Here's a few minutes to reconnect with truth from a Three Principles perspective.
Today,
A simple reframe on the meaning of Triggered.
I know what I used to think Triggered meant.
It generally meant that that person out there had done something to upset me,
To anger me,
To make me feel frustrated.
But that's not really the truth.
There's a simple way you can see this.
Have you noticed that that annoying boss or partner or whoever else doesn't always seem to be annoying in quite the same way?
Sometimes they do something and we seem to be triggered,
And other times we're not,
Despite them doing what seems to be almost exactly the same thing.
That's because that trigger that seems to be a button somebody can press on the outside isn't really what's happening.
Really it's our thinking in the moment that causes those feelings that we feel in our body when we're triggered.
The trigger is actually an inside job.
Now,
That is not a license for people to treat you badly,
By the way.
Some people do misunderstand that that's the case,
But there's a lot of freedom that comes from seeing the inside-out nature of how our experience is created.
Because when we feel triggered,
We can see that that's a sign that we need to look after ourselves and not necessarily look after the outside world.
As we settle,
We can then come from a place of response ability rather than reactivity.
When we articulate ourselves from a place of calm,
We may well still say no to somebody's behavior or things that they've said to us,
But we'll say it in a very different way.
We'll be calmer,
More clear,
And more connected.
And that's because our state of mind really does influence our emotional response.
When we're stirred up in our thinking,
Our emotions go all over the place.
I tend to say these days we've become emotionally discombobulated.
It doesn't feel good in our body,
But that emotion is actually a gift to let us know that right now we're in a triggered state of mind.
We've got a lot of thinking about what somebody's done.
Much of that thinking is probably unconscious,
So don't worry too much about working out what the thinking is,
But it's really helpful to see that.
As well as this,
I invite a great big dose of self-compassion.
As we go on a journey like this to see our nature of our experience from the inside-out,
Perhaps we don't always see it in the moment.
Perhaps we still react,
And I don't want you to be harsh on yourself when you do.
That makes you a normal human being.
Trust me,
I still do it too.
But it's so helpful to see that what's really true for us,
That our well-being and our calm and peace and wisdom are always available to us,
That gives hope in those moments when we're caught up,
Knowing that it will pass and we'll probably feel better sooner than we think.
I really hope this has been helpful.
Perhaps you've come to this in a moment when you're feeling triggered.
If you'd like to explore this subject further,
I've got lots of other content you can see.
Take care,
Lots of love,
And I hope to connect with you again soon.
