When You Don't See Results - Weekly Energy Boost

We live in a world driven by the results. When we don't see results, we immediately assume that we are doing or have done something wrong, when in fact nothing could be further from the truth. This week, gain clarity about having a greater vision for life, as well as the tools to see the hidden beauty in all of our efforts. Original airdate: 12/26/22

Transcript

Good morning everyone,

Good evening,

Good afternoon,

Wherever you are and welcome to this week's weekly energy boost.

My name is Elie Schaave and I am here this lovely Monday morning with David and we are excited to share with you the secrets behind what to do when you don't see results.

This is probably one of the most universal complaints.

When we don't see results we're making an effort,

We're doing our best,

We're giving our all and yet we don't yield the intended outcome.

Weekly energy boost is a seven day spiritual weather forecast where David and I and sometimes our guests look into the wisdom of Kabbalah for the most practical and powerful tools to give our listeners to navigate the upcoming week.

But inevitably those wisdoms and those tools become life lessons that you can use anytime,

Any day of the year.

And this week is no different.

We have just begun the month of Capricorn.

Today is like the second day of the month of Capricorn.

We are in a week where the energy is really coming to a head.

We're finishing the energy of Hanukkah which is all about light and miracles and going against our nature and creating the results that we want.

And then here comes the universe to tell us the secrets on how to handle when we don't see the results we want.

And I want to challenge the title of the episode also because one of the things that Kabbalah encourages us to do is to redefine our definition of success and of results.

And part of what we teach in the very first classes when you come to study Kabbalah is the fact that our physical reality is not always a true picture of what's going on.

That our five senses were created to mislead us,

To give us the opportunity to choose to see the non-visible results and the non-visible reality,

The non-audible reality,

To really use our sixth sense or our soul to connect to the true reality.

And so therefore when we begin this conversation that talking about results or outcomes or manifestation,

We also have to reexamine how do we measure results.

And for that,

I turn you over to David Gamm.

One thing to keep in mind is that energy is never lost.

So I always share with people the energy you invest in something,

We're so preoccupied with how it's manifesting and when it's going to come back to us.

And we should because everyone needs a thoughtful plan.

And you need to be able to measure what you're doing because you can't grow what you don't measure.

And you need to be able to get feedback and criticism about what you're doing without having it derail you and lower your confidence in what you're doing.

You have to do this,

But you also have to remember that.

At the same time,

No matter what you do,

When you go against the grain and you go against your nature and you create energy,

You create value,

Even if it doesn't manifest in the way that you want,

Your bank of energy is growing.

So I've seen many times I'll work on a project for a long time only to have it met with failure and disappointment.

And then maybe a secondary project I'll start will succeed almost immediately with very little effort.

And so the spiritual understanding that is that the energy from the prior project came into the new project.

And sometimes we judge people and maybe are even jealous of them because of how easy,

Quote unquote,

Their miracles happened,

Their blessings happened.

But what we don't know or see is the amount of work and energy that was created in prior failures that are maybe totally unrelated.

It could be a different part of life.

It could be someone struggled in their love life or they went through like seven IVF treatments or they did something and it failed,

But they kept pushing and they created energy.

And then that energy went into maybe their business or a product and that took off and became successful.

And so because we don't see the whole picture,

We tend to judge.

We judge ourselves and we judge others.

But rule number one spiritually is energy is never lost.

And as soon as you think you've lost something or you don't have something,

That's when you deplete the energy.

So that's where I want to start with that.

I think to me what you just said is an extension of what I said before that are in the physical reality.

We tend to judge and assess and analyze data.

I put in this many hours,

Like you said,

I put this much energy,

This much effort,

This much time and resource into this project and it didn't manifest.

When something else manifests,

Part of that illusion is we don't see the connection.

We think the energy is lost.

We think we threw something away or we put something out there that we'll never get back.

Part of the illusion is that we compartmentalize life.

We think work is work and my relationship is my relationship and my health is my health and my spiritual self is my spiritual self.

When just beyond our field of vision,

Everything is one.

That's why energy is never lost is because you're pouring of yourself into something.

You think it's something.

You think it's a project or a relationship or any kind of endeavor and you think it's about that.

