Okay,
So go ahead and sit up straight.
Push the crown of the head up towards the ceiling and start settling in.
And then we're going to do three deep,
Deep breaths.
So go ahead and inhale super,
Super deep.
Retain the breath.
And exhale.
Standing out the exhale.
One more time,
Super deep inhale.
Retain the breath.
Exhale.
Standing out the length of the exhale.
And now inhale deeply.
Pretend to breath.
And now exhale.
Extending out the length of the exhale.
And now let's just have it,
Inhabit the whole body.
Feel the body as material,
As matter.
Feel it as energy.
And also feel it as consciousness.
See how it's both separate and not separate from the entirety of existence.
Okay,
Good.
Now we'll go ahead and start with the meditation.
Okay.
So bring up the person that you are grieving.
It could also be a relationship.
It could even be a inanimate object or experience that you're grieving.
And bring them up in such a way that they feel like a live presence in the room.
Make it so vivid and real that if you were to open your eyes,
You know that you would see them standing before you.
Now bring up this special connection that you had with them.
Reflect on that for a minute.
And now bring up the aspects of the relationship that feel most unfinished.
Most unsettled for you.
And now say out loud,
Give this voice.
Speak out what it is that's unfinished for you.
Keep giving voice to them.
Keep going.
Keep giving voice.
Okay.
Now also have them really hear this.
Really take this in.
They really get it.
They really understand what you've said here.
And now see that in a way that's just totally clear.
You feel attuned with and seen,
Mentalized.
And what's unfinished may be about how the person died,
How the relationship ended,
Or something about the relationship itself.
And then just kind of repeat all of it.
Keep going over what feels unfinished and say it in a really heartfelt way.
And see what else comes to mind around this.
Keep talking about whatever it is that you feel is unfinished.
Giving it voice until something shifts.
See if you can make sense of all of this,
But also leave space for not making any sense out of it.
Both are important.
So as you go over what is unfinished,
Notice the emotions.
Be there sadness,
Anger,
Regret,
Grief.
Notice what those are like in the body and the mind.
Just keep giving voice to what needs to be voiced.
And if there's silence,
Just stay with the connection.
All the while really being understood,
Seen and not.
That's right.
Keep going.
You can have your perfect nurturers there supporting you as well.
And now this is very important.
See how this other person with whom you have the unresolved grief,
See how they really get exactly what you've been saying.
They understand everything you're saying with exquisite detail.
So this person,
They know you well,
And they've seen how you suffered.
And they have some things that they want to tell you,
That they want you to know that will help you let go of this.
Let go of the upset,
Suffering and unresolved business.
So what is it that they say to you?
And how do you respond?
Now you can really take in what they're saying.
That's right.
Keep going.
Also,
They see what needs to happen here.
They know what you need to do,
What they need to do in order to go ahead and resolve this.
And they address that directly.
Just the right way to help you move through this,
Hearing just the thing that you need to hear.
Go ahead and develop the scene.
Now is there something that you want to say to them?
Keep going.
Keep going through this process of discussion,
Of speaking,
Of being heard.
And they're responding until something shifts.
Keep going.
Now it's time to take leave of the relationship.
You can keep your memories that are so precious to you.
Now it's time to say goodbye and take leave.
If there's some last thing you want to say or need to hear,
Go ahead and see that happen in the scene.
But now go ahead and say goodbye.
Now imagine yourself sometime in the future when you've gone on with life.
And notice what's different about your life.
Notice what it's like to be settled around this loss,
To be resolved.
Imagine how you go about your life in a different way.
Imagine that in some detail now.
Now bring the process to a close.
Just take one minute to do that.
Okay,
Good.
I'll count from five to one.
When I get to one,
You'll be awake and present in the room,
Settled in the experience.
Five,
Four,
Three,
Two,
One.
Awake and present in the room.
