What Is Love? You Can Experience And Know Love

What is Love? Love is a alive energy. You can have a relationship with the energy - the function - the presence of Love. And it is present in you! Love beyond words and within your being. Forget what you have been told and remember!

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And let's start 2024 in love with love.

And it's not just a feeling.

Love is an alive energy.

And you can have a relationship with that energy.

In fact,

You already do.

A relationship with that energy,

Its function,

And the presence of love.

And that's all inside of you.

So the first thing in having a relationship with love is taking the time to connect to it.

It's connected to you at all times.

But connecting your focus to that love energy.

And to connect our focus,

We bring ourselves out of the mind clutter of the day.

And we bring ourselves to right here,

Right now,

And inside of ourselves.

So to do that,

We're going to take a breath in.

And knowing that love energy is so excited to greet us in a real way.

And the word love has been overused just like God and so many other words.

Source,

Universe,

All of it.

And what do these words really mean?

And oh man,

We've tossed love around in so many different ways.

But love is alive.

It's a function.

It's a frequency.

It's an energy.

And it's you.

You are not separate from love.

And love wants an individual relationship with its counterpart,

Which is you.

You are born of love.

And love,

It transcends time,

Just as you do.

And it's not simply the limited version that we've gotten so used to.

Because we've all heard,

I love you.

And then they walked out the door.

And we've all seen how when we've thought we love someone,

How even ourselves we changed.

So there's this use of the word love that hasn't got a thing to do with love.

So let's meet.

Let's meet ourselves.

Let's meet love.

So we're very softly changing our focus.

And we shift it to noticing the air that's coming in our lungs.

And this air gives us a metaphor for shifting our focus by following our breath into our body.

But also air is the frequency of love.

So everything's frequency in vibration.

And love is that air that we breathe.

And it's not just limited to the air that we breathe.

But as we follow our focus on that air coming into our nose,

Down into our bodies,

Into our lungs,

We're showing ourselves how to take the time to greet love.

And it's inside of you.

And as we breathe in the love that we are,

It finds its counterpart inside of us.

So wherever you feel the most centered part of yourself,

Just noticing that at first.

Noticing where it's located.

Noticing anything about it,

A vibration,

A color,

Whatever it is.

And it's going to be different for each one of us.

And getting close to that.

Because at first when we focus,

We're observing that center.

But we're going to take our focus even further.

So just get good at first at focusing and noticing and observing its location.

And then we're going to draw our focus even closer to that location.

Getting closer to that energy inside of us.

And then we're going to merge with that energy.

Merging into that focal point.

And don't be concerned if you merge and then you pop out,

And then you merge and you pop out.

That's okay.

That's what this practice is.

At no point are you out of the range of your center.

See,

That's the beautiful part.

You're never out of the range of love.

And love is loving through you and loving you,

No matter where your focus is.

But the benefit of the focus is why not enjoy a very clear relationship with love?

Why not enjoy yourself and the love that you are fully?

Why not live aware of that?

Because our thoughts can grab our focus,

But they're not truly entertaining.

Not once you get to know you.

Not once you start focusing on the love that you are.

So here we are,

Returning to that center and merging with that space that we are.

And not evaluating ourselves based on how long we hold it,

Just knowing that it's always there to greet us with open arms as we return to it.

And then as we settle into that,

The first thing we notice is that it doesn't have a requirement of us.

It's not asking us to be a particular thing or to do a particular thing.

First,

It is just being.

Your right to be.

To exist without expectations.

Because the greatest creations we come up with are what we do from a centered loving space that isn't full of expectations.

Because the expectations are what take us out of love.

Because when we have an expectation,

It comes from the need to prove,

Do,

Achieve,

Act a certain way.

What is expected,

What is right.

And that's not love.

So at first,

Love sits quietly beside us,

Quietly inside us,

And invites us into stillness.

And that stillness is a remembrance of who we are,

That remembrance of our existence that is beyond time.

It's hard for us to imagine something that had no beginning.

Because everything we see seems to have a beginning.

But you have always been and always will be.

Because of your presence in the now,

It's always now.

It's always still.

And that existence,

That right to be,

Has always been.

And it's hard to imagine.

But love wants us to recognize the absolute right to exist.

And even the moment that you or do not exist here in physical form,

You still exist.

Without the need to prove,

Or do,

Or be.

And why is this awareness so important that love begins with the right to exist?

Because most of the actions we take are trying to prove or validate who we are.

And love doesn't require that.

And how would your day be different if you didn't start it by trying to validate who you are?

And how does it feel to sit in the ease of your right to exist,

To be?

No questions asked.

And how would it be for you to make choices for your own life with the absolute assurance that it's okay to get excited about what you get excited about,

To pursue what is of interest to you?

