Are You Self-Reliant Or Passionate?

In this track, Ektaji explains that passion and self-reliance can never go together. Passion means Raaga (likes) and Devsha (dislikes) in mind. Self-reliance means taking control of your happiness and dropping raaga and devsha. This 'natural' intelligence of dropping clinging to objects is vairagya (dispassion). This dispassion gives us freedom and elevates our consciousness to a higher level.
Life is just a flow. Drop the doer-ship and take charge of your happiness and be free.

Transcript

Jai Gurun.

Passion and self-reliance can never go together.

What is passion?

What does passion come out of?

I want,

I want,

I want,

I want.

A raga in the mind is equal to passion.

Raga means I want.

So a raga in the mind is passion.

Only when I want something,

I want,

I want,

Do I develop that passion to achieve it or attain it in life.

Can I be self-reliant when I am so passionate about getting something?

No,

I become dependent on that particular thing.

My happiness is now dependent on whether I get that thing that I wanted or not.

Are you saying this?

So I have become dependent on that particular aspect that I was so passionate about.

It can be anything.

It can be money,

It can be a relationship,

It can be an object I want to possess,

It can be a person I want to possess.

Duhesha also is the same thing.

What is duhesha?

I don't want,

I don't want is also want,

No?

I don't want to see Rajiv's face.

This is also a desire in the heart.

Are you getting it?

Raga or duhesha,

Both together are passion.

Till the time I have some passion for some or the other material aspect of this world,

I will never be self-reliant because I have based my happiness on getting that desire fulfilled or whatever.

Are you seeing this?

So passion can never equal self-reliance impossible.

You are totally dependent if you are passionate.

Very clear,

The first part?

So then how to become self-reliant?

I want to be self-reliant because when I am dependent on other people and things and situations,

I am leaving my happiness in the hands of others.

So they can anyway throw at any time,

Right?

I have become a vending machine.

They push my buttons and my happiness is gone.

They push one button and I am angry.

They push another button and I am sad.

I have left the reins of my life in somebody else's hand.

I do not want to be dependent.

I want to be self-reliant.

So how do I become self-reliant then?

What is the obvious way?

Drop your raga and tresha.

Drop.

How does that happen?

Just meditation?

You have to have the desire to drop.

Ah,

A recognition.

An intelligence is required,

Right?

You were a little kid.

You were lost in toys.

You remember your doll and your teddy bear and your red colour car and your whatever you played with?

My God,

This is the end of the world.

I cannot give you this doll of mine.

You remember holding on to it?

Yeah,

You grew up,

Right?

It must be lying somewhere in the wardrobe or you thrown it away.

You don't even remember it.

Are you saying this?

What happened?

A natural maturity happened in you?

Oh,

It's nothing.

It's just a toy.

Big deal.

Just like that.

Recognising all this is nothing.

These are all toys.

I have substituted that doll with my husband or wife or child.

That's it.

I have done.

Are you seeing this?

I was passionate about toys and then I grew up and became passionate about boys and then I grew up a little more and then I became passionate about a Rolls Royce.

The toy just kept changing.

I've seen this.

Yeah,

It doesn't matter what the object is.

The mind is still clinging onto its tendency of being passionate.

I've seen this and that is what creates the current my life.

Is this becoming clear?

Yeah,

You were either dependent on a toy or a boy or a girl,

Whatever,

And then on cars.

Rolls Royce is the most expensive car.

What I'm talking about.

So the objects keep changing.

The mind just kept clinging on some or the other object.

This is passion.

Till the time there is passion,

I am never going to be self reliant.

I am dependent on whether I achieve that or not.

Yeah,

So an intelligent way is recognizing,

Oh,

My mind is just hooking onto this one thing now.

It was hooking onto something else before and after some time it will find something else.

This is intelligence recognizing this is the tendency of the mind and dropping it.

Then only can you become self reliant.

Are you noticing what I'm saying?

And this intelligence,

This natural maturity is called Vairagya.

Raghya is my passion.

Vairagya devoid of that passion.

It's okay if I get it or not.

Anyway,

Nothing is in your control.

Your mind just fools you that you are in control.

Isn't life just happening?

One event after another event after another event.

You think you are in control.

Till the time this doership is there,

You will never be self reliant.

You have to drop this.

The day you reach Vairagya,

You will be self reliant.

Because this passion elevates you to a higher level.

It's like living at a very lower mundane level.

This passion elevates you to a higher level of consciousness.

And in that higher level of consciousness only there's a twist.

Passion and self reliance exist together anywhere.

Perfect.

