Close The Window. Build The Door.

A reflection on who and what we let in and how the entry point matters more than we think. This piece is about the difference between a window and a door. Between contorting yourself to keep something alive and building something spacious, intentional, and specifically yours. For anyone who has ever called an energy leak "being easygoing." For anyone ready to close what's costing them and build what they actually want.

Transcript

Close the window. Build the door. I've been thinking about windows and doors lately, Specifically who and what I've been letting in through which one and what it's been costing me. Not home renovation, But people, Energy, Who you've been letting in through the back window when you deserve someone walking confidently through the front door. Here's the thing about a window. It's not built for people to come through. You don't fit with ease. Everyone contorts. Someone usually bruises something and a gust of wind carries away something important you didn't even know you were holding. There's no curb appeal to a window, No way to curate it or make it welcoming. It's a jimmy rig situation with limitations and it was never designed for this. A door though, Spacious, Inviting, Matte out front, Plants on either side, A sign that makes it super obvious. This is the entrance. This is what I'm welcoming in. It opens with intention. It closes with intention. That's its whole job and it's very good at it. I've been letting people through windows, Not because I was careless, But because I hadn't built the door yet. So I left windows open and called it being easygoing and available. It wasn't that though. It was a standard and standards are sneaky because they don't just affect the people coming in, But they tell you something about how you're valuing yourself right now. If this is what I allow, Then I'm creating a tone and if the bar is a window, We need to have a little chat. So close the windows, The ones leaking energy, Requiring contortion, Costing more than they give, Close them with kindness. No drama, No big speech, Just close them and then build the door and make it beautiful. Mattes, Plants, Sign, Make it so specifically and unapologetically you that the right thing, The right person, The right energy, The right opportunities, Can't possibly miss it. Love, Energy, People, Opportunities. When the right thing shows up, It won't need to jimmy rig its way in. It'll just knock and you'll open the door because you built it for exactly this.

Reviews

I really like this analogy! A demo/guidance/group activity session for "building the doorway" would bea live event I would love to join. 😏📝⚡️🧲🚪🪞