About Unconditional Self-Love

Cultivating a profound sense of Self-Love is one of the most prominent lessons we get to learn while walking this wonderful path to freedom.

Self-love does not mean feeling superior or more (nor inferior or less) than anyone else. But it is simply the recognition that we are unique, perfect, whole, and complete, just as we are in every single moment.

Join me as we explore this beautiful topic.

Transcript

Blessings and welcome back to the path to freedom,

This beautiful path where we get to set ourselves free,

To shine,

To soar,

To glow,

To forever love our greater and grander expressions of whom we are,

To emerge,

Where we get to set ourselves free from all of that which may have served in the past but that is not in alignment with who we are becoming and where we are moving towards or where we're going that may have served in the past but no longer serves.

So my name is Daniel Roquillo and as always I'm very grateful and honored that you're choosing to join me,

That you're choosing to tune in,

That you're choosing to walk this path with me.

This is optional,

Which means that we get to choose it,

But not all of us,

Even though every single one of us is called to walk this path,

Not all of us are walking it so I'm grateful that you are here,

I'm grateful that you are doing this beautiful work and for your willingness and for your courage and you're saying yes to go beyond the known,

To go beyond the comfort zones,

To allow for spirit to reveal itself in ever greater and grander ways in and through you and your life.

So the topic for today is about unconditional self-love and I am working with an individual that I met with a few days ago and this individual gave voice to.

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This individual is moving through a dark space,

A very dark space,

And in that dark space a lot of self-doubt and a lot of thoughts and judgments about who they are is coming up and they were sharing as we were meeting a few days ago,

They were sharing that as they are moving through this space having all these quote-unquote negative emotions,

Having all these lower vibration emotions that they try to hide them and they were saying that having these emotions,

The fears,

The worries,

The doubts,

The anxiety,

That it is a weakness and that was such a beautiful invitation that we got to have about what it means to actually love ourselves,

To be in that space of unconditional love,

To dive deep into a profound sense of self-love where everything goes.

We need to always remember that we being and having our lives in absolute oneness with this loving presence,

This benevolent loving presence and we can call it whatever we want to call it,

But we are one with it and we are unique,

Perfect,

Whole,

Complete expressions of it,

Emanations of it,

Just like every wave on the ocean is unique,

Perfect expression of the ocean.

So regardless of what the wave looks like,

How big it is,

How small it is,

How big the caps are,

How fast it is moving,

Its shape,

All these attributes,

Regardless it is unique and perfect emanation expression of the ocean and in exactly the same way,

Regardless of who we are,

When we are,

What we are experiencing,

We are always a unique,

Perfect,

Whole,

Complete expression of this benevolent loving presence.

So we're never flawed,

We're never in error,

We're never missing anything,

We're never lacking anything and I'm reminded in this moment of a beautiful passage from scripture where it says,

Kind of,

And I'm not sure if it says,

You are my beloved,

In you I'm well-pleased or if it says,

I am God's beloved and in me God is well-pleased.

It doesn't really matter what it says.

What it points to is that in any given moment,

We could not ever be anything but God's beloved.

Just like the sun is always shining on everyone,

The sun has no judgments about our colors,

Our skin colors,

Our sexual preferences,

Our political belongings or affiliations,

It cares not about how much money we have in the bank or the accolades or the trophies or prices that we have won,

It doesn't care about anything.

But the sun shines on the just and the unjust,

It shines indiscriminately,

It shines without judgment and this is a beautiful analogy,

This is a beautiful pointer as to what it means to love ourselves unconditionally,

That regardless of what we are experiencing,

Regardless of what we are perhaps attached to,

Regardless of our level of awareness,

We are all right.

We are all right.

So in this now moment,

Let us take a couple of deep breaths,

Breathing in deeply and releasing.

Take a deep breath in.

