Finding Your Purpose - Weekly Energy Boost

Limiting beliefs can stop us from finding and achieving our life’s purpose, which is the true source of our fulfillment. In this episode, we’ll share how to connect to our unique purpose in a way that leads us out of our thoughts and into action! Episode 2 of 4. Original airdate: 9/13/21

Transcript

Good morning,

Everyone.

Good evening,

Good afternoon,

Wherever you are,

And welcome to this week's Weekly Energy Boost.

My name is Ellie Sheva,

And I'm here today with David.

And we are excited,

I think,

To join you this morning and share with you this topic that we've picked called Finding Your Purpose.

I have to say I'm a little,

I don't know if it's impressed or distracted or trying to make the best of it.

No,

Honestly.

We choose these topics months and months in advance because they're related to what the wisdom of Kabbalah shares about timing.

The Kabbalistic calendar is not used for the measurement of time.

It is used for the measurement of spiritual energy and of spiritual opportunity.

And we're now in the month of Libra,

Which means that,

At least for humanity,

Our books are being balanced.

The sign of Libra,

The constellation,

Is that of scales.

And in this time period,

We are all compelled to weigh things,

To measure our accomplishments,

To check our goals,

To see how well we've done,

How far we've come,

And to recalibrate if necessary,

To shift the sails and make sure that we're headed where we're heading.

Now,

We titled this episode Finding Your Purpose,

And I don't know if the word is irony or coincidence.

Obviously it's not.

I lost a colleague this morning,

Which obviously loss awakens questions and rattles us no matter,

I think even if you hear about it on the news,

Right?

Many of us this past week also were commemorating the 20th anniversary of 9-11 and how that impacted our lives.

And purpose is a big question for people.

I think the truth is death brings up a lot of questions around purpose.

Why are we here?

Are we fulfilling our soul's contract with the creator?

What does it all mean when life can end in an instant?

And so today we really want to help our listeners,

And by default we're helping ourselves also process,

This idea of finding purpose,

Understanding our purpose.

And I think if you've ever heard the show before,

You know that we always emphasize our purpose is not outside of us.

Our purpose is singular.

Every single person on the planet has the same purpose,

And that is the transformation of themselves,

The elevation of their consciousness,

The growth of their perspective.

We are meant to come into the world one person and leave it another.

And a lot of people confuse purpose with meaning.

People are in search of the meaning of their life,

And they call it purpose.

Our purpose is within us,

And how we accomplish that purpose is outside of us,

Is our job,

Our family,

Our neighborhood,

Our community.

That's the stage on which we fulfill our purpose,

But no product,

No book,

No family,

No legacy is ever anybody's purpose.

That's simply the means by which we accomplish that growth and transformation.

So we want to help our listeners not only connect to that truth this week,

And of course,

If we're doing it this week,

That means we can do it any week,

But really the universe is asking us to rethink all of the things that we think bring us joy,

Bring us fulfillment,

All of the things that we value in our life,

And reset it because in that resetting,

We can get closer to not only fulfilling our purpose,

But deepening the meaning and importance that we find in the everyday interactions that we have with people and in the big stuff.

So I'm sorry that I made the introduction to today's show such a grave one.

It's hard to ignore it,

But I think it also has a purpose and meaning,

And we can use it to facilitate the conversation to an even higher place.

I think that's powerful.

And for people who want to know,

Our colleague's name is Eliau Buona.

And just to share something about him,

Because I think it's powerful in terms of what purpose is all about.

He was,

He's from Paris,

From France,

But what he did so well,

Because I didn't know him that well,

And I would see him at the major events.

And he would always bring these people from Africa,

From different parts of Africa to these events,

These international spiritual events we had,

Like the one we had with Rosh Hashanah with like 3000 people.

And he would have a whole section of people from Africa.

He would have Bedouins,

People who have their own religions and their own spiritual paths,

But he inspired them about the laws of the universe according to the wisdom of Kabbalah.

And what I found to be so profound about that is his ability to go into any part of the world and elevate consciousness and elevate souls that way.

Well,

You know,

We're sitting here on a podcast.

It's easy to talk to people who want to listen to us.

He went to the places where it's not that easy.

And he created mini Kabbalah centers all around the world like that.

The Ivory Coast and the Kabbalah Room.

The Ivory Coast.

Oh,

Yeah.

There's so many photos of like Bedouins and people in Africa having like all the tools of Kabbalah and getting together by the hundreds.

So super impressive.

