Loving Inner Child Talks: When Someone's Disappointed In You

When someone is disappointed in you and their frustration fills the room, your inner child feels terrified and ashamed. What your inner child needs more than anything is to know they're not bad, and that YOU see them with love - not frustration. When you listen to this, imagine your inner parent speaking to your inner child: holding them steady, reassuring them, and loving them through the fear. We've all experienced the shame of disappointing someone and seeing their frustration, and this can be listened to anytime to heal the "I'm bad when I make mistakes" wound you carry deep within.

Transcript

I know what you're going through right now,

That feeling that you let someone down.

Their whole energy shifted,

You saw it,

The way that they got quiet,

And you just knew they were upset and disappointed with you.

They didn't even care how you were feeling.

They were all caught up in their own reaction,

And I know it hurt a lot.

It hurt a lot to not feel seen,

To not feel important,

And not even be considered for how hard you tried to get it right.

But I just want you to remember that you're not alone,

That I'm here with you.

Maybe they couldn't see you,

But I see you.

I always see you.

I have my hand on my heart,

Holding you and holding your heart for all those times that you felt this feeling of messing up,

And the grown-ups,

Getting upset with you,

Getting frustrated and impatient,

All the ways that they made you feel like you were bad,

Like something was wrong with you,

Like maybe they didn't love you anymore when you messed up.

That was so scary.

I'm so sorry you felt that way,

Sweet one.

But it's not true.

You're not bad.

There's nothing wrong with you.

You were just learning,

And learning is messy.

You spill things and drop things and forget things.

That's how little ones learn,

And you're just little.

Those grown-ups,

They had big feelings and got frustrated,

But that wasn't because you're bad.

Sometimes grown-ups just expect little people to do things that are too hard for someone so little,

And it wasn't fair.

You were doing your best.

You don't have to go through this all by yourself.

Even when other people can't be there the way you need,

I'm here.

I hear you,

And I see you,

And your heart and your feelings matter so much to me.

I love you so much.

You don't have to be perfect for me to love you.

You being you is enough for me.

I want you to take in what it feels like to have my arms wrapped around you,

Holding you steady.

Let's take a breath,

And notice what it feels like to rest here with me.

I'm holding you close with so much love.

You're safe here.

You're loved here,

Just as you are,

Mistakes and all.

Just breathe it in,

And let it land.

Reviews

Excellent meditation..or inner child "pep" talk laced with genuine compassion & understanding. Goes straight to the heart ❤️

Wow! In two days I’ll be sixty three and listening to your presentation got me crying. We sure don’t have the “fun” some people have in their dysfunctional families. I was misunderstood by my Mom, I believe she, too, was misunderstood as well as abandoned by her Mom and her Dad was in the French military during the war and wasn’t around, and there was a problem with my Dad’s Mom rejecting him because he was allergic to milk and breast milk, she took it as a personal insult from an infant.
So cried for myself, my Dad and my Mom. I of course can only change myself; I can’t tell you how important to hear your message. I’m very grateful you did this and especially the way you did it. Thank you.
Blessings to you and everyone on this journey.
Warmly,
Anne

This is so beautiful. I was able to apply it to a situation which happened months ago that I am having trouble letting go of. Thank you 🙏🏿