As another relationship bites the dust,
I'm reaffirming the needs and desires that I refused to make compromises on because that would be compromising myself,
My value,
My worth.
It took years for me to believe that it's okay to lift up standards that support mutual liberation because I had to recover from a gaslighting relationship that deeply damaged my sense of self-worth and made me feel like what I needed was too much to ask for.
What I know for sure now,
I'm not needy.
I'm absolutely clear on what I'm worth,
And my heart is thanking me for it.
This is a piece on dating and being needy.
One thing that I will always remember from a book that I read years ago is that we are only as needy as our unmet needs.
Don't let these limited lovers have you out here thinking you're doing too much,
Asking for too much,
Needing too much.
Clarity on what you require to be in a pleasurable,
Healthy,
And mutually liberating partnership is power.
The more you fine-tune with precision,
The closer you'll get to a true,
Full alignment and reflection of your value.
So,
Create that detailed list of embodied qualities,
Experiences,
And energies you want to bring into existence and design with someone.
Imagine what it would feel like,
Look like.
Keep it close.
Even when you find yourself wavering and start dating someone who doesn't embody those essential qualities for whatever reason,
Be gentle with yourself and trust that you'll come closer next time because you're doing the work.
You'll start to see how each partner is more aligned than the previous one as you get better at honoring each part of your desires without self-compromise.
You aren't needy.
You're absolutely clear on what you're worth,
And your heart will thank you for it.
