Dealing With Crisis

This focusing technique will teach you a powerful way to deal with crisis & transition situations at the level of energy. Includes guided practice. Behind negative emotions are energy knots that are stuck from motion in the body. When released the energy field in the body restores to flow. This has a positive effect on your emotions. In turn, your thinking will change, allowing you to see the troubling event in new light. Powerful!

Transcript

Hello,

Hello my friends,

Good morning,

Good evening to you,

Whatever time it is for you,

It is 7 p.

M.

Sydney time,

Friday evening,

Friday night.

Thank you for joining me for our live Dealing With Crisis tonight.

Hello Rebecca,

Yvonne,

Michael,

Stefania,

Andrea,

Thank you for joining me.

We'll wait a moment for others to join us and then we can get started.

If you have something you would like to add in the comments for you,

For me to look at,

By all means include it in the comments.

And while we're waiting for others to join,

Let's see if we can bring more awareness to the present moment,

Come out of the mind and into the body is the direct path into the now.

Out of the mind,

Intellect,

Into the body,

A sense of our beingness,

Our aliveness.

The breath helps to connect us,

To align us with the sense reality.

It takes some convincing for the mind to let go,

For our attention to be released from the mind.

It takes some convincing,

The mind is our comfort zone,

It's our default setting,

Our habitat and has been so for quite some time.

Inner work requires us to release from the thinking to the being.

Inner work requires us to release.

Out of the mind,

Into the body is the direct path to the present now and the breath helps.

I'll repeat that because it encapsulates the work that we are doing here.

Out of the mind,

Into the body is the direct path out of our suffering and the breath helps.

But one way,

One very good way of connecting us with the now,

Connecting us with the body,

Our sense reality.

So,

All of us at different times in our lives experience what the mind calls a crisis or some kind of a disturbance in our lives that warrants or that takes up most of our attention.

It could be anything,

It could be a sickness,

It could be a grievance of some sort,

It could be a relationship breakup,

It really is irrelevant what the situation is,

What all these things do you think they have in common,

Could be,

Absolutely anything.

And yet they have one thing in common,

What do you think that is?

Might it be the idea of loss,

That I am losing something?

Might it be the idea that this situation,

This occasion,

This happening,

Small or big signifies or represents some kind of loss,

Would that be true do you think for you?

I'm losing something that causes the mind to frantically then try to find a way out of this loss.

So something happens to me,

Apparently an event,

A situation,

Loss is represented by the situation.

Can you see that?

Loss is the idea behind it.

The mind is convinced that I am losing something,

It's a relationship breakup,

I'm losing something.

It's a health crisis,

I'm losing my health,

Family,

I'm losing my family,

Money,

I'm losing my money.

This idea of loss causes the mind to become frantic trying to find a solution to the situation,

To remedy the situation.

The mind becomes overwhelmed,

And this idea of loss causes a tremendous emotional upheaval in the body.

So there is the circumstance,

The situation,

The event,

And it doesn't matter what it is,

It really does not matter what it is,

And it's particularly important to understand that mind is no more important than anybody else's.

They all have the same thing in common.

The mind translates it as a loss.

It could be absolutely anything.

Interpretation is the same,

The bottom line is the same.

I'm losing something that I think I need.

I'm losing something that is important.

And it's this idea,

It's this basic idea that I'm losing something that I need that causes the mind to go into overdrive,

Fearing the worst,

Trying to come up with a solution,

Trying to fix a situation,

But it gets overwhelmed,

It's incapable,

It believes it's incapable.

And then this idea,

Plus the overwhelm of the mind,

The thinking,

Creates this emotional upheaval,

Which renders me almost incapable.

It sucks my energy,

Entirely sucks my energy.

I become incapable of doing anything else.

I'm so convinced something important is happening.

How many of you are aware of what I'm talking about?

How many of you have experienced something like this,

Or are in the midst of a situation like this?

It doesn't matter what the situation is,

It really is irrelevant.

