Uprooting Anger - Weekly Energy Boost

Anger is a powerful emotion that can make us feel like helpless victims of external circumstances. But when we take responsibility and use our feelings as a tool for internal growth, we become the “cause” in our lives – taking back our power and freeing ourselves from this destructive influence.

Episode 1 of 2 on Anger
Original airdate: 7/20/20

Transcript

Good morning,

Everyone.

Good evening,

Good afternoon,

Wherever you are,

And welcome to this week's Weekly Energy Boost.

My name is Ellie Sheva,

And I'm here this morning with David.

And we are trying something new this week.

Today is the first of a two-part series on anger.

So this week and next week,

We are going to be talking about the costs and benefits.

We're going to do a cost-benefit analysis of getting angry.

And because we're doing two episodes,

We need your input,

Your conversation,

Your questions this week is going to direct a lot of what we share next week.

So write in the comments,

If you're listening in the podcast,

Email us at energyboost.

Kabala.

Com.

We'll be looking at those comments and questions throughout the week,

Wherever you put them.

The Weekly Energy Boost is your seven-day spiritual energy forecast.

We,

David and I,

Glean through the great wisdom of Kabbalah,

Most specifically the Zohar,

To find the most powerful and practical wisdom and tools to prescribe for our listeners for the coming week.

But inevitably,

Those prescriptions are applicable 365 days a year.

So we chose this topic of anger,

Or it shows us.

I don't know how many last week in the comments a lot of people were saying,

Wow,

Perfect timing,

Perfect timing.

We don't make this up.

This is something that has,

For thousands of years,

Has come up for people in these coming weeks.

This week,

We are entering the month of Leo.

And Leo's,

That energy is going to influence us for four weeks.

So these first two weeks,

We're focusing on what is anger,

Really?

What do we understand from the wisdom of Kabbalah?

How do we define it?

How does it affect us?

And next week,

We're going to focus more on solutions,

Minimizing,

Diminishing,

Releasing anger,

Whether it's at ourselves,

At other people.

I think a lot of people are angry at the universe,

Especially with what's going on these days.

So it's a very relevant topic.

All right,

So start us off.

Me?

Well,

I guess the question is,

It's not even a question.

I think if you would poll,

If we walked up and down,

I don't know what street this is,

Burbank Boulevard or whatever we're near over here,

Cohinga doesn't have too many people walking on it,

Is anger good or bad?

Well,

Actually,

Even in the Kabbalah 1 course,

We have a conversation around what are the things you do that you know you shouldn't and the things that you know you should do that are good for you that you don't.

And I think one of the top answers we get,

I mean,

We talked this class thousands of times,

When you ask people,

What's something you know you shouldn't do,

But you do it anyway,

So many people say,

I get angry.

Now we know,

Right,

This is without spiritual,

Having a spiritual background,

Anger is not a good thing,

Whether it's not a good thing because it's detrimental to our relationships,

It's not good for our health,

Right?

Kabbalah thousands of years ago talked about the dangers of anger and what it does to the body,

But even now,

Modern science is saying,

Meditate,

Relax,

Chill out,

Decompress,

Because that anger as it builds up in the body has detrimental effects.

Well,

I would love for our audience,

We speak a lot about reactive behavior,

How reactive behavior disconnects us from what we define as the light of the Creator,

The light of our soul.

And when we're disconnected from this light,

So we begin to attract a reality of darkness and a reality of chaos and we're disconnected from that endless energy,

That endless abundance that we're all looking for.

So we learn in Kabbalah that you have to play the spiritual game,

Not the physical game.

People try to manifest their hopes and dreams by physically trying to control this world and physically trying to get ahead,

Kind of manipulating,

Even in a good way,

But manipulating this world so that it bends to their favor.

We're saying you've got to play the game spiritually,

You've got to play on a spiritual level.

And a challenge will occur that will make you feel some form of lack or fear and how you respond to that challenge will determine whether you're connecting to the light of the Creator or disconnected from the light.

That's the simplicity of it,

Right?

So what is anger?

I would also love for our audience to tell us because I want to understand what our students think anger is in relation to reactive behavior.

Listeners,

Students,

Sure.

Disciples.

So the question is,

What do you think is the difference between reactive behavior and anger?

Because we say it's bad to be reactive,

So what's anger?

Anger is a form of reactive behavior,

But what's the difference?

When does it escalate to anger?

And something else that we can share is that what is the source of anger?

When does a person get angry?

A person gets angry when they feel something's not fair.

That's essentially what it comes down to.

It's not fair based on my own way of viewing the world,

My life,

Even though I might have tunnel vision and I only see a small part of it.

Based on the belief systems I have about this world and the way the world should be,

I believe something's not fair.

And there are really two sources of anger.

There's anger that comes from sadness,

Which is I've lost something.

I don't have something anymore.

So you might be angry because the root of it is sadness and you lost something.

So eventually one of the stages that you'll feel is anger.

And then there's anger that comes from worry,

Fear,

Anxiety.

When a person gets angry on the road or maybe you're in traffic or someone's inhibiting you to go faster,

You get angry because you have some kind of worry that by going slow you're missing out on something or you're becoming less successful.

