A Practice For Loss

A dear friend of mine has experienced an incredible amount of loss. She asked me to create a meditation for her and her family to give some peace and relief. I was so honored to create this special recording to be of service to others. We were all so moved by it that she knew others would benefit from listening to it. So I am sharing it here. This practice embodies our ancestors and those that guide and love us through the generations. I hope you will find it helpful.

Transcript

Welcome.

We're going to start by taking a couple of slow,

Gentle deep breaths in on my count.

And ready.

In.

Two.

Three.

Four.

And release.

Two.

Three.

Four.

Now,

Let's just sigh a little bit for a moment like this.

And let's take a deep breath in.

And release.

Two.

Three.

Four.

And release.

Two.

Three.

Four.

And let's just sigh a little bit for a moment like this.

Just really let everything fall into place.

Let's do it again.

One more time.

Ready?

See how that feels?

If you sigh one more time,

Really just land into your body.

Ready?

Ahhhhhhh.

Very nice.

Thank you for being here.

Thank you for showing up for yourself today.

It really matters.

It's really important.

You see,

Within all of us,

There are the stories and experiences of thousands of generations of courageous people.

Our ancestors that have come before us.

And deep in the DNA of your wholeness is the strength from all your relations.

So as we breathe and sit today in this meditation,

Let's remember that we are not born in some random mix of chance.

Let's remember that your very purpose here is absolutely filled with intention.

Your story.

Your strength.

Your courage.

It's what carries many through times of challenges and weakness.

Your example.

If you had not endured great pains,

Great loss,

Great despair,

Then who,

Who would be here to show others that it's possible to thrive,

To stand up,

To be counted?

It's with such humbling honor that we see the truth of who you are today.

Right here,

Right now,

In this very moment,

You matter.

You are safe.

And it's now your turn to know and remember that you will rise and as always be a light for others.

Let's take another deep breath in.

And sigh.

Very good.

Nice.

Just relax.

Let's imagine all of our ancestors,

All our relations,

Standing around us right now,

Free and supporting your journey.

They're here for you.

The combined power and love of your mother's mother's mother and your father's father's father's your brothers and sisters and sisters of brothers,

The sisters that surround you in this moment in this space in total freedom and complete surrender.

All here to support you.

Sometimes we are the bearers of many heavy experiences.

They can feel unfathomable.

Unfair.

Unjust.

And when you've been beaten down by life.

Imagine your great great grandmother's hand on your cheek.

And your great great grandfather's hand upon your shoulders.

And your brothers brothers brothers sisters sisters.

Hands over your heart.

Holding you.

Carrying you through this moment.

As they tell you,

You are safe.

You are seen.

Every request is heard.

Your voice,

An instrument of truth.

You are heard fully and completely.

Yes.

You are enough.

You are loved unconditionally.

You are loved relentlessly without question.

Without hesitation.

And even when you cannot see it.

And even when the illusion is so strong.

The truth is,

You are overflowing.

You are filled with love.

Nothing is missing.

Emptiness is an illusion.

And that illusion can sometimes be strong and overpowering.

And it's okay to just embrace it.

And fill it up with your love.

As your awareness expands,

We discover that your greatest strength is your truth.

Your healing is your only job today.

As you heal,

The world around you heals.

And it's a gift.

Just being who you are is enough.

You are enough.

Supported and loved.

You will see your way through every challenge.

You will thrive through your experience.

So be kind to yourself today.

Take a moment.

Take a breath.

Get into your heart.

Just surrender.

And let go.

Within all of us is the courage and strength of thousands.

Thousands that have come before us.

So that the thousands that will follow may have the courage we leave behind.

Be well today.

Take care of your heart.

Love yourself and one another.

You are seen.

You are enough.

You will rise above and heal.

Namaste.

Reviews

Really good. Love that it wasnt hyper fixated on loss but rather shifting

That was ahhhhmazing ♥️ Your delivery was simple and soothing and authentic. That resonated with me so, so much. Like listening to an old friend. A thousand thanks for reminding me to “fill the void with love” and shine my light. I’m going to add this to my Grief = Love playlist.

I lost my baby about 3 months ago. He was born sleeping. This meditation reminded me that I am not alone and I am receiving encouragement and strength from my loved ones including my ancestors. This meditation brought tears to my eyes. Thank you.