And we want to share something positive to help in the elevation that is sold today.

So about purpose.

It's one of the things that people talk and ask a lot in our sessions,

More of our 101 questions,

Because people's people tie their joy and their fulfillment to their purpose.

Because the biggest fear people have is that they're not relevant.

Relevancy it's all about relevance.

If you think even about AI,

Artificial intelligence and how it works,

It works on the premise and foundation of relevancy.

If something is relevant,

It's going to be shown to you.

If you go to TikTok and you look at a video about,

I don't know,

Kale.

You spend a lot of time of eliminating kale,

You'll be shown hundreds of videos about kale all of a sudden because TikTok is acknowledging something here is relevant.

So we all are very invested in being relevant,

Relevant to our families,

Relevant to our friends,

Our community.

And when we're not relevant or when something happens where we feel rejection or failure,

Something's taken away,

We're not acknowledged properly and we don't feel relevant.

We feel very empty inside.

And so this is why people always want to know what's their purpose because purpose means that in the eyes of the creator,

I'm relevant.

And that is why people want to find their purpose because whose approval do I want most if not the creator.

Even if you believe in the creator,

You don't believe in the creator.

Deep,

Deep,

Deep down inside,

Everybody wants to have the approval of the universal force.

So what does it mean to find your purpose?

And something that I was thinking about,

We had lunch with some of our colleagues this weekend and we're talking about how everybody is so fixated on receiving energy,

Taking in energy.

But what happens is that the fixation is on the energy and not on what receives the energy because what does that mean?

I'm going to explain that.

So follow me here because it's going to be a little deep,

But follow me here.

Because I was thinking about it for these 10 days.

There's 10 days now that Elisha was talking about where our soul is being recreated.

So it says technically that we're asleep.

The soul has left the body.

And there's 10 days building 10 dimensions of our soul.

And it started from this window in time called Rosh Hashanah until Yom Kippur.

This is what the Bible calls it.

But this is for every soul in this world.

So every soul in this world,

Regardless of your religious beliefs,

There's a re-creation happening of 10 levels of it.

So your vessel is being created.

Now based on what's being created during these 10 days is what you can receive.

And there's a spiritual law that when the vessel receives the light,

So when my desire receives what it wants,

So if I want a car and then I buy the car,

So I've essentially my vessel has received the light,

My desire for the car is now fulfilled.

The person wants a relationship and then finds a relationship,

Now their vessel has received the light of that.

There's this rule that as soon as you receive what you want,

The fulfillment distinguishes the desire.

So as soon as I get what I want,

I no longer want.

And that's a problem.

Why is that a problem?

Because if you think about sadness,

Anger,

Frustration and depression,

Something that I read from Rob Ashlaug,

The founder of the Kabbalah Center,

He says that if you feel annoyed and upset,

It probably means you received too much.

We think we're upset and annoyed when we don't get what we want.

But the Kabbalists say actually it's the opposite.

If you actually look at people who are the most upset,

They're usually the people who have received more than they've created.

The people who are working,

Pushing,

Breaking fears,

Breaking barriers,

They're usually not the ones that are upset.

I just want to clarify,

You don't mean working nine to five,

You mean making an effort.

I mean doing the spiritual work.

I'm not talking about working nine to five,

That's correct.

When you receive more than you give,

You get angry.

And when you give,

And by truly giving,

I'm not saying giving in selfish manipulative ways,

I'm talking about being a producer more than you're a consumer,

You create a vessel.

Adding more value than taking.

Adding more value than taking,

However you want to put it,

There is a vessel now.

The secret of life,

The purpose is how do I build and maintain a constant vessel for blessings?

If you think about,

For example,

Drugs,

If a person does a drug,

Let's say a person does ecstasy and they feel a tremendous high,

An amazing euphoric feeling,

We know that right afterwards,

They feel the lowest low they've ever felt,

And sadness and depression.

Why is that?

We don't really question it,

We just say,

Well that's how the brain works.

But because the person received so much energy,

That energy extinguishes the vessel,

Removes the vessel completely,

And that's why there's sadness.

Technically you should be happy that you just had this great night of ecstasy.

Now you should have the next day,

You should be like,

Wow,

That was a great night.

Look back,

Relationships,

Same thing,

Person gets married.

Why doesn't it grow?

Because the joy and the pleasure.

It's because as soon as you get what you want,

If you don't do anything spiritual about it,

If you don't apply some of the spiritual laws that we're talking about,

You now have less desire,

In fact,

No desire because the light extinguishes the vessel.

