EFT Tapping For Secure Self Love

An EFT Tapping Meditation for the anxiously attached, or those with people-pleasing tendencies. We begin re-wiring our system for a more secure attachment by invoking self-love and self-compassion. Includes a brief visualization to connect with our inner child and give them the love that they (we) deeply crave.

EFT is a powerful yet gentle somatic healing technique. If this is your first time practicing, please listen to my intro to the EFT track (available here on Insight Timer) or Google the tapping points for a visual guide.

Transcript

This is Casey.

Welcome to this EFT track for secure self-love.

If this is your first time tapping,

I recommend first visiting my separate track that introduces EFT tapping as a modality as well as the tapping points that we will be going through.

To start,

Let's find a comfortable position,

Preferably sitting with a spine long and tall.

Closing down your eyes and taking a few deep breaths in and out through the nostrils.

Slowly lengthening the exhale so that the exhale is longer than your inhale.

Relaxing your shoulders,

Your neck.

Noticing any racing thoughts,

Maybe a racing heart.

That's okay.

From this space,

Turning the awareness to the center of your chest.

Breathing in and out of your heart.

Recall maybe a situation or a conversation,

Perhaps even an argument with someone that has stirred up some insecurities in you,

Perhaps anxious attachments,

People-pleasing tendency or tendencies of self-abandoning,

Fawning,

In order to keep the perceived peace and harmony.

Then imagining there's a scale in front of you.

On a scale from zero to ten,

Ten being this feeling is very,

Very intense.

Zero being I feel perfectly fine,

Calm and at peace.

Notice where you're at.

Once you have a number,

Just keep that in your heart.

Then we'll begin tapping.

Starting at the edge of your hand,

Taking a deep breath in and deep breath out as you tap and repeat after me.

Even though I'm feeling very anxious right now,

I choose to deeply and completely love,

Accept and forgive myself.

Even though I'm worried,

I feel scared,

A part of me feel hopeless,

I choose to accept my feelings and I choose to deeply and completely love,

Accept and honor myself.

Tapping on top of the head,

I feel really anxious,

A part of me is really scared,

I don't know what to do.

Tapping on the eyebrow point,

I'm really worried,

I feel like I screwed things up,

I'm afraid that people are mad at me.

Tapping at the side of the eye,

My focus is completely outside of me now and it doesn't feel good.

I feel all alone in my anxious thoughts.

It's hard for me to calm myself down now.

Tapping underneath the eye,

I feel like there's something wrong with me,

I feel like I did something bad,

I worry that I made other people upset and there's so much thoughts going around in my mind right now.

All this monkey mind,

Tapping underneath the nose,

I feel like I just can't relax but I want to.

So I'm open to feeling a little better now,

A little calmer and more at peace with myself.

Tapping underneath the mouth,

I choose not to focus so much on how they might feel and focus more on how I feel now because how I feel also matters.

Tapping with both hands underneath the collarbones,

How I feel also matter and right now,

I don't feel so good and I'm open to feeling a little better.

Tapping underneath the ribs,

Maybe a part of me says no.

You have to keep worrying about what people think because that's what's going to keep us safe.

I choose to have compassion for this part of me.

I recognize that there is an inner child in me now who is scared and afraid.

Tapping underneath the armpit with one hand,

And so I believe that it makes sense.

It makes sense why I feel how I feel even if it might not logically make sense.

There is a reason why I feel how I feel.

Tapping on the wrist and it's possible that the more I try to change how I feel,

The stronger the emotions.

So I choose not to suppress them now.

I know it's safe for me to feel my feelings.

It's safe for me to express my thoughts.

Tapping on top of the wrist,

I am safe now.

Even if I feel so anxious,

I am safe now.

Tapping on top of the head,

I'm open to the perspective that maybe no one is mad at me.

That maybe I didn't do anything wrong.

That maybe I'm okay.

Tapping on the eyebrow point,

And I notice the part of me who is scared.

The part of me who wants to over-relate.

It's always been a pattern.

And I choose not to blame it anymore.

Instead,

I choose to tend to my inner child with love and compassion.

Tapping outside of the eye,

And I notice the part of me who is scared.

I notice the part of me who is scared.

Tapping outside of the eye,

I'm an adult now.

And I choose to be here for myself.

It's safe for me to relax and be calm.

And not worry so much about what other people might think.

Tapping underneath the eye,

I choose to take care of myself now.

I choose to have my own back.

Tapping underneath the nose,

There's a reason why I feel what I feel.

There's a reason why I feel scared.