So we have this egoic mantra,

Actually the ego has two core mantras,

Where the one is I am not enough and the other one is there is not enough,

But for the purpose of this conversation we're leaning into the former,

I am not enough,

That's what the ego wants us to believe,

That we are not enough,

That we need to be something different,

That we should be somewhere else,

That we should have come farther,

That we should know more,

That our lives should have turned out differently,

That we don't know enough,

We don't have enough,

All these stories and beliefs about ourselves,

As this individual that I'm working with was giving voice to,

Having emotions is a weakness.

And to put this in a context,

This individual was saying that being on the spiritual path,

Becoming more and more awake,

Becoming more and more,

Expanding our consciousness more and more,

Raising our vibration more and more and more,

It should lead to the dissolution of all emotions,

That's basically what they were saying,

That's the belief underneath their statement,

That it is a weakness to have emotions.

We will not,

I mean,

We are absolutely,

We are divine beings,

We are spiritual beings of love and light,

That's the one aspect of our beingness,

The other aspect of our beingness is that we have this human form and we are in this human dimension.

So I once heard a beautiful analogy that spoke to being on this path,

And it sort of compared being on this path to a butterfly,

And a butterfly,

It has two wings,

Right?

And it needs both of these wings to fly,

If the butterfly for some reason lost one of its wings,

It would not be able to fly,

It would just flutter around on the ground,

Flinging,

Flapping one of its wings,

And it would just go in circles on the ground.

So it needs both of its wings to be able to fly,

And in exactly the same way we need to embrace and allow both aspects,

We need to honor both aspects of our beingness.

So we absolutely are being called to do this spiritual work of releasing and letting go that which no longer serves,

The judgments,

The opinions,

The point of views,

So that we more and more fortify ourselves and our vibration,

Becoming more and more untouchable and unmovable by the world.

But when we do experience emotions,

When we do experience reactions,

Emotional or mental reactions to things that are happening in our lives and around us,

We absolutely want to and honor those as well.

Which does not mean that we need to attach ourselves to them,

It doesn't mean that we need to be hijacked by them,

But we absolutely get to embrace and allow them to be,

Witness and observe them,

Honor them in that sense,

And from that space of witnessing and observing and embracing and allowing,

We get to turn our attention away from them,

We get to turn our attention toward something that lifts us up,

We get to,

As that beautiful statement that Jesus made,

We get to choose to be in good cheer,

We get to choose to rejoice,

We get to choose peace,

We get to choose harmony,

We get to choose love,

We get to choose joy to the very best of our ability.

But denying that we're experiencing what we're experiencing,

Denying our emotions,

Judging them,

Saying that these are wrong,

This shouldn't be,

That is only giving fuel to the egoic structures that we are not enough.

Whatever we turn our attention to the most is what we're calling forth into our experience,

So when we give too much attention to these lower vibration thought forms,

Emotions,

We're calling forth the very substance,

We are perpetuating them,

We are magnifying them,

We are amplifying them,

And whatever experiences they arise from.

So not deny them,

Not resist them,

But be with them and absolutely love ourselves up to the very best of our ability,

Recognizing and acknowledging that this is where we are in this now moment,

This is how far we have come,

This is what we are experiencing,

It is all good,

It is all well,

Nothing is wrong,

Nothing is amiss,

Nothing is lacking,

Nothing is missing,

We shouldn't be somewhere else,

But we start from here,

This is our starting point,

This is our new beginning.

And over time,

As we begin to release the judgments about ourselves,

As we begin to release our opinions about who we should have been or who we should be,

We more and more and more find our way into the knowing,

The feeling that all is well,

That we are enough.

So let's take another deep couple of breaths,

Breathing in,

And releasing,

Breathing in,

And releasing.

And this is the work,

This is the work,

Embracing,

Allowing,

Being with the breath,

Anchoring ourselves in the breath,

Allowing the breath to anchor,

To ground,

To center us in the nowness of this moment,

Deep into the nowness of this moment,

Where we get to witness and observe,

Just be with that which is,

Right?

On this topic,

I was recently asked,

Do I love myself,

And if so,

How much?

