Hello my lovely love.
My name is Mia Caracasco and I'm a sound healer,
Creative director at psychedelic salons,
And an avid reader and meditator.
I'm here to welcome you on a journey to reach and re-parent your inner child.
I'm here to welcome you on a journey to reach and re-parent your inner child.
I'm here to welcome you on a journey to reach and re-parent your inner child.
I'm here to welcome you on a journey to reach and re-parent your inner child.
You may be asking yourself,
What is re-parenting?
Well,
Our childhood is where the subconscious mind is formed.
Our childhood is also where we learn how we process emotions,
What relationships look like,
How to hold boundaries,
And countless other habits and behaviors.
Ideally we have parents that are two self-actualized people.
Ideally our parents allow their children,
Who are us,
To be seen and heard as the unique individual that they are.
The reality is that we live in a culture that does not teach conscious awareness.
So most of us are born to parents that are living relatively unconsciously.
Unconscious parents are repeating the same habits and patterns that they have learned from their parents.
Our parents and grandparents largely are operating from a wounded space because of their own unprocessed emotions.
It's important to understand that parents can only parent from their own level of awareness,
And we can only give others what we have practiced giving ourselves.
I've worked with all different demographics of people,
And over time I've come to understand that most people seek help for relationship problems,
Destructive habits,
Identity confusion,
And general feelings of self-worth.
Each of these issues manifest differently,
But they are all tied to one thing,
Which is conditioned behavior that has been practiced and reinforced since childhood.
You might be hearing this thinking,
My childhood is over.
I am an adult now.
There's no reason to go back there.
Or you might be thinking,
If my childhood is where I learned most of my coping mechanisms,
I'm doomed.
We tend to be protective and defensive around our childhood experience,
But we can learn a lot and have a unique opportunity to heal and consciously choose different behavior as adults,
Regardless of what we have experienced in our past.
This process is called reparenting.
Reparenting is the act of giving yourself what you didn't receive as a child.
You may have physically present parents,
But your own childhood can be highly distracted.
You likely had no idea about the challenges that your own parents may have been facing,
Maybe chronic illness or grieving a loss of their own or facing economic uncertainty.
You may have been constantly worried about the things that your parents were worried about and you may have been unnecessarily parentalized as a child into worrying about the same things that your parents and caretakers worried about,
Which unfortunately and most likely stunted your growth.
There may have been a lot of chaos and codependence and you may have felt sick and not known why and you may have just thought that sickness was something that everybody went through at random times in your life.
As a child,
You may think that the problems that your parents are going through are because of you.
You may think that if your parents argue with each other or if they get mad at you,
That you are wrong or that you did something bad.
Beloved,
This may have manifested as disordered eating and obsessive compulsive achievement behavior or even anxiety.
Your parents may not even know this about you.
You may hide it with athletics,
Academics,
Winning awards,
And being offered scholarships.
However,
You may realize now that if you're no longer in school,
You have a clearer picture of the negative manifestations harbored from your childhood.
If you're not showing up for yourself,
Loved one,
If your spending is out of control,
And if you don't understand how to set or keep boundaries,
You may have no focus on your physical or spiritual health and re-parenting your inner child may be a game changer for you.
Now loved one,
It is time for you to do the best that you can with your own self-esteem.
Reparenting is a personal responsibility and the good news is that anyone can begin the process of reparenting themselves.
The challenge is that it takes time,
Commitment,
And patience.
It will require you to show up every day for yourself,
But it will allow you to heal and forgive.
The path to reparenting is on four key steps.
And that is,
You must be disciplined.
You must have joy.
You must be emotionally regulated.
And you must take care of yourself.
And depending on your unique childhood story or imprint,
Some of these will be more difficult than others.
For me,
Taking care of myself was something that came later in life and was hard to focus on.
However,
I have always been a naturally joyful person and so tapping into my inner joyful child was never hard to do.
Here are some steps to begin.
First of all,
Breathe.
It's easy to become overwhelmed,
Loved one.
Reparenting is a process and it's not something that happens overnight.
Start by breathing deeply with me.
Take the deepest breath of your day and count to five when you inhale and then hold for three seconds before exhaling.
I'll do it with you.
Inhale.
Hold for three.
Now exhale.
You're doing great,
Loved one.
The next thing you can do is to keep one small promise to yourself every day.
This could be so small and so seemingly insignificant,
But something that sets you up for success.
For example,
My promise to myself these days is to wake up early.
Early could be whatever time is early for you.
And it's not something as serious as making sure to wake up at exactly five o'clock a.
M.
Every day.
Keep it simple and keep it small and promise yourself.
Once you've decided on that,
Loved one,
Tell someone that you trust other than your parents that you're beginning the process.
Try to not share that you're doing this with your parents.
It's not necessary and it can be hurtful.
Remember,
Your parents likely did the best that they could with their level of awareness and may become defensive if you talk about this.
Reparenting is self-care for you and you can begin the process by sharing it with your partner or a close friend and let them know you're working on reparenting.
The next thing you can do is to use a mantra.
The mantra is,
What can I give myself right now?
This is a mantra that I often use and I use it because as children we weren't always given what we needed.
When you feel yourself having strong emotions,
Ask this question.
Maybe giving yourself a bubble bath or giving yourself some time offline from social media is exactly what you need right now.
So use this mantra and use it often.
The last thing you can do,
Loved one,
Is to celebrate when you show up.
If we were not recognized and if we were neglected or abandoned as children for the unique,
Beautiful individual that we are,
We can quickly disregard the reality that we are showing up for ourselves.
Reparenting is difficult.
It's soulful work.
So make sure to acknowledge the courage that it takes to show up for yourself.
Own your progress and celebrate the person that you are becoming.
Thank you for meditating with me,
Lovely love.
This has been Nia Cara Cosco with Inside Timer.
Go love yourself and call yourself in to healing instead of calling others out.
I love you.
I love you.
I love you.