And that's why this space wants you to relax into the authority of your own existence.

Because we're looking for an authority to tell us we're okay.

And we're looking for validation.

And who is going to be that authority?

There is no one that can validate you outside of yourself.

And love says,

Of course.

You've always been here.

You'll always be here.

You have the absolute right,

The authority to exist as you choose on this planet.

And that connection to love goes all the way as far as you can imagine in time.

And you can't even imagine the beginning of time.

Now time had a beginning,

But you didn't.

And isn't that funny?

Time began as a concept after you existed.

A marker.

But it doesn't prove anything about you.

If you could,

For a moment,

Imagine nothing beginning.

And in that thought is like a shock.

But in that shock is a stillness.

And thus,

Your beginning was stillness.

And everything was still.

And nothing questioned its existence because it wasn't even a factor.

Existence is.

You exist.

And you validate you.

Because in that stillness was you.

Not in the form you are now,

But in the vibration and frequency of all that is.

And all that is was still.

And all that is began to expand.

And as it expanded,

Different counterparts of love began to move and be.

And that was you.

So you are an extension of all that is and stillness.

And that stillness,

That timeless stillness,

Exists in you and is your connection to all that is.

And love first wants you to remember the stillness and the existence and the validation of your own being.

Because as you begin your relationship with love,

It wants you to remember that it's who you are.

That you are never separated from that.

And that it is a relationship with this energy.

That you spawned off of this energy,

But not as something new,

But as an evolution of that energy.

It's never not you.

And you reach into that space and into that stillness that's always been.

And that's your home.

And you don't have to sweat the small stuff because you're always home and you're always included.

And so is everyone else.

So if you didn't have to stress being included or being okay,

How would you act?

How would you be?

And love is saying,

That's who you are.

Remember,

Your relationship is symbiotic and mutual with love.

And as you extended from love,

You began to be many different things.

And none of them were wrong.

So you get to choose how to be on this planet.

And you're walking,

Not only hand in hand with love,

But as an extension and a being of love.

And love,

To grow,

Wanted to recognize itself in various forms.

It wanted to see itself.

It wanted to feel itself.

It wanted to know itself.

And you formed in a way to be conscious of your own feelings,

Your own being.

And can you love that?

Because as you love you as you are,

Love expands.

Love wants to expand through you.

So it's important to relax into that stillness,

That awareness that you're okay,

So that you can expand without judgment your awareness of how love functions through you.

And there's not a lack of awareness in this space that you are not the only form of love.

There are a multitude of forms of love.

Everything is a form of love that is around you.

It does not mean that everything is aware of its functioning as love.

But the creative force in life is the frequency that we call love.

Now we misuse that term all the time.

But what love is,

Is the creative frequency and expansion of all that is.

And it runs through you.

And it expands through you.

And you are an aspect of this love.

And so is the person beside you.

And so is the animals that you meet.

And so are the plants that you're around.

And so are the rocks.

So is this planet.

So is this universe.

So the second thing we see is that everything that greets us on this planet is love.

From love.

That is different than it always acting in loving ways.

But everything that greets us comes from the same source.

So you are not separate from anything.

And we're all in this together as we have all been in this together and all will be in this together.

We are all connected.

And the importance of recognizing our connection is to one know that at no point in time are we alone or separate.

And to know that we want to maneuver in loving ways towards everything around us because it is us.

And that if I hurt you I'm hurting myself.

And if I love you I'm loving myself.

And then as we have the awareness of our stillness and our sameness and that I am aware of your right to exist as you are I therefore do not need to do things to bring you to the same place I am because you're fully functioning and fully capable.

And as I'm aware of that is true for you as it is for me I'm relaxed in my interactions with you and they are more loving because I'm not trying to control you.

And in that stillness and that sameness then the functions that I can do are guided by the loving being I am and not by my thoughts.

Because see,

My thoughts have expectations on you have desires from you have things I'm trying to fix about myself and that is not how I want to love you not with my thoughts but with my being the respect I have for you and your autonomy the respect that I have for myself and my autonomy that you are the authority for you and I am the authority for me.

And then that there is a compatibility between me and everything on this planet and between you and everything on this planet because we're all the same coming from the same source that I can't function outside of interacting and being and vibrating with you.

And that's true no matter where I am in this universe whether I'm in form or I am formless and that connection can be respectful and loving.

And then when I act from this connected place inside of myself I don't draw from you unnecessarily and if I need support it's there and it's there from myself and it's there from you and it's there from love because it's all the same thing.

So I shift my decisions and functioning from up here in a yappy mind space that has beliefs about what love is to this space that is love and knows love and loves and acts and functions from that space.