The light removes the desire to receive.

So my point in all this is our purpose isn't about this thing or that thing.

Is it teaching?

Is it being a parent?

Is it being a whatever?

Our purpose is everything and it's about maintaining the consciousness of the vessel.

I know it sounds very deep,

But I wanted to start on this level because I feel like we can then work our way down to something more practical.

So yeah.

Well,

David and I,

David often brings up this idea called cognitive dissonance,

Where we think one way and we behave another.

And to me,

Or in the work that we do,

And David and I both work much more with people one-on-one than we do in front of a large audience,

Half of the work that we do with people is helping them to identify where the dissonance is.

And I can give you a really simple example.

Many times we have people out there looking for work and they're interviewing and they believe that hard work is important,

That they,

You know,

Being adding value,

They think that that's what's important to them.

But at the same time,

They find themselves not wanting to answer the phone,

Hoping that they don't get the job.

Right?

So on one hand,

They believe there's a belief that this is important to me,

Or let's say people think,

You know,

Yeah,

I want to get married and have a family.

But they ghost the people that they date.

Right?

So on one hand,

They have this desire.

On the other hand,

They have a behavior that actually prevents the fulfillment of the desire.

They're not cognizant that that's happening.

Right.

They think that their beliefs are more important than their actions.

And they don't realize that their actions are reflecting a hidden belief that they're not conscious.

Exactly.

Exactly.

And that's really where it's important this week to take the time to check,

To put ourselves in check this week,

I think more than any,

Because that lack of congruence is actually where a lot of our misery comes from.

The disappointment,

The beating ourselves up,

That comes from the place of,

I think I want something and I think I'm working toward it,

But yet I have some underlying belief.

Maybe it's a scar from a previous experience that's actually preventing me from having the fulfillment that I'm seeking.

And what's powerful when we say belief,

We're really,

We are really saying it's a form of desire because that's the only thing that belongs to us.

So it is tied to what I was saying before.

If I believe that,

If I say to you,

Ella Sheva,

I want to have a meaningful friendship.

I want to have more friends,

But I have a belief,

I.

E.

A desire that's very hidden,

That friends tend to betray you because maybe I was betrayed in the past.

So I'm telling Ella Sheva I want more friends and maybe I'm telling everybody.

And you're telling yourself.

I want more friends.

I'm posting it.

I want more friends.

I want to hang out with people more.

I want to be more social.

That's my commitment for this year.

That's what I'm telling everybody.

I want to be more friendly.

And by the way,

I will,

Maybe we'll spend more time with more people and there will be something,

But as soon as somebody gets a little close,

The intimacy starts to happen where we become close to each other.

I will look for ways to sabotage this friendship because deep down inside,

I believe friends betray.

And so what I really want that I'm not telling anybody,

Including myself,

Is that this friendship needs to end because it's getting too close,

Too close for comfort.

And here's something else.

What if I have another correction in my soul,

Another Tikkun,

Which is I hate disappointing people and causing pain.

This is kind of the worst type of Tikkun mix,

Like the perfect storm of corrections of the soul,

Which is one is I have a fear of betrayal.

So as soon as something gets too close,

I sabotage it,

But nobody knows,

Including myself.

And then I have another correction,

Which is I hate being confrontational and rocking the boat and causing people pain.

Why is it that if I have both these corrections,

It's one of the worst?

Because this person is always in a state of limbo.

This person never really has meaningful relationships and never ends bad relationships either because they don't want to confront the situation.

So this person is in a constant state.

It's like a hamster wheel,

Right?

That's how we say it.

It's constantly in a state of being drained.

And that's what our negativity does to us.

It forces us not to be authentic to our soul and act in ways that are always compromising and running away.

It's almost like I'm running a marathon and I see the finish line and then I just stop and I go for a cup of coffee or something and I just say,

You know what,

I'm done here.

Because the finish line,

You getting to the finish line and you reaching your goal is the way to eliminate the negative side.

And the negative side just wants people to give up.

Either you give up at the beginning,

In the middle or towards the end,

The negative side doesn't care as long as you're giving up.

Well,

I think that part of us doesn't like.

In that belief,

You don't like the part of you that doesn't want to be friends or that shies away from the friendship.

If you can actually be cognizant of it,

Which is what self-awareness is.

But remember,

99% of people aren't even cognizant of what we just said.

Now,

There's people who are listening to our show who are having these aha moments and say,

Oh,

That's me,

That's me,

I get it,

Oh my gosh,

Yes,

Yes,

Yes.