It could be suicide,

It could be marriage,

Divorce,

It could be loss of home,

Becoming homeless from one extreme to the next.

It could be loss of health,

It could be anything.

But the pattern is the same.

There's an event,

A situation,

Which the mind interprets as a loss.

I have lost something,

And it's this idea of loss which causes the mind to go crazy,

To overwhelm.

It's incapable of dealing with the situation,

And it sends a tremendous message of upheaval into the emotional body.

These emotions,

This energy,

Feels often suffocating,

Almost causes me to be able to go into this frantic state of being unable to even move at times.

It's different for different people,

What it could be,

What the situation is,

But the bottom line is the same.

The idea of loss,

The mind becomes overwhelmed,

Fear takes over,

An emotional surge of fear takes over the body,

And I become almost incapable of doing anything.

I'm caught in this state of terror,

And my energy is depleted.

So far so good,

Right?

How are we going there?

We'll step into this conversation slowly,

Give each other time for us to connect with our own situation,

Take this as an opportunity to connect into your own situation,

Or miss the opportunity,

Whatever you prefer.

Whatever the situation is,

It could be also something that happens to me suddenly,

Or it could be something progressive that has been with me for quite a long time.

But in both cases,

The idea of loss is there.

I'm losing something that I believe I need in order for me to be happy,

Or at peace,

Or contented,

Or fulfilled,

Or safe.

That's the bottom line,

A loss of something I believe I need.

We're not going to explore the truth of this idea of being needy,

We've done that in other times.

Today I'd like to see if we can deal with this crisis,

And see if we can practically find a way of working with it.

And if we can cover a couple of different ways,

That would be helpful.

So whether it's true that I am needy or I'm not needy is irrelevant.

We're not starting there.

We're starting with the idea that believing that I'm needy,

Of this something that is happening now and I'm losing,

Sends my mind into a state of overwhelm,

Thinking that I must solve this situation,

There's something I must do about this,

I'm unable to do that,

I'm unable to control the loss,

I'm unable to control the loss of this something that I believe I need in order for me to be peaceful and to be happy.

My happiness is contingent on this,

I'm losing it,

And as a result of that my mind goes into this state of overdrive,

Trying to secure a better position to argue the case,

To confront the case,

To stop the loss,

To minimize it,

To use it,

To take advantage of it,

To hide from it,

Whatever the case may be.

And the loss might be sudden,

A death,

A suicide,

Some bad news about health,

Some family disturbance,

It could be sudden or it could be something that's been there for a while,

It doesn't matter.

But the idea is the same thing,

That I'm losing something or I'm not having something that I need in order to be happy,

There is an idea of loss behind this,

Which is riding on top of the back of an idea that I am needy.

And this idea causes a charge of energy,

A charge of emotions in my body,

Which is almost crippling,

Sucks up my energy,

Makes me feel weak,

Unable to function,

In some cases unable to do anything.

For some people,

For example,

Relationship loss,

It's only one area in their life,

But they become incapable of functioning in all areas of their life.

Others,

It could be loss of money,

It stops them from being able to function in every other area in their life.

There are 12 life experiences,

Fundamental life departments that we have to deal with.

Finance is but one of them.

Relationships is but one of them.

Family is but one of them.

Career is but one of them.

But it's,

In many cases,

A disturbance in one area can cause us to become incapable of functioning in all other areas.

Not always,

But it can happen like that.

The idea is that I'm losing something,

Causes the mind to go into a state of overwhelm,

Trying to fix,

Minimize,

Stop,

Control the situation.

To be right about that situation can also be,

And it causes a disturbance,

An emotional disturbance in the body that can be crippling.

So far,

So good.

We're all relating to this so far,

Right?

We're interested in knowing what to do about this.

And if we understand as much,

We can see the link between the event,

The idea,

The interpretation,

In other words.

So the event,

A loss,

The idea of loss,

Causes the mind to go frantic.

This thinking,

This way of interpreting the event,

This idea of loss causes emotional terror in the body,

And it causes almost a dysfunction.

