Time To Forgive

Forgiveness is an act of self-love - it has nothing to do with the other individual but everything to do with us. Forgiveness is all about releasing and letting go of any negativity, resentment, and animosity that we hold in our hearts towards another. It is all about releasing and letting go of our ego’s notion of what should and should not be. That we may allow for love, peace, freedom, compassion, Divine and perfect health, and harmony to reign supreme within us.

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This story will Levitate's the Path to Freedom podcast.

A podcast that is about how you can tap into the freedom that is inherent within you regardless of what is going on in the external world.

Freedom from fear,

Worry and doubt.

Freedom to follow your heart's desires.

Freedom to live in joy,

Love,

Peace and harmony.

My name is Daniel Rocchio and I'm your host.

Hello and welcome to this week's episode of the Path to Freedom podcast.

A podcast that is about freedom and how we can all tap into the freedom that is inherent within us,

That is always right within us intrinsic to our nature regardless of external circumstances,

Regardless of what's going on on the surface,

What is going on in the world.

We can always come back to this intrinsic freedom.

So this is what this podcast is all about if you've not tuned in before.

My name is Daniel Rocchio and I had a topic I'll plan out for this episode but then this morning another topic came into mind.

It came because of something I became aware of yesterday and the topic for this episode will be it's time to forgive because I realized yesterday that I've been holding on to resentment and animosity and negativity towards an individual that I need to let go and that is what forgiveness is all about.

So this is an episode that will be a bit about me and what I'm going through and what I'm growing through and obviously we will be addressing forgiveness as a spiritual practice and I'll explain the different stages of forgiveness and the reasons why we need to forgive.

Also the benefits of forgiveness of course.

So I welcome you here wherever you are whenever you are I'm very grateful that you tuned in to join me here.

As always let's begin in gratitude.

Let's begin with gratitude.

So I invite you to close your eyes,

Take a deep breath and exhale with the sound of ah.

Take another breath.

Just give yourself permission to relax,

Give yourself permission to release and let go of whatever is going on in your life,

Of wherever you find yourself right now.

Just come back to this moment,

This high and holy moment,

This the nowness of this moment.

As we talked about perhaps it was last week or the week before,

Each and every moment is a moment of rebirth,

Of starting anew,

Of resetting,

Where we let go of the past and start again.

We begin again in each and every moment and so this moment is such a moment.

Whatever's been happening in your life up until this moment,

This is where your new life begins.

This is where we start fresh,

It's a fresh start.

So I invite you just to just feel into that and now I invite you to search your mind for anything that you're grateful for.

Me,

I'm grateful as always,

I'm grateful that I get to record this episode.

I'm grateful for the guidance that I'm constantly receiving,

For that still small voice that is perpetually speaking to me,

Guiding me,

Leading me,

Moving me,

Pulling me,

Forever onward,

Forever forward.

And I'm so grateful for my willingness to grow,

So grateful for my willingness to open and expand and release and let go of that which no longer serves me.

I'm so grateful for who I am,

I'm so grateful for where I am in life even though this is sort of a challenging time for me.

I'm still grateful for it because I know that everything is working for my good.

I know that something wonderful is always happening in my life,

Not only my life,

Because in all of our lives,

At all times,

Something wonderful is always happening.

Sometimes it may be hard to see it,

But nonetheless it's happening even when we cannot see it because good is the nature of God and God is everywhere,

Which means that good is everywhere.

For this I'm grateful.

I'm grateful for who I am becoming.

I'm grateful for this process of sweet release that I'm going through right now because I know that when I emerge on the other side,

There's a new me that has emerged.

It is not this me that will emerge,

But it's a new me,

A new,

Greater and grander expression of who I am,

Is being born right now.

For this I'm grateful.

So just search your mind and whatever you're grateful for,

Turn your attention to it.

I invite you to silently or even loudly to yourself give thanks.

In fact,

For just a few seconds,

To yourself speak to yourself about what you're grateful for.

Say it loud.

A little bit more.

Keep talking about what you're grateful for.

Yes,

There's so much to be grateful for.

The blessings are everywhere.

Good is happening everywhere.

If only we have the eyes to see it,

Which is why we want to continuously come back to the nowness of this moment,

Continuously starting over.