There's a reason for that.

If David wasn't passionate about that particular first project,

Maybe he wouldn't be motivated to put the energy in for the second project.

But the second project is the one that's true and valid and deserves to see the light of day from the universe's point of view.

So part of the smoke and mirrors that we experience in the physical reality is so that we don't give up,

That we find the motivation,

That we increase our desire and then we let go of how the results quote unquote will manifest.

So part of it is also thinking about what do I desire when I say results?

What am I saying I'm not seeing?

What am I not experiencing when I say there's no results here?

I'm not seeing the outcome I desire.

That's another big part of the change we want to make this week is what are we really looking at?

Our teacher,

Rav Berg,

Would talk about the concept of time,

Space and motion.

Rav Ashlaq talks about it and the sages call it Olam Shana Nefesh without going into the details of it.

But it's the Hebrew terminology for time,

Space and motion and the idea is that there is an illusion in these three areas of time,

Space and motion.

When I first brought up the idea that you could be working hard in one area but it manifests in a different area,

This is the whole idea of the space.

It's an illusion of space because I work hard in my business and I get nowhere but maybe I've earned a loving relationship.

So the spaces are different and it confuses us but you have to know this is all part of spirituality and the person who can tolerate that is on a path towards becoming a higher spiritual being.

Time is also where the opponent has injected the illusion.

What do we mean by that?

What the negative side does,

Because the negative side is the angelic opponent that was created for all of us since the beginning of time to help us earn the light of the creator.

What he does is he manipulates time.

So I will do something that I perceive to be a positive action,

Let's say,

Maybe a spiritual one.

Maybe I started to study Kabbalah and I apply a concept that I feel should reveal the light of the creator and immediately afterwards I'll experience something negative like a car accident or I'll get horrible news about something or even just a parking ticket.

Something to confuse me about the fact that,

Hey,

Just 10 minutes ago I did something positive and I'm rewarded with this negative thing.

What's happening here is that everything we go through is because of a seed we planted.

We know that.

The opponent cannot just make up negative things.

So when I did a positive action at 10 a.

M.

But at 10.

30 a.

M.

I had a negative result,

That negative result at 10.

30 a.

M.

Was a result of something,

A negative seed I planted three years ago perhaps.

Maybe I responded from a place of lack to something towards a friend or I did something that I hurt someone,

I put someone down,

But it never manifested until 10.

30 a.

M.

Today.

But what the opponent did is he matched it exactly at a time when you did something positive to confuse you.

And so this is what happened.

This is why we perceive other people who are very successful but they do negative things and we're saying,

Hey,

What's going on?

The opponent is just toying with time to confuse all of us.

And so the only way to combat that,

Number one,

It says when you have certainty,

You neutralize time.

So a person who has certainty,

Constant certainty,

Certainty in the light of the creator,

Certainty that everything is good,

Certainty that everything will be good,

Certainty that just – there's no negativity.

What you do is you condense time and so it shuts out the opponent from creating those illusions and that's why things manifest quicker when people have certainty.

But also it's to realize that let me just keep planting positive seeds despite how I feel,

Despite what it looks like,

Despite all of it.

Just keep to the routine and optimize the routine.

Oh,

But it's not working.

Keep doing it and optimize it.

Keep doing it and optimize it.

Keep planting the seeds.

The problem is we just don't feel like it anymore.

And when you don't feel like it,

Then – because we all feel we need results to motivate us.

So screw the results.

Forget about the results.

Just be the person who plants the seeds and puts in the practice and puts in the work and chops the wood.

Just keep chopping the wood.

Eventually you're going to get what you want.

I'm only annoyed because that was the point I was going to make next.

It's always frustrating when that happens.

Yeah.

So now I have a pause moment.

No,

Well,

I was going to say,

And I'll say it in my way so that it hits the people who are listening to you and said,

What did he just say?

Because the opponent also doesn't want you to understand what David just said.

But we learn in our classes that every thought,

Every word,

And every action plants a seed,

Which means everything I think,

Everything I say,

And everything I do is creating my future reality,

Which is great if all you think is positive thoughts and all you say are positive things and all you do are positive actions.