But know that by tomorrow,

The negative side will bury this deep down inside because it's uncomfortable to deal with,

It's uncomfortable to look at.

And if you want to know if this is happening,

It's happening to all of us,

It's happening to all of us,

We're just probably not even aware.

If you want to know what's happening to you,

You have to look at the area of your life that you feel there isn't fulfillment.

Because that's,

Why isn't there fulfillment?

Basically a person should be fulfilled in a moment.

In one moment,

Every goal you have could technically be achieved because there's no lack in the creator.

The creator doesn't have an inability to give.

And in fact,

Whatever it is that we desire is given already.

So if the creator has already done his part,

All that's left is for us to do our part.

And if I'm lacking something,

It means that I have one desire that's saying,

Hey,

I want this,

But a hidden desire that's saying,

Oh no,

No,

No,

Please don't give me that.

Please don't give me success over a certain amount.

Please don't give me people who truly appreciate me.

Please don't give me a stable relationship.

Give me an unavailable one.

I like guys who don't have their act together,

Who might have a slight drug problem,

But are sweet.

This is what I've seen coming.

It's kind of sweet.

Maybe I can fix them.

Well because deep down inside I get joy from fixing people.

So actually I do want somebody who's a little broken,

Maybe a lot of broken so that I can fix them.

Maybe it has to do with the fact that my dad was broken.

So vicariously,

If I fix this 26 year old boy without a job,

I will be also healing the relationship with my dad.

All of this is happening on a very subconscious level that people aren't even cognizant of.

You just see this guy and you're like,

Wow,

He's cute and I'm going to talk to him.

And he's also dating somebody else,

Even better.

Well now that we've clearly established the problem,

Let's give our listeners some tools.

Or at least perspectives to grab the tools so that we can use the opportunity this week is presenting us to reassess,

To figure out not only,

I think it's easy to laugh about the broken belief systems,

But underneath those broken belief systems are genuinely positive,

Empowered,

And I think magnanimous beliefs that are just cloaked in the history,

The past,

The fears,

The worries.

Kabbalah teaches that underneath all of that,

We are genuinely good,

Pure,

And positive.

The problem is,

And I think part of the distractions of the physical reality,

Especially in modern times,

And we spoke about that a couple of weeks ago,

That having that time,

That break away from the craziness of the world is really valuable because it gives you that time to reflect.

We're getting questions here like,

What can we do to actively maintain the energy of desire?

I think a lot of people are listening and saying,

Yeah,

Uh-huh,

Uh-huh,

Uh-huh,

But now what do we do?

So I think that one of the things I'm going to bring up the.

.

.

Give us a tool.

Give us a tool.

The Kabbalists actually give us the tool of imagining if we knew we had a limited time to live,

What would we do with that time?

Okay,

So that's the tool you're giving us now,

Right?

I think we can pose questions that can help people get on track.

One of the things that the Kabbalists promote heavily is asking questions and questioning everything.

Questioning that if you only had a certain,

Let's say a year to live this life,

What would you do?

What would you do differently?

What would you stop doing?

Maybe there's a better way to ask the question,

More positive and uplifting.

If you could make money doing anything in the world,

What would you do?

What am I really saying?

Some people say,

I would garden,

Right?

But I can't do it all day long because it doesn't put money in the bank.

I got a job.

I got bills to pay.

I got to do it.

I'm with you.

So one of the things that I think we don't afford ourselves enough of,

And I guess I can think of people who definitely do afford themselves enough of this,

But doing things that bring you joy or make you happy is not a waste of time.

We live in a very productivity-minded world.

Being at home,

For those of us who now work at home,

It's a little bit blurry because why sit and read a book for fun when you could be at your computer answering emails and planning meetings and things like that.

Part of it is bringing more.

.

.

Okay,

Let's put it.

.

.

I have a list of five things.

Wait,

I just lost you here.

Questions,

Questions I'm going to ask.

Five questions.

Okay,

Okay.

The first question is,

What brings you joy that you could be doing more of?

Okay,

And you're saying these questions- Will help you find more meaning.

Find more meaning.

Okay.

Meaning,

In other words- Yes.

People feel.

.

.

Correct me if I'm wrong,

People.

People feel like they're just on this hamster wheel,

Right?

We had a lot of people commenting,

Every day looks the same.

I work.

I eat.

I shower.

I sleep.

I work.

I eat.

I shower.

I sleep.