So there's different types of anger that really manifests in these two places.

Either there's a sadness,

Something I've lost,

Or there's a worry and anxiety,

Something I might lose that is then causing me to be angry and we go to the next step,

Which I know you can share more about.

Well,

David brought up two really important points very quickly that I think deserve a minute of their own.

One is that you may not even identify anger in your life.

Anger is not just throwing dishes and it's not necessarily an outward expression of violence or volume.

It doesn't have to be violent.

It can just be loud or even that passive aggressive behavior that we talk about here and there.

It doesn't have to be an outward expression.

A lot of people turn their anger inward,

Which again brings up the health issue.

But part of it is also recognizing,

And this is what leads into the second brilliant thing David said without realizing it,

Is if you really ask yourself,

What are you angry about?

Who are you angry at?

Why are you angry?

I would put a lot of money on the fact that in your answer,

The word should will appear.

That word should,

And somebody wrote it in the comments a couple of weeks ago,

Someone should on me.

Should is such a dangerous word.

When I do one-on-one sessions with people and these kind of challenges come up,

We talk about how whenever you're putting that banner of should on something or should not,

It's almost like you're saying,

Well,

The creator has no idea what he's doing.

I see what needs to be done here and it's not happening and therefore I'm upset,

Worried,

Frustrated,

Anxious,

Sad,

And then angry.

Part of what we want to bring to everybody's attention this week is that perception that something is unfair,

I deserve or don't deserve what I'm getting,

I don't deserve what I'm getting or I do deserve a different reality.

That perception of should or there's a judgment call that's taking place in that mindset that should set off a red flag for us to realize that we're out of our playing field,

That it's not my job to decide who should and who shouldn't.

Even when it comes to my family or the furniture placement in my house,

Even though the table should fit there,

It doesn't and therefore I've got to find another way.

Being angry about it doesn't shrink the size of the table.

Being angry about the situations in my life is not leading me to a solution.

I think that that's one of the most important things to remember throughout this conversation is when I recognize my anger,

It may bring me to an understanding of some sort of work I need to do internally,

But the anger is never a part of the solution.

To summarize,

We basically said that a person's anger is coming from one of two places,

Sadness,

I've lost something,

Or fear,

I'm probably going to lose something,

Some kind of worry or anxiety.

The Shabbat then is sharing that the anger,

People react to their anger in two ways,

Either externally,

They lash out,

They say something,

They do something,

Which is the epitome of reactive behavior because they want some kind of energy.

Even if it just ruins your mood,

There doesn't have to be a movement of molecules even,

It's just you were okay.

So then that becomes the internal,

People get internally angry and they hold it in.

So you may never even know,

They may not express it to you,

But something's happening internally.

Something's changing in their consciousness,

In their mood,

In the way they feel.

Obviously we know that this manifests as disease in the body and the negative energy starts to permeate all the physical cells that we have.

So these are the three things.

And we've also said that,

I know we don't want to give solutions and not that we're going to get into the- We do,

We're going to give them next week.

We're going to give tools and solutions more thoughtfully next week.

But the idea is that,

What do I do when I start to feel that lack,

When I start to feel that anger,

Knowing that it comes from a place of,

I don't see the whole picture?

That is the most important thing to always remember.

Because the people who are most successful in life are the people who work hard but simultaneously can always say,

I don't see everything.

I don't see the whole picture.

And when you react,

You're basically putting a cap on it.

You're saying,

All right,

That's the picture.

Now I'm going to manifest.

Now I'm going to react.

Because the moment you react to a fear or a doubt you have,

You close the universe off from sending you more information,

More knowledge,

More wisdom.

I see this sometimes,

I witnessed this going to a lunch with a person who was very accomplished in his life,

Like very accomplished.

And then another person who was just kind of like not so accomplished.

And we're here and we want to learn from this very accomplished person.

Who was talking the whole time during the lunch?

It was the unaccomplished other person talking about what they've done,

What they can do,

What they will do.

And meanwhile,

I'm looking at the very successful person and he's just sitting there,

You know,

Chewing his food,

Listening.

And I'm thinking,

All you've done is you've capped because you're reacting to your own need to prove yourself in this lunch.

I don't know what it is.

But you've cut off this very accomplished person from sharing with us knowledge and wisdom about his experiences.

It's almost like you've cut yourself off from the flow of energy.

Imagine sometimes what do these lunches go for to go with Warren Buffett?

I think millions of dollars just to have like a one hour lunch with him.

Imagine you go to lunch with him and all you do is talk.

Like what's the point of that?

The reason I'm making that reference is that a lot of times we get so hung up in us talking,

Us being,

Us trying to fix something,

Us trying to be too involved in a situation because we're angry.

And then we cut the universe off,

Kind of like this very accomplished person from talking to us and sharing knowledge and sharing here's the next step,

Here's what you do,

Here's the opportunity you don't see,

So on and so forth.

So this is really huge.

Not reacting to your anger,

Which we're going to give tools about how to do so in the future,

Not reacting to your anger,

Opens you up to that world of wisdom and information and guidance that the creator wants to give you.

Okay,

I'm going to dissect you one more time.

First of all,

I'm going to say something I don't think I've ever said on the show before.