That we don't move through life blindfolded with our past,

With the filters of our past,

Obscuring that which is right now.

But we want to continuously open and expand,

That we may see and catch and feel and hear,

That which cannot be seen or caught or heard or felt with our human senses.

But we want to tune in to that eternal,

To eternity.

And this is why we want to forgive.

Because as we hold on to resentment,

Animosity,

Grudges,

Placing blame,

Negativity,

As we hold on to that,

We're not living in the now,

But we're living life through our past,

Through that which has happened.

And so let me just briefly describe my process,

Where I'm at right now.

There's this individual that's been in my life for some time.

And over time I've become aware that I have opinions about what they do and what they don't do.

I have opinions about what should and should not be.

And this has brewed negativity within me.

I have not always loved and liked and agreed with their choices,

Their decisions.

And so negativity,

Animosity,

I've been placing blame,

I've been pointing fingers at them,

Making them the reason for why I cannot be happy,

Why I cannot be free,

Why I cannot love.

And I've done forgiveness for these individuals a few times before.

But yesterday I became aware that I have not truly been willing to forgive.

And that is essential.

That is essential to forgiveness.

We need to be willing,

We need to want to forgive,

We need to want to let go of the negativity,

We need to want to let go of the resentment,

We need to want to let go of our opinions as to what is,

As to what should,

As to what should not be.

Without this willingness,

Forgiveness is just on the surface.

And that's what I became aware of yesterday.

For me.

For me.

That even though I've tried to,

Or even though I've gone through this forgiveness process a number of times regarding this individual,

I have not been willing,

I have not been truly willing to let it go.

The ego has tricked me into,

I've been caught so many times over and over and over and over and over again by the ego,

Suggesting why it serves me to hold on to negativity,

Why it serves me to place blame,

Why it serves me to act out the victim part.

Where this individual is concerned.

I became aware of this yesterday and this morning I woke up in utter shame and embarrassment because of this.

I was so embarrassed this morning because I've been holding on to this immature,

Childish way of viewing the other.

It's their fault.

It's always been their fault.

That's been my story.

This individual is concerned.

And so this morning I was so embarrassed.

I'm still embarrassed.

I'm still embarrassed.

Now I know that embarrassment doesn't,

It doesn't serve me.

But I embrace and allow it.

It's okay for me to be embarrassed about my own shortcomings.

But now I am willing.

I am truly,

Truly willing to forgive.

And as I said in the beginning,

Forgiveness is not at all about condoning another's behavior.

It's not about even liking that person anymore.

It's not about becoming friends.

It's not about making up.

It's not about any of that.

But forgiveness is,

It's not about the other person at all.

But it's all about us.

It's,

It's,

It's,

It's an,

It's an act of self-love.

Releasing and letting go of negativity,

Animosity,

Of being a victim,

It's all about self-love.

That is all that forgiveness is about.

That we may move in life,

That we may move through life ever more open and available for the love and the peace and the joy and the abundance and the creativity and the beauty,

The freedom and the harmony.

That is our nature.

There's a Native American expression that kind of goes,

Holding on to negativity towards another person.

It's like swallowing poison,

Hoping that they will die from it.

Because that is,

That is what this negativity does to us.

Even now,

I'm aware of my ego still seeking to convince me not to let the negativity go because of what they did or what they did not do.

And I can feel within my body the negativity.

It's brewing.

It's like poison.

And it actually slows down the aging or speeds up the aging process.

It actually compromises the immune system.

So it is poison.

Negativity is poison.

Anger is poison.

Resentment is poison.

Which does not serve us at all.

So it's not for them that we forgive.

It's for our own well-being,

Our own peace of mind,

Our own wellness,

Health and wholeness.

That is the reason we forgive.

And what I also became aware of again yesterday,

But then that I now found myself willing to let go of.

Because I've been holding on to all this resentment and negativity and animosity,

I have not been able to love fully and freely.

I've been holding back.

I've been withholding the love that flows through me whenever they did something that was to my liking,

That I did enjoy.

There was this little voice within me that whispered,

That is the ego,

That whispered and told me not to appreciate it full out,

But to hold back a little.

Sort of,

I'm gonna get them back because of what they've done.

So I didn't appreciate them the way they deserve to be appreciated.

I didn't love them the way they deserve to be loved.

