Emotional Release Podcast

Learn why it can be difficult to let go and release a person, emotion, or situation. Listen to this with an open mind and heart to bring balance to the energy you have invested into a place, a situation, or a person.

Transcript

Welcome to Join the Dots podcast,

The podcast that explores the motivations of our actions and why we react the way we do.

Brought to you by soul coach Denise Javi from Inward Revolution.

In a safe inclusive space full of meaningful discussions for reflection and transformation.

As you listen,

Feel uplifted,

More clever and more clear about decision-making.

Let's go within.

Today let's talk about letting go.

So what does letting go mean and surrendering and releasing.

You know when we have invested a lot of energy into a place,

Into a situation or to a person,

We invest so much energy because we think we're going to get something that we desire or that we think will make us feel better.

That's why we invest a lot of energy into situations and when we invest that energy into something and we don't get the result that we desire or the person isn't cooperating and you know sometimes people walk away,

Sometimes people die as well.

So what if we want something different and if that situation doesn't eventuate or we're stuck in a place that we don't want to be,

It's really hard to let go because we've put so much energy into something and we feel that we should be getting a return on it.

A lot of the time this is what we need to let go of,

Not so much the the situation but what we have invested.

We've invested so much energy into something that we don't know what to do with it now if we're not getting the result that we want and you know and what happens when we get the result or when we get a result,

We feel relief.

So the meditation today and all of this work about letting go and surrendering is about finding that relief,

Finding that central point,

Finding coming back to our center no matter what is going on around us and realizing that we wanted something different because we experienced something that took us out of balance and we thought okay because I've experienced this because that person wasn't very nice to me or because maybe I wasn't very nice to a person I want to bring people into my life who are nicer or I want to be nicer and it was the experiencing something that you don't want that caused you to want something different,

Something that is more closer to what it is that you truly desire.

So when we invest a lot of energy into something because we look at something we go oh I'd really like that I'd like that job I'd like that person in my life or I want this or I want that la la la la we think okay what do I have to do to get that and that is when we start going out of balance.