I would say all of us probably need to hear this show more than once because our goal,

David and I,

For this show is to raise everybody's awareness.

You're listening to this,

You maybe even be saying,

Oh my dad had an anger problem but I don't have an anger problem,

Or I don't know,

Let it in.

The universe is going to show us all this week what are the triggers,

What are the more subtle ways our anger creeps up and gets the best of us,

Makes us reactive as David was saying.

Be conscious,

That's really the goal of this first episode and I think many times people say,

Oh I wish you guys could continue talking,

Or what was the third thing David wanted to say.

Here we're giving a solution to that.

We're going to dedicate two episodes to this.

Take this first week,

Really let it in,

Observe it,

Pay attention,

Ask yourself where is this coming from,

What's going on here,

And join us next week for the punchline.

The other thing David said which I think is hugely profound is that the real antidote,

Or I shouldn't even say antidote,

What's the opposite of anger?

Humility.

I don't know.

Maybe this is the right thing to happen.

Maybe the creator does know,

The universe does know what it's doing.

Maybe- There's I don't know,

Reactive I don't know,

And then there's I know that I don't know.

It's very powerful.

I know that I don't know.

It's a certainty.

Especially for people whose anger trigger is feeling out of control,

That mindset is mind blowing to realize that whatever,

As David was saying,

Whatever snapshot of the reality that you're seeing right now,

It's just a Polaroid.

You cannot see the real before or the real after that's playing in the movie.

You're judging it,

You're labeling it,

You're capping it as David said,

But if you find yourself even going there,

Even for a second thinking,

Well that's not supposed to happen,

Or who made you in charge,

Or you get into that,

The riling up of your mindset begins,

Say wait a second,

I don't know what I.

.

.

Maybe there's something,

There's a diamond hiding behind the situation,

And by me deciding I know better,

I'm blocking myself from letting that reality in.

Let's make it simple.

If you ever think something's not fair,

You have an anger problem.

People are like,

I don't have an anger problem.

If you ever think,

Oh that's not fair,

That shouldn't be happening,

Then always every time somebody thinks something's not fair,

It will manifest as anger.

It might be very internal,

It may be very quiet,

It may be very subconscious,

But whatever negativity energetically that is created,

Or even physically,

If science could prove that anger causes cancer cells to form immediately,

Imagine you're angry,

Cancer cell forms,

Then you should know every time you think something's unfair,

It's the same,

Because anger's being manifested,

Which means cancer cells are being manifested,

Or negative energy.

It's that fairness thing,

And I try to work with my personal students in getting them to understand,

Let's get this out of your lexicon.

This whole what's fair,

What's not fair is so limiting,

Because all you're saying is you're saying,

I understand the picture,

And the picture should be a certain way,

And then the universe basically says,

All right,

So basically you're done.

You're closed off.

I can't send you any more content,

Any more information.

There's a study,

And this is going to help a lot of people,

Because I constantly see people posting their opinions,

And not that opinions are bad,

But it's kind of like the opinions are like,

Why,

I see a whole,

This is proof of why a mask is good,

And then they're saying,

Here's a proof of why a mask is bad,

And here's proof why being liberal is good,

And here's proof of why being conservative is good.

Everyone's kind of trying to share,

Here's a movie,

Watch this movie,

And you'll understand.

I see a lot of people posting this stuff,

And there's a study that came out.

They did this on Twitter.

I'm sure it's the same with the other social media channels,

But they did a study on Twitter in 2018 that said,

When you share something that's inspiring to you about a belief system you have,

So let's say you believe that being a certain political affiliation is the way to be,

And then you have this amazing point of view.

Maybe it's a movie.

Maybe it's like 10 reasons why you should be liberal or conservative or whatever,

And then you share it with your friends.

The study showed that every time you share passionately your point of view,

It strengthens and brings more certainty to whoever sees it about their opposite point of view.

Even though you think you're convincing people,

You're like,

I know if my friend reads this,

Then they're going to be a Trump supporter.

I know once they read this,

They're going to be liberal.

The study actually showed that whatever you're posting makes people the opposite.

It affirms the opposite belief.

It makes them become the opposite,

Which is when you realize,

Well,

What are you doing?

Why are you doing that?

Every time you're saying,

I know something should be a certain way.

This is the right way.

This is the wrong way.

This is the fair way.

You actually cut everybody.

Even if you and I say,

Everybody should study Kabbalah,

That would be a problem.

We need to have the,

I don't know who needs to study Kabbalah.

I don't know what,

When,

How.

I know that we need to share the wisdom,

Make it accessible,

But people really got to come in the right time in the right way.

You're reminding me.

We have a friend who,

And by the way,

I relate it to social media,

But I think it pings me harder.

Social media is sort of a,

What's the word,

A sterile environment for me personally,

But we have a friend who has such conviction in their beliefs.

I don't mean their belief in God.

I mean social,

Like things you were sharing.

I'm always so impressed that they are so certain that they are right or that what they're doing,

I think it's important by the way.

I think it is important for you to have certainty and to trust your inner voice and to create your,

In a way we all have our own religion.

What do we believe?

What is our relationship with the creator?

I'm talking more about medical facts,

Political science facts kind of thing.

