(Wk 7) Forgiveness Part 4 Of 5 - Unleash Your Peace Podcast

How to atone. On the fourth day of our dialogue about forgiveness, we talk about the flip side of the Guilt/Attack Cycle: - What if YOU are the one inflicting pain on others? What if YOU are the one stuck in the Guilt/Attack Cycle? How do you atone for and heal the guilt you've accumulated if you want to stop this destructive cycle?

Transcript

Hello and welcome back to Unleash Your Peace.

My name is Ellie Shouja.

I am your host.

I am a positive mindset coach,

A personal transformation expert,

A deliberate creator,

And I am your peace trainer.

And this podcast over here,

Unleash Your Peace,

Is your peace training.

Every week we dive into a different aspect of the internal world and we do that so that we can start shedding all of that excess weight of the unwanted pain you have been carrying with you so you can find the lasting internal peace and live your best life yet.

When we live from this place of joy and peace and connectedness to that infinite non-physical beingness part of yourself,

Your inner being,

You don't just incrementally improve the quality of your life,

You actually exponentially innovate every aspect of your experiences on this physical plane.

You level up,

You become whole,

You become a powerful creator,

And you live the life of your dreams and that is my dream for you because I know in that state of complete authenticity not only do you live your dream life but you become an uplifter in your community,

In your family,

And that trickles out into the world and that's how we level up as a society by each of us doing this internal work and leveling up individually.

Now this week we are talking about forgiveness.

What a huge topic.

This topic right here,

Forgiveness,

Is at the base of our freedom.

If we truly want freedom to do and be and have anything we want,

We have to master the skill of forgiveness,

Not the kind of forgiveness that we often think is forgiveness that actually creates separation.

We talked about that on episode one on Monday but what I'm talking about is the type of forgiveness that closes all gaps,

It actually dissolves the event into nothingness so that you feel like there actually is nothing to forgive.

When you get to that point,

You have forgiven,

You have achieved forgiveness,

You can fully release whatever happened.

It literally falls apart,

That event dissolves,

It becomes nothing and all of its effect on your life become nothing.

That's how we free ourselves from our past.

Now today I want to talk about something really,

Really important and that is when things repeat themselves in our lives.

This happens in each of our lives where the same thing,

The same hurt will come to surface time and time again.

All the players will change,

There will be different people,

Different circumstances,

We grow as individuals but the emotional signature of the event remains the same.

And notice that term emotional signature.

If something happens to you where you feel really frustrated,

Annoyed,

Whatever it is and it feels like this keeps happening to you,

This type of thing keeps happening to you,

You keep feeling this way,

I really encourage you to identify the emotional signature of that moment because that is your key into figuring out where that pain originated.

Before we dive into that,

Before we dive what emotional signature means and why it's so significant,

Let's talk about why these events,

These things keep repeating themselves.

They almost feel like tests,

Right?

So it feels like no matter what you do,

You keep getting the same test and you keep failing it so then you get it again two years later with somebody new.

Whatever that wound is,

It just keeps repeating itself and I am here to tell you that this is not happening to you to torture you.

This is not a torture method of the universe.

The universe is not trying to rehash all of these pains for its own amusement.

These pains actually come up in order to be released.

They bubble up from the bottom of the ocean.

You feel it coming.

You know when things are going to start falling apart in the super familiar way right before it.

You feel it bubbling up.

It comes up,

It comes up and then all of a sudden this whole thing,

This whole pain,

This thing that is so familiar,

This emotional signature that is so familiar,

You know it so so so well,

It comes to the surface and you look at it and you say crap,

Not this again,

Not this again.

And it's extremely frustrating when it happens.

I know it's frustrating because it happened to me year after year with multiple things until I realized this thing is not bubbling up in order to torture me.

The poor thing wants to be released.

It knows it no longer serves you.

It knows it no longer serves me and it's coming to the surface so that you can look at it and you can fish it out of the water and release it,

Let go of it.

But what do we do?

We don't do that.

We don't fish it out.

We don't release it.

What we do is we put our hand on it and press it back down and bury it back down where we think it belongs.

We ignore it and we try to forget about it.

We push it away and then it's hidden for a time and next time it bubbles up again and it feels again like we're being put to the test.

Our life is over.

Nothing is right.

We can never get this thing right.

This thing is happening again to us and yada yada yada.

We keep repeating it.

So moral of the story,

It's not coming up to torture you.

It's not coming up to ruin your life.

It is not a test.

It simply wants to be released and how do we release it?

The only way we can release these deep-seated pains,

These wounds,

These repeating patterns of suffering that keep coming up to the surface,

The only way we can release them and be rid of them for good is through forgiveness,

Which happens through love and compassion.

Now in theory,

Every instance of a wound is that wound.

So every instance something repeats itself has within it every single previous instance of it.

So if you heal a wound in this moment,

So whatever situation happens right now to you,

If you heal it in this moment,

If you release it in this moment,

If you apply forgiveness to it and do that deep work of forgiveness in this moment,

It should in theory heal every instance of it in the past as well.

However,

What I found is that most of the time it's very difficult to achieve a level of forgiveness for the thing that is really present right now in order to achieve that kind of healing,

To heal it all the way back in time.

And I think this happens for two reasons.

One is that the thing that is happening right now is so fresh in our minds that it is very difficult to apply this kind of forgiveness to it.

It's very difficult to apply a complete level of compassion and love to what is happening to you in this moment.

The pain that is inflicted in this moment is too fresh.

The wound feels too fresh,

So it's hard to do.

And the second thing is that we subconsciously tend to hold on to that first instance of the wound.

Even when we heal something in this moment,

We still somehow subconsciously hold on to that first instance.

So what I have found is actually a lot more effective in identifying that first instance and healing that first instance of the wound.

So how do we do that?

That's where that emotional signature comes in.

So identify the emotional signature of what is happening to you right now,

What you're feeling.

And I guarantee you,

You have felt this before.

You felt it in different situations with different people before.

And then see if you can find the first instance of this emotional signature,

The first time you felt this.

And most likely if you identify that first instance,

That is where the wound actually happened.

So that instance,

That moment,

It'll heal every instance of it,

Every moment of it,

Every recurrence of this wound in time all the way to your present moment.

Really big topic.

And when I work with people on this,

We spend hours on it and here we have 10 minutes.

I know it's a lot of information and I hope you can still feel like you're absorbing this information and it gets you thinking in a different way about forgiveness and about healing of the wounds that are within you and inspire you to look more inward as you're doing this work.

I know it's a really big topic.

You might have a lot of questions.

You can reach out to me on my website,

Peaceunleashed.

Com if you want to work with me on these things,

If you have any questions about them.

You can also reach out to me through Instagram by finding peaceunleashed on there.

And while you're there,

You can also check out the love notes that I write for you.

Those are meant to uplift and inspire you every single day.

I'm quite active and I do Q and A sessions as well,

The live Q and A sessions.

So if you have questions,

That could be a really cool forum for you to get your questions answered through the live Q and A by joining those.

And until tomorrow,

When we come back and we conclude this really important topic,

I wish you a peace filled day.