But what's funny about what David said,

I was going to use the example of the parking ticket,

Right?

You could be having the most spiritually uplifted and connected day and then you get that parking ticket.

And what's the first response?

Expletives,

Kicking the tire,

Cursing the city that you live in or the meter person who gave you the ticket.

Suddenly you turn into a reactive,

Angry,

Frustrated person,

Even if it's for a few seconds,

10 seconds,

20 seconds,

A minute,

Two minutes.

You've just planted a seed for your future that you might not want to experience anymore.

So,

Of course,

David said certainty is part of what neutralizes those seeds.

But the reality is that if you realize in that moment,

OK,

Just put out some garbage,

What can I do now to be the anti-garbage?

How can I genetically modify those seeds that I just planted?

What can I do?

Like David said,

You keep chopping the wood.

You realize you stepped in poop and now you wipe your shoe off and keep walking because what you're experiencing now is not a product of now.

It's a product of something that happened in the past.

And that's where the certainty comes in.

Certainty is not I know this is the right job or I know he's the right person.

It's I know there's a perfect system here.

And my real work is to work within the rules of the system and not try and manipulate or break the system to my benefit.

So the whole idea of even looking for results,

The best place to look,

And I'm going to put the more air quotes around the word look,

The best place to look for results is actually in how you feel.

And I know that's going to upset a lot of people who are putting a lot of hard work and energy into something very noble and valid and important.

Honestly,

The best measure of your growth and the utility,

Utility is not the right word,

The fertility of what you're doing.

Right.

If it's really if your energy is is going somewhere is actually how you feel about it.

And the whole wisdom of Kabbalah is really there to support us to improve our experience,

Not only of life,

But of ourselves.

Right.

If you have everything you want in the physical reality,

But you're a miserable and depressed human being,

That's not those are not good results.

The results are really in your well-being,

In your mental state,

In your consciousness,

In your attitude,

In the energy that people feel from you,

In the energy that you feel yourself.

And yes,

Everybody has an off day.

Everybody has an off hour.

Everybody has moments that they wish they could rewrite and take back.

But that idea that the real results is in how you experience what you experience.

You could be seeing the same.

I mean,

For many of us,

We work the same job.

We live in the same house with the same family in the same city.

And a lot of the physical details don't vary from day to day,

Week to week,

Month to month.

So how do you even know that you're doing good?

It's about how you feel and how you're changing the way that you relate.

When I say changing,

Of course,

I mean improving.

How are we improving the way that we relate to the people in our lives,

To the projects in our lives,

To the to-do list that we have?

That's where to look for the results.

If you can look back a year from now,

And we hear this all the time from listeners,

People say,

Oh,

I've been binging your show for the last three months,

And I can't even believe the things I'm doing or saying.

I've grown so much.

That's the measure.

The fact that your paycheck stay is the same or the pollution in your city is the same,

It doesn't mean you're failing.

The real measure of success is your personal transformation.

And I feel like we don't spend,

When it comes to talking about results,

Which is,

By the way,

A very Capricornian thing.

Capricorns,

Raise your hand if you're a Capricorn.

We love you.

You're amazing.

And according to Kabbalah,

Nobody has greater prophetic abilities than a spiritual Capricorn.

They're the most intuitive of the signs if they become spiritual.

But that's the key,

Is that it's so hard for them to not look at results,

To not look at the data,

To not use the statistics,

To not measure success by some metric.

So if we're able to detach from that in this month,

That's one of the reasons we learn about it.

Now,

By learning this,

You realize that part of every single human being's spiritual work in this month is to detach from the compulsion or the obsession to look for results.

The rest of the year,

It won't be as hard.

If we can break those chains when the chains are tightest,

It's a lot easier afterwards.

So as we all go into this coming week and,

Of course,

The month in general,

Being compelled to be a little bit more Capricorn,

Let's see how,

Let's observe the way the universe puts those opportunities in front of us.

And let's observe how we change our relationship with results,

That we realize that the real result is me changing,

Not my circumstances changing.

I love that.

One more thing that we can add.

How much time do we have?

One minute here?

14 minutes.

Oh,

That's.

.

.

Minimum.