Or I look for work.

You're giving five practical bits of advice so people can generate a little bit more meaning in their lives.

Right.

By the way,

You already took one of them.

The adding value bit is a big piece.

Okay,

So being a producer more than you are a consumer.

Adding value more than you take value.

I don't like the word producer simply because you don't have to make something in order to be valuable.

Right?

I said to my kids yesterday,

And we were actually- To produce energy.

Right.

Well,

To reveal energy,

Not produce.

No calories spent.

What I said to them is that.

.

.

I said to my kids yesterday,

Let's see if we can find ways to reveal light that nobody will know about.

Of course.

Right?

My 10-year-old was like,

What does that even mean?

And I said,

Well,

He asked me if he could throw a piece of trash on the floor earlier in the day.

So I said,

And obviously I told him no,

But he said,

I said,

Pick up a piece of trash.

Right?

Nobody's going to thank you or clap for you or recognize you or give you a gold star because of that.

But at the same time,

The world is a better place because of that thing you did.

Oh,

That's nice.

Now part of,

I think,

What happens to people is,

To your point about receiving,

People are so focused on how can I get what I want that they forget that part of what brings genuine meaning to our lives is making a difference.

And you don't need to own a billion dollar company to make a difference.

You don't need to have millions of followers on social media to make a difference.

It is as simple as a text message,

As a- So you're saying pick up the trash and nobody's looking and making a difference?

Absolutely.

Prove it.

Prove it.

Prove it spiritually here.

Prove it spiritually?

Well,

I mean,

That's why people listening to us because they want to understand what's happening behind what's happening.

So you gave a nice thing.

That's something I'm going to read like on the back of a napkin at a party favor game.

Pick up a piece of trash and you have more meaning in your life.

Give me the why.

Give me why that,

Because I'm not doing that.

I'm not going out there to do that right now.

Well,

We made the point before about spiritual effort.

That the way that we uncover the greatness of our soul as an individual is by finding what's difficult for us,

Finding what stretches us,

What takes us out of our comfort zone and living more in that space without sounding too cliche.

So what's that got to do with picking up the trash?

Because I could give the show here with you,

But maybe sitting on a more uncomfortable chair.

That's not exactly what we're talking about.

So every one of us is born with a certain predetermined personality.

We choose certain qualities,

Certain personality traits,

Certain gifts,

Certain shortcomings.

And the script of our life,

The movie of our life is basically us either fighting those qualities,

Hiding the good ones and leading with the less than good ones or evolving and transforming those negative ones and radiating the positive ones.

That's the movies that we love to see in the theaters or on demand are the ones where there is triumph,

There is overcoming.

Somebody masters a weakness or overcomes the odds to become a hero.

And the hero is not always about,

Many times,

Not about saving other people's lives.

It's literally saving their own lives.

I always think when we talk about that example,

I always think about the pursuit of happiness with Will Smith.

Very relatable,

Common problems and different things were set against him and somehow with perseverance,

He managed to best himself.

He was the only,

If you haven't seen it,

Go see it of course,

But he managed to overcome the odds and really achieve greatness for him.

Not right?

He didn't get a trophy from anybody.

It was really about him achieving his own self mastery.

So my point is for my son,

Being bothered to take care of the mess around him is so difficult for him.

It's specifically their people,

By the way,

There are people in the world who would rather pick up trash than have a conversation with another human being.

Okay.

So what I'm getting here,

Okay,

Now I understand where you're going with it.

You're basically saying it's not about the result of what you do.

For example,

We're given this show right now.

And we frequently focused on whether we had one person listening or 1 billion people listening.

It shouldn't make that much of a difference.

That's the great part about it is that we don't know how many people are going to hear this.

We're just talking to each other,

Sharing what we think is valuable and going home.

And there's a lot of challenges that come along the way between us wanting to be here and us being here.

And it's that process of us kind of going out of our comfort zone,

By the time we get here on these microphones,

That builds the vessel.

That builds the vessel that eventually allows the light of the creator to rest in it.

So it sounds like what we're saying here is the effort that we do personally,

Regardless of the result,

That's building the vessel.

That's what you're saying.

Right.

I agree.

And that's what requires,

Why self-awareness is so essential is that if you are not paying attention,

If you're not careful,

You will absorb the values and the behaviors and the attitudes of the people around you.

And that lack of authenticity is also going to make you feel like you're not fulfilling your life's purpose.

All right.

So I want to add to that because that's really powerful.