And I absolutely do,

I mean,

I absolutely do.

And how I know that I love myself is that it is very rare that I have judgments about myself,

It is very rare that I experience thoughts as to how I should be able to do something else,

Or how I should be somewhere else,

Or how I should be someone else,

Right?

There's a beautiful embracing and allowing,

Acknowledging that,

Hey,

This is who I am in this now moment,

This is where I am,

This is what I'm doing,

This is what I'm able to do,

This is what I'm not able to do,

Apparently.

And this individual was also asking,

They were asking,

Is it narcissistic to have good feelings about yourself?

Because they were raised by a narcissistic parent,

And so they have no idea as to what self-love,

What healthy,

Unconditional self-love is.

And absolutely,

We want to feel so good about ourselves.

We want to feel so well about ourselves.

We want to be so content with ourselves.

We want to acknowledge the beauty that we are,

The magnificent things that we bring into this world.

We want to acknowledge the gifts and the blessings that we bring,

The gifts and the blessings that we are.

We want to acknowledge the divine light that we are.

So we want to absolutely,

Every chance we get,

We want to love ourselves up,

Which does not mean that we compare ourselves to others,

Because that's when we get in trouble.

When we compare ourselves saying perhaps that,

Oh,

I'm so much better than that individual,

I'm so much better than him,

I'm so much better than her,

Or as is another trick of the ego,

I am so much worse than they are.

They are so much better.

They are much more qualified.

When we begin to compare ourselves,

That's not healthy,

Deep,

Profound self-love.

That's the ego talking.

The sun doesn't compare itself.

It just does what it does,

And it doesn't compare us to anyone else.

So whenever we move into comparison,

Whenever we move into competition,

That's from the ego.

That has nothing to do with self-love.

But having a healthy self-love,

Having a healthy recognition,

Acknowledgement of the uniqueness that we are,

The beauty that we are,

The love that we are,

That is perfectly all right,

And actually going beyond it being perfectly all right.

We all have a mandate to cultivate this deep and profound sense of self-love so that we get to move through life and through the world,

In the world,

Without paying as much attention to what others say about us,

What they may think about us,

Because that's on them.

That has nothing to do with us.

And so we want to set ourselves free from that.

So when someone is coming at us,

It has nothing to do with us.

It's them viewing us through their filters,

Through their perceptions,

Which if they're coming at us,

It is a limited perception.

It is a very shady filter that they are viewing us from or through.

So we want to be happy with ourselves.

Not boastfully happy.

Once again,

That's coming from the ego,

But healthily happy with ourselves.

Just recognizing that we are beautiful,

Just recognizing that we are amazing,

Just recognizing that we are absolutely astounding the way we are now.

So there's a lot of work for us to do when it comes to self-love and cultivating a deep and profound sense of self-love.

But we are so wise to do it.

The benefits are so magnificent.

I remember a time in my life when I thought that my worth and my value was given through the praise of others,

Through their acknowledgement,

Which meant that whenever I got into an argument,

I took that to believe that I was wrong,

That there was something wrong with me,

That I was not worthy of self-love.

So I did all these things and I arranged my life in such a way that arguments,

That conflicts,

In such a way that I,

To the best of my ability,

Made sure that everyone absolutely loved me.

I remember in high school how I was known as the,

I'm trying to remember,

Because there was a particular word that,

Nice.

I was known as this amazingly nice guy.

And as I began to become aware that me being nice wasn't all that authentic,

It was rather a way for me to manipulate,

To get the approval of others,

To get their love and their recognition,

I started to dislike the word nice,

Because it meant that I was doing something to get something from someone else.

And as I began to do some work around that,

Began to take back my own mind and my own self-worth,

Not attributing it to my accomplishments or my achievements or what anyone else thought of me or what they said of me,

I began to set myself free to be who I am,

To show up how I want to show up,

Not in the way that I think others think I should show up,

But the way I want to show up,

To be who I want to be,

Who my heart is calling me to be.