I didn't see them the way they deserve to be seen.

Because I was acting and moving and seeing them through mental filters based on past experiences.

So I've been living in the past or I've been living through the past,

Even in this moment.

I've caused myself suffering,

I've caused the other suffering,

And for what purpose?

Other than satisfying my ego,

But the ego is not worth satisfying.

So for what purpose?

A thought,

As the perception of the ego is I am not enough.

Obviously holding on to the resentment and the negativity,

I was under the impression that I gained something by it.

Alright,

Enough about that.

Let's move into the forgiveness.

So we've covered that the first step is to be willing.

We need to be willing to let go.

Not on a superficial level,

Not on the surface,

But in our hearts,

In our soul.

We need to be truly willing to let it go.

And then the next step is to turn in,

Turn within,

And gently and lovingly observe the negativity,

The thoughts,

The opinions,

The perceptions that we hold.

Where we're placing blame,

Where we're pointing fingers.

Now this is not a judgment exercise,

This is an exercise of becoming aware.

So we need to open and expand enough that we may observe ourselves without judgment,

But simply observing.

Because as we bring it out into the light,

We then may let it go.

So we need to take a good and honest look within.

We need to search ourselves,

Look at ourselves,

Feel ourselves.

Where am I holding on to negativity?

Where am I holding on to animosity?

Just observe it.

And then as we become aware of that,

We need to remind ourselves of two things,

And this is the actual forgiveness part.

We need to remind ourselves that one,

Everybody is doing the best they know how to do,

The best they can in each and every single moment.

Which means that whatever they did,

Whatever they did not do,

Whatever I wanted them to do,

Whatever I wanted them to not do,

They did the very best they knew how to do.

As with us obviously of course.

But they did the best they knew how to do.

It's been said that choice is a function of awareness,

Which means that if we are to exercise the ability to choose,

We need to be able to realize and acknowledge that we have that choice,

That we have a choice.

If we cannot see that we have a choice,

We're not going to be able to choose.

So choice is a function of awareness.

Every single being in each and every moment is acting by the good that they know.

Every single being in every single moment is acting by the good that they know.

As we open and expand,

As we grow and unfold,

As we mature,

We get to see more and we can choose wiser.

We can make higher and higher and higher choices.

But that is as we move along the path of freedom,

As we move along the path of awakening,

The path of unfolding.

But in each and every moment,

Each of us is doing the very best thing we know how to do.

And so this is a vital part of the forgiveness process.

Realizing and acknowledging this.

Whatever they did,

Whatever they did not do,

It had nothing to do with us.

But they acted by the good that they knew in that moment.

And then from there we move deeper into the forgiveness by realizing and acknowledging that no one,

No one,

Has the power to make us think or feel anything unless we give them that power.

So this is where we set ourselves free.

By taking back our minds,

By taking back the power,

By taking back our ability to think independently of any and all circumstances.

Now I'm not saying that this is easy.

It's simple,

Yes.

The principles are simple.

But it's not always easy.

So once again,

An act of self-love.

And as we move through the forgiveness process,

We need to be loving and compassionate towards ourselves.

So we remind ourselves that whatever they did,

They did the best they knew how to do.

We remind ourselves that no one can make us think or feel anything at all.

And then a third step is to come back to the awareness that we're all one.

So whatever we seek to do to another,

Whenever we seek to strike back,

Whenever we seek vengeance,

Whenever we seek to to get revenge,

Whatever we do to them,

We're actually doing to ourselves.

There is only one.

Unique expressions of the one,

Yes.

Unique emanations of the one,

Yes.

But there is only one.

From here,

We move into kindness,

Where we actually pray and bless the other.

We wish them well.

Whatever has happened in the past,

From this moment on,

We wish them well.

We wish them nothing but peace and love and joy,

Prosperity,

Beauty,

Health and wholeness,

All that which we desire for ourselves,

We wish for them.

So this is where we begin to set the law in motion.

As we wish them well,

We're giving and whatever we give,

We receive.

We receive it first,

We give it,

But then we receive it first and from us it flows into the world,

Into the other.

So we wish them well,

We pray for them,

We desire that they may grow,

That they may expand,

That they may find love,

That they may find peace,

That they may find freedom,

Joy,

But we wish them well.