And most people try to,

In order to avoid this emotional upheaval,

Because that's really the terror,

It's the emotions that we are experiencing,

What they try to do is they try to control the world,

To make sure that they never have to experience this emotional disturbance.

So they try to improve their position in the world,

They try to control the world,

Try to control their family,

Try to control their partner,

Try to control their health,

Try to control the community,

Try to control themselves in some way.

And this is a strategy,

Essentially,

In ensuring that the world behaves a particular way,

Where I don't have to feel these negative,

So-called negative emotions,

This overwhelm that I'm experiencing.

If I can have enough money in the world,

Then I never have to experience the fear.

If I can have a partner,

I never have to do this,

And so on and so forth.

So I try to control the world.

If I can live somewhere where it never rains,

Then I never have to deal with my emotional disturbance,

And so on and so forth.

But that's not a very wise strategy,

It's not really a good idea.

In fact,

It doesn't work.

Sooner or later the world is not going to behave the way we want it to behave,

And then we are going to have to confront this so-called crisis.

It can also be a transition for some people.

It can feel like a crisis,

Moving from one situation to another,

Changing jobs,

Changing situations,

Changing home,

Whatever it is.

Another way that people try to deal with situations like this is to try to control their thinking about the situation.

So the bottom line is the idea of loss,

And then they try to control their thinking about the situation,

They try to reframe,

They try to work at the level of the mind,

Intellectually try to address the situation,

And that doesn't work very well either.

Because fundamentally when there is an event,

There is a crisis,

What we are really dealing with is the emotion.

That's what we are fearing.

We are not afraid of reality.

We are not afraid of the event.

We are not afraid of being alone.

We are not afraid of losing a job.

We are not afraid of losing a partner,

Losing a husband,

A wife,

Losing our health.

We are afraid of those things.

Those things don't mean anything to us.

What we are afraid is of the emotions that those things provoke in us.

We are afraid of what we feel.

You agree?

We are afraid of our feelings about that situation.

We are not necessarily afraid of the event itself.

Can you see that?

If the event did not cause an emotional suffering,

Let's say,

Well,

We wouldn't care about it.

For example,

For some people,

Their Mount Everest,

The area is relationships.

For others,

It's not.

For others,

A loss of relationship doesn't mean anything to them.

So they are not afraid of losing a partner.

For others,

It's the loss of a job.

Those same people who don't care about losing a partner,

It terrifies them,

The idea of losing a job.

For others,

It's something else,

Losing a home.

For others,

It's something else.

So the event is irrelevant.

There's nothing special about the event itself.

It's important to see this.

We are not afraid of the event itself.

We are only afraid of the emotions that are being triggered.

The event represents some kind of a loss at the bottom line idea.

And this loss sends a terror,

A feeling of terror,

Causes a feeling of terror in our body,

Which terrifies us,

Needless to say.

And consequently,

We become almost dysfunctional.

What do we do about this?

Some people try to control the world.

That doesn't work.

Other people try to control their thinking.

They try to repress their thoughts,

To reframe their thoughts.

And it has a relative effect.

It's a better strategy than trying to control others.

Don't do that,

You.

Don't do that,

You.

Reframing your thinking about the situation is better,

Admittedly,

But it's still not very effective.

To deal with the emotions themselves is more effective.

To deal with your feelings,

To be with them,

To recognize them as something that comes and releases with time.

It's a better strategy to deal with that.

But that also is not the most effective way of dealing with crisis.

Now what do all these emotions have?

Many events,

Many different situations that are fundamentally linked by the idea of loss.

And the loss sends a terror in the body.

Many different kinds of emotions in the body.

But what do all these emotions have in common?

What's beneath the emotion?

If we can get beneath the emotion,

Wow!

What's beneath the emotion?

What do all these emotions have in common?

Yes,

We're experiencing an emotion,

But what do all these emotions have in common?

Stay with me in this conversation.

Get out of your mind for a second.

