savannah says,

I imagine what it would be like to have a more minimal environment,

But hesitate to really let go of the possessions.

So Savannah,

Again,

This is not about being minimal,

Or this is not about letting go of things just because of letting go of things.

This is about you becoming clear about what kind of lifestyle do I want to have?

What kind of activities do I want to engage in?

How do I want to feel in my home?

So ask yourself those questions and then analyze what you have around you.

And then you will have more confidence deciding what to keep and what to let go of.

But you need to get clear first on that.

Like if you have a basement,

For example,

And you are planning on exercising at home,

And that is your motivation.

So then you need space to create a gym in there.

You need space to be able to have your yoga mat.

And that's going to be your motivation to do the decluttering and to open up space.

But if you don't have any intention and you just go to your basement and you just look around,

It's going to be very difficult for you to be confident.

It's going to be difficult for you to make the decisions because you need to have a very engaging,

Very exciting outcome in mind.

Okay.

And that will come from becoming aware from really asking yourself,

What do I want?

And for some people decluttering and letting go is not necessary because maybe they can have the lifestyle that they want with the things that they have.

So this only applies for those of you who are frustrated,

Those of you who feel overwhelmed.

You feel that I don't like my home or I don't,

There are things around that don't serve me anymore and I'm back by them.

So that's the kind of people that can benefit from decluttering,

Right?

So sometimes people are forcing decluttering on other people,

But they don't need it.

So just be aware of that.

Okay.

Uh,

Best says I am folding clean laundry that was stacking up and giving away clothes while listening to this amazing best.

Keep going.

Keep going.

I feel so ready.

Excited,

Clear.

I love this.

Amazing Amy.

Um,

Yeah.

So guys,

Um,

How do I,

Uh,

How do I want to feel in my home?

That was the question that nailed it for me.

Yeah.

Sometimes like,

Uh,

Sometimes people,

The entry point for some people is thinking about the activities that they want to engage in.

Okay.

Sometimes for other people,

The entry point is about how do you want to feel in your home?

And that's going to be the motivation that they need to like open their eyes and say,

Yeah,

I want to feel calm.

At the end of the day,

Coming from the office,

I want to come home and just feel calm.

And then I started thinking,

What does calm mean to you?

How do you get that calmness?

What do you need to see to feel calm?

You know what I mean?

And then I start digging deeper and then I understand the kind of environment that that person needs to bring up that calmness feeling in that person.

For some of the people it's like,

I want to exercise and I want to have my home office.

And that's the motivation for them.

Uh,

So think about those things.

What do you need?

How do you function?

Are you putting value on how you feel?

Are you putting value on,

On the activities that you want to do?

Sometimes thinking about what kind of identity do you want to embrace and then describe,

Describe yourself with one or two sentences,

The ideal you.

And then you just come up with a sentence that describes the ideal you.

And then you repeat that over and over.

And then when you embrace that identity,

Then you look around and say,

Would that person live like this?

What would that person that I want to become do with this?

You know what I mean?

So you are connecting with that person that you want to become.

And then that person is going to decide for you.

I know some people really like that.

So I love my minimal vision.

It is restful.

I often go to monasteries because of the simple environment,

Maybe to prioritize.

So there you go,

Savannah.

So for you having less physical distractions,

Having less physical belongings,

That's what you enjoy.

So I will say that your home needs to represent that for you.

Your home needs to be a reflection of that,

If that's important to you.

So yes,

Maybe you just have to create a home that is so minimal.

But again,

If you want to have a minimalist home,

But you also want to engage in activities,

Then you have to find a happy balance for you.

OK?

I like that,

The ideal me.

Yeah,

Donna,

And I shared some sessions before about books,

Like one book about Julie Morgenstern,

A Marie Kondo book.

Lots of books talk about that,

And this is something that I use a lot with my clients,

Like,

Who do you want to become?

And then when we start thinking about that,

We try to connect with that idea,

Right?

We try to connect like,

I want to become that person.

That was me,

Guys.

Before I started the Inside Timer,

It's like,

I want to become an amazing coach for people.

I want to be a source of inspiration to others.