I'm always so impressed that they are so certain that they are right and everyone else is wrong.

It's almost like a talent.

You hear someone playing piano beautifully and you're like,

Wow,

How beautiful.

I see them so sure that they are right and I am so impressed with that conviction in whatever fact,

Idea or concept because even though I know what I know,

I always want to be open to being shown another angle or another perspective.

Let's make it simple for our listeners because I think sometimes our listeners will say,

Okay,

So what do I do about that?

How do I have certainty in what I believe to be right,

What do I believe is true while still being open and not being that person who's trying to convince the other guy on Twitter to be a certain way?

When we say humility,

We don't mean self-deprecating and oh,

I'm nobody and everybody else is right.

This is what I believe.

I know what I know but I'm also open to be shown a different reality.

I'll tell you what I think a practical definition of humility is in addition to what Elie Sheva said is a person who asks questions and listens.

This is the smartest people do this.

They just ask questions.

If you're the one talking,

Ironically we're talking,

But if you're the one talking- I'm open that I'll be wrong and you'll be right.

If you're the one talking,

That's true,

If you're the one talking,

Odds are you're not learning.

So it's kind of like to have an internal certainty,

It's having a certainty in your ability to be a giver.

So it's like I want to be a giver.

What I believe in,

It's like it is your purpose.

If you have a certain belief system,

Even political or not or spiritual and you have a belief system about that,

The creator made you that way in order to spread that for sure.

The secret is do you bring this to the right people who are ready to receive it with their permission as opposed to interfering with another person's tikkun,

We said their personal correction,

And you enter their space and their boundaries and that always will backfire.

And Kabbalah helps a person I think delineate what vessel should receive your energy.

This is the biggest issue.

Everybody wants to give,

Everybody wants to share something,

The problem is they don't know which vessel is the one that should receive it.

How many times have you given advice to a friend and it just backfires or they're not open and you generally want to help.

So it's not that you want to help,

It's more about becoming sensitive to the other people who need to receive it.

So going back to how we can live our lives is having certainty in something that I believe that I think should be a certain way,

But the way you overcome this fairness issue which causes anger is,

Well I don't know,

I want to hear,

What do you have to say,

Well how do you do that,

Explain more to me,

Learn,

Learn,

Learn,

Learn,

Learn.

And don't argue with the person as you're learning.

So you can't do both in the same conversation.

You can't say,

Okay,

Tell me what you think and then you say,

Well let me tell you why you're wrong.

So keep it two separate conversations,

If you want to know the art of negotiation and the art of growing and the art of being successful,

It's learn,

Digest,

And when they want to ask you about your opinion and then you genuinely feel that they're ready to hear it,

So then you just,

You have to present it,

But not try to convince them.

Have you ever felt somebody was sharing something with you and behind it there was this intention of wanting to convince you or control you?

So that's also a problem.

You have to present it,

You have to share it kind of in the atmosphere and let them grab it.

I don't know if that makes sense.

It's a very subtle way of sharing energy without shoving the energy into the other person's vessel.

What David said in the beginning,

The whole idea of reactive behavior,

Right?

We talk a lot about that in the Kabbalah I Course.

By the way,

How's your Kabbalah I Course going?

We have 1,

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Basically,

I don't know if it's this week or next week,

The conversation focuses on that reactive behavior.

Where is it coming from?

What's the root of it?

Tonight.

There you go.

Okay,

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Sign up for the class really quickly.

One of the underlying concepts is that whenever there's a lack or pain triggered in me,

I have different responses I may go to respond or to feel that lack,

To feel that insecurity,

That fear,

That worry.

Anger is one of them that actually is really invigorating.

I don't know if it ever happened to you.

Let's say,

For example,

Going back to the social media thing again,

You see an ex having a ball in Punta Cana with lots of attractive people and you get angry.

Before you get angry,

There's this button that's pushed inside,

This trigger that feels awakens insecurity,

Awakens fear,

I'm never going to find anybody else,

Whatever.

It would be different for every single one of us.

But then the anger kicks in.

The anger is a funny thing because that lack,

If you can imagine almost like a vacuum opens up in one's being because of what was triggered in that photo or video or whatever,

And then the anger,

The ego kind of says,

Get angry.

It's going to feel so much better than this lack that you're feeling.

The anger comes in and maybe you call a friend and you say,

Did you see the picture?

You go out and you talk smack about that person.

You find a way.

You find a way to use the anger to fill the void.

That's why a lot of people say,

I'm sure this has happened to you too,

Please,

Please,

People say,

I just have to vent.

I just have to vent.

I have to get it out of my system.

What is venting really?

You're angry because of whatever happened and that venting fills that lack.

Now does it solve the problem,

Boys and girls?

No,

Because eventually that lack is going to get triggered again and some other negative energy slash behavior is going to be called into play to fill it rather than working on the lack itself.

The problem is not the anger.

The problem is the lack.

Part of what we want to get to and being in David's Kabbalah 1,

You'll get the remedy for it,

But being able to recognize,

And that's what this week is all about,

What is it that precursors?

What's the word?

What's your anger precursor?

What is the lack that gets awakened that your anger.

.

.

I saw some people were sharing,

For example,

A lack of control.

