Divorce Meditation- Step one

This is a short, calming meditation on creating space for self-compassion during or after divorce. This is the first of many meditations to help you move towards being grateful for the experience.
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Transcript

This is a meditation on going through divorce or having a different perspective about your divorce.

I invite you to find a comfortable spot,

Either laying down or sitting up,

And just really connect with where you are in this very moment.

And by that I mean get in touch with your body.

You can do that by dropping from your mind down to your heart and letting your breath be your anchor.

Can you feel the sensation of breathing from your heart and feeling from your heart and letting it again be your anchor in this moment,

In the present moment?

Breathing in and out.

Breathing in through your nose,

Filling up your lungs and letting your belly be full.

Inhaling it and then letting it all go through your mouth.

And we'll do that a couple more times to really drop down into your parasympathetic nervous system,

Really activating that nervous system,

Which is your rest and digest nervous system.

It's your nervous system that lets everything else in your body know that you are safe and that you are okay.

It allows all your muscles,

Your ligaments and your tendons to relax and let go.

Breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth.

In through your nose and out through your mouth.

And now that you're a little bit more relaxed,

I'd like you to be open to the thought and the feeling of being okay with your divorce.

Putting aside what society says,

Putting aside the shoulds,

Putting aside the what ifs,

Putting aside all the traditional feelings associated with divorce just for now,

Just for the next few minutes.

We're just going to play with feeling like it's okay.

And really breathing that into your body.

What does it feel like in your body when you allow yourself to feel that going through what you're going through right now is simply okay.

No judgment around it.

No shame and no guilt.

I've been through two divorces in my life.

One was very,

Very,

Very long and stressful and traumatic.

The other one was not so long because I learned a lot from my first experience.

And I'm coming to you with this,

With experience.

I'm coming to you with this information,

With this new way of looking at it and feeling it through lots of experience.

And I'm letting you know that there's a better way.

Breathing in just for now,

The thought and the feeling that what you are going through is actually serving you.

Can you allow that idea to seep into your heart?

It may seem horrible right now.

You may not be able to see the forest for the trees.

You may not be able to see the light at the end of this long,

Long tunnel.

You may not even know if you're going to make it another day.

And if you have kids,

You may not even be able to look them in the eye and tell them it's going to be okay because you don't feel that way yourself.

So I'm going to help you get there.

It's going to take time.

It's going to take a little bit of work.

But most of all,

It's going to take self-love and self-compassion for what you're going through.

So just right now,

I'm going to hold your hand and lead you through this first step.

And that's changing your perspective of what you're going through just for now.

This does not make you a bad person to even think and feel for a few moments that what you're going through is okay.

Breathing it in,

Setting aside any feelings,

Any negative feelings,

Just putting them in a little basket for right now.

So I want to imagine that together.

Taking a deep breath in through your heart,

Breathing in and letting go.

And as you breathe in,

I want you to recall any negative feelings or thoughts that you have right now associated with your divorce and what you're going through or what you have been going through before now.

And I want you to imagine that you're placing all of those feelings in a basket right now.

It's a holy basket.

It's sovereign.

And you're placing them all right there for now.

And on every inhale,

You find one more feeling.

And every exhale,

You place that feeling in the basket.

Just really cleansing out your body,

Cleansing out your soma and your spirit and your soul just for right now.

You can pick up the basket later.

But just in this moment,

Give yourself some grace.

Give yourself some space.

Give your space,

Your time and your space.

Give it all some love and compassion by breathing in and letting go.

Letting go of everything that's been holding you down,

That feels dark and heavy,

Almost like a cloak around your shoulders.

Let it go and put it into the basket for right now so that you have room to feel what it feels like to be okay with what you're going through.

Breathing in and breathing out.

Grace.

Breathing in and breathing out.

Grace.

Breathing in and breathing out.

Everything in this moment right now in the present moment is okay.

All your feelings that you've been holding,

All your emotions are still right next to you in a basket that's being cared for by a guardian angel.

And if you want to later,

You can pick it back up for right now.

Breathe in the feeling of not having that burden.

Right now,

You are healing yourself in this very moment.

You are doing the work in this very moment and I am so proud of you.

Breathe in the feeling of what it feels like just to feel light right now during this time in your life.

Remembering what it feels like to be light and airy and not so drugged down with burdens and negative feelings.

Feel the light and love in your body right now.

Now when you breathe in,

I want you to breathe in all the positive,

Good energy,

All the positive,

Good feelings that you have for yourself that you can remember before you were going through this divorce.

Breathe it all in.

And if you can't feel that right now and you can't picture it,

That's okay.

I invite you just to breathe in a golden light into your body,

Into your heart.

Really feel the light.

This is a light of compassion,

Of love,

Of appreciation and gratitude for all that you are going through,

All that you've been through,

And all that you will go through because you,

My love,

Are growing.

You are growing in this moment.

And when we grow,

We need to make room for grace,

Love,

And compassion.

So really breathing that in,

That golden light all in through your body.

And on every inhale,

You feel your heart swell even more with that golden light.

And on every exhale,

You feel that golden light really enveloping your body.

It extends far beyond you.

It's inside your body,

But it's also outside your body.

Really feel the feeling of this love light.

Really feel this feeling of this compassionate light.

Really feel this feeling of this light that's full of grace and appreciation and adoration of you,

Of pride for what you're going through.

It may not seem pretty on the outside,

But you,

My love,

When you can embrace that what you're going through right now that seems so hard,

That is so hard is growing you.

It is growing you.

And you can choose to let it grow you for the better.

Grow you into a being that's even better than what you were two days ago,

Yesterday,

A month ago.

This is your choice.

You can go through experiences or you can grow through experiences.

And when you can make room in your body and in your heart and your soul for compassion and love and light,

That is the first step in choosing to grow.

So really breathing in and soaking in and relishing in the feeling of what it feels like to be in love with yourself,

Have compassion for yourself,

Have grace for what you're going through.

Taking another really big deep breath in and letting it out.

And knowing that you,

My love,

Are what got you to this state of being,

This relaxed state,

This state full of warmth and love.

You did this.

You did this.

You chose to do this for yourself.

And you can call on this time and time again.

You,

My love,

Are your own healer.

And if you have kids,

They are watching you heal.

They may not be listening to your words,

But they are watching you choose to grow and to heal through this really,

Really tough time in your life.

And if you make the conscious choice to grow and heal and be better because of this circumstance in your life,

You will be a better person for yourself and for your kids and for your loved ones because of it.

I am here as a walking example.

And I'm here to help guide you through.

You can return to this meditation at any time.

Really breathing in the golden light.

And now I'm going to give you the choice.

Do you want to pick up the basket with all your feelings?

Or would you like your guardian angel to take it away and recycle it into more love?

Right now in this state,

This present moment,

You get to choose what you want to do with those feelings.

Take a really big,

Deep breath in through your nose.

And let it all out through your mouth.

And with your hand on your heart,

Really rubbing in the feeling that you have right now and whispering a thank you to yourself for starting the healing process.

I am so proud of you,

My love.

You are not alone.

You're not alone.

You're not alone.

The light in me sees,

Never compares,

And honors the light in you.

Namaste.

Reviews

This was such a gift. Thank you

Thank you so much 🙏This is exactly what I needed this morning and will likely need again. I did the whole meditation while hugging myself.

I cried like a baby…very good meditation. Thank you Holly

Thank you so much I felt a huge relief and I felt the compassion

So very grateful for this meditation. I have been overwhelmed by emotion in these early days of my impending divorce. It was an immense relief to unburden myself of these feelings for a time. I feel more myself. Thank you. ❤️‍🩹