Stay with me in this conversation.

Travel with me.

I need your help.

I'm not going to do this for you.

You need to accompany me this.

You need to accompany me on this journey.

You need to help with this inquiry.

You can be bringing questions that are not related right now.

You can be bringing your story to this right now.

You need to be joining what do these emotions have in common is my question to you if you're here.

If you don't want to engage in this conversation,

At the very least just refrain from comment about something other.

So what do these emotions have in common?

Many different kinds of feelings in the body,

Right?

Terror,

Anger,

Fear,

Animosity,

Resentment,

Jealousy,

Bitterness,

All of these,

Many different emotions.

But what do they all have in common in the body?

Maji says our heads.

Yes,

That's related.

The feelings in the body,

The emotions,

Cause the mind then to go into overdrive again,

Sends more terror.

The terror causes the mind to become even more frantic.

It loops over and over,

Doesn't it,

Maji?

Exactly.

Andrea says they have a vacuum.

Well,

It depends.

What do you mean?

What do you mean by this vacuum?

Are we talking about an energy here?

What is behind the emotions?

Is it an energy?

This vacuum could be,

Depending on what you mean by that word.

Estefania says all our emotions come from our thoughts.

Yes.

But now we're interested not going back up to the mind.

We're interested in knowing what is beneath the emotion.

So there is an event that is happening.

It's causing my mind to go into overwhelm.

It's causing emotions in my body.

What's beneath the emotions?

What is beneath the emotions?

Let's keep going in this journey.

What is beneath these emotions is an energy.

A lot of energy.

Fear,

Claire,

Is an emotion.

Yes.

But beneath the emotion,

Beneath the fear,

Beneath the terror,

Beneath the anger,

Beneath the jealousy,

Beneath the aloneness,

There is an energy.

The emotions are a product of this energy which is beneath.

So the fastest way of dealing with crisis is to begin to make your way down,

To pull away from the event,

To pull away from the idea of loss in the mind,

To meet the event at the level of your emotions,

And then to allow the emotions to drop you deeper into the energy,

Into the feeling of this,

The energetic reality of this emotion.

The energetic reality.

Are you seeing this?

If you can meet then the emotion at the level of energy in your body,

You can give it permission to release.

And if the energy releases,

Usually this energy,

It's a kind of knot.

It's all knotted up.

It's all these old ideas and old beliefs,

They're knotted up in the body.

It's energy which is stuck from motion.

That is what an emotion is.

Energy stuck from motion.

If you can release the energy,

You release the emotions.

And if the emotions release in the body,

The energy releases in the body,

This knot of emotion,

If it returns to flow,

The feeling is enhanced by this release.

And then this feeling translates at the level of the mind,

And our thinking begins to improve.

Now some people say here,

But what about reality?

What about the event itself?

What do I do?

The answer is don't worry about the event.

You don't have to do anything with the event.

By improving your reality,

You'll be able to deal with the event in due time.

So it's the emotions,

The important thing to understand,

And this is what we're getting from this.

By getting that,

Alison says they don't last.

That's true.

Emotions don't last.

If you can be with them and allow them to be there,

Embrace them,

Allow them open and allow them to diffuse,

You realize that they don't last.

They come up in order to release.

And as they release,

A better feeling is enabled in the body,

And this better feeling has an effect on the way you think.

It improves the quality of your thinking,

And then your improved quality of thinking changes.

Your perception about the event and your changed perception then invites the event to release and to change.

So let's slow down for a second and see what we've done.

We've started with the event,

A crisis,

And we said how do we deal with this crisis?

And then we're saying,

Well,

What's behind this crisis?

And we said that what is behind this crisis is the idea of loss.

I'm losing something.

There's a threat.

I'm being threatened.

I'm losing my life.

I'm losing a friend.

I'm losing my family.

I'm losing money.

I'm losing my relationship.

I'm losing my health.

I'm losing my arm.

I'm losing something.

And the loss causes the mind to go into overwhelm and sends this wave of terror into the body,

Fear.