Feeling out of control is a huge lack.

It's a huge void that people feel when they're helpless or they're hopeless and it's easy to get angry about it.

I'm underprivileged,

Underserved,

Underrecognized,

Again,

The fairness card.

Another sign that a person would get angry besides the person who desires things to be fair,

Fair always equals anger,

Is a person.

.

.

To the extent that you're smart,

Educated,

Learned,

To the extent that you're type A,

You're very much in control of your life,

These are the people who are going to be most susceptible to the need for fairness and as a result,

Anger.

You got to look out.

.

.

If you identify yourself as a smart type A type individual,

You should know that odds are,

The chances are that you're more into fairness,

Which then translates into anger because you're educated.

When you're educated,

You start to have opinions.

When you start to have opinions,

The problem is,

Compared to all the wisdom in this world,

How much do you get?

You know why I'm smiling?

Why?

Because I went to college,

I was playing with the idea of not going and asking people,

What do you think?

What do you think?

What do you think?

Someone told me,

Don't go.

I said,

Why not?

I mean,

A lot of people told me,

Don't go,

But this particular person told me,

Because it's going to make you an arrogant beep.

Because you're going to become educated,

But not educated enough to be humble.

You're going to think you're better than everyone else.

Just enough to be dangerous.

You did go in the end.

I did go.

We went to the same school.

Yeah,

We did.

Yeah,

Yeah.

That is the problem.

That's the problem with learning a little.

It says when you learn a lot,

Then you realize how much you don't know.

But if you learn a little,

Then you think you know everything.

And then that's when the anger comes in.

So another thing is if you find yourself being frustrated with people,

Or short with people,

Or if you find that your compassion is diminishing,

Then you have to know that you're being controlled by the negative side.

It's not about right or wrong.

Every time you get into the right or wrong,

You start to lose your abundance.

Right again.

It's another judgment call.

It's right or it's wrong.

Don't worry about it.

The universe has got that part.

You focus on what you can change.

What does labeling it right or wrong do?

Nothing.

I never would want to get involved in that reality,

Because you get to choose where you want to play the game.

The creator gives us free will.

You want to play the game in the physical world,

Or you want to rise above and play it in the spiritual world.

And every time you get into what they said or what they didn't say,

What happened or what didn't happen,

Is it fair or is it not fair,

And it's your prerogative.

You play the game in the physical world.

In the physical world,

We call it the 1% reality.

That's what we call it in Kabbalah 1.

Because it's only 1% of the reality.

It's not even the full picture.

Kabbalah did this before the 1% and the 99% economic in the financial world.

We call it the 1% reality,

Meaning that you only see 1%,

And this reality is always ups and downs and it's always chaos.

If you want to be king of the 1%,

That's fine,

But to become king of the 1% means you only beget 100% of 1%.

However,

The 99%,

The spiritual one that we're talking about,

If you can master that through all the tools and wisdom that we're learning through Kabbalah,

Which is for everyone,

If you can master that,

Then you control the 100%.

Everything is controlled.

So you never want to get involved in the details,

In what the five senses are telling you.

I know people right now that are upset with each other,

Friends upset with each other.

This happened,

That happened.

This didn't happen.

They said this.

They feel that.

All of this is a trick.

It's a trick that our opponent,

We all have an opponent,

Is trying to steal our energy and is taking our focus away from goals.

You must have so many amazing goals in your life,

Things that you want to achieve,

And odds are the opponent is making sure that you're utilizing 80% to 90% of your time and energy on stuff that's not achieving your goals.

And this is why people get unhappy and then it's a vicious cycle.

I'm unhappy,

So I don't have something,

So I feel hurt,

And I'm going to hurt you,

But I'm going to make it seem like I'm helping you.

I'm educating you.

I'm really trying to help you.

You don't see that I'm helping you.

Whenever you say you don't see that I'm trying to help you,

It means you're being reacted.

It means you don't speak that person's language.

You don't feel them.

You don't understand them.

You're just shoving what you think is right.

Can I throw something a little bit deep out there,

Even though that's your job usually?

You're very practical today,

I'm going to be a little bit deep for you.

In the ancient Kabbalistic texts,

The word,

David was saying before,

We all want to share.

Our essence,

That is usually or typically naturally our nature,

Is to share.

In the original texts,

The word is lashpia,

Which really means to influence.

And I think that that works really,

That's an important detail to add into this conversation because what we really want to know is that we make a difference,

That we add value,

That we are powerful and we want to see our power at work.

You walk away from that lunch and you want to know that people heard you.

When they don't hear you,

Or like apropos to your Twitter study,

When they do the opposite of what you intended them to do,

That sets off that trigger of,

I didn't influence.

That really speaks to the DNA of our soul.

We are here to influence,

Not to be influenced.

The force of the opponent that David's going to talk about tonight in class as well,

It's not there to win,

It's there to challenge us.

Knowing that my purpose,

No matter who you are on the planet,

Part of your purpose is to grow in your ability to influence others,

Whether it means physically sharing emotionally,

Mentally,

Intellectually,

Spiritually,

Whatever,

What have you.

There's going to be this force that's going to say,

You think you can share?

Let's see it.