Now,

What you said,

And here's another spiritual twist to it,

Which is people make effort all the time.

People make tons of effort.

And what happens is that the goal isn't reached many times,

Right?

The result isn't always there.

And if you can get excited about the fact that you made the effort,

Then that effort stays as a vessel that moves on to the next thing to become fulfilled.

So I remember once Michael Berg said,

We could make an effort to make money in one area and it totally fails and we get totally rejected.

But then in the next endeavor,

We do barely any work and there's huge success.

Well,

What just happened?

It's because I carried over the vessel from the prior endeavor.

It carried over into the new endeavor.

So in the new endeavor,

I didn't have to do any work.

It just happened magically.

It just happened so beautifully.

But it's because I carried over the old vessel.

Now,

The way you carry over the old vessel is you get excited about the fact that you made the effort,

Regardless of the fact that the result didn't occur.

If you get sad,

If you get upset,

If you get frustrated that you made all this effort and it didn't come out,

You've also now destroyed the vessel and you can't carry it over into the next endeavor.

So many times you'll invest in a relationship and the other person will leave you or betray you or hurt you and you're like,

Well,

I just put three years into this thing.

So if you don't get upset about it,

If you take responsibility and you have joy about the fact that this just ended,

Which is what we call restriction,

You then carry that three years of work into the new relationship.

Energy is never lost.

Well,

I don't want to call it energy.

We call it the vessel is never lost.

Okay.

Because the energy that we spent in that relationship created a vessel.

No,

But a lot of people say,

Well,

That was a waste of time.

So exactly.

So to your point,

Every time you say that was a waste of time,

You've now destroyed your vessel.

You actually have to say,

Okay,

That time I spent is still.

.

.

That's why we say what a pleasure because I'm now just carrying this vessel into the next thing,

Into the next thing,

Into the next thing.

And that's how you maintain the vessel.

It's the consciousness of not being upset about the work that you did that you think was wasted.

Okay.

And so,

Yes,

At that point,

If I pick up the trash or I do anything that's out of my comfort zone,

None of it is wasted.

All of it is there to create a vessel as long as you're conscious of the vessel still being there.

If you think it was a waste of time,

You are now given permission for the negative side to destroy all that you built.

Okay.

Can I throw in another one now?

So one of the measures or let's put it this way,

I don't want to take for granted that those of you who are listening have been listening always and forever and have caught every episode.

So I'm going to repeat something that we say from time to time that we are the creators of our reality.

We are each one of us is a cause,

Is a creator,

Is the director of their own movie.

What does that mean?

That I am in charge of everything.

And when you realize you're in charge,

That doesn't mean that you control the interest rates at the bank that you patronize.

That doesn't mean that you're in control of your neighbor's noise level.

It doesn't mean that you get to move traffic this way and that.

But what it means is that you are in control of A,

How you respond to everything in your life and B,

The meaning or context you give what's happening.

And a lot of people,

I would say,

Give up the second one pretty easily.

Almost nobody does the first,

Right?

Most people think that I'm a victim and I'm at the mercy of everybody and everything.

We're in a good mood when good things happen.

We're in a bad mood when bad things happen.

And in the middle,

In the in between,

In the gray,

We're sort of bored and unmotivated and we're waiting for the next thing to look forward to.

The next vacation,

The next buy one,

Get one free sale,

The next party,

Et cetera and so forth.

So one of the things that the Kabbalists teach A,

It actually answers the question,

One of the questions we brought up before,

What can we do to actively maintain the energy of desire?

Or what is a way that we can feel more connected to our purpose,

To our reason for being on the planet is to know those limitations and to recognize that in any given moment,

I have the ability to decide if I'm going to struggle right now,

Meaning if I'm going to suffer with what's going on or if I can rise above it,

If I can let go of the drama,

Of the chaos,

Of the I don't know,

I'm reminded of so many stories as it's the words are coming out of my mouth about how people went through something difficult.

And in the moment it was miserable,

It was horrible,

It was gut wrenching.

But on the other end of it,

Now they look at it and they say,

I wouldn't change it for the world.

Right.

And we all have examples of that in our lives,

But the idea is that how connected to our purpose we feel actually is very much connected to how well we manage challenges.

Do I allow having a challenge to quote unquote ruin my day,

Ruin my week,

Ruin my month?

Everything is challenging.

I think that one of the,

If you would look at people who identify themselves as happy people,

I would bet,

And this might even be something worth investigating,

That their tolerance for challenges is very high.