Oh,

Minimum.

Minimum 14 minutes,

David.

The audience has spoken.

At least she knows how I like to keep it tight.

So the other concept that I want to talk about with this week's energy is,

On one hand,

We say you have to feel good.

On the other hand,

We say don't worry about your feelings.

I think this is something that people always ask us about.

And it is a contradictory statement,

Which means there's a great secret to it.

Because everything that is of the path of the light of the Creator means you take two opposing contradictions and you unite them into a balanced point,

Which the logical mind doesn't fully understand,

But the spiritual mind does.

So one of the ways to solve this,

One way,

Is to realize that the reason why we don't feel good often is because we've trained ourselves only to feel good when we get something new.

And so this release of dopamine is something that we've trained ourselves and we want it over and over and over again.

Rather,

To realize that there are things that we're doing every day that might not be new,

That might even be routine,

And we're not fully extracting the pleasure from them.

And because we're not,

We're only maybe connecting to a few percent of the energy of the things that we do,

Creating a 97% lack inside of us that we feel we can only fulfill by having something new and exciting.

So,

For example,

A person might have the routine of having a coffee every day.

Maybe you make your own coffee.

Maybe you make your own espresso or latte or whatever.

And when the routine becomes mundane,

You don't feel the energy as much,

So you look for something new.

However,

To take the time and to go deeper into the things that you do,

To talk with the things that you do,

To connect with them,

And to extract more and more energy and fulfillment from the things that you do.

So,

For example,

If I'm holding here this cup,

This latte,

It's an almond milk latte I made this morning.

I make it in my house now.

And I find myself just kind of like doing the whole knobs and machine,

And I'm da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da-da What's the whole like tree in a forest if you're there?

If a tree falls in the forest and there's no one there to hear it,

Did it make a sound?

There you go.

And so,

Kembalistically,

The answer would be no.

Kembalistically.

Because until you observe it,

It doesn't exist.

By the way,

Science supports that as well now.

Science supports it,

And there's evidence of that,

And the whole wave particle idea.

So when we are conscious of something,

We activate its power.

And when we're unconscious of it,

We don't activate its power,

And as a result,

We feel unfulfilled.

And as a result,

We look for fulfillment in other cheap ways.

And so,

This is something to keep in mind around results.

We're thinking about results,

Results.

And when we hear the word results,

We're thinking of something that's waiting for us at the end.

And why,

Oftentimes,

Spiritually,

Our soul will not reward us with a result,

So as to not train us to be dependent on results.

I'm going to say that again.

Our soul,

I.

E.

The Creator,

Will not reward us with results for fear that we become dependent on results as our source of energy.

And just like everything in life,

When you can show you're a big boy,

And you got your big boy pants on,

And you're mature about how you deal with energy and fulfillment,

You can basically say,

Hey,

With or without the results,

It's not going to change me.

That's how you get the result.

We had a holiday party at our company,

And so everyone had to share.

It's such a great story.

I just want to share it as many times as I can.

Every employee had to share something that positive happened to them in the year,

Or something like that.

So,

One person from customer care says,

Oh,

Well,

I don't really share this with anybody,

But three months ago,

I won the lottery,

$1.

5 million.

Oh,

My gosh.

He's like,

But it didn't change anything.

I still,

I didn't quit my job.

I'm going to be here forever.

I'm not going to change it.

He said,

Nothing changed.

It just went to the next day.

I love that.

Such a great,

Such a great,

I mean,

There's a lot of secrets to this,

Obviously.

Didn't have time to grill him on it,

But one,

The fact that he didn't really share it with anybody.

Two,

He just went to work the next day doing customer service,

Which is amazing,

And he's very good at it,

But there's something powerful about the fact that it didn't change him is probably why energetically he had the vessel to receive it.

And if we ask ourselves,

If there's things that would quote unquote change us,

It means we don't really have the right vessel to receive it in the first place.

So,

And that's something we need to ask ourselves.

If I got the thing I want,

Who am I becoming?

People say,

Oh,

I become a better person.

Well,

So,

Yeah,

So do it now.

So why aren't you doing it now?

Why are you that guy or that girl that needs to need something to be a better person?