And it doesn't come out that way.

It comes out in,

You're worthless,

Or nobody's listening to you,

Or this always happens.

There is this constant soundtrack in the back of our minds that's there not to win,

But to set us up to get stronger.

And in knowing that,

Rather than getting angry,

Or plotting your retaliation,

Or trying to figure out who gets the one up this time,

It's more about,

Okay,

Wait a second.

What am I missing here?

And it reminds me of a quote I saw,

And then I'll pass it back to you,

That said,

Maybe I should even look,

I remember I shared it on my wall,

It was a few years ago.

Somebody acting out is actually acting out of hurt.

Meaning if somebody's trying to sabotage you,

Hurt you,

Being angry at you,

Being mean to you,

Rude to you,

Understand that they're hurting.

And when you're able to look more,

It's like one foot deeper into the story,

You see that you have nothing to get angry about.

The opposite,

That what's there for you to share is compassion,

Or empathy,

Or just even to give them space.

That recognition,

That realization is a very powerful tool that can be used on diminishing one's own sense of fairness,

And ultimately anger.

Something that we also don't talk a lot about,

Yesterday we had almost 2,

000 people streaming the event,

It was Joseph the Righteous,

Joseph the Righteous,

And in Kabbalah,

We're very much in tune with energy,

So we want to know,

If there's a powerful energy,

We want to know that it's there,

And we want to connect to it.

So according to the Bible,

And Kabbalah is considered the fourth level,

The deepest part of the Bible,

The secrets of the Bible.

So the Bible being the best-selling book of all time,

Which everybody has respect for the Bible,

If you have respect for the Bible,

Then you'll appreciate Kabbalah,

Because Kabbalah is just deciphering the Bible.

So the Kabbalists explain that there are certain people,

Especially the biblical figures,

That were very spiritual people,

That did spiritual work on a level that we can't even comprehend.

Once they leave this world,

All the light and energy that they created and manifested is revealed on that day that they left the world.

And this is true for all of us too,

So the day that a person that you know passes,

Their light,

Their soul,

Shining on that day,

Every year on that day,

Which means that people in the physical world can connect to that light,

Connect to that consciousness.

And that's important because the spiritual work is so difficult,

And sometimes it seems almost impossible,

But the Kabbalists say that the only way to truly grow and go to your next level is to connect to the energy of people who accomplished it prior to you.

So before- You have another day like that coming up,

By the way,

Saturday night.

Yes,

You're right.

We have another day,

But before we talk about it,

I want to talk about this day and how that relates to anger.

It says that Joseph,

He was the economic leader of his time,

Right?

It was- Minister of Finance.

It was the Minister of Finance.

It was 30,

What are we,

3,

500 years ago,

3,

600 years ago,

And it says that he was the wealthiest person in the world.

He controlled the world,

And his famous story of how he went from the rags to the.

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It was in the dungeon,

And he went to become the king of the world virtually,

And he controlled all the money.

He had all the power.

And the Zohar,

The text that deciphers the Bible,

Says very simply,

How was he able to control everything in this world?

We all would love to have the respect.

Imagine the whole world respects you,

And the whole world appreciates you,

And the whole world looks to you for knowledge,

For wisdom,

For abundance,

For charity.

We all want that.

We all would like to have this place,

Because we're a spark of the creator,

And we all want to be godly in this world.

And it says very simply,

Joseph was elevated to this position,

Because he was the master of his own emotions,

The master of his own desires.

He had desires.

He had emotions.

He had opinions.

But he didn't let them control him.

And they were there,

And they were probably stronger than any one of our reactive emotions.

So he was probably more angry than all of us.

He probably had a desire for fairness more than all of us.

It says that he had sexual desires that were at his peak when he was 19 years old,

And he was being tempted by the most beautiful woman in the world.

He had all of these things,

But he also had the foresight to say,

I want it all.

I want to become like the creator.

The only way is affinity of form.

I have to control myself,

To control my desires,

To control my emotions.

Yes,

I feel those things.

But I must control them so that I can have everything.

Not just to be spiritual.

Who cares about being spiritual?

Some people are so like,

Be spiritual,

Be one with the energy.

Who cares?

That's nice.

Be one with the energy.

I don't even know what that means.

It's a nice slogan.

We want to have heaven on earth.

In this earthly domain,

I want to experience heaven.

The way you do that is to do what Joseph did,

Which is completely being in control of yourself,

Which is what we're hopefully teaching here in Kabbalah.

The next day that this exists is the Saturday night.

So it's another great Kabbalist.

Different secrets.

He gives us the ability to decipher and understand our personal correction.

Is that correct?

I think that's what we've been sharing.

But before we even get there,

We have,

I mean,

This time period we spoke a couple weeks ago that this is one of the more challenging periods of the year.

But there's also these buckets of energy that appear in this time that allow us to fortify ourselves in a way that we don't have every few days this powerful.

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.

Yeah,

Three negative weeks that ends July 31st,

I think.

30th is the last day.

Last day.

So the 31st is when it's over.

And we're saying in these three weeks,

There are pockets of energy that can be helpful.

Right.

So we're going to be meeting in the afternoon,

Which is this Wednesday,

And the coming into that energy of Leo,

Already we're transitioning to that shift in energy.