And then the last step of the forgiveness process is that we do something for them.

So we're not only wishing them well,

We're not only praying for them,

But we actually do something for them.

And it might be good to do it anonymously so that our egos cannot take credit for having done whatever it is that we did.

But we do something,

Write a letter,

Perhaps give them some money,

Whatever.

But in action we do something for them,

We give them something.

And this,

All of this that we go through,

Once again it is not for them,

It is not for their sake,

But it's for our own peace of mind,

It's for our own health and wholeness,

That we may be open and available,

That we may be open and expansive,

That we may be conduits through which the love of God flows fully and freely,

Fully and freely.

Take a breath.

And then,

Is there anyone in your life that you need to forgive?

It may even be that we need to forgive ourselves for something that we've done,

Or something that we have not done in the past.

I've said it before,

Opinions are worthless.

They are good for nothing other than holding us trapped in a perception of what should and should not be,

In a prison of what should and should not be.

So we want to keep coming back to to this moment,

To the nowness of this moment,

We want to keep coming back to the Holy Now,

We want to keep stepping out of time,

Letting go of the past,

Letting go of the present,

Letting go of the future,

That we may be clear and clean.

So I invite you to open and expand and just allow yourself to be guided to where you need to forgive yourself,

Another,

Someone who's alive,

Someone who's passed over.

Just be open and expansive to receive guidance as to where you're holding on to negativity or resentment,

Animosity,

Grudges,

Blame.

Now I want you to embrace and allow that which is to be as it is.

Whatever they did,

Whatever you feel,

Whatever you think,

Just embrace and allow it.

Don't deny it,

Don't fight it,

Don't suppress it,

But let it be.

Embrace and allow.

Now release and let go.

Set yourself free.

Let's set ourselves free.

That's why we're here.

We're here to be free beings.

Freedom is inherent within us,

It's intrinsic to our nature.

Let's be it.

We can be anything we want to be,

So let's be free.

Oh my God,

Let's be free.

Forgiveness is an act of self-love.

It's an act of self-love.

It's all about us.

It's all about me.

It's all about you.

It has nothing to do with the other,

What they did,

What they did not do.

I invite you,

If you've become aware of anyone you need to forgive,

I invite you to come back to this episode and go through this process until you feel that you have only peace,

Only love and compassion for that individual in your heart.

I'm so grateful,

I'm so so grateful.

So let's end this episode with a prayer.

I invite you to close your eyes and in this moment let's give thanks for this beautiful moment,

For the beautiful sweet release that is now taking place,

For the healing that is now taking place.

I am so grateful for the love,

For the guidance,

For the nudging,

For that still small voice that forever guides and moves and leads us forever forward.

Fully knowing that that's still a small voice is God's voice.

It's the voice of God speaking to us in a language in any way that we can all understand as unique individuals,

As unique emanations of God,

As unique expressions of God because God is everywhere.

God is a presence,

Fully present in every space and place and I'm so grateful for the love that flows through me,

That flows through you,

That flows through the world and I know that in this moment,

In this very moment something wonderful has happened.

Something wonderful is happening.

Healing is taking place,

Love is happening,

Abundance is happening,

Joy is happening,

Peace is taking place,

Compassion and kindness,

Forgiveness is taking place in this moment.

I know it,

I feel it,

I accept it,

I give thanks for it and allow it to be.

Something wonderful is happening.

This is a new moment and from this moment on a new version of who we are has been born.

A new expression of who we are has begun to emerge.

This beautiful loving expression,

More open and available than ever before,

Than ever before,

More loving than ever before,

More kind than ever before,

More generous than ever before,

More compassionate than ever before,

More forgiving than ever before.

I know it,

I feel it,

I accept it,

I give thanks for it and allow it to be.

So it is,

So be it.

Amen.

You may open your eyes.

Thank you,

Thank you,

Thank you for tuning in.

I'm so grateful that you chose to spend these moments with me.

I'm grateful for you.

I can't see you obviously but I can feel the love that is flowing through all of us.

Until the next time,

Until next week or whenever you tune in the next time,

I bless your way and I bless your day.

You have been listening to an episode of the Path to Freedom podcast with me Daniel Roquejo.

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Blessings of love and light to you.

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Reviews

That was so clear and precise. Thank you for your guidance