I just lost a cousin who was dear to me, but we'd had a falling-out, I was working towards eventually reconciling with her in therapy, but wasn't quite there yet. And now she's passed and I've just been struggling with guilt and grief and feeling like how can I keep going? Now I feel much better. Much less desperate more calm, stronger for certain and I'll utilize your visualization long after my free 7 days is up lol namaste

Tère bien! DJ Little Blue Crox is grateful. Thank you for investing in us. 🖤

Perfect topic of ancestors woven in...so timely for me today 💜🙏

Thank you so much💜🙏💜 this is so beautiful

Beautiful and comforting. Thank you for sharing this with us. It provided me with an invisible tether to those who have gone before me and are offering their strength, love and support.

Tears rolling down my face almost as soon as the practice began. My last remaining grandparent suffered a stroke yesterday, unknown how long it had gone on when they found her. At age 97, recovery is uncertain, but two of her sons and my mother (the eldest of the four siblings) are with her or en route, so she is not alone. I am half the country away. As I begin this practice today, I felt my other three grandparents circling around me in a protective loving circle. My paternal grandfather, who passed ten months ago, squeezed me tightly. My maternal grandfather, who passed in 1997, said that although he looked forward to being reunited with his wife, her time was not now. "Not yet. Not today," he kept saying.

At times during this practice, I had to smile. My grandmother, mother, and I are the family historians, and I am working towards professional certification as a Genealogist, while my mother did a degree in history and my grandmother was a one-room schoolhouse teacher in the prairies of the USA midwest. We have traced a portion of my mother's line all the way back to 972 C.E., and I felt my brain fizzle and spurt a bit when you started mentioning brother's brother's sisters and such. I kept trying to bring my mind back but could "hear" both my mother and grandmother say, "It's not a thing, let it go. Concept, sweetie. It's all relative."

I smiled through my tears. I have my parents still, but when my grandmother leaves us, that will be the end of my close contact with relatives of that generation. I don't think there ARE any left, just her. I have traveled to many family funerals over the last few years, more than I like, but I have been honored and privileged to have been able to be there.

I have always been one, like my mother, to be strong and hold things together. My self-care comes later, when I can rest, knowing the necessities have been taken care of and with dignity and respect due. I will take care of others, knowing I will have difficulty caring for myself if I am concerned about them. But I DO take care of myself, now, at least. And having gone through a hospice scare with my grandmother earlier this year, during which time she wrote her own obit with fill-in-the-blanks for dates, drafted her own memorial service, and the whole nine yards so the family wouldn't be left with such decisions and planning to do, I am at peace that when the time comes, all will be ready.

So I too am getting ready. Whether now or days, weeks, months, or even years from now, when Grandma's decided it is time to join Grandpa, I know he will be waiting for her, and I will be as prepared as possible. I am beginning my self-care now, with this practice, and it is good. I do not feel so alone. I spend my days reading archived documents of my ancestors' lives, watching their movements, the growth of the family, the births, deaths, and everything in between, knowing it is from them that I came into being, and their strength is mine.

I cannot thank you enough for gifting us with this practice. I have bookmarked and downloaded it, and I sense it will continue to be a source of comfort and centeredness for me in the days ahead. I found the guidance to take another deep breath/sigh after some spoken guidance (after the initial settling in series) to be particularly helpful. I forget to breathe when I become emotional and I was very emotional at that stage. The direction to breathe was critical and so helpful to permit me to continue moving forward in the practice and not get stuck in the physical tightness of my chest.

I see and feel the light in you. Thank you again for this gift. 🤲❤️🤲

Very soothing for the soul. I don't feel so alone now. Thank you David 💜x

This is fabulous, I loved the message. Thank you for recording it, I will listen again :)

So beautiful. Thank you. ❤️💫

Thank you 🙏🏽 so much for this meditation🧘🏽‍♀️ today David. I so needed to hear👂🏽 from my ancestors ... my mom in particular ... I miss her so much!😔

There has never been a day in my life that I didn’t have a mother ... until that day she took her last breath, in that physical body. This will be our first Mother’s Day without her in almost 60 years!💐 She was only 76 when she passed this past February.

I AM that I AM ... and today “that” is being comforted by my ancestors. Namasté🙏🏽

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This was so important and healing! What a gift!

This meditation is exactly what I need right now. Thank you for your gentleness!

So beautiful and encouraging. I felt connected. Namaste🙏

So healing....thank you....