And I don't want to say that they're optimistic,

But they just have a greater resilience,

A greater ability to rise above.

I don't know if the word is sacrifice,

But it's like to let go of the negative backtalk,

The pensions for,

Oh my God,

What am I going to do?

This is the end of the world,

Calling people and complaining and talking about it.

If we can let that go,

And to me that's about self mastery,

Right?

My lower,

Lesser self wants to be there,

But my higher self knows that whatever I'm going through is perfect for me.

How can I be more connected?

I don't know if the word is tolerance,

But how can I feel more,

My inner strength,

That's really what it is.

It's not tolerance,

It's inner strength.

If I can handle the difficult stuff,

Not,

I don't want to say pretend it's not happening,

But despite whatever difficulty is going on,

Can I still be kind?

Can I still be compassionate?

Can I still be caring?

Or do I let the challenge define me and undermine everything else that I want in my life?

I think that's a big,

Big thing that helps people feel connected to their purpose or to live a meaningful life is that I can weather the storms.

I know that in the storms,

That's when I really do become,

That's when I become the Will Smith in the pursuit of happiness.

Because of that,

Obviously he had his son that he wanted to be there for and make a life for,

But it's really in the struggle that he became the great hero father that he was.

The discussion around finding newer versions of our purpose,

Building our vessel happens in the way you just said,

Which is the light of the creator takes a step back,

Or it seems like the light of the creator takes a step back and a person experiences confusion and darkness.

Exactly in that moment is where our free will kicks in,

Which is how am I going to tolerate this ambiguity?

How am I going to tolerate this pain?

The uncertainty.

That's really all it comes down to.

What separates people who have happiness or vision,

Purpose,

Any kind of fulfillment from someone who doesn't is how they act in the time of confusion,

Darkness,

And when their buttons are being pressed.

Because that's the reason why we came to this world,

To act and have similarity of form with the creator.

But you can't have similarity of form with the creator when the light is shining,

When things are positive,

When everything feels great.

That's why no matter who you are,

Every single person has a cadence of things going great and then the energy being lost and feeling like you're actually alone.

Feeling that nothing's working.

Feeling that you're spinning your wheels.

Feeling rejection.

Feeling pain.

What you do in that time is going to build your vessel or it's going to destroy your vessel.

We say in those times what we call restriction.

We talked about it over the weekend with the other teachers.

Restriction is not an act.

Restriction is a consciousness.

It's a consciousness of saying,

I want everything but I'm willing to not receive it right now.

Knowing that that's okay.

We employ that consciousness every time we go to the gym which is,

I want to look good but I'm okay with the fact that for the next hour I'm going to be uncomfortable,

I'm going to be tired,

I'm actually going to be weak.

I want to be strong but I'm okay with being weak right now.

Meaning that eventually I'll be strong.

So this is the consciousness we employ and the more confusing it is,

The more you do not see what's going to happen,

The greater the vessel that is being built.

To the extent that you do see a light at the end of the tunnel,

The vessel will be smaller.

You will have less fulfillment waiting and it's hard to tolerate that.

It's not exactly what you said,

It's hard to tolerate that pain.

And so what we do is we numb ourselves,

We escape,

We all have our little escapes,

We all have our comforts.

This is all of a sudden when the ex looks good.

The ex didn't look good but now the ex looks good.

Or now this looks good and that looks good.

All the things that we vowed to stay away from.

People come to Kabbalah and their life changes and they feel like they're high as a kite.

How can I not have had this wisdom my whole life?

Four years later,

I kind of miss the drama.

The up and the down and all that.

It's like what just happened here?

Because they're probably going through a tough time and the tools of Kabbalah aren't working on purpose so that you can really dig deep down inside and reach out restriction.

The consciousness of restriction.

I want everything and I'm okay with not having it now.

Now let me go give.

Now let me go act like the light.

Even though all the organs in my body are disagreeing with me right now.

To your point David,

I think one of the things that prevents us from staying in that zone,

From having that ability to stay in that place of discomfort,

Of vulnerability,

Of perceived weakness is actually our emotions.

When we follow our feelings in the moment,

We tend to make choices that we wouldn't make if the emotions weren't so high.

If we had more logic or more time to think.

It's our emotions that make us text the X.

It's our emotions and our emotions are important.

We've had episodes where we talked about understanding them,

The value of them and how to use them to navigate not only the spiritual terrain but even the physical world.

However,

That ability to discern when my emotions are actually causing me to be self-centered,

Causing me to desire instant gratification instead of being able to hold out for the long-term fulfillment.

