Radical forgiveness meditation.
Please close your eyes.
Allow yourself to take three deep long breaths.
Extend each exhale.
Sit in a position in which you are symmetrical so that you are relaxed and alert.
Continue to breathe extending each exhale.
Now invite on your mind's screen an image of someone you feel called to forgive.
Someone who has victimized you.
Someone who has done you wrong.
Invite that person from your mind into your heart.
Watch their approach to your heart.
Welcome them into your heart anyway.
Say to them,
I forgive you.
I forgive you.
I love you.
I forgive you.
I have compassion for you.
In my heart there is room for it all.
Whatever you may have done to me consciously or unconsciously,
I forgive you.
I forgive you for your ignorance.
I forgive you for wherever you spilled your pain onto me.
I forgive you for where you were negligent or forgetful of me.
I know that had you been in your center,
Had you been in the reassurance of love,
You would have done differently.
I forgive you.
I forgive you for your deepest pain.
I forgive you for your denial of your deepest pain.
I forgive you for any cruelty,
Insensitivity,
Or unkindness you have inflicted upon me.
I forgive those qualities of you that I see in myself.
Feel it.
Feel your forgiveness being extended to this other person.
Feel this person enveloped by your compassion and mercy.
Now let that person go.
Now imagine the same person on your mind screen again,
But this time asking forgiveness from this person.
You asking forgiveness from this person.
Invite that person from your mind into your heart.
Feel their approach to your heart and say to that person,
I ask for your forgiveness.
I ask your forgiveness for ever I have contributed to the places where you were not in your center with me,
Where you were not in your trusting heart.
I ask your forgiveness for what was unhealed in me to attract you to do what you did to me directly with you in terms of our dynamic,
In terms of the victim bully dance or the victim rescuer dance we were in or are in.
I also ask your forgiveness for wherever I am unhealed from the past,
A past from long before I knew you that would attract your character traits,
Your woundedness that would hurt me.
I ask your forgiveness for where you would sacrifice yourself for me to learn very significant life lessons that I have needed to learn.
I ask your forgiveness for where you have sacrificed yourself to play out your shadow for my growth,
For my healing and for my very opportunity to embrace those same qualities in myself in either that same version or another version.
Imagine it so.
Imagine that they forgive you.
Feel their forgiveness like a balm,
Like a salve on your heart.
Feel their wink from them to you and you to them of what has been played out.
Feel their forgiveness as a permission to forgive yourself.
I ask your forgiveness so I may also forgive myself.
Now release that person,
Sending them off with a blessing,
Keeping your eyes closed as we move on to the last part.
Now imagine yourself,
Yourself on your own mind's screen.
Imagine yourself in that dance,
In that dynamic with that person.
See it.
Invite yourself from your mind into your own heart.
Welcome yourself into your own heart,
The heart that has room for it all and say,
I love you.
I love you.
If it's hard to love yourself,
Say,
I love you.
I forgive you.
I have compassion for you.
Calling yourself by your own first name and saying,
I love you.
I forgive you.
I forgive you for your woundedness,
For where you unconsciously spilled out your own unhealed shadow.
You calling yourself by your own first name.
I forgive you for your own unhealed dynamics,
On your pain,
Your undiscovered shortcomings.
I forgive you for playing it all out.
I forgive you for wherever you have been the victim,
For wherever you have been the bully.
I forgive you for wherever you have been a codependent rescuer.
I forgive you for all aspects in this dance.
I know if you could have done differently you would have.
I also know that this dance has been your ticket to great growth.
I forgive myself and I turn myself over to the divine to do its magic and undo the consequences of my errors,
Of my missing the mark.
I turn myself over to the consequences of what I have done so that they may be transmuted as I atone,
As I take responsibility and I make amends for my part.
I accept it could not have been any other way.
May the cycle end here.
May it be completed.
May it be done.
May it be so.
Keeping your eyes closed,
Be aware of you and this order.
You and this greater dynamic.
Finding the whole triangle,
That whole dynamic being infused with light,
With the consciousness of love that you have as you hear and open to this meditation.
Feel that love.
Feel that spaciousness.
Feel that possibility.
Feel the heart softer,
Gentler and kinder,
More compassionate to the other and to yourself.
Have compassion for where there still may be defensiveness,
Resistance,
Stiffness,
Rebellion,
Vindictiveness that still lingers because it just means it was that extreme of a challenge and that's okay.
But open to the willingness to make this dent,
These inroads into this dynamic of you and the other.
May the power of this attention you are bringing to the healing of your dynamic with this person radiate out in rings of energy that radiate out like sound waves into the greater field to the people that know you both,
To any children implicated,
Any family members,
Any mutual friends and may the benefits and the intentions that you bring to this meditation extend beyond,
Beyond those that you know and relate to,
To other people that those people relate to and beyond those people and beyond and beyond and beyond because of your willingness to consider and entertain the possibility of the healing power of true forgiveness.
May it be so.
Allow yourself to take a few deep breaths and stay in the stillness of this deep intentional focus.
And then allow yourself to take a deep breath and another deep breath and allow yourself to come back gently.
Thank you.