And it's quite rarely nowadays that people.

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I was actually in my car a few weeks ago,

A couple of weeks ago,

And I passed this other car and for whatever reason,

And I'm not sure what the reasons were,

But they flipped me off.

I was just passing it and they flipped me off.

And that was one of those moments when I was taken back to that time when I was younger,

When them flipping me off would have caused all kinds of turbulence within me.

And I would either have felt very bad about myself or I would have moved into some kind of revenge,

Seeking to get them back,

Seeking to justify my own worth by,

I don't know,

Attacking them or I don't know,

I don't remember,

Or I can't imagine what I would have done,

But I can imagine that them flipping me off would have given rise to a tremendous mental and emotional reaction within me.

And now it brought a smile to my face as I realized that it doesn't bother me at all.

And I went on blessing them,

Wishing them well,

Wishing them peace,

Wishing them harmony,

Wishing them love,

Self-love,

And I just moved on.

And this is what unconditional self-love brings,

That we get to move through life unmoved,

Which does not mean that we are indifferent.

Like I searched my mind for something that I had done that may have given rise to their action.

I couldn't find it,

But I still went there.

So unconditionally loving ourselves does not mean that we put ourselves above or beyond our own actions.

We still need to take responsibility for ourselves,

Even though we're perhaps not moved or tossed into an emotional reaction by the words of others or their actions.

We still need to take responsibility for ourselves and our actions.

So we're not above the law in that sense.

We're not above the norm.

We're not above being decent human beings respective of others,

Right?

So we still want to extend respect and we still want to extend courtesy and we still want to extend love toward others.

But we're not moved,

We're not touched in the same way by criticism as perhaps we used to be.

So this is a very deep and profound topic.

We could go on and on and on and I'm sure that we will have plenty of reasons to revisit it in future messages.

But for now,

Let's move into the intention or the invitation,

Which is plainly for us to witness and observe ourselves,

Witness and observe how we are talking about ourselves.

What are we saying to ourselves within ourselves,

Within the confines of our own minds?

What are we saying to ourselves in conversation to others?

So what are we saying to ourselves and about ourselves silently and out loud?

What are we thinking about ourselves?

What is that inner conversation that we're having about ourselves?

What are some labels that we are attaching ourselves to,

That we are giving ourselves?

And the next stage of the invitation is for us to become aware whether or not these are serving us.

Are these loving and kind?

Are we having a loving and kind conversation with ourselves?

Are we describing ourselves in a loving and kind way to others?

Or are we beating ourselves up?

Are we berating ourselves?

Are we talking ourselves down?

Are we criticizing ourselves?

Are we giving ourselves all kinds of names that are absolutely not in alignment with self-love?

And if we find that we are perhaps not engaging in a deep and profound self-loving conversation,

The invitation is for us to,

On a piece of paper,

Begin to write down how we wish to talk about ourselves,

How we wish to talk to ourselves.

So to write down phrases,

Statements that we want to lean into.

And then the last stage of the invitation,

Obviously,

Is for us to begin to lean into these.

If we need to put post-it notes,

If we need to put reminders in different places,

Reminding us of these new phrases and statements,

That's all good and well.

However we need to do it,

The invitation is for us to do it.

To begin to up-level our inner conversation,

Our inner dialogue or monologue with ourselves,

Towards ourselves,

About ourselves.

Cool?

I don't think we have any questions in this particular session.

So we are all good.

We are all set.

Thank you so,

So much for tuning in,

For participating.

As always,

If this resonates with you,

I invite you to share it.

And until we meet again,

As always,

I absolutely bless,

Bless,

Bless our days,

And I bless,

Bless,

Bless our ways,

In absolute knowing that all is well,

That something wonderful is happening,

That everything is working for our highest good.

That perfect preparation and unfolding is always happening.

With much love,

Many blessings.

Namaste.

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I can see how much I’ve grown in self love just listening to this one!! Blessings. 🩵