David and I,

We just had a gathering last week in New York City of students and teachers for what we talked about last week,

That cosmic window called Rosh Hashanah.

One of the concepts that Michael Berg shared with us,

And I love it because it's visual so I'm going to share it with everybody.

Even if you're listening on the podcast,

You're going to be able to imagine this.

I'm sure everybody knows the Russian nesting dolls,

Right?

That's called Matryoshka,

But okay.

The Eastern European in me wants to correct you.

Everybody knows it's better to call them the Russian nesting dolls.

You have the big one and then you open another one,

Another one,

Another one until you have the really tiny one at the end.

What Michael explained is that right now,

Let's say in those few days but still this potential greatness for us is still there,

We're all the biggest doll.

We're all in our greatest potential.

We have the ability at least in this next week to draw the energy that not for who we are right now,

But for the person that we're going to become in the coming year.

We're downloading,

Like David said,

In a way we're asleep.

It feels like we're awake and we're alive and we're talking and we're animated,

But on some level there is a sleep,

Induced sleep that we're in right now so that we can disconnect from anything that doesn't serve us and download that renewed vessel,

That biggest nesting doll.

The tendency is,

As time goes on,

To settle,

To revert to smaller dolls,

Smaller versions of us settling,

Compromising,

Giving into the instant gratification,

Giving into the why bother,

I'm just going to settle,

It's not going to work anyway,

I know that I should hold out for this but it's so much easier to get that or I know I shouldn't,

All the shoulds and the shouldn'ts take over and suddenly we find ourselves and we're the tiniest little doll which has no coincidence.

It has the least capacity.

It's the smallest vessel of all of those dolls.

So it's really in this time and that's one of the reasons we chose this topic.

By the way,

If you want to hear more about this time period,

You can also go back to the previous years that we've count like 52 episodes backwards.

You'll see even in the topics,

They're very similar.

I think last year we were focusing on setting goals,

Evaluation,

The previous year I think we were talking about forgiving ourselves,

Forgiving others,

We were really focused on releasing and making space for so much more.

I think that's one of the big messages I took away from last week is that we are capable of so much more than we realize and the reason we forget it,

We allow ourselves,

We give ourselves those discounts is because of the feeling bad in the moment and wanting to placate,

Numb,

Disconnect,

Deny,

Whatever is going on,

That momentary discomfort.

And by the way,

We all go through things that are many moments of discomfort.

I don't want to deny or say that anybody's suffering is better or worse than anyone else.

It's really the ability to say,

I am not going to give away all that I've been working for,

That largest nesting doll,

I want to hold on to that vessel for the coming year and I don't want to shortchange myself.

I don't want to give in,

Give away everything I've worked toward.

Anything that is valuable in life takes effort,

Takes hard work.

And at a certain point,

I think we all have to decide this is worth hard work because in the long run,

I will have a greater capacity for joy and fulfillment and all of the good things in life that I truly desire,

Even the physical ones.

They're also a side effect of maintaining that huge vessel,

That huge desire and knowing I am capable of all of it.

Maybe that means having the right support system.

I know somebody was asking,

How do we make sure that we hold on to that?

You need to surround yourself with the right people,

With the right books,

With the right consciousness.

When I say right,

It's not about right or wrong.

It's really with the best.

A person who's training for a marathon doesn't eat ice cream sundaes every night.

They nourish themselves with what they need,

With the vitamins and the nutrition that they need to be their strongest.

Spirituality is no different.

It's probably harder because we don't have an organ in our body that senses when we're drained of energy.

We have a digestive system that knows how to signal us when we're hungry or thirsty,

But we don't have a spiritual digestive system that tells us that we're empty until we're so depleted that.

.

.

Not that it's too late,

But there's already dire consequences from that hunger and starvation.

All right.

We got one minute left here.

We want to summarize for all our listeners that these 10 days,

Soul is being recreated.

We thought word and action is super sensitive because our soul is in its embryonic state.

Pretty much our entire destiny is being created now.

Of course,

Destinies can change.

Destinies change when there's darkness,

And that's the only time we really have free will to shift up or down in the fulfillment of our destiny.

For now,

The majority of what our life will look like is being created during these 10 days.

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Don't text the ex.

Tell me the time you texted the ex,

Unless I think I pay alimony check.

No,

Well.

Who has to let him know that payment didn't go through this month?

I didn't get the wire.

If your ex is wiring you,

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