I am losing something.

We're losing something we need in order to be happy.

Time,

This is a crisis situation,

Right?

That's this.

We're starting at the event,

Coming to the mind.

That sends a wave of terror into the body.

And then we ask the question,

What is beneath the emotion itself?

What is beneath the terror?

What is beneath the terror?

And we discovered that what is beneath the terror,

The factory beneath the terror,

We're not talking about the relationship now between the emotions,

The terror,

The thinking,

Looping it backwards and forwards.

We're not interested in the looping for a moment.

We're saying,

Let's go deeper.

Let's get behind.

Let's go behind the scenes,

Behind the emotion,

Behind the fear,

Behind the terror,

Behind the aloneness.

We're going back to the factory.

And it is a fire of energy.

It is an energy,

A knotted up energy made up of the beliefs and the ideas trapped in the body since childhood.

And what we are saying that if you really want to deal with crisis events and transitions very quickly,

It's not a very good idea to deal with the event at the level of the event.

It's a better idea to deal with it at the level of mind,

But that's not a very good idea either.

It's better to deal with it,

To meet the event at the level of the emotions.

That's much improved.

But there is still a better idea that is beneath the emotion.

What is sustaining the emotion is an energy knot,

Energy which is stuck in the body from motion.

And we're saying if you direct your attention to this,

To the feeling in the body,

The feeling of the emotion in the body,

And you stay with it,

And you meet it at the level of energy,

Whatever it is,

This energy is permitted then to begin to unknot,

To diffuse,

And to release.

And then,

As the energy releases,

As the energy releases,

The emotion dissipates.

As the emotion dissipates,

Changes,

The flow of energy in the body feels good,

Feels wonderful.

This new feeling in the body causes the mind to think wonderful thoughts as opposed to the other thoughts.

The wonderful thoughts in the body then,

In the mind then,

Alters or changes our perception,

Our perspective,

Our understanding of the event,

And then the event can begin to transform accordingly.

How are you going with this?

Is it more or less straightforward?

Are you following this?

Just as an idea.

We'll have an example of it in a second.

Are you following this?

We're moving backwards from the event,

Which is usually preoccupying us.

We're going to the thinking about the event.

We're dropping down into the emotion that the event is causing.

And then we're saying there's an energy field under the event.

If you go there,

You can heal any crisis very quickly.

At the level of mind,

A crisis can maintain for months.

Grief can stay for years even.

But if you meet grief at the level of energy,

It can release within half an hour.

Less than that even,

If you are practiced at this.

So what I'm sharing with you is very,

Very,

It's really a very,

It's a very amazing thing.

And okay,

Here's an example.

Finesse says,

I follow but scared to say something.

So where is this fear?

That is the mind is scared to say something for whatever reason.

And that idea causes an emotion.

Right?

It causes an emotion,

Causes a feeling.

I'm scared,

So I go to the feeling.

I'm not interested in my thought.

I'm not interested in my thought.

I'm interested in the feeling,

The emotion,

Which is this idea,

I am scared to say anything.

I'm interested in the feeling of it.

So I meet it at the level of feeling,

Right?

And then Bassam is saying that there is an energy,

This feeling,

The factory,

The manufacturer of this energy,

Of this feeling,

Of this emotion,

Fear,

I'm scared.

There is a feeling,

A sense reality in the body.

If you go there,

This fear releases.

If you go there,

This fear releases.

And as this fear releases,

The body returns to flow,

The energy returns to flow.

And as the energy returns to flow,

The feeling in the body changes.

As the feeling in the body changes,

The thoughts change.

The perspective changes.

As the perspective changes,

The reality changes.

Are you seeing this in practice so far,

In terms of a technique?

Because we also now want to see what it looks like to be with the feeling.

What do we practically mean?

What does it look like to take,

Let's say,

A fear or an emotion,

How do we work with it practically?

How do I do that?

Good,

I get this Bassam,

But how do I actually do that?

That's a good question.

