To Understand Love One Must Understand Relationship First

**Note: Truth does not always sound pleasant. If the mind is not really peaceful now, it might not be a perfect moment to listen to this podcast, one has to be aware of the emotions or reactions that can block one from listenING ATTENTIVELY and with HUMILITY.

This talk is a meditation practice. What one needs to do is listen attentively, without getting stuck in words, examine the mind in silence, no agree or disagree, just look at the mind as it is. Doing so is already part of true meditation.

Transcript

When one loves oneself most,

There's no love at all.

To inquire into ourselves today,

We have to inquire into what is love.

Is love a concept,

An idea,

Or is love something totally different?

If the love is an idea,

We can create different types of love,

Romantic love,

This love,

That love.

We always associate love with some images.

There are all kinds of narcissism,

Loving oneself most,

There's no love at all.

If the love is some images,

Some thoughts,

Some ideas,

The confusion is inevitable.

Talking about love,

We have to talk about relationship.

The relationship between a husband and a wife,

Between two friends,

Between parents and children,

Between anyone.

What is relationship?

Is relationship some idea,

Thoughts,

Concept?

Or is it something totally beyond?

For most of us,

The mind is always generating images and accumulating images.

I have an image about you and I keep accumulating those images about you through my judgment,

Through my preferences,

My tendencies,

And you do the same to me.

And we don't see each other at all.

Or we see each other through these images.

I don't look at you at all because I always see you through these images I have accumulated in my memory and you do the same.

This world is doing the same.

We have a question,

Do we have relationship at all?

It seems that there's a relationship between the images I hold and those you hold.

But there's no relationship between you and me.

And this relationship between those images implies that for most people on this planet,

The relationship is a thought,

It's an idea,

It's a concept,

Which has no reality at all.