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Choosing To Be

by Rev. Dr. Cindy Paulos Msc.D

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The importance of creating a to-be list, based on your spiritual priorities. We all have to-do lists, but that energy is very different than the space and presence created by allowing yourself to be. When you allow yourself to be you experience life in a different way. Try it.

MeditationSelf AwarenessMindfulnessPresenceSelf ExpressionSelf GrowthPrioritizationSelf CompassionVulnerabilityListsBeing PresentBlossomingCompartmentalizationMeditation IntegrationsSoul RevelationUncompartmentalizingSpirits

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Aloha.

I'm Reverend Cindy Paulus and I was pondering how we can remember the place we are when we in deep meditation in our everyday life and the value of that and how we can integrate our soul into our everyday life as well.

We have a tendency to learn to compartmentalize which can put our life in compartments.

Okay so we have what are your basic compartments?

Well you have you have to get things done right?

Here's your to-do list and getting to work,

Getting things done,

Then there's the getting errands done,

Doing laundry,

Doing stuff you have to do to fix things,

You know there's that compartmentalized stuff.

And sometimes there's a lot of other things you put in there,

You know things that you consider fun,

Celebrations,

And it's interesting each of these we kind of without realizing it put in a certain expectation level in our mind.

And that can shift really depending on your age and what you go through it can shift if you've gone through a crisis and your values can change drastically if you've gone through a very,

Well a lot of people have gone through very difficult times you know.

So then you're in survival mode and then your compartments definitely and priorities change.

But it is good to reflect on what your priorities are.

Because I found over my many,

Many years of meditation,

Over 55 years,

That as you put importance and priorities on things that's what you will tend to do.

So your intent and your computerized kind of mind is like okay I've got to get this done today,

Right?

All right I got to pay my taxes,

I got to do this,

I got to do that.

And you know if you start to have a lot of you got to do's,

Part of you may start to rebel against all the things you have to do.

I mean I find myself going oh my gosh I got so much to do today,

My god I got this,

I got to do that.

And when you go with that attitude you're kind of squashing the excitement and the joy and the good parts that come instead.

It's like okay I did that,

I did that,

I did that.

And again that's based on your priorities in getting things done and checking off your to-do list.

Now the thing that is unfortunately happening when you have a to-do list,

Your priority is to get everything done on your to-do list.

And most people never get everything done in their to-do list every day.

We tend to have a lot to do so you may not.

You may not be able to accomplish everything you wish to do and then you're like oh I didn't get all this done.

That's kind of a hard situation,

Right?

That becomes a difficult situation because you become kind of judgmental on yourself.

You become like oh you didn't get this done,

You got to get that done.

It's like oh my gosh.

Not to have to do.

In fact wouldn't it be wonderful you had,

If you had a,

Instead of a to-do list,

You had a to-be list.

To be aware.

To be full of light.

To be kind.

To be happy.

To be understanding.

To just be.

Now I find that happens when I'm out walking in nature.

I find that happens when I allow myself to take a conscious break after maybe doing something I had to do.

See I use the word had to do instead of I chose to do.

We can choose to do and then we can also take some time after we do what we do to be.

And as we expand our beingness we can be while we are doing.

And that's an interesting experiment you might want to try.

Okay take an example of driving a car somewhere.

You know many people just okay I've got to go somewhere,

I've got to do something right.

Now if you could be while you're driving your car you might be happy.

You might be choosing to send out love and light.

You might just listen to some inspiring talks you know.

You might find yourself being while you are aware of driving.

You can take that same idea while you are maybe doing a Zoom conference say for an example.

You could just try being present by allowing yourself to shine your light in love when you're not even talking and when you are.

Then we start incorporating our being and our being present and our being aware and our being loving and being kind while we are doing what we're doing.

And it'd be so nice if we kind of uncompartmentalize and that word of course compartmentalize has mental in it right.

You're in that mental state of that compartment.

So if we take out that whatever we might preconceive that compartmentalized is and just allow ourselves to flow you know to be,

To flow.

I think you'll find it very very helpful and more than helpful.

I think you'll find it really allowing yourself to be allows that true self of who you are to come through.

That beautiful self that you are and that you may not believe is really as important as it is.

But it's so important.

That beautiful loving true self that doesn't get a chance to be shown so many times.

I mean we do limit.

We do limit ourselves a lot of times for protection.

We limit ourselves because we think others won't really see it or that we might be too vulnerable right.

And I've seen this happen a lot of times and so it's just a beautiful thing when we allow ourselves to be.

So at those points you see glimpses of your soul.

You see the glimpses of the light that's around you.

You see glimpses of that love that you are.

You see glimpses of what you experience in your deepest moments of meditation in your soul.

So how precious is integrating that wonderful true you into your life,

Into your work,

Into your relationships,

Into all of who you are until it becomes what you are.

And then the who and what you are can really develop and blossom.

You know you are really truly this precious flower,

This seed of the one light and love of all.

And when you allow yourself to be who you are,

You become that blossoming of that beautiful flower of the essence of who you really are.

How precious,

How very precious is that soul that allows yourself to blossom into who you really are.

So take some time,

Take some time to make a list.

Instead of a to-do list,

Take some time to create a to-be list.

What do you wish to be?

Give some priority to that beingness that you are.

Give some priority to being loving,

To being kind,

To being vulnerable,

To being creative,

To being who you really are.

It's such a beautiful precious gift to hold.

I'm sending you my true love and my deep blessings and recognition of that beautiful,

Beautiful blossom,

That flower,

That seed from the garden of heaven.

May you be blessed to blossom and see and know and recognize that beautiful flower,

That precious flower that you are.

Blessings of love always.

Meet your Teacher

Rev. Dr. Cindy Paulos Msc.DKahului, HI, USA

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Recent Reviews

Roma

April 24, 2025

Thank you. I’ve been feeling so overwhelmed and burned out. Creating a to be list sounds so lovely. I will try this and give it the same importance as my to do list. Thank you

Jayne

March 2, 2024

Thank you for sharing your gift yourself and your wisdom blessings 🤍🕊💜🌈🙏

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