That tells us that we are working together.

Yes,

Yes,

We're working on one thing.

We're not adding a thousand things to it.

We're working with the topic at hand.

We're working with the topic at hand.

We're not having a conversation,

Even though we're calling,

We're learning a technique.

And so,

We start with the event,

The situation,

We go to the mind,

The mind drops,

We drop down to the emotion,

And now we drop down to the energy.

Then where do we go?

How do we do this?

Give us an example in real time,

And that's what we'll do now.

Let's take a look at this question.

So we'll continue,

Because we're describing the answer to your question,

Niki.

That's what we're doing,

And that's what we've been doing.

There's an event,

A problem in my life,

That's causing me a lot of suffering.

I'm going to the level of suffering.

There's a situation in my life which is causing me unhappiness.

I'm not a good fellow anymore.

I'm not happy.

There's the idea I'm losing something.

This idea I'm losing something,

I've lost something,

Whatever it is,

Is causing emotional disturbance.

Under the emotional disturbance,

There is an energy.

You want to go there.

You want to go there,

Because if you can go there,

You can transform the whole thing.

Your mind will not be monkey mind anymore.

It will change.

You deal with the energy,

The feelings will change.

The feelings change,

Your thinking will change.

Your thinking changes,

Your perspective changes.

Your perspective changes,

The situation changes.

I'll repeat that.

Change your mind.

Change your mind to change the reality.

What we're doing is going to the energy.

Now let's have a look.

How can we do that?

Just stay with the technique right now.

Just stay with the technique.

Take it on face value,

Please.

Take it on face value.

So how do we take it?

How do we do that?

Let's say you're feeling overwhelmed,

A family situation,

A loss,

Whatever it is.

It's counter intuitive to want to do nothing in terms of fix the situation.

Don't fix the situation.

Instead,

What you do is take the emotion,

Take the feeling,

Take the event,

Whatever it is,

The loss at the level of the emotions,

Take it to bed.

So you go to your room,

You close the door,

Or you go wherever.

Some space where you can be alone.

You close the door,

You close the light,

You get in bed,

Or you sit in your chair,

Or whatever.

You close your eyes,

And you may want to be doing this right now.

You close your eyes,

You sit,

And you open up to the emotion,

Open up to the feeling.

That doesn't mean anything other than feel it.

Open up to the feeling means don't try to run away from it.

Just feel the feeling.

Feel the terror.

Feel the fear.

Feel the sadness.

Feel the grief.

Feel the anger.

Feel the loss.

Whatever it is,

All these different things for different events.

And just let yourself be soft.

Don't run away from the emotions.

The mind will try to get you to get up and fix it and kick the door or scream and shout,

Whatever it is.

Just be with the emotion.

Now the emotion will have a counterpart in the body.

In other words,

In the body itself you'll be able to feel the emotion.

Maybe a heaviness in the chest.

Keep your eyes closed.

And feel into your own body.

Where are you feeling this anger?

Where are you feeling this sadness?

Where are you feeling this grief?

Where are you feeling this worry?

Is it in the chest?

Is it in your throat?

Don't answer,

Please.

Just stay in your practice.

Stay in your work.

Are you feeling it in your belly?

Are you feeling it in your back?

Is it in the head?

Is it in the arm,

The legs?

There is one area in the body which is going to be more intense than any other.

Wherever it is for you,

It doesn't have to be the same for us.

All of us have it somewhere differently according to our situation.

What I would like you to do right now is to simply be with this emotion in the body.

So you see how we've moved from the emotion,

We found the location of the emotion in the body.

Emotion,

Energy stuck from motion.

We found where the energy is stuck from motion in the body.

It could be the chest,

It could be the ear,

It could be the face.

There is one area which the emotion is stronger,

Intense.

As I said again,

It could be the chest,

The belly.

So wherever it is,

What I would like you to do now is to be there with it,

To just feel it.

Don't try to breathe into it.

Don't try to stop it.

Don't try to be clever.

