The Isolated Mind Looks For So-called Friend As Trash Can

**Note: Truth does not always sound pleasant. If the mind is not really peaceful now, it might not be a perfect moment to listen to this podcast, one has to be aware of the emotions or reactions that can block one from listenING ATTENTIVELY and with HUMILITY.

Listening to this talk is meditation. What one needs to do is listen attentively, without being stuck in words, examine the mind in silence, no agree or disagree, just look at the mind as it is. Doing so is already part of true meditation.

Transcript

What is friendship?

We really ask this question carefully,

Theoretically.

In this egocentric world,

Utterly individualistic world,

The mind is becoming more and more isolated,

Craving companion,

Friends,

All kinds of socializing activities.

This oscillation created by the self,

The ego,

Have all kinds of symptoms.

Loneliness,

Aggression,

Illusion,

Anxiety,

Fear,

You name it.

All those symptoms are pointing to this oscillation.

And out of that oscillation,

The mind wants to socialize,

Wants to have friends,

Wants to have all kinds of relationships to alleviate this oscillation.

So this socializing becomes a need demanded by the mind,

Which is in oscillation.

But what is friendship?

Is friendship for this kind of oscillation?

Is this friendship a kind of drug to alleviate this oscillation?

Or is friendship something totally different?

The speaker is wondering if the mind is isolated,

Whether the mind can really make friends or not.

When the mind is in isolation,

The mind wants to alleviate the oscillation.

The desire to alleviate the oscillation is different from making friends.

But it is so easy for the mind to mix them,

Creating more and more issues.

The isolated mind wants to have a person,

Also called friend,

To tolerate one's childish behaviors.

So in that view,

From this egocentric mind,

The friend becomes a trash can.

I need to find somebody who can really tolerate me,

Tolerate whatever I do.

Is that friendship?

In this utter selfishness,

This oscillation is only enhanced further.

Because in that treatment,

One scares away other people,

Creating all kinds of issues.

Because such a mind,

Which is full of egocentric thoughts,

Which is utterly selfish,

Always wants to find a trash can.

In that doing so,

It brings more hurt,

More issues,

More conflicts.