Hello,
This is Jan Russell with a short little session with three cheeky little questions which can change dramatically,
Really,
How you think about some things,
How you can change how you think about some things,
And how you can maybe help other people be clearer with themselves about their understanding.
Understanding The way we use our words is one of the greatest powers that we have.
You know sometimes you might say something and wish you could take it back,
Yet you can't.
And yet sometimes we use words carelessly,
We accept generalisations that may not be true.
We accept words which distort what's really going on.
And we sometimes just delete things and let those deletions show up in our words,
So that we're not quite getting the full picture of what's in our infrastructure,
The infrastructure of our mind.
And let's face it,
We really do need to mind our minds.
Because words have energy,
Don't they?
They have power.
And I believe that if we choose words carefully,
We can empower ourselves to be more authentic,
More true to ourselves,
And to say more what we mean to say.
So You know how often we generalise,
How we fall into habits of saying we always do this,
We always do that,
We have to do that,
We should do this,
We must never do that.
Everybody knows,
Don't they?
And so on and so forth.
And we create myths really,
That we pretend are realities,
Because they say that,
Don't they?
And there are three little questions which you can ask yourself,
Or ask others,
If you have a rapport with those others,
That just might make you think differently sometimes.
The first one is,
What specifically?
For example,
You might hear somebody say,
It's really bad to put yourself first.
And you might say,
What specifically is really bad about putting myself first?
You might ask yourself,
What part of putting myself first is really bad?
What specifically?
You might ask the question,
How specifically?
He always upsets her.
How specifically does she allow herself to be upset by him?
How specifically did the rain spoil your day?
How specifically did you fail?
In what way?
How specifically did you succeed?
What was it that you did that you could do again?
And finally,
Who specifically?
They always say that you should never make fast decisions.
Who says that?
Who says you should never make fast decisions?
They say that butter is bad for you.
Who says that?
How do they know?
You do need to be positive all of the time about everything.
Who says that,
And how do they know?
So you get the gist.
Three little questions,
When they're appropriate,
When things seem as if you're trapped or observing some rules that you don't really understand where they came from,
Yet you find yourself following them almost without thinking.
Those three little questions.
What specifically?
How specifically?
Who specifically?
Can just clarify and fine-tune your mind to keep hold of all that is important to you and to perhaps shave off some of the messages that are less so.
Practice.
Enjoy.
Go well.
