To Be Both

This 5-minute mindful practice holds space for duality. Acknowledging that it's okay for us to be two opposities, two polarities and still be who we are. Soft and strong, angry and compassionate, independent, yet still seek supprt. We are allowed to be both. The spirit of this practice is to bring present awareness to where we shrink the parts of ourselves that are contrary to how people perceive us. All of us is needed in this world and the honoring of our wholeness starts here.

Transcript

Throughout life we shrink ourselves,

We hide ourselves,

And we mask who we really are,

Out of fear or judgement that we are too much.

Or maybe we cling to being one thing and that one thing alone,

Not knowing that all of us is needed.

We can be both.

We can be more than one thing to one person.

We can mean more than one thing to one person.

And we can hold space for polarity within us.

With deep reverence and honor of the duality of our existence,

We learn to hold space for both and not disassociate from one.

We can be soft,

Yet strong.

We can be angry and compassionate.

We can be a leader and still need help.

We can be all things,

Yet nothing at all.

Placing your left hand over your heart.

Placing your right hand over your stomach.

Breathing deeply in through your nose and down into your belly.

And exhaling through the mouth.

Holding ourselves here with compassion,

With kindness,

And with understanding.

With each breath opening our hearts and opening our minds to the possibility of being both.

Holding space for both.

Being with feelings of anger and not disassociating from it,

But allowing it to be there and holding it with compassion.

It's okay to be angry,

Yet compassionate.

It's okay to be both.

I can be fearful,

Yet courageous.

And it's okay to be both.

I give myself permission to be both.

I can be strong and still be soft.

And it's okay to be both.

I give myself permission to be both.

I can be independent and still need support.

And it's okay to be both.

I allow myself to be both.

I can be grieving and still find joy.

And it's okay to experience both.

I allow myself to experience both.

I can be a leader and still need guidance.

And it's okay to be both.

I allow and give myself the permission to be both.

I can be and still and it's okay.

I allow.

I give myself permission.

Setting an intention here for ourselves to strive for wholeness and not perfection.

To honor the uniqueness of our beings and the individuality of our souls.

And instead of shrinking ourselves,

To rise to the occasion of who we are.

Who we are at our core.

Who we were meant to be.

And all that we are.

Reviews

Nice ans easy. I needed to hear that. Blessed Be 🙌

Another wonderful message; thank you so much for helping me to start my day the right way 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Nicely embodying the Both. I appreciate your wording of this idea, and how you made it into a gentle qwest. Thank you.

Love this gentle and powerful mediation. I feel supported and empowered. Thank you.

Love this so so much. A beautiful sinking into both-and.

Thank you so much for this beautiful meditation. I’m working on embracing all of myself, esp the extra difficult emotions, so thank you.

Nice quick talk on our dualities. There is no sin in exploring both as regards sexuality. At 64 I’m finally doing that 🙏🏼❤️☮️

I needed to hear this today. Thank you so much for this beautiful meditation in this reminder that it’s OK to be both. I want to be softer, and not always so hyper independent. This meditation touched me and I am so grateful for you. Thank you so much for sharing. Namaste.

I can be both. I can be loud, expressive, playful, compassionate, I can also be angry, griefing and quiet. I can be both.

Scrolling through my favorites and rediscovered this one. Just what I needed.❤️
Thank you!

Appreciate it you. This allowed me to feel both. And the endurance of the determination of the process of the present.

“I just want more than one membership to more than one club.” Ani Difranco

Really lovely, reassuring, and reflective meditation. “I can be grieving and still find joy” especially resonated. I’m looking forward to coming back to this meditation to continue to let your words sink in. Thank you! 🩵

Thank you for this reminder and message actually. I always felt I can’t be both

Loved it….this is such a different take of what is often on this platform. Well done 🙏🏼.

This was a great reminder to show up and unoquivocally be yourself!

I really enjoyed this one - the relaxing music in the background as well as the message that most of the time we are not distinctly either/or but a combination of many emotions/feelings/beings. Thank you!

Grounding and inspiring practice encouraging us all to embrace our duality. It's nice to hear that it's okay to be complicated. 😊 Thank you!

I am in the middle of a fight with my boyfriend and this is exactly what I was looking for! Love love love this!

Thank you for this powerful message. I love what you said: " We must strive for wholeness, not perfection." 💝🌹