It's so funny that we're talking about this now because 2022 is ending,

Right?

2023 starts this weekend,

And I'm sure a lot of people are looking at their New Year's resolutions and either lovingly and compassionately forgiving themselves for not making all of those things happen or beating themselves up and rolling over the goals to 2023.

One of the things I love about the wisdom of Kabbalah is that it explains so much.

Honestly,

One of the reasons that New Year's resolutions tend to fail people is actually because they make them at the wrong time,

Even though January 1st is the beginning of the new calendar year.

It usually happens to fall in the month of Capricorn,

Which is not a positive time.

And we sort of set ourselves up for failure because we're not using the momentum of the energy around us to plant those seeds.

Right?

Anytime we set a goal,

We're planting a seed.

The question is,

Are you planting it on a tabletop?

Are you planting it in the most fertile soil possible?

So I think what David said couldn't be a better time for those of us that are going to sit down this week and make those New Year's resolutions,

Is that you want to make sure that your experience of life,

Which goes back to the point I made before,

The way you feel,

The way you carry yourself,

The way you broadcast your own energy is not going to be changed for better or worse because of the achievement of something external.

The goals that you set this year for yourself are ones that are immaterial goals.

I want to be happier.

I want to be healthier.

I want to feel better.

I want people to,

I want to influence the world for better.

And in order to be in that state of positively influencing the world,

Which every single person on the planet is here to positively influence the world,

We all have to also recognize that we have everything we need to do so.

It's like this theme that keeps coming back over and over and over again,

That that lack and that need is part of the illusion of this physical world.

And therefore,

Achieving or receiving the results we're looking for can also be a part of the illusion of the physical world.

And the greatest measurement of success is how are you doing?

How are you feeling about what you're putting out there?

Honestly,

That story is what David just shared about his employee is really perfect because that's the goal.

The goal is to be so accountable and so,

So deeply connected to who you are and what's important to you that millions of dollars won't change who you are and won't change your day to day.

I'm sure he feels a little bit safer,

You know,

A little bit more comfortable.

Maybe,

Maybe bought himself something that he's been thinking about,

But even buying that thing didn't change him.

He was probably already a generous person and it's only going to allow him to be more generous.

So let's see if we can use that mentality,

I'm going to call it,

That vibe to shift into 2023.

I'm sure we're all looking back at 2022 thinking,

What the heck happened?

Where did that go?

What was I doing?

What was I thinking?

It's kind of a blur at this point,

Knowing that the coming year,

Even though that's one of the funny things about January 1st is even though energetically there's no big shift there because we all look at it as a new something.

It does carry with it that potentiality of being a new chapter,

A new beginning.

So let's put that energy out there.

Let's,

In setting our goals,

Let's reaffirm both to ourselves and to the universe.

We're not doing it so that those things will change us.

We can be those things now.

And what are those things,

Those qualities that we want to embody this year?

And it's okay to have the physical goals also.

It's okay to ask for the pay raise or to invest in something or to create something new and desire it to manifest,

Especially when you believe it's for the greater good of everyone,

Not only you.

But recognizing that the creation of anything physical is really just the stage upon which we're here to create the internal change and transformation for which we were born.

Last words?

Beautiful.

Final thought.

Final summary of what we talked about and the energy that we can take for this week.

The idea that time,

Space and motion,

We don't fall into the illusion of when things happen,

How they happen,

And how sometimes we're often confused with positive results happening after negative seeds and vice versa.

Just rise above that.

That's what we say to live in the 99% world.

And the tree of life means that I don't make decisions necessarily based on the reactive things that happen day to day.

I'm not a spiritual day trader.

I'm a long-term investor.

And people who stay the long haul after 20 years in the equities market,

There is a 100% chance that you're going to be up as opposed to day trading.

You might as well go to a casino and have the same odds.

So rise above,

Do not fall into the trap of needing results.

Realize that any energy you put forward goes into the bank of your spiritual light and will manifest in some way,

Somehow in some area of your life.

Love that.

Thank you.

Thank you,

David,

For being here this morning.

Thank you for listening to the Weekly Energy Boost.

And we'll see you next week on the Weekly Energy Boost.