Our job is to ask for something it's like we ask and then we do whatever we can on a daily basis to come back into balance with ourself in that we are now in a space of easiness of softness there's no resistance you start to get inspired action things start to come to you the ideas start to come to you situations will come into your life and because you're centered you'll notice it and you'll be able to act on it but if we start asking what do I have to do how do I make this work what's the process what's the step someone tell me what to do you're now going out of balance because you're not trusting you you're looking for the answers and evidence outside of yourself and you're going yep and when that happens now you're out of sorts because you're not centered in you you can't hear the inspired action you can't hear what it is that you need to do but the more you go out of balance the more we're investing energy we're investing our precious energy into something because we're looking for how we're going to get the result now that doesn't mean we just sit around and we go universe give it to me what you're you're getting on with your life but you're allowing the universe to give you the next steps to take instead of you going out there and saying whatever what is it that I need to do and when you're centered you pick up on it your intuitive self will go that's what I need to do that's the next logical step to take but of course if we go into that I need to figure it out someone tell me what to do because I need this thing in my life and I want to figure out how to do it now you're right out of balance and you cannot hear the intuitive steps coming to you and so what happens is you're trying to make it work and when we try to make something work yes you may get there in the end but it'll be really difficult and it will be fraught with difficulties and difficult situations because those difficulties are saying to you come back to your center this is not what you're meant to be listening to but underneath all of that most people have this idea that to get the thing that I want I need to suffer so the difficulties are showing us that we're suffering it's feeding that pattern it's feeding that belief and somehow it feels right to do it I need to suffer a bit I need these difficulties does that sort of make sense to you when I say inspired action and I need to clarify what that is it's a subtle feeling it's not ding these are the steps to take this is what you need I'm going to take you by the hand and lead you there which is what we look at as an action step inspired inspiration is subtle it you you might think okay just go and sit down and and just breathe or go outside and water the plants or or maybe cook yourself something nice but what it will do is it starts you on a momentum that from that place it'll go okay now do the next thing now do the next thing and then all of a sudden you'll go bing it's like oh okay now I want to go and write a chapter in the book that I'm writing or you know go and do something else and you'll find that it just is one thing that leads to another which is what we want we want somebody to tell us how to move through life but because we look for it outside of ourselves we don't think those little subtle hints of just just sit for five minutes we think well that's bloody useless where's that gonna get me and we ignore it we don't do it and then we put more energy we invest more energy into the idea that I need to do something somebody tell me what to do and they were going more and more out of balance and that's what we need to let go of because letting go of this letting go of the resistance doesn't mean you let go of your dreams doesn't mean you let go of the person doesn't mean you let go of all of those things you're they're not disappearing in your life but you're letting go of the resistance to having it in your life yeah so letting go is not an action it's more of okay I just need to find me again because when we're investing all this energy what we're actually saying is I'm not enough and I need this thing I need this result I need whatever it is in my life to feel better to feel better because I've lost myself but our first job is to come back to ourselves and this is happening obviously on a micro level but also on a huge macro level as well so what can we do these are just four little steps that you can follow today you can have a think about today first one is own the way you're feeling it's yours when you accept responsibility for your emotions and stop your conditioned responses you will no longer be vulnerable to the opinions of others or to what's going on around you right here right now say to yourself I am responsible for my thoughts my beliefs my ideas all of the stories that I tell about my life I created them so I can heal them and create new stories that support my dreams and desires so that's our first one that's owning the way that we feel because once you come to that place then things can begin to heal once you've got it's okay I'm gonna stop running I'm gonna stop trying to figure it out it's like okay here I am now that's when healing can begin so you own the way you feel now we feel the feeling the next step is to feel it identify the emotion it might be angry anger sadness hurt upset frustration annoyance disappointment emptiness hopelessness describe what you're feeling and as clearly as you can identify it so feel the feeling and then just let it be there so we're owning it now we're letting it be there and it's okay to feel whatever you are feeling the feeling is showing you where you're holding yourself away from love love being that centered place within you you can only feel negative feeling because you are so loved by your higher self by the universe you can only feel negative feeling because you are so loved otherwise you would not feel it when you hold yourself away from it you wouldn't feel the gap because if your higher self and the universe said oh that's right we're going with you if you're feeling miserable we're coming with you you would you wouldn't feel the gap it's the gap that's making you feel uncomfortable and your higher self is never going to go to a place that isn't your center or your love so feel the feeling and the third one is witness the feeling in your body emotions manifest as physical sensations in our body our thoughts and beliefs trigger bodily reactions that take on a life of their own and that's what I believe is happening with a lot of autoimmune diseases as well the thoughts are now moving into the body the body is becoming the subconscious mind because we don't know what else to do with it if you're thinking it all the time you're not letting it go you're not grounding it it's going to living you somewhere and the body is trying to come into balance you're trying to come into balance so it's going to store it somewhere within you otherwise you know your head might blow up no it's not gonna blow up but we can't have all of this going on in our head all the time because there are other things we need to do on a daily basis to survive and so your body is trying to help you how to survive on a daily basis so it will take a lot of this and it brings it down and it stores it in your body and you created this and now the body is reacting as the stress response it can't be stopped immediately and this is something we need to understand as well we don't panic if we start feeling things in it in our body or we get the stress response because it can't stop immediately otherwise it would put undue stress on the body so we've got to dissipate the energy of the emotion and then the rest will just follow the pain does not need to leave you for you to feel better you can begin to feel better right now and create a well-being in your thoughts and then your body will create that because your body of course is a subconscious aspect of your mind so it all has to start here we can't just react here and go oh it's terrible I feel awful I feel awful because then you're going to create more thoughts that feel awful which will flow into your body and we get that feedback loop so we have to change it and so the first thing is owning your feeling then feeling the feeling and then witnessing where it is so that you can send love to it you can give Reiki to it you can do the meditation and just allow it to dissipate you know just gently dissipate we don't want to break it up all of a sudden and we don't want to just turn on a dime because that's just too much stress on the body so you can say to yourself I've been through difficult times before and have moved through them and sometimes realized they were a blessing in disguise all is working out for me even if I cannot see it right now I trust in my ability to create a better life for me even if I can't see it right now I trust in my ability to create a better life for me so we observe the feeling allow your attention to embrace the sensation and just imagine that you enfold it you cuddle it and it will begin to break up and feel easier because you know we would do it for someone else if someone was in front of us and they were you know really sad really breaking down we wouldn't say to them oh don't be so bloody stupid you should know better get on with life so why would we say those things to ourselves it is about embracing that sensation you know and just giving it love because it is a part of you cuddle it and it will begin to break up and feel easier and in that you may even hear the message that comes from it which becomes inspired action as well and the fourth one is just to express the emotion in private to yourself and journal what you discover because what we do then is we ground that energy you give it a place to go to and it can leave you then and then you can see the wisdom in that so the meditation today is going to be a meditation in just finding that sensation in your body and allowing it to just dissipate and just letting go of it this isn't so much about cutting the tires this is more about letting go of that those sensations within us thanks for listening Denise loves to share information that makes the unknown known until next time be kind curious and dream big

Reviews

Hi Denise, I really enjoyed listening to your podcast today. I am experiencing emotional issues at the moment and I really appreciated your advice and the 4 steps to take to overcome them and I will endeavour to embrace my feelings, well-being and to love my true self again. Thank you.