And that's why this conversation is so important because the way that you can hear the lion roar in the jungle from how many miles away,

Our inner lions are going to be roaring in this month.

And that's why this conversation is so important in these days to be conscious,

To be mindful of when those lacks come up,

Not feeding that lion,

Letting that lion in the same way that you have to starve a parasite in your body in order for it to die,

Not feed it any sugar.

That's what the Kabbalists teach about not filling that lack is actually going to diminish that lack.

So a couple other tidbits to know.

First of all,

We always talk about the day or days of the new moon is it's a very important time to practice what you preach,

To be on your best behavior,

To be as much in a mode of compassion,

Kindness,

Sharing,

In control of our reactive emotions.

The month in general,

It's funny because usually the ebbs and flows of the energy of a typical month is it's positive for the first two weeks and then that energy dissipates over the second two weeks.

The month of Leo,

It's the opposite,

That the first two weeks or the energy is more concealed after the 31st or so.

The following week is very positive.

We're gearing up for that show as well to share with you some secrets.

But bearing in mind a lot of what the key to harnessing the power of this month really is humility.

I would say that that's the buzzword for the month of Leo is to really constantly be in that state of what David said before.

I know what I know,

But I don't know what I don't know.

I have certainty in myself,

But I'm open to hear everything else that's happening.

I want to hear the wisdom.

I want to receive the wisdom.

But I have certainty in myself,

Not self-deprecating.

The self-deprecating has the opposite effect,

Unfortunately.

If you don't think you're special,

You're just going to attract very unspecial things.

And by the way,

That can also be a source of anger.

Somebody was asking in the comments,

Well,

What about when you feel disrespected?

Anybody who comes to me and asks about disrespect,

I tell them,

How do you respect yourself?

If you do not respect yourself,

You can't expect other people to do that.

And it's the same thing.

It's not I know nothing,

I'm a zero,

I'm a nobody.

It's I know what I know,

But I know there's so much else to learn.

I'm going to rephrase it.

When you get upset that someone's disrespected you,

It means you're not certain.

You're still not certain about yourself.

So someone else is just echoing what you feel,

And that's what's painful.

Because if I am certain,

I am a certain way,

And you say,

Oh,

David,

You have blonde hair.

You have ugly blonde hair.

I'd be like,

But I don't.

But I'm certain of that.

But if that's only 1% of the picture,

Maybe your higher self has ugly blonde hair.

Maybe.

Maybe.

But we always will react to that which internally we're not sure about,

And we also feel might be true.

It's just that this person is just shining it.

They're basically saying,

Hey,

You have a weakness here.

I'm pointing it out to you.

You should fix it,

Because there's a weakness here.

There's a question here.

I don't know if you have time.

Yeah.

So there's a question here.

We haven't taken a question,

So I thought it'd be nice.

And it is a long line to what we're talking about.

So Sarah wrote,

I have learned my anger is triggered.

I think a lot of people have this.

Triggered when I sense others are being harmed or mistreated.

So a lot of people feel this way.

It's also injustice.

Yeah.

You see injustice.

You see someone close to you or not being harmed or mistreated.

You start to get angry.

Specifically vulnerable individuals,

Individuals who may not be able to take care of themselves.

What is the difference between venting and assertive communication?

Is it timing?

Is it love?

This is a good question.

A lot of people,

A lot of people.

You have an answer?

I have an answer,

But do you have an answer?

No,

I want to hear what you're going to say.

Let's understand what your goal is.

You see someone being mistreated or harmed or abused,

Which is a horrible thing.

What's your goal?

What do you want?

What do you just feel you want,

You feeling bad about it or even feeling angry about it,

All that's doing is also abusing you.

So now the abuse has grown to two people.

You sharing that this is bad or negative and getting the word out.

Now you're abusing everybody.

The abuse is actually spreading.

The only way you can help bring healing to this problem or a solution to this problem is we need to access the light of the creator.

And the light can show you and guide you how to practically fix it.

Talk to that person,

Help that person,

Help on a global level.

We don't know.

We don't know those answers.

But what we do know is that if you're not whole,

If you're coming from lack,

If you're not coming from a place of inner peace,

Whatever you do will perpetuate the problem and not solve it.

So what I would say for Sarah or anybody is,

Okay,

I feel there's injustice.

I got it.

Now let's take a step back.

How do I get to a place where I'm not now hurt,

Upset,

Reactive?

Why do I feel so bad to begin with?

I would even look inside myself and say like,

Oh,

It's because I have injustice in my own life or maybe I treat other people this way so it's kind of emotional for me.

So I would kind of look at all that.

And then when I feel that it's truly has nothing to do with me and it's not emotional,

Then I would take steps to say,

All right,

Well,

How can I be of service?

How can I help?

How can I solve the problem?

And obviously endless possibilities there.

But it's where you're coming from is going to matter most that will determine whether you solve the problem or perpetuate it.

The other question that I saw that I think we have just a few minutes left that's worth addressing in anticipation of next week is what about when other people are angry?

What if you live with somebody who's angry or takes out their anger on you?

What can we do?

Or what is that showing us?

Where is our involvement of it?