You see how we are not working with the mind?

We are not trying to think about it.

We are not trying to prove it wrong.

We are not trying to do anything.

All we are trying to do is to feel the emotion that the event is causing in the body.

Particularly maybe in the chest or the belly,

Wherever.

And now we are going to just be with it.

In other words,

To be with it means to simply feel the tightness or the heaviness or whatever it is.

Now what I would like you to do is to see for yourself once you have located it in the body and you can just be with it,

I would like you to just feel it.

Feel it in the body,

Not as an emotion.

Feel it,

The tightness.

For you it could be a sharp pain.

It could be a hot,

Boiling pain.

It could be anything,

Right?

I would like you to just have a look and see what it is for you.

Just feel it.

So there you are sitting.

You are lying on your own.

You've taken a moment out from the event to deal with it at the level of energy.

And you found in the body where the energy knot is.

It's not really a knot,

It's just an energy stuck from motion.

And now you are meeting it.

You're just feeling it.

Let the body be soft and stay with it.

Don't fix it with the mind.

Don't interpret it.

And now what I'd like you to do is to just take a look and see if it has a shape.

Don't answer.

Just see if it has a shape.

For some people it might look like a rock,

Solid or some people it might be like oil or whatever it is.

Connect with it.

Does it have a shape?

Does it have a form?

Don't answer.

Just have a look for you.

This is your inner work on your own in this group.

If you're not sure,

It doesn't matter.

Don't make something up.

Just be with it.

Now,

The next question is does it have maybe a texture?

Like is it rough?

Is this feeling?

Is it sharp?

Is it soft?

If you can't think anything,

It doesn't matter.

Don't make something up.

Just be with the sense of this.

The feeling of it.

Now for some of you this knot,

This feeling might already be changing.

For example,

If it's in the chest,

Maybe it's going down a little bit.

Or maybe it's going up to the throat a little bit.

That's okay.

That's what we want.

It's changing.

What you're doing is you're giving it permission to change.

So just stay with it.

Don't try to change it.

Your job is to just be with this energy knot.

This inner child.

Don't talk to it yet in any other way.

Now take a look and see if this energy knot,

If it has a a color.

Maybe it's black,

Maybe it's gray,

Maybe it's blue,

Yellow,

Whatever it is.

If it doesn't have a color immediately don't make something up.

Don't use the mind.

Stay connected with the energy.

For me,

It's in the belly.

It's almost like a cold tight feeling in the left side of my belly.

And it's just a bubbling for me.

And it's dissipating to the left,

Towards my left hip.

Just stay with it.

For you it's something different.

Does it have a color?

Now this knot of energy for some of us might be very old.

It might be very new.

Whatever it is,

Simply be there with it.

Be there with it.

Now I'm going to stop talking for a moment,

Just to allow you with the music in the background to just stay with this knot.

I implore you not to try to change it.

You'll just make things worse.

You'll be trying to mentally control yourself again which is the problem in the first place.

All you need to do is to simply be there with the feeling without running away.

Be like a mother with her child without distracting the child and running away.

Embrace.

Just be there.

Feel.

Feel to heal.

Feel to heal.

We're not dealing with an emotion anymore.

We're dealing with the energy of the emotion.

And just stay with it.

You're on your own in bed or in your chair.

And you're just observing.

Some of you already,

You're noticing that this knot is releasing.

It's releasing.

No matter how intense.

For some of you it's getting more intense.

And that's a sign that you have not been with it for a while.

Good.

Just stay with it.

Stay with it.

Breathing softly.

Staying open.

Don't take your eye away from the sense reality of it in the body.

Now for you,

If it has released already it's gone somewhere else.

It's become more intense,

Maybe from the chest down to the belly.

Then go down to the belly and do the same.

Stay there.

Stay there.

And if you're alone,

You could be doing this for half an hour,

An hour.

Releasing one knot after the next.

One knot after the next.

You're not dealing with it at the level of mind.

You're not being clever thinking that you know better.

