Welcome to this meditation on releasing control and trusting flow.
To help us arrive,
Let's take three deep breaths together.
Nice long inhale,
Filling your lungs.
Nice long exhale with a big sigh of relief and release.
Next one,
Nice long inhale.
On the exhale,
Release a little deeper,
Anything you're planning to let go of today.
One more breath in and on the exhale,
Simply allow all worry,
Tension and concern to release.
If you're here,
There's probably a part of you that's been working really hard,
Planning,
Managing,
Trying to control outcomes,
Making sure everything goes the way it's supposed to and that part of you,
I know it's tired,
It's exhausted.
Here's what you need to know.
Control is an illusion your ego created to feel safe,
But the tighter you grip,
The more life resists.
The more you force,
The less life flows.
For the next few minutes,
You're going to practice something radical and that is letting go,
Not giving up,
But softening your grip,
Trusting something deeper than your mind's need to map everything out.
First,
Just notice where you're trying to control right now.
Maybe it's a situation that isn't unfolding the way you want it to.
Maybe it's a person who won't do what you think they should.
Maybe it's your own feelings that you're trying to manage or suppress.
Just see it clearly.
Where is your energy tight in your body?
Where are you holding on?
Notice the fear beneath the control.
What are you afraid will happen if you let go?
That fear is your ego trying to project you.
It's not bad.
It's just scared.
And it thinks that if it can just plan everything perfectly,
You'll be safe.
But here's the truth.
You can't control your way to peace.
You can only soften your way there.
Let's practice releasing the grip.
Take a deep breath and imagine you're holding sand in your fist.
The tighter you squeeze,
The more it slips through your fingers.
Now exhale and imagine opening your hand completely,
Letting the sand rest in your open palm.
Let's take a nice deep breath in and long breath out.
That's what we're doing right now.
Opening the hand,
Softening the grip.
Whatever you've been trying to control,
Just for this moment,
Let it be.
You don't have to figure it out right now.
Feel your body.
Notice if there's tension in your jaw,
Shoulders,
Perhaps your belly.
These are often the places where control lives in your body.
Soften your jaw,
Allow it to go slack.
Drop your shoulders.
Release the weight.
Let your belly be soft.
You don't have to hold everything together.
Now if your mind starts to panic,
If it says,
Wait,
Who's steering the ship?
How will anything get done?
That's okay.
That's your ego freaking out.
You don't argue with it.
You just say internally,
I hear you and I've got this now.
You can rest.
Keep breathing.
Keep softening.
And trust that life knows exactly what it's doing,
Even when you don't.
Now let's choose trust.
Feel what it's like to move through your day without forcing anything,
Without needing everything to go a certain way.
Imagine yourself responding to what shows up,
Flowing with what arrives,
Trusting that the next step will become clear when you need it.
This isn't passive.
This isn't giving up.
This is deeply intelligent because you're choosing to act from clarity instead of fear,
From alignment instead of control.
And when you do that,
Life stops resisting you.
It starts supporting you.
As you go back into your day,
The urge to control will show up again.
That's normal.
And when it does,
Just notice it,
Soften.
And choose trust instead.
Moment by moment,
Breath by breath.
You don't have to be perfect at this.
You just have to keep practicing.
Take one more deep breath in.
Nice big exhale.
And remember,
Life is on your side.
You don't have to force it.
Just soften and it will flow.