I want to be excited about what I share.

And no one was following me.

I started from scratch,

But that was my intention.

That was my identity.

And then I kept showing up every week.

I didn't care how many people came.

I kept showing up,

Showing up,

Creating my courses.

And then I started reading comments and reviews,

And that kind of reflected the identity I wanted to create.

And I was realizing,

Wow,

It's becoming true.

People are enjoying what I share,

And I am becoming that person.

And that gave me way more motivation to keep going.

So always ask yourself,

And I was asking myself,

What will that amazing,

Inspiring coach do in this scenario?

Will I do a session when I have no idea how many people are coming?

Will I be upset or worry about me not delivering something good,

Or will I trust the process and just be my best self?

And that's it.

That's the only thing I can do.

I'm just accepting that.

So ask yourself,

Who do you want to become?

And then step into that identity and then ask,

Question yourself,

Question everything that you want,

Question the decisions that you have to make from that perspective.

OK?

As an artist,

The props and things are actually helpful to keep because I work at home.

Otherwise,

I toss out resources.

Yeah,

Amazing.

Yeah,

And then what else do I have here for you?

So we talk about the cost of inaction.

We talked about how important it is to actually decide if you want to take action or not.

And sometimes not taking action is good,

Too,

Because if you have 15 projects and you decide not to take action on 15 projects because it's unrealistic,

That's good.

But then you prioritize and then you embrace the action in the specific priorities that you are doing,

Right?

Can you please list the cost categories quickly again?

Yeah.

So I have you said spiritual,

Amy,

Spiritual,

Financial,

Emotional,

Mental,

Social,

Family conflicts,

Time,

Energy,

Creativity,

Space.

Health.

And those are the ones that I have,

Some of the main ones.

OK?

Right,

Intention.

So you can prioritize create task list,

Schedule it in it,

Revisit daily.

Yeah.

And doing the ideal week is so important,

Guys.

Doing,

Putting the things that you want to see in your week is a must.

OK?

Once you decide those intentions,

Once you connect with the identity that you want to embrace,

The person that you want to become,

Then start questioning,

How would that person live?

What would that person do every week?

What time would that person get up?

What time would that person go to bed?

How would that person talk to people?

So start thinking about that and then you are connecting with that identity,

But that identity,

It's really who you want to be.

And it's most likely,

I would even say that that's who is inside of you right now.

It just cannot come out because of fear,

Because of perfectionism,

Because of procrastination,

Because of busyness of life,

Lack of intention,

Lack of healthy boundaries,

Lack of speaking up with confidence,

Lack of time to connect with yourself to really figure that out and discover that.

There are so many reasons why maybe you are not even connected with that,

But that's inside of you.

And you know already,

You just have to allow yourself to connect with that and celebrate its accomplishment.

Yeah,

Absolutely.

Once you once you start making progress,

Every little progress,

Every little thing that you accomplish,

Celebrate the hell out of it,

Celebrate everything,

Even the little things,

Celebrate everything.

And then step into that mindset of like,

I am changing.

I am making progress,

Even if I just do a half step every day,

That's better than inaction towards what you really want.

Okay.

And then steps to overcoming inaction.

I share some of them,

But identify what your true intention or intentions are.

Okay.

Identify what the distractions and time wasters are.

What's stopping you from doing what you want?

And then start saying no to things,

Start sharing with others what you are trying to do,

Start protecting the time,

Right,

That you need to invest in those things.

Be present.

You need to be present and you need to embrace your current reality and accept it.

Whatever you have done in the past brought you here.

So stop blaming yourself,

Stop attacking yourself,

Stop like just be positive.

Just start looking forward and forget about what happened.

Just embrace it.

I did that.

That's fine.

I cannot change it.

What am I going to do now?

How am I going to behave now?

And every day is a new opportunity for you to get started.

Take imperfect action.

Okay.

Capital letters.

Take imperfect action.

Okay.

You know what that means.

Stop trying to be perfect in everything you do.

Start making progress.

Okay.

When babies learn how to walk,

How many babies walk perfectly?

How many?

Any?

No one.