And the love that functions from that space gives me the awareness of how to be with you and how to be with me.

And first I learn how to be with myself how to love me from this space how to care for me so I have the right to exist I'm the authority for my existence.

I've always existed and it's not a question.

It is the same for you because we are the same an extension of love.

And then I rest in love.

And can you feel that expansion?

To rest in love with the absolute knowing of the rightness of your own existence.

I don't need anything.

I don't take anything.

I am.

You don't need anything.

You don't take anything.

You are.

And from that love can express.

And the first thing it expresses to me is such a feeling of peace and relaxation.

I let all that I need to prove just roll off of me.

All of what I need from you to be okay.

What do I need from you to be okay?

And that doesn't mean that I may not need to borrow a cup of sugar.

It doesn't mean that I may not want you to hug me.

It is just saying that the very root of my being does not need to suck you dry.

And then when I ask for that hug if you don't give it to me,

I'm okay.

Someone else will hug me.

A person that should.

Because if it's not right for you I'm not offended.

And that's a basic example.

But think of that as the underlying concept for your interactions.

I'm not feeling rejected by you just because it doesn't work for you.

That's okay.

I know when to say yes and no to things because I check in.

But this still space that loves you and would do the right thing for you if it can come through me.

But if it's not the right thing for me or appropriate or whatever I know it.

And I act accordingly because I love you and I love me.

So love says get to loving you.

Get to understanding you.

Get to holding you as precious.

When you are held as precious and adored and loved no matter what your thoughts say no matter what you did yesterday no matter what you've done in the past when you begin this relationship this real functioning relationship with love and it brings such an ease to your being and your body and you want to meet you every day and you want to hang out with love as much as you can and you're in that space then you can extend that loving space to others and you'll know when to hold someone's hand and you'll know what to do in a moment and you won't be confused by the chatter because you've learned to love that chatter in your mind those thoughts.

And you'll be aware of your body and what is able to be done with your physical body and when you need rest.

And it's not an evaluation of another person as the reason you're doing it.

It's not a standard,

Oh,

You know,

You're worthy,

I'll do it for you or oh,

I want X from you so I'm going to make sure to do that for you because I'm going to ask for a favor back later.

All that,

Which has been behind the word love for so long.

Obligation was the word for love.

I'm going to obligate you so that you do what I need later and I'm going to call it love.

That's a misuse of the word.

So when you've loved you and you began to recognize the loving power that you are then when you extend that same love that's moving through you through your arms,

Through your legs through your eyes,

Through your mouth through your language,

Through your thoughts through your being you'll function and take action from a space that is loving that is full of love and that is aware of the equality of the person that you're looking at and their power and their ability to love and their right to be and this space will teach you because it is your relationship with love that frequency that you were born of that you gave birth to and yes,

Those are two different statements but they're both true the love that you were born of and the love that you gave birth to is you is the deepest wisest space and it adores you and it loves you as you are and it's loving others as they are and it is your friend your lover your own being and it is a part of your DNA and you can never be lost from it and this permanent lover walks with you and talks with you and holds your hand and can relate to you not verbally but in a feeling awareness in a sense of peace and stillness and knowledge and that love that you are that is also tapped into the love that everyone else is is your guide and your guide is not separate from you and your guide adores you and so cuddle up and look into love's eyes and be received well by your own being

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thank you, this was beautiful. i love all your meditations. This is my understanding of love as well. I don't always feel it, but I know this to be the truth of things. lots of meditation, ongoing mindfulness, and plant medicine taught me this. I tapped into a channel of love that is always accessible. and now I get a lot of messages from Love (it's a capital L) that I write down. the messages are very similar to what you're saying.

i think you'd like my substack Self-Love, Sisterhood, and Psychedelics. A commitment to love myself no matter what turned my midlife crisis into a midlife awakening and now i feel excited about life again. ❤️🙏

Very deep message from you. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. 🙏❤️

I gave thought and time yesterday (Valentines 2025) to this very question "What is Love?". I Google'd and read in many directions, without much satisfaction. Many definitions, but no clarity. I awoke this morning with the same question in my head and was lead to this meditation/ talk.
Thank you for guiding me out of my head and back into my heart. Yes, Love is in all those ideas and definitions I read yesterday...but none of them ARE Love.
Because I AM.
Awesome. Love.
Thank you.

The most clarity I’ve received about what love is in a very long time. Thank you. This meditation was wonderfully amazing!!

2.14.24 Happy Valentine's Day, dear one. Thank you this. I am my own polycule, filling Self to fullness with Love. From that abundance, I give Love to others. Every day, cradle that face of Self in my supple hands and say, "Yes, darling, I choose and accept you and us. Truly. Madly. Deeply."