It's a little too general.

So are we talking about relationship?

Are we talking about family?

I think it gets more complicated.

I'm trying to find the comment.

We have to add the questions I would ask are,

Well,

What's the relationship?

What's the scenario?

Do you feel like it's your role to help?

Is there an opening to help?

Do you need to step away?

Do you need to walk away?

What's important to you?

Do you feel like you can be the best version of you being in a toxic environment?

It's pretty surprising how many people choose to stay in a toxic environment around toxic people.

I think that the question is when someone is angry at us or just unloading their anger on us,

What does it mean?

I think that was the question,

Not what do we do?

What does it mean?

When someone's just angry at us?

It depends if it's a relationship.

It could be because of past transgressions that you did to that person or not,

But they are kind of giving you a message that you need to change something or cleanse something.

I would not be able to answer that question generally.

I would need to know a specific scenario.

We can get more into it.

If people want to share the specific scenarios with some background for us by next week,

We can dissect those.

But this one,

There's so many ways you can go.

I want to share a quick story about a student that I had years ago who we did a certain workshop and uncovered that one of the main issues that she has in this particular lifetime is rage.

And she is a very kind,

Compassionate,

Sweet,

Loving.

Even her chosen profession is taking care of.

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.

She's a therapist for disabled children.

She couldn't be more sweet or kind or gentle.

She said to me,

Alisha,

I don't see it.

I don't feel it.

And we worked through different meditations on ways to open up,

To look inside beyond history,

Beyond belief patterns.

If this is really there,

That was really with the different tools she used,

She said,

If this is really mine,

I want to see it.

I want to own it.

I want to transform it.

And she did the meditations.

I think it took her about six weeks.

So that also is just proof.

If you do a meditation to get some clarity about something and it doesn't work the first five or 10 times,

Keep going.

About six weeks later,

She called me.

I got a voicemail message.

I came to the office around eight o'clock in the morning and she had called at like 4 a.

M.

And she said,

Alisha,

You're not going to believe it.

I finally.

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.

She said,

I sat up.

I was sleeping.

I sat up in my bed and I finally understood what it was.

I am enraged that the creator could bring people into the world with these challenges.

That's a good one.

That's powerful.

And she said,

Maybe that's even what prompted her to take on this profession,

Right?

That she wanted to be a part of the solution.

When you said being a part of the solution,

Whatever injustice or abuse,

She said,

I don't know,

Maybe that's why I was called to do it or maybe that's what spoke to me about it.

I'm angry at the day and I'm angry at the parents for not identifying the challenges earlier.

They don't take the doctor's prescriptions to put their kids in there.

I'm angry at everybody,

But these poor,

Innocent children who they didn't.

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She went through this whole justice.

It's not fair.

And so I'm sharing that because I think a lot of.

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For a lot of our listeners,

They're probably going,

Yes,

That's me.

Yes,

That's me.

But there's some of our listeners who are saying,

I just don't.

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.

I'm not an angry person.

If you have those justice issues,

If you are a person who gets easily frustrated,

If you are a person who gets impatient or irritated,

Whether it's with small things or big things,

This is the week to look at your challenges,

Your issues,

Whatever you want to call them,

Through the filter of anger and to understand something is being triggered in me and I am allowing that lack to be filled with anger.

And I remember our teacher,

Rob Berg,

Used to say,

You could be angry for all the right reasons.

And there are reasons to be angry,

Right?

The injustice in the world,

All the unfairness.

However,

The anger is not only not solving the problem,

It's also hurting you in the process and probably the people around you.

So as we go into this coming week,

We have the new moon of Leo on Wednesday.

We have Sunday,

Another powerful day.

We'll come back on Monday and share with you the other powerful days.

Do we have an event around Sunday that we're doing?

We do,

But I don't know that we have the link ready for it.

But if we do,

I guess somebody can put it in the.

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I think if people are connected to the newsletter on kabala.

Com or the membership or whatever it is,

You will get notifications.

We try to give you notifications as much as we can,

But I would 100% be subscribed to anything you can be subscribed to on kabala.

Com to get that flow of information.

And next week we'll talk about.

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.

We'll give tools.

I think we should bring some deep.

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We haven't prepared it yet for everybody,

So I'm just having an out loud conversation with Elisheva.

I think we should bring tools.

I think we should bring Kabbalistic meditation.

I think we should kind of go a little deeper than we usually do.

I would like to know if any of our colleagues have services,

One-off services that they do around healing,

Meditation,

People who have questions and want to.

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.

I'm seeing some pretty deep,

Heavy questions that people are writing.

And obviously we're not going to give it the respect it deserves on the show.

People need one-on-one attention.

So we'll bring services from our colleagues,

Some really powerful stuff.

And anything else that you would want,

Please let us know and we can share that with you next week to help overcome anger,

Overcome the need for fairness,

Overcome that frustration and that sense of injustice,

All those bottled up emotions and feelings.

We want to bring healing to that.

So we'll talk about that next week.

So continue to post your comments,

Different issues and challenges that you have around anger.

You can email us.

I know many of you are listening to us on the podcast apps.

You can email us at energyboost at kabbalah.

Com.

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It's really amazing.

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So thank you for that.

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