There's a reason that I care so much about what other people think.

There's a reason for all these people-pleasing tendencies.

Tapping underneath the mouth.

And I don't blame this part of me.

Not anymore.

And then now imagine you're just talking to this inner child.

Imagine this inner child standing in front of you,

Maybe you're just talking to yourself.

This child is curling in a tight ball.

Maybe this child is crying.

And then tapping with both hands underneath your collarbones,

I want you to speak directly to this child who is you.

In a different time,

In a different space.

And repeat after me.

I see you.

And I'm here for you.

I want you to know that you're safe.

I want you to know that you are helped.

Tapping underneath the ribcage.

I'm not abandoning you.

No one is abandoning you.

Because I've got you.

It's okay you feel this way.

I feel it sometimes too.

And we'll be okay.

Okay.

We are okay.

Because I'm here for you now.

Tapping underneath the armpit.

And I'm here for you.

You're safe.

And I love you.

Tapping on the wrist.

I want you to know that you are so lovable.

You did nothing wrong.

You are beautiful exactly as you are.

Tapping on top of the wrist.

I know that sometimes you think you're not good enough.

That you need to do more.

To be more.

Or the opposite.

To be less.

To hold back.

Tapping on top of the head.

I'm here to tell you that you are perfect exactly as you are.

And everything else that you believed,

It was all a misunderstanding.

Taught by people who didn't really know you.

But I know you.

I know your heart.

And you're safe.

And you are helped.

And I am not leaving you.

And then tapping on top of the eyebrow point.

Just imagining this child still in front of you.

They might have a change of expression.

Whether that's their facial expression or body language.

And just keep being with this child in your imagination.

In your visualization.

Keep tapping on the eyebrow.

And then now keep tapping the side of the eye.

I want you to relax your entire body.

Take a deep breath in through the nose.

Exhale,

Sigh it out through the mouth.

Imagining your whole body relaxing down.

As you do so,

This child in your mind's eye is also relaxing.

Tapping underneath your eye.

Imagine giving this inner child a big,

Big hug.

A tight squeeze.

Sending so much love to this part of you.

And then immediately this child returns to the center of your heart.

Tapping underneath the nose.

Repeat after me.

I am loved.

And I'm safe.

I'm inherently good enough.

And I choose to have my own back now.

And it feels really good.

Tapping underneath the mouth.

It feels really good to have my own back.

And I know that I'll always be here for me.

No matter how challenging the situation.

I'm not afraid.

For I am never abandoning myself again.

I've got me.

Tapping underneath the collarbones with both hands.

Repeat once more.

I've got me.

And I'm worthy.

And I'm deserving.

Take a deep breath in.

Big sigh out through the mouth.

Still keeping the eyes closed.

Just stop tapping.

Taking a few deep breaths in and out.

Whether through the nose or the mouth.

Feel your whole entire body just melting down.

Just relish in this moment of regulation.

Of safety.

Of love that you have cultivated for yourself.

And your inner child.

And now in your mind's eye I want you to bring forth that same set of scale we had in the beginning of this track.

And see again on a scale of 0 to 10.

10 being feeling really really anxious.

And 0 is I feel really calm and at peace and perfectly fine.

Notice what number is coming up.

Comparing the two numbers.

Hopefully the number is slightly or significantly lower than when you started.

This is where I'll leave you today.

You can keep relishing in this space.

And if you need to keep coming back to this track whenever you feel anxious.

In your thoughts and in your heart.

To know that you are inherently loved.

You are inherently valuable,

Worthy and deserving of the best.

The best that this world has to offer you.

Reviews

This is beautiful and exactly what I needed for my healing journey. Thank you ❤️‍🩹

Another great track from Casey. She’s the teacher I keep coming back to time after time for my daily Insight Timer practice. Her guided meditations always have a positive impact on my mood, state of mind, and nervous system.

I moved from anxiety at a 7 or 8 to a 3. Thank you.

Lovely voice, music and powerful tapping session. Thank You 🙏🏼

Transformation! I saw the title of this meditation, and I chose it (I’ve been doing tapping for many years, but not over the last month). I didn’t really know that I was feeling anxious, and I started at a 4.5. However, as we went through the process, I realized some of my anxiety was hidden to myself until this tapping/meditation practice. What unfolded was much larger, AND largely healed. This issue of people pleasing and feeling like I’ve made people angry with me by being myself is something that swirls with me more often than I want. Thank you for naming the issue, allowing it to be revealed, and applying self-acceptance and self-love. Thank you for helping me reduce my anxiety to a 2 today🧡💛