What category would you put the grief in?
Is that raga?
Depends,
If in the grief if you are just missing the person and missing because,
Oh if he or she would be here then this and that would happen then check if this and that would happen and this and that is not happening maybe I have a raga for this and that that is why I am missing that person So you analyse,
It's not very simple,
It's not linear,
It's a complicated flowchart I told you every raga has a corresponding duisha Duisha will have another raga behind it,
That will have another duisha It could be like a big DNA flowchart and suddenly you see,
Oh this is the root cause Only you can come to that root cause,
Look can I find that out?
Can Guruji help it?
No Only when you go deep into your mind,
Oh this raga behind that is this duisha behind this duisha is that raga,
Behind that raga is this duisha Oh there is nothing beyond this,
This is the root cause I have to overcome this root cause,
Whatever it is,
It will be a fire,
It will be earth,
It will be water Earth gives you the heaviness,
Fire gives you the,
You know,
I want to do this or I don't like this,
I hate this,
That is fire Water gives you that flowing,
Flowing feeling,
Very happy feeling I am happy doing bhikalpa,
Fantasizing,
Water Are you seeing this?
Yeah,
You have to come back Oh I want to run away from here,
The mind just does not like this discipline,
Which element?
Air element Air element,
Are you getting this?
You recognize which element is doing what dance right now to inside me I have to work on this You check your own self,
There is no real good translation into English You know to rationalize certain grief that may have occurred at a vulnerable stage in your life,
Like losing a parent at a young age It was,
It is just a feeling,
You cannot rationalize,
You cannot do anything,
It just happens at random times,
Unrelated times And you just have to get over that grief till it goes away,
There is nothing you can do That is true,
Don't try to rationalize at the time the emotion has come up,
The emotion is not there continuously Sometimes it comes in bouts and sometimes it is not there So let me not rationalize when that sudden bout of emotion is there,
That is not the right time to rationalize that Then you go through your feelings,
Your grief,
Cry it out Right now when you are crying,
You cannot think,
Either the heart works or the mind works,
Both cannot go together Cry it out,
Empty it out,
Later on when you are feeling more sane and more in the mind,
Then you rationalize Why is this there and why is it occurring so much?
There is a period of grief,
We will talk about death also today How much time is given,
Do you know,
When somebody dies?
13 days,
Whatever 12 days,
Some have 11,
10,
Whatever,
10 to 13 days is the period It is given for morning,
You sit and mourn,
You sit and cry What is done on the 13th day?
Celebration Why celebrate?
Because the spirit is going to the big consciousness Yes,
Because that spirit could get a chance to unite with the Brahman consciousness,
How do you know?
That person could have been spiritually very high,
He would be close to that consciousness By your celebrating,
You are just helping that spirit to move on towards there Not feel guilty that you are grieving so much Yes,
That is why you should not grieve,
Enough,
After that celebrate and be done with it If it comes back,
I understand,
It is because of your attachment,
You recognize that Because that person has moved on,
That person is really happy Maybe in a new baby body,
So nice,
Lovely skin,
Happy baby,
Does not have to do any work,
Mommy gives him food He is happy,
But you are missing him,
Why?
Because you have a craving You have a craving for him or her You are attached,
I want him,
I want her Have the courage to look at this,
I know this will bring tears to your eyes But have the courage to look at this,
That it is only my raga I want that person,
That person has moved on Let him be where he or she is You get over with your raga for him or her You have this extended life compared to that person That means there was a job for you to do And the job is to get away your karma,
Not collect nonsense millions and cars and houses and children and grandchildren No,
This happens as a part of the process,
It is not the mean goal What is your mean goal really?
What is the purpose of your life?
Did you ever think?
A lot What is the purpose of your life?
Self-realization Did it occur to you?
