A very big aloha.
You know,
It came to my thoughts today to talk about forgiveness because forgiveness is an ongoing practice.
There's always,
As you get along in your years,
You know,
Many things sometimes that have stuck with you,
That have hurt you along the way.
It just happens in life and part of it's karma,
I think,
Things you have to work out.
And I was remembering how when I was reading from a very wise person who said,
You need to practice forgiveness daily.
And that when you practice forgiveness,
It's not like just one time and then it's done.
There's many layers to peel off that onion.
It can go into lots of things in your brain and your activity and the way you think that need to be cleared.
And forgiveness works on such a deep level.
When you realize,
Oh gosh,
I was blaming someone else for what,
How,
And how I got hurt,
How I was affected by what they did.
Now,
I'm not questioning that the other person did something,
You know,
And that in some way that it could have hurt you very deeply.
I was a victim of some very difficult things,
Including abuse from a very young age.
But the thing is,
You have to get past it and it can stick there,
You know.
So the more you go into it,
And it's not an easy process always,
But the more you go into it and accept that situation and release it and forgive it,
The more you can let it go.
There's really no real reason to hold on to situations that have caused you pain.
And if you can forgive those things,
If you can let them go,
You can then even find a way to possibly forgive the person who did them to you as well.
And by doing that,
You're clearing out any attachment or energy there.
And you can see things in a much clearer perspective.
You can go into that objective place where you cannot react emotionally.
And it's,
You know,
It's,
It can get pretty righteous.
You know,
You understand that,
You know,
It's like,
I didn't do anything wrong.
You know,
This person did this to me,
You know,
I wasn't doing anything wrong.
And I understand that really,
I was married to someone who was very abusive,
And I wasn't doing anything wrong.
But the thing is,
The situation occurred.
And it helps to forgive the situation and what occurred in that situation.
So you don't hold on to resentment,
And anger and bitterness.
Because those things,
Anger,
Bitterness,
Will really do damage.
And they're going to do damage to the person that may have caused your situation.
They're going to do damage to you.
And you don't want that.
You don't want that long term damage done over and over and over.
It's ridiculous.
You don't need that.
Now,
The hard part is reliving those things and letting them go and forgiving them because you have to dig pretty deep.
You have to go pretty deep inside.
And I tell you something,
You know,
I've studied a lot about these things.
I've studied about,
Studied a lot about sexual abuse,
And different forms of abuse.
And it's amazing how many people in relationships and marriage have been in a very bad relationship that it may have caused some abuse that had been beaten up or hurt in some very deep ways by the partner they were with.
So this is not uncommon.
I think it's like one in four,
They've now found out that one in four people have had this happen to them.
So this is a fairly common thing that's affecting a lot of people out there.
And the more you can come to terms with it,
And the more you can realize that this is something that happens,
And it's up to you to let it go,
And to forgive it,
And to bless it,
And to send it on its way,
That the more you can become whole and free.
And what a gift that is.
What a wonderful gift that is to be able to be free from that hurt,
And from that anger,
And that resentment.
And that stuff really can keep you back and hold you down.
And when you're free from it,
And when you release it,
And when you let it go,
And you send it on its way,
There's this,
Wow,
This lightness,
A lightness of being,
You know,
That comes in.
This release,
This amazing ability to truly go,
Wow,
Yeah,
I understand now.
I can release that.
You know,
Life is full of things that will hurt you,
And situations and people that will hurt you.
And sensitive people,
And people who are extra sensitive people,
Get hurt more easily.
There's no way around that.
If you're more sensitive,
You can get hurt more easily.
But it's good to be sensitive,
But it means you have to do more maintenance in clearing out what's there that can go deep and hurt you deeply.
And once you have done that,
You kind of need to keep your awareness up,
Not get into situations,
Or hang around with people that are going to hurt you.
You try to avoid those situations again,
Right?
So that's a key,
A key that you can hold on to,
That you can remember,
And that you can use to unlock that door to the pain,
To the anger,
For the situation that has occurred in your life.
And once you found the process that works for you,
Once you found the ability to be aware of what has hurt you,
And to practice forgiveness,
And to go deep and really forgive yourself,
And then forgive the other person,
You will find that there is an amazing gift that comes to you,
A precious gift,
The precious gift of being free.
And that freedom,
That it holds a light,
It holds a deep love,
And it's such a great gift that you will feel once you can really practice that forgiveness.
And I thank you for taking the time to let me talk about this,
But it's so important.
I felt I really had to bring it up again today.
My deep blessings and deep love to you.