Right?

None.

So if you are trying to create something new in your life,

If you are trying to change,

Why do you have to be perfect?

Who is perfect?

No one is perfect.

You need to learn.

You need to fail.

You need to have fun along the way.

You need to.

.

.

That's a part of the process.

Okay.

Imperfect action.

Because then you will start moving forward and you will figure out what doesn't work and you will learn.

That didn't work.

I'm going to try this next time.

But stop beating yourself up because you didn't get it right.

Just get started.

Just take imperfect action.

Okay.

I will say imperfect loving action.

Add the loving part because there is nothing imperfect.

It's just a part of the process.

So maybe imperfect is not even the word.

Just take action and detach yourself from the outcome.

Okay.

I'm trying to make some changes to my life.

But sometimes it's so frustrating that things are not working out.

Jorea,

How do you know that things are not working out?

Who says that?

According to who?

Sometimes things happen the way they happen because they have to happen that way so that you learn something from it.

And then you can move forward in a different way.

And when we have a very specific outcome in a very specific way and we try to control things every step of the way.

We are going to always be disappointed.

We're going to always feel like we are failing.

And trust me,

I do that all the time.

My wife sometimes is so upset with me because it's like,

Emilia,

You are always doing the same thing.

Stop controlling everything.

Just let it flow.

So according to who you are failing.

Are you being too harsh with yourself?

Are you having high expectations,

Maybe unrealistic ones?

So just just meditate on that.

OK,

Just meditate on that.

Jorea,

Just meditate on that and see what's true to you.

But just question it.

Question everything that you feel,

Everything that you are blaming yourself or feeling frustrated about.

Just question it.

Why am I feeling frustrated about this?

Like,

Why?

Why does this thing need to be this specific way?

According to who?

Did I really fail or did I learn something from the process?

Am I going to try something different next time?

Thank you for a great session.

Thank you,

Gilbert.

Happy that you were here.

OK,

Thank you,

Emilia.

Happy Thanksgiving,

Everyone.

And thank you for the Emilia and the Inside Timing community.

Love to thank you.

You're welcome,

Guys.

Thank you so much for being here.

Time is over.

I really enjoyed the session as always.

Amazing.

You guys share so much.

And I really love reading everything that you guys shared.

Sorry if I miss your comments sometimes because the chat flies over and I have a hard time keeping up.

But thank you.

It was amazing.

Thank you for sharing your vacation with us.

Yeah,

I'm so happy to be a part to create this intentional time to connect with you guys during my vacation,

Because it really energizes me a lot.

And I really love keeping these sessions if I can.

And yeah,

I will do the next one on Tuesday if everything goes well.

So I will see you then.

So happy to be on track again.

Thank you,

Emilia.

Enjoy being at home with your family and friends.

Yeah,

They are very happy that I'm here for sure.

Muchas gracias.

Okay,

Guys,

If you have the time,

Check my courses,

Especially the new one that I created.

If you are trying to create your clutter free home,

Check the workshops too.

I don't know if this is the first time I'm doing workshops,

So I have no idea if they are going to fill out or not.

I have no idea how it will work.

But if you are interested,

Set the intention.

Sign up because you can cancel up to 24 hours prior to.

So you can always cancel if you cannot make it or if you change your mind,

But book your spot in case you,

It feels sad.

I don't know how it will be,

But I will be looking forward to connecting live by video conference with all of you.

Okay,

Your workshop is my birthday present to myself.

Amazing Amy.

Can't wait to see you live.

And all of you guys.

VD,

Thank you for your donation and everybody.

I donated but it didn't show.

It's something mysterious that happens with the donations guys and I,

I try my best to help inside Timer and I know they are working on it but I don't know what's going on and I don't need to control that so I'm grateful that you are here I'm grateful that you donate.

And I'm grateful that you that you take my courses and you support me and the most important thing that you start taking in perfect action.

Okay,

Start taking in perfect action in whatever you feel is true to you.

Okay.

Okay guys,

Have an amazing rest of your day.

And I will see you on Tuesday next week.

Okay.

Same time,

Same place.

Adios.