Trying to distract the crying child with all sorts of garbage.

All the child needs from you is your embrace.

It just needs you to be there.

It's your responsibility to be there to the energy knots in your body.

You keep running away with your mind.

You keep running away with Netflix.

With alcohol.

With ideas.

We all do.

But here we're doing the opposite.

We're saying don't ignore this anymore.

And so you're turning inward.

You're going to the area in the body where the crisis event is showing up as an emotional energy knot.

And you stay.

You stay.

You don't try to release.

You just watch what happens.

And as the changes occur,

You go with them.

That's it.

So now,

What I'd like you to do is to make an inner promise to your body,

To your inner child,

Which is made up of energy knots in the body.

Your inner child is just knotted up energy in the body.

You turn inward and you say to the knot,

Whether it's in the chest,

Solar plexus,

Belly,

Arm,

Bum,

Head,

Wherever it is,

You say I promise to come back again.

I promise to make this a regular practice for you.

You say I promise and I'm sorry that I have abandoned you.

I'm sorry that I have preferred my thinking over you.

From now on I'm going to come and meet you directly.

Thank you for your understanding.

And so now I'd like you to just open your eyes if you've had them closed and to come back to our common section.

You notice already that something has changed for you.

Your body has changed a little bit.

Maybe the energy has not gone immediately,

But this is a start.

What we did today is just an examination and then we showed you and took you on a short kind of practice example of how you can do it on your own.

It doesn't require a genius.

All it requires is willingness.

If you're not willing to do that you have no right to complain about anything.

Quite literally.

If you're not willing to breastfeed your child,

You have no right to complain that it's crying.

It's your job.

You're the mother,

You're the father.

It's my job to attend to the energy knots in the body that are causing these emotional flares and it's these emotional cold flares that are causing this overwhelm in the mind and backwards and forwards.

So what I'd like to hear from you now is if this is something that you are willing to do,

Particularly if you are in an intense crisis situation,

Are you willing to just practice this,

To meet the crisis,

The loss,

The anger,

The loneliness,

If you're willing to meet it at the level of energy,

At the level of a knot in the body.

All the knots in the body together are the inner child.

If you can be there with them they will release and if they will release your feelings will release and if your feelings change your thinking will change and if your thinking will change your perspective will change and if your perspective changes your reality changes.

So are you willing to do this?

Are you willing to make this commitment to yourself?

Everything is being shared with you,

Nothing is being hidden.

Shards of ice,

Yes,

In my heart,

Started to melt yes it's your job,

Dorothy good girl,

Good woman,

Good whatever you are good numbness and cold feelings in my leg and feet got less a bit wonderful,

Good,

Wonderful I'm willing to try instead of reacting with my usual distractions excellent,

Claire take your unhappiness to bed people don't realize that the unhappiness is not starting outside in the world the unhappiness is energy stuck from motion in your body that's where you release it good,

Good my friends and life has given us these wonderful crisis opportunities to guide us back into the body to guide us back home no more running away,

Stefania,

Wonderful what a good lesson,

Bassam,

Wonderful release the motion was able to take observer stance feeling better,

Good wonderful,

Alright my friends thank you for joining me,

It's time for us to close our conversation let me know in the comments if this was something useful for you,

Show the hearts because they inform me if this is stuff that you want to that you want to know about and I'll see you next time Claire says relaxed,

Started massaging and breaking up the energy did you do that with your hands Claire?

That wasn't the exercise that's what you did,

However this is an inner work,

This is not controlling,

This is not this is energy work from inside,

Without mental interference,

Without good ideas basically this is just being with literally uniting with but if it worked for you ok,

Wonderful to hear Claire so my friends,

Lots of love to you thank you for being here if you have made a donation it's much appreciated Claire said mentally yes,

I understand it could be mentally but also be careful of using the mind to do this work,

We just want to be with just to love the child without but again,

If something is working for you,

By all means experiment,

Why not as you feel alright,

Wish you well I'll see you next time take care for now