Where you are on the spiritual path,

You are so passionate about this path and still there is Vairagya about all material aspects that can take the mind back to that maya.

Only on the path of spirituality do both exist together.

They cannot exist together in the material world.

It's amazing.

But again there is a road block there also.

You can get lost in spirituality also.

Even in spirituality you will have a passion.

Oh I want to be an art of living teacher.

Finished.

Again you are back to the same thing.

Again you've caught on to some raga.

Oh I want to be with Guruji.

I want Guruji's attention.

You have caught on to one raga.

Are you seeing this?

On the path of spirituality also there are many many obstacles that can come up.

So recognising this is intelligence.

Waking up to this is maturity.

And when you reach that state you are a true Vairagi.

If there is a state to really crave for and desire for and be passionate about it is that state.

State of a Vairagi.

Because you are so self reliant.

Nothing in the world can take your smile away.

Nobody can ever push your button.

It's like being on a pedestal.

It's the most beautiful feeling.

That is worth achieving in life.

You know these stupid little boys toys and cars and money.

So this week take this as your homework.

Recognising where is my mind stuck.

Where?

Which raga and dvesha and dropping it.

It's okay.

I'm stuck in this person I want to be with her.

I want to be with her.

It's okay even if I'm not with her.

I'm not going to die.

I want to have this.

I want to possess this little thing.

Whatever.

New iPhone.

I don't know.

New phone in the market.

How the mind becomes feverish about something new.

It's okay if I don't have it.

I'm not going to die.

That gives you freedom.

Have you noticed?

Otherwise you're a slave.

Running behind this thing or that person or that situation or craving for name or fame.

Craving for appreciation.

No you appreciate me.

No you say I love you to me.

I've become a beggar.

Are you saying this?

Give give give give give.

My hands are always like this.

I'm never going to be happy.

How can I be self reliant if my hands are like this?

Turn this around.

When you give you are very strong.

When you take you are weak.

In stronger words you're really a beggar.

You decide.

What do you say you want to be?

I have a question.

You said that if you don't want anything.

How do we grow?

Not just on the spiritual path.

Generally let's say just example.

I want to be in a job or a better job.

I need to work hard for it.

If I just think that that's the mistake we make.

We think that I get a new job because I wanted it.

No.

No.

There is something called karma.

Karma is completely running your life.

You are in this doership that I am doing.

That is where everything falls apart for you.

Because then you say oh I did this.

I got this.

Ego comes up.

When ego comes up I push away people from me.

When I say oh this bad thing happened to me.

I am bad.

Then again I label myself.

And then I put other people up and I am done.

Are you seeing this?

This struggle goes on in life.

There is always the other and I.

And this struggle will go on.

This struggle itself should give you a sign you are on the wrong path my dear.

This doership is wrong.

Wake up and see life is happening.

We have done the karma session.

No?

You have not done karma?

It's a three hour session.

We will do it for those who have missed it.

What's wrong with wanting to create something that can make the world a better place or make things easier for people?

Absolutely.

It's good.

Very good.

But don't think you have come up with that idea.

Recognizing that you have just been given the role of this person.

What's your name?

Deva.

You have just been given the role of Deva.

This role is going to last only 80 90 100 years.

How long this body is going to last.

After that Deva's role is done.

You will be given another role maybe Amitabh maybe.

Then you have to play that role.

Do not get attached to the want of this body called Deva or the body called Amitabh.

You are something greater than that.

You will drop this body in 80 90 100 years.

Again pick up another one.

In every lifetime there will be something propelling you towards a job,

Towards an action,

Towards a woman or a man.

It is not you.

It is the force of karma propelling you in that direction.

And when you wake up to that you recognize oh life is a happening.

How can I even say I am doing.

Have you noticed how much ever sometimes you do.

It doesn't happen the way you want it.

This itself should give you an indication that life is a happening.

I am not doing anything.

So we go through the path.

Perfect.

Yes.

Just flow with the river.

It is a flowing river.

You just stop wanting and see.

Take it up as an experiment.

Life is not going to stop.

How much ever you think that life will stop.

No.

You are not indispensable.

You are like that lizard who says oh no I cannot get off the ceiling.

The house will collapse.

Wake up.

Wake up.

You are that lizard who thinks that you are supporting the ceiling of the house.

You are not.

Life is a happening.

Karma is a gushing river.

And you do not even have a say in it.

Till the time you struggle with the water you are struggling.

You are unhappy.

Drop this struggle.

Just go with the flow and you will see that oh everything is just happening.

Do not create new karma.

Whatever old karma is there let it get done with.

So this we think about this.

Good.