This meditation focuses on the expectations we all create of ourselves and others but which are now hampering our spiritual expansion.
Maybe such expectations were placed upon you as children and we still carry them to placate someone we love.
Or maybe we focus such unrealistic conditions on other people,
Limiting their freedom to be themselves.
Come with me as we enter sacred space and lovingly cut the ties of expectations,
The act of true compassion.
This is cutting a tie from someone that has expectations of you.
Now they may not expectations to be successful,
They may be expectations to keep you small.
They may be expectations just to keep you,
To keep them safe.
So somebody who you are trying to please,
Trying to appease,
Trying to keep your head down,
Not to shine,
Or maybe you're scared that you if you go too far that something bad is going to happen to them.
That might have been a story you carry.
I hope you can come with me on this journey,
I'm sure you can,
But if you recognize that there are people in our lives,
It might be friends,
It may be family,
It may be parents,
Siblings,
That you or even your children,
You may be saying I'm keeping myself at this level for them and what we're looking at is hey I'm unique,
You're unique,
My keeping myself small does not serve you.
That's what I'm asking you to look at.
In other words it's almost like an arrogance for us to think that us behaving in a certain way is actually going to help someone else.
All right?
Us behaving and fully in our embodiment is the best help we can give someone else.
Be the role model of full embodiment,
Full confidence.
Staying small will never ever serve anybody else and I think that's a message at this time anyway with the lockdown,
The virus around,
It's almost like be careful of everybody else or don't spit on anybody else and maybe that's almost the metaphor that my energy cannot affect anybody in that way.
The more full I am of myself,
The less,
Almost what I do is I release everybody else to be themselves and that's true I think especially of our children,
Of our partners,
Maybe our parents as well but let other people be themselves.
We do that by releasing the ties that we think we're helping someone else but in truth we are putting our expectations on them.
Now I've given you lots of different scenarios there but this exercise we're about to do is to cut the ties with someone where we're either putting expectations on them or they're putting them on us or we perceive they are.
Okay?
So again only do this meditation if you have the space and you can close your eyes.
And as usual take a few good deep breaths,
Short breath in,
Long breath out,
Down through your body.
And in particular take those thoughts from your mind,
Those self doubts and just bring them all down through your body into the ground.
This is for many of you.
Take all those thoughts again down into the earth saying maybe nothing that I believe is true,
Maybe everything is not as I think it is,
As I think it is.
Now you're,
Whether you've got your feet on the ground or whether you're lying down that's fine.
Take your awareness to your heart chakra,
Centre of your chest.
Through your heart chakra see yourself in a meadow or a field.
I like to think of flowers being in the meadow around your feet.
Soft wind on your face.
Listen to the birds perhaps.
Listen to the birds perhaps.
Draw a circle around you on the ground.
This is your sacred space.
Draw another circle on the ground meeting yours like a figure of eight,
Just touching on the edges.
We're going to invite someone into that circle.
They cannot come into yours,
You cannot come into theirs.
And invite someone in who either you have expectations of them or you perceive they have expectations of you.
They may be still alive or they may have passed over.
And we're just going to imagine that there is one tie that needs cutting between your solar plexus,
Their solar plexus.
Now if you want to play with this later on you may see there are other ties to different chakras.
But you can also see there's a loving tie between the heart.
It doesn't have to be a rope,
It can just be energy that runs between your hearts.
Okay,
We're going to go to the solar plexus one because this is the place where we please each other.
This is the place of expectations.
And what I first want you to appreciate is that you want to cut this tie,
Not the heart one,
But the solar plexus one.
And you're cutting it because you realise that having expectations of each other is holding you both back from fulfilling your own soul destiny.
And you may well be able to speak to this individual and say,
I'm sorry I expected this of you.
I only wanted to make you happy or I'm sorry that I put all my ideas known to you.
I'm ready to let you go.
And likewise,
They may need to say something to you now.
And that conversation can continue some later on.
But now,
If you are ready,
See what the cord between you is made from,
The tie that you're holding.
And if you're ready,
You may be able to speak to this individual and say,
I'm sorry I expected this of you.
And if you are ready,
See what the cord between you is made from,
The tie,
The bond.
This is of the solar plexus.
And if you are ready to cut it,
Find something to cut it with and cut it.
And then tie off the ends or make sure the ends can't reconnect.
And say to them,
I set you free.
I release you to be all that you are.
Maybe they say something like that to you.
And you say,
I love you.
I love you as a soul.
I love you.
It doesn't matter.
But there's not the stickiness anymore.
And ask them to leave.
And then finally,
You let the circles dissolve.
And you bring your awareness back to the room where you are.
And when you're ready to open your eyes.
And you can repeat that exercise as many times as you like.
Maybe even with the same person,
Just to check that that cutting has worked.
And you may even bring into the other circle a part of you.
The you that has expectations of yourself.
Sometimes we have expectations of our spontaneous self or our little child and we said,
Don't be like that.
That isn't good.
Maybe we need to set free that part of ourselves and then integrate it into ourselves and say,
Sorry,
I've been judging you.
I've had expectations of you.
Now be yourself.
That's taking it a little deeper,
But I hope you'll do that.
So bring into the other circle parts of you that need to be released to be free and to accept that you are free.
Bring into the other circle parts of you that need to be